It s getting more and more painful, what should I do? What to do if it s too painful

Many things are always experienced before you know that you can't afford to gain or lose. Just like feelings, after the pain, you will know how to protect yourself; If you are stupid, you will know how to persist and give up in a timely manner. Let us learn to give up, turn away before we cry, what we exchange for tears is not reliable; Let's learn to give up, bury yesterday in our hearts, and leave the best memories; Let's learn to give up so that we can all have an easier start for each other.

Holding on to it will only make you indulge in memories and pain and become sluggish. Let go of your hand, let it pass away with the wind of memory, you will find the other side of the sky, you will re-read the fragrance of life flowers, feel the warmth of the sun... Giving up is not evasion, not cowardice; Giving up is an open-minded attitude.

Think about it, how many people and things a person has to experience in his life, and if you don't know how to give up those things that have been lost and irretrievable, how can you grasp what really belongs to you? If you find that the only door in your world is no longer open for you, you don't have to linger in front of the door or hit your head and never wake up. Learn to give up, then turn around and look for a skylight that opens for you, where you can also see the stars.

1. To maintain a good sense of self, no matter what happens, you feel that you are actually very good in your heart, so that you can be confident, so that the sad emotions will gradually disappear. 2. Talk to others, holding it in your heart will make you more painful, talk to friends or family members, open your heart and pour out your pain, so maybe you will feel better. 3. Find a place where no one is, yell or cry loudly for a while, and vent your sadness to feel better.

4. Distract yourself. If you are really sad in your heart, you will find something to do, such as playing games, or working hard, and then you will find that slowly, you are not so sad. 5. Time will always dilute everything, no matter how sad things are, grit your teeth and get through, and let time ** your own sadness.

If you feel pain and discomfort in your heart, you should use the following methods: 1. Be sure to make positive adjustments, especially actively communicate with others, at this time, you can communicate your negative emotions and depressed things in time, only in this way can you make yourself happy. 2. You should also actively adjust your interpersonal relationships, especially when you are particularly painful and anxious, and get closer to your parents and friends, so that you can get support and become secure at the same time, because interpersonal interaction has great benefits for you, especially to alleviate negative emotions such as anxiety and depression.

3. You can also consider taking medication**, such as taking Shugan Jieyu Capsule and calming the nerves and replenishing brain fluid to relieve the pain in the heart**.

All human suffering is essentially anger at one's own incompetence! (Wang Xiaobo).

Your current pain comes from your gains and losses in this relationship. In this relationship, you put yourself very low, down to the dust. You always think that you don't deserve this feeling, you always worry that the next moment he will leave you, and you are always in the illusion that this pain is about to happen and you can't extricate yourself.

At the end of the day, your core question is:

Self-awareness, you don't have a clear self-awareness. Who am I and what am I going to do? What can I do? Where do I stand in this society?

If a person does not have a clear sense of self, it is easy to go with the flow under the influence of others or circumstances. Just like you in this relationship, you have lost the ability to think rationally in this relationship. For example, the core question, what is the most important thing in the emotional world of two people?

Is it the physical appearance of an individual? Is it character?

In fact, in an emotion, what we can't part with is actually experience or memory. In the fierce love, it will eventually become a bit of daily life, and in the precipitation of time, it will become a family affection that is constantly parted. Why is it that the longer we spend with someone, the more painful it is when we are separated from him?

Because the present self is actually the present me made up of past experiences (or memories). The self-consciousness of the present individual is formed by the gathering, absorption, and fusion of the consciousness of the books read in the past, the people he has come into contact with, and so on. Separating from him is actually separating the memories you spent with him before, and in essence, it is actually dividing your own consciousness, so the pain will hurt your heart.

When it comes to returning to self-establishment, first of all, it is normal to have low self-esteem. We are not omniscient and omnipotent, and we cannot determine the family circumstances in which we come from. So there will always be some aspects where I will have a gap with the people around me, how do I deal with this gap?

Is this difference innate or acquired? Can I catch up with my acquired efforts? If not, should I embrace it and develop it into other strengths through personal effort?

Low self-esteem is an unavoidable problem for human beings after forming a group society. We need to integrate into the social group in order to live a better life, and we need to find a sense of belonging and security in the social group. But at the same time, we are afraid of being assimilated by the group and losing ourselves completely.

Therefore, the establishment of self is so important, the only way to establish self-confidence is self-confidence, through reading a book, doing a small thing, competent for a job to slowly build self-confidence, only to establish self-confidence, there will be the possibility of self-personality building.

How to communicate correctly between husband and wife. Communicate more, love should be expressed more, it can be in various forms, love needs to be expressed in words, and it also needs to be expressed in action.

Your situation is a bit serious, and even a little psychological.

If not, you can consult a psychologist.

It's not a good thing in the long run and can lead to depression.

It's better to try to adjust and don't think too much about unrealistic things.

Talk to friends more, or go out and do a job too, and after a long time, confidence will come.