Friends who know the Buddha come in 15, friends who know the Buddha come in

Marriage is the freedom of the individual, as a being, there is the freedom to marry and divorce, but as a Buddhist, we should firmly pursue in our hearts, that is, Buddhism is for the sake of the people, not just for oneself. In this state of mind, reflecting on the freedom of marriage, divorce is not only about the husband and wife, but also about the children, the relatives of both parties, that is, the divorce is no longer a personal issue.

If a divorce will bring so many people's unhappiness again, it is better to bear the pain yourself.

This is a personal understanding, I don't know if it's okay or not.

There is not a single word in Buddhism that says that marriage is good, nor does it say that divorce is bad. If the cause is sufficient, there will be results. The destruction of karma is dispersion.

When you say "love", that is not true love, let alone great love. The love of the Dharma does not distinguish between sentient beings, let alone husband and wife. It's all the same love.

Such a practitioner will be tolerant of everything. You say you don't love it anymore. That's just a selfish "love" and "no love" between you.

It is a kind of "love" that has no tolerance.

The ancient Chinese said that a husband and wife have a hundred days of grace for one day. Now that you have become husband and wife, it is your own choice. You should be held accountable to the end. It's a joke that you can still practice Buddhism if you are not responsible.

There are no Buddhist texts that record the topic of divorce. Whether to divorce or not depends on the choice of the two, there is no love, there is no peace, then being together is painful, and the long pain is better than the short pain. The Buddha preached that where there is love, there is suffering, and with love, suffering is inevitable.

Therefore, the topic of divorce, the Buddhist scriptures will not be recorded, there is no need to be together, so don't force it.

Buddhism has never set a rule on whether marriage or divorce is good or bad.

The key rule is, don't hurt others.

Be compassionate to others.

For beginners, stay away from the objects that can cause trouble.

If the husband and wife really have no feelings, they are often troubled by each other. That together doesn't make sense either.

Don't quarrel, talk calmly. Don't quarrel over property, etc., and don't hurt and hate each other. This makes it possible to get a divorce.

There is no direct connection between quarreling all day long and no love, and there are many people who have love who often quarrel, so you have to find the reason for your quarrel again, find your own shortcomings, and be more tolerant of each other.

Don't be too persistent, those who are destined to leave can't leave, those who don't have a fate will eventually separate, attachment is very hard, you can't ask for love, parting, resentment.

Just follow the fate and don't have to be attached to what to do But life is the dojo Before you decide, review your own problems If you can treat marriage as a practice then no matter what the result is, you are fulfilling yourself Amitabha.

Believe in fate, change fate (2018 7 6 pure space old monk teaching).

My study of Buddhism is a quote from Mr. Fang Dongmei, and I like it very much after listening to it. I studied philosophy with him, and in the last unit he talked about Buddhist scriptures and philosophy. I say that Buddhist scriptures are religion and superstition, where does it come from?

He said, "You were young (I was twenty-six at the time) and you don't understand." Gautama Buddha is the greatest philosopher in the world. Who to study philosophy with?

Learn from Shakyamuni Buddhism.

The Mahayana scriptures are the highest peak of philosophy, and studying Buddhism is the highest enjoyment of life, I have never heard of it, he told me. I trust him, he is a good teacher, and he will not lie to me. So I started reading the Buddhist scriptures and listening to the scriptures; At that time, there were still some mages in Taipei, mages who preached the scriptures.

I accepted it, and then I realized it made sense.

I took this path specifically, and I put on this dress to meet Teacher Fang, and when Teacher Fang saw me, "You've done it, okay, great, you're on the right track!" At that time, my friends and colleagues all scolded me for being lost in studying Buddhism, to this extent.

Only Mr. Fang encouraged me, which was not easy. The highest enjoyment in life is true, not fake.

I only lived forty-five years, and I believe it. If you open the family tree in my family, in modern times, my grandfather passed away at the age of forty-five, and my father had an older brother who was also forty-five years old, and my father was also forty-five years old, so I only set my time to be forty-five. When I was forty-five years old, I had an illness, and I had never been sick, and I had never been in the hospital in my life.

So when I was sick, I had a bad cold, and for a month, I recited Buddha every day to ask for rebirth. When your life comes, the doctor can only heal the disease, not your life, and he can't make you live long, and I don't want to live long.

How can the life span be extended? I myself didn't think of prolonging, remembering that forty-five years old is a threshold, and if you get sick for a month that year, you will be cured if you get sick in one month. The next year, I met Ganzhu Hutuktu, a great Tibetan master, and we are also old friends, he is more than ten years older than me, and he is a rare good teacher.

When we met at the puja, he told me, and he said, "We all talk about you a lot behind our backs." I said:

What do you say about me? 」

It's a pity to say that you're not bad, short life. You've now passed this level. This conversation is forty-six years old, he said it, how did he get it?

You have been preaching for twelve years. As soon as I became a monk and shaved my head, I began to preach the scriptures, and I preached for 12 years, preaching the merits of the scriptures. Now that there are no more people to preach the scriptures, we must preach the scriptures with our hearts, and we must preach the Dharma of Shakyamuni Buddha, which is a good thing, and we must not let it be interrupted.

We have to affirm (I learned this from Mr. Fang, Mr. Fang told me) that Buddhism is a philosophy, not a superstition, and that it must be passed on well, so that we can be worthy of Shakyamuni Buddha and the patriarchs of the past generations. By believing in fate and cause and effect, we can make a little contribution to our ancestors and to the Buddha. We did our best in our lives, devoted ourselves to the teachings of the scriptures, and didn't ask anything else, the Buddha arranged for me.

Recorded from Conversation with Teachers and Students of the Chinese Academy in the United Kingdom 2018 7 6 Carmarthen, Wales.