How to communicate with an adolescent child

1.Give him personal space. Children who are overly disciplined will lose the opportunity to self-adjust and will often be very poor.

2.Say something useless to your child, you can gossip or play games, and after a long time, he will be willing to tell you anything. If everything you talk to him about is useful, he will feel that he doesn't have so many useful things to talk to you about.

3.Look at his sense of independence. The child wants to be recognized, wants the parents to get along with him as equals, and the parents want to switch between the roles of friends and parents.

4.Admit that he is right. Children crave recognition at this stage, and parents should not easily deny their children's ideas and ways of doing things. A child has a child's thoughts, and maybe some of their thoughts are his thoughts for the future.

5.Adolescent children have greater emotional ups and downs, so we must pay attention to the time and occasion of the conversation, pay attention to the skills, learn to observe the words and colors, and sometimes the effect of the opposite will be better.

6.Don't play the role of an omniscient parent in front of your child, play dumb appropriately, don't pay attention to authority, and cultivate your child's dignity when communicating.

Now, as a parent, how do you communicate with your adolescent child? It's about skill. Now, nowadays children in school have basically learned a little bit of physiological hygiene, but.

** All of them are not comprehensive? Not meticulous. You can talk to children.

Look for a book on this. Have your child read it. Communicate with him.

Concrete. The ways and measures are. Boys can communicate with their fathers, and girls can communicate with their mothers.

Be plain. Be more detailed. Just explain it to your child.

In reality, many adolescent children will not talk to their parents when they encounter problems. This phenomenon is very dangerous and worth thinking about for every parent. As long as they can trust each other and communicate freely, parents can understand their children's thoughts in a timely manner, help them find solutions to problems, guide them to modify their thoughts and behaviors, and avoid bringing more influence to their children.

To better communicate with their adolescent child, parents need to pay attention to the following:

1.Don't be too "parental".

Put down the parental frame in front of your child and avoid a tough attitude, otherwise it will affect the parent-child relationship and make the child fearful.

2.Understand first.

Even if there are some problems with the child's thoughts or behaviors, you should be more understanding and tolerant from the child's point of view. Then patiently tell your child what he thinks about the matter and why he opposes it. It is necessary to put an end to the practice of simply denying or violently suppressing children as elders.

3.Full trust.

Trust brings you closer to your child and gives them the confidence to do better.

4.Reduce blame.

Simple and crude accusations can cause children to lose confidence and change their evaluation of themselves. Parents should change the blame to help their children analyze the nature and development trend of things, and guide their children to make progress through reflection.

5.Less ordering.

Asking too much of your child and giving random orders will not only cause stress to your child, but also increase your child's rebellious mentality.

6.Maintain image and dignity.

Don't comment on your child's shortcomings and faults in front of outsiders, which will make your child feel faceless and disgusted with his parents.

7.Pay attention to your child's feelings.

Think more about everything from the child's point of view, and when encountering unpleasant or aggrieved things, you should be properly appeased.

8.Don't nag.

For the same thing, saying it too many times will definitely be annoying, and it will also arouse the child's psychology of "the more you don't want me to do it, the more I will do it".

9.Appropriate decentralization.

Children should be given the opportunity to manage themselves and deal with problems on their own. Children will be happy with the increased trust of their parents and will be able to learn and grow.

10.Deliberative vote.

For some things at home, children should be guided to participate in decision-making, which will enhance children's understanding and feelings about the concept of home, and will also allow children to be closer to their parents because they have a voice.

How to educate and communicate skills in children during adolescence is as follows:

1.Patience and the child are empty

Adolescent children are often less willing to communicate with their parents, so parents need to make adjustments and try to communicate with their children actively.

2.Respect your child's ideas and practices, and don't blindly criticize

Adolescent children have more of their own ideas and practices, and parents should not limit their children according to their own standards, so that children can feel respected and enhance their children's sense of self-identity.

3.Look for the good in your child and encourage him

Adolescent children are very sensitive and prone to lack of self-confidence, parents should see more of the advantages of their children, encourage their children every day, and improve their children's self-confidence.

4.If conditions permit, you can take your children on regular trips

Adolescent children have more worries and stress, and parents can arrange time, such as taking their children out for travel and relaxation on weekends or holidays, which can not only improve the parent-child relationship, but also help children reduce stress.

1. Respect. Respect is the foundation and premise of interpersonal communication, and it is also the inner need of adolescent children. Communicate with your child in a respectful tone, do not force your child to do something immediately without a commanding tone, respect what your child is doing at the moment, and respect your child's right to communicate if he does not want to communicate for the time being.

2. Equal trembling hall belt.

Your child's willingness to communicate with you depends not on how good you are, but on the tone of your voice. Parents often can't help but lose their temper with their children, who don't feel equal and only respond with blunt or indifferent attitudes.

3. Consultation. Respecting children and treating them as equals can make children feel the love of their parents and thus gain strength. I hope that when your child is going to do something, discuss it with your child, for example, gently and firmly, if you play for another 15 minutes, you must go for a haircut.

4.Praise and encouragement.

Being good at discovering children's strengths and strengths, and giving children praise and encouragement in a timely manner, can not only shorten the distance between parents and children, but also an effective way to enhance children's self-confidence, and children will devote themselves to learning and life in a more active state.

5.Trust. Trust is the basis of communication, parents' trust is the child's sense of security, parents sometimes Fu Zheng will unconsciously hit the child, thereby dampening the child's self-confidence, so that the child is reluctant to chat with the parents.

Parents should fully trust their children and give them trust and strength.

1.Let go of your child appropriately.

Due to the increased self-awareness of adolescent children, it is normal for Ruchang to communicate less with parents, and parents do not need to worry too much. During the child's adolescence, some authority can be given to the child appropriately. For example, parents need to be consulted on questions in principle, and children are allowed to make their own decisions on small things in life, which can cultivate children's ability to think independently and help children grow up in the future.

2.Learn to trust your child.

If parents want their children to trust themselves, they must first gain their children's trust. Parents should learn to respect their children when they are in adolescence and not to snoop on their children's privacy. Some parents will always rummage through their children's personal belongings, which is not only detrimental to the parent-child relationship, but also makes the child more wary of their parents, so that they close their hearts and refuse to communicate with their parents.

3.Learn to encourage your child.

Encouraging children is also one of the ways to facilitate communication. Sometimes when the child does something wrong, parents always shout and criticize the child, parents should know that praise is more effective than criticism, always criticize the child, the child is naturally unwilling to communicate with you. What parents need to do is to guide their children to solve problems and learn to encourage them, so that they are willing to communicate with you.

4.Don't interrupt your child.

In life, there are many parents who always like to interrupt their children. When the child is expressing his thoughts and opinions, parents should not interrupt the child casually, which is easy to discourage the child's desire to talk. Children have a lot of ideas, but when they are interrupted by their parents, they become silent and do not want to talk to their parents anymore.

When facing adolescent children, parents should learn to be patient and tolerant, do not put too much pressure on their children, and learn to use the right education methods to guide their children, so that they can open their hearts and communicate with you and help them get through this period smoothly.