How to better coordinate your married life?

Marriage requires reason and emotion! If you care about everything, why is it so difficult to have a reason! Marriage gives us nothing more than the establishment of a more stable relationship, the legalization of sex, and the need for reproduction!

Marriage is a process of mutual compromise, no two people can get along perfectly, no matter how good the relationship is, there will always be something in the other party that they don't like, even if it is our parents, brothers and sisters.

But once we get married, it means that we have the closest people, and to spend decades together, it is absolutely impossible to do without compromise. It is recommended that you read more articles about marriage and emotion, and if conditions permit, you can participate in some marriage course training, such as a marriage training course recently, Professor Chen Yiyun of the Chinese Academy of Social Sciences.

1. Learn how to be humble and courteous to each other.

Married life can never be based on one's own nature, everything must learn to respect each other, can this be too willful and stubborn when quarreling and learn to say less, the important thing is to learn to listen patiently to each other's opinions and suggestions. For major family matters, we must learn to adhere to the principle of mutual consultation between husband and wife, so that we can discuss first and then decide before acting, and at the same time, we must also pay attention to the humility of both parties, avoid adding fuel to the fire, and not be able to make the couple fight for face.

2. Create a small romantic surprise in a timely manner.

Whether it is a young couple or a couple who have been married for many years, they should learn how to adapt to it to create some small romantic surprises in the details of life, flashing different wonderful, especially, it is not possible to be reluctant to spend time to compose music because they are married, romantic, sometimes, both parties are deliberately in this to create and create a romantic atmosphere and romantic surprises in fashion. But it can reduce the boredom of the daily life that gradually returns to calm after marriage, and it can also make both young couples feel each other's care and memories, yes, the endless fun in life.

3. Learn to have the courage to take on family responsibilities.

When you are alone, you can, there is not much family responsibility, after all, everything has your parents to help you carry, when you are alone, you can also do not need to consider the feelings of others, after all, most people are now poor, only children, but after marriage, the young couple is different, both parties should establish their due sense of family responsibility as soon as possible. Everything should be based on the interests of the family and the reputation of the family, everything should be considered more, the opinions and feelings of the other party, especially after the man has children, more attention should be paid to the responsibility of parents in educating their children in the family management, everything should be brave to assume the responsibility.

The marriage of two people can sublimate their love, why make the relationship between the husband and wife very complicated, if you want the relationship between the two people to be very good, then in daily life, the attitude of the two people towards married life is very important.

1. In the married life of two people, the love is mutual, the wife comes to your family alone after marriage, in this family she is the closest person is you, she is not facing you alone, but a room of strangers who have not gotten along, since ancient times, it is not easy to get along with the mother-in-law, the wife is not married before, but also the treasure in the palm of the parents, married to your family, she only has you, you don't care about her care for her, who cares.

2. When it comes to the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, it is actually difficult to deal with, first of all, what you have to do is to coordinate the relationship between your wife and your mother, the husband's behavior can determine the quality of your daughter-in-law and her mother, when your mother has raised children for more than 20 years, you no longer have to rely on you, your mother will inevitably have some loss in her heart, if your mother is pointing fingers on the side, it will also cause dissatisfaction with your wife, the most important thing at this time is you, how to coordinate the relationship between two people, You can praise your wife more on your mother's side, and you can't be snubbed by two people.

3. Women are very emotional, no matter what they like to take out and say, maybe you are very tired after a busy day outside, and you don't want to talk at home, but my wife will be excited to tell you about the happy things that happened in her day, I hope you are happy with her, no matter how tired you are at this time, don't let your friend go to her impatiently, in fact, she just wants to treat you as a friend who has nothing to talk about, if you feel that you are really tired, you may as well sit down and listen carefully to her sharing, Or if you casually talk to him during the chat, there should be unexpected returns.

Marriage is equal, we must care for each other, mutual respect will last for a long time, mutual understanding and understanding, not forbearance, communicate more in case of trouble, appreciate each other's advantages more, and change each other for each other, so that we can be happy.

Along the side is not one party has been tolerated, change will be a long draft, requiring both sides to understand each other, trust, are willing to change for each other, the most important thing is to understand and tolerate, appreciate each other's advantages, tolerate each other's shortcomings, so that it can last for a long time.

