What is it like to be a refined egoist?

First of all, I do not reject or approve of this refined egoism. Because it is a product of social transformation.

A refined egoist is actually a refined + egoist. Exquisite, indicating that this kind of people have their own pursuit of life, have a relatively high yearning for life, and are a group of people with a taste for life. Self-interest, as the name suggests, means that this type of person is a person whose core of all activities is to be good for himself.

This statement comes from a passage by Qian Liqun, a professor in the Department of Chinese at Peking University: "Some of our universities, including Peking University, are cultivating some 'refined egoists', who are highly intelligent, worldly, sophisticated, good at performing, know how to cooperate, and are better at using the system to achieve their own goals......."”

In fact, as a delicate egoist, if he can do not care about the eyes of others, he can actually live a very happy and comfortable life, without any troubles for the sake of others.

As a refined egoist, in fact, he is very anxious and anxious, because any job or state may interfere with and harm him, he must always be cautious and fully prepared, therefore, to be a refined egoist, will become more and more intelligent.

And everything you do is utilitarian, so it is difficult for you to have an essential interest in things, or you are not willing to invest a lot (time, money) in pure interest activities, and you will preset a purpose for things and things to do to achieve the purpose before doing things, this behavior can quickly achieve measurable goals in the short term, but it will be difficult to produce things"Immersive"interest.

Will feel lonely and lonely. Because this kind of person-to-person interaction has a strong utilitarian spirit, although some so-called high-ranking people will not be obvious, but egoists tend to make friends with "useful people" or "powerful people", which is very disgusting, and it is not a good soil for friendship to last.

Since childhood, we have been taught to be helpful, to be self-sacrificing, not to be selfish, etc., but as we grow older and the cruelty of reality, we know that many times, it is not easy to be ourselves and take care of ourselves.

When I was in junior high school, our high school teacher taught us a sentence, which was a couplet from the Confucian Bulletin Hall: "Make friends with self-interest; Studying with lustful thoughts must be true. It can be seen that self-interest is a difficult thing to overcome, and for most of us, self-interest is not a bad thing, in other words, it is also a manifestation of self-motivation and pursuit. The point is not to harm others, not to harm others, as the so-called gentleman loves money and takes it in the right way, you can benefit yourself as much as you want, but don't harm others, don't do things that harm others and benefit yourself.

A refined egoist, first of all, must be kind and principled, they are self-centered, they put their own interests first, and they have clear goals. As long as they don't violate their principles, they can do it confidently, and try all kinds of ways for their own interests.

I used to be a good person, not to be precise, I was a bad person, it was difficult to be selfish, but many times I would do bad things with good intentions, so that I lost my wife and broke my soldiers, and others may not be waiting to see me, if you think about it, you are stupid, only kindness, no emotional intelligence is far from enough. When I really realized this, and thought more about myself, I found that only by taking care of myself can a person take better care of others, and self-interest is to make myself stronger, and stronger can better protect the people I want to protect. As long as we don't harm the society and don't feel sorry for our friends, self-interest is the foundation that makes us good, and we have the ability to serve others, rather than doing bad things with good intentions because we can't do it.

Therefore, egoism is not a bad thing, we must look at it correctly and have our own bottom line to cultivate a kind self-interested heart.

When I was a child, I had great ideals, but when I grew up, I found that my basic desires could not be satisfied, and I worked hard to live like a normal person, and most of the time I was self-interested, and those ideas had long been shelved. Maybe one day, when you can breathe a sigh of relief and free up your hands, you can consider whether you can contribute to society.

What is a "trembling egoist.""？

First of all, we need to understand what is"Egoism"！。

Egoism, according to my understanding, can be divided into the following manifestations:

1) Selfishness. To put it bluntly, it is to value one's own interests and not respect the interests of others. There is no overall situation or overall view of doing things, and everything is based on one's own interests and losses.

2) Self-righteousness. There is no fundamental principle for the right and wrong of things, and it is like an empty judgment based on one's own likes and dislikes. And often in the face of the same nature or type of things, different standards are used, which is called"Double standard"：

It is a set of standards for others, and another set of standards for oneself, but to say a thousand things is actually to conform to one's own interests or demands as the standard.

Secondly, to understand"Refined egoism"It doesn't just mean that self-interest has been taken to the extreme, but it also includes"Hypocrisy"、"Camouflage"The intention is pure thought.

What is the situation? That is, some people will disguise their selfish behavior as a positive image of the world, or simply use language to glorify their selfish behavior. If you can carefully understand what others say, or can observe the details of other people's behavior, it is not difficult to find this through the double standard of their words and deeds, and the double standard of others and yourself"The ultimate egoist"。

For example: I met a colleague. He never kept his mouth shut about what others helped him. However, his efforts to help others have been fueled with propaganda everywhere. Even took advantage of some people who didn't know the cause and process of the incident, Zhang Guan Li Dai, Li Dai Tao stiff.

A refined egoist is a "self-interestist" who has been carefully dressed up or even disguised. The egoist who is fine and sultry is actually a delicate + egoist. The meaning of refinement is the opposite of roughness, which refers to a group of people who have their own pursuit of pure life, not blindly pursuing material values, and have their own life key feast taste.

An egoist, as the name suggests, is a person who has egoism at its core in all activities.

If the world were all egoists, it would be over.

I often hear people say that so-and-so is a refined egoist, so what exactly is a refined egoist, and what are their characteristics, these four sentences on the table summarize it brilliantly.