Love is so inseparable from everyone's emotional life, but we are often obsessed with love, but we don't know what true love is. Buddhism is not against love, but it emphasizes learning to truly love. True love is not selfishness, narrow-mindedness, or ignorance, but dedication, tolerance, warmth, and wisdom.

With true love, marriage will be happy, family will be harmonious, and life will be happy. If everyone understands the true meaning of love, opens their hearts, and releases the energy of true love, then every day of the year will become Valentine's Day, 365 days a year.

However, in real life, many people suffer a lot for love. How can we free ourselves from the pain of love? We must first understand that the pain of love comes from ** in order to end the pain.

In real life, wherever there is love, there is pain and entanglement, and where there is love, there are too many things that you can't figure out and can't let go. Where does the pain of love come from? The pain of love comes from three factors:

The object of our love, our hearts, and the joy of love, all three are illusory and upside down, leading to the pain of love.

First of all, when we are in love, we feel that our lover is the most perfect, which in itself is a wrong, upside-down understanding. On a worldly level, the object of our love is a flesh-and-blood body created by the combination of the aggregates of the five aggregates (seeing, receiving, thinking, acting, and knowing), and both the body and the mind are the product of ignorance. The human body is full of 36 kinds of impurities, and it is a mobile garbage can, so it is necessary to take a bath to clean the dirt produced by the body, and perfume is needed to cover the odor produced by the body.

The object of our love is not only imperfect physically, but also imperfect in mind. His heart is full of seven emotions and six desires, full of greed, hatred, and naivety. He is one of the sentient beings, who has been wandering in samsara, and those bad habits that we don't want to see are habits that have been planted since the beginning, and it is not easy to change the cold of three feet.

So no matter how perfect he feels when he is in love, all his bad habits will gradually be exposed over time, just like paper can't hold fire.

Marriage requires two people to be together and run together.

1. Learn how to be humble and courteous to each other. Married life can never come by one's own temperament, everything must learn to respect each other, can not be too willful and stubborn, quarrel and learn to say less, the important thing is to learn to listen patiently to each other's opinions and suggestions, family major matters must learn to adhere to the principle of joint consultation between the husband and wife, so that "first discuss and then decide before acting". At the same time, we must pay attention to the humility of both parties in case of trouble, avoid adding fuel to the fire, and do not make the couple fight for face.

2. Learn to restrain yourself from being casual. After getting married, it is no longer "one person is full and the whole family is not hungry", that is to say, both men and women should always take into account each other's feelings after marriage, especially the newlywed couples should learn how to restrain their long-term self-willedness and casualness, after all, what you do after marriage is no longer a personal matter, but involves the family and your lover, therefore, it is very important to empathize before doing things, and look at and judge what you are going to do from the other party's point of view.

3. Learn how to manage family affairs. Since you have a family, you will naturally have an unfinished heart and endless housework, even if you can't do a little housework before marriage, after marriage, you must learn how to do housework seriously and patiently, especially the party who is favored by the other party in every way, you must not expect the other party to take care of the housework, and there is no inappropriate idea of "machismo" or "feminism" that housework should be taken care of by women. It is important to know that housework can only be done together by the husband and wife, and it will give birth to a lot of fun, and it can enhance the relationship between the two parties.

If we want to better adapt to marriage, we must have a positive attitude towards life, and learn to live in harmony with our families.

In this way, you can better let yourself grow and improve, and make your married life happier.

It is important to establish a balance of mutual respect and independence in marriage. While marriage is built on intimacy and shared goals, it should also respect the personal space, needs, and independence that the other has with it.

In marriage, it is important to foster understanding, support, and cooperation with each other, while maintaining personal independence and personal development. Such a balance can enhance the health and longevity of a marriage.

Of course, every couple's relationship has dynamics and needs that are not the same. Some couples tend to be more close and treat each other as their own, while others emphasize personal independence and autonomy. It's important for both parties to communicate positively and find a balance between each other's needs and values.

Ultimately, the nature of the marital relationship is shaped by both husband and wife. It is important that both parties seek each other's happiness and mutual development on the basis of good communication, understanding and respect in marriage, no matter which path is chosen.