No matter what the adults say, the child rebels and says no , what should I do?

1. Be sure to consider the age of the child, and parents should reduce anxiety

When a child reaches the age of 3 or so, he or she usually enters the stage of saying "no" frequently.

At this time, the child discovers the power of his language, and using "no" can show the parent that I have my own choice, and I have the final say. When a child at this age says "no", it only means that the child has his own ideas and should not be simply labeled as "rebellious". When parents don't see their children as rebellious when they say "no", they will also reduce a lot of anxiety.

2. Give your child as much choice and freedom as possible

In our contact with a large number of parents in Xi'an, we found that many cases where children say "no" because parents give instructions to their children without asking for their opinions, or because they are very sudden. At this time, the child will feel that he is being ordered, he will feel that he is forced to carry out the instructions of his parents, and he will naturally not be willing to cooperate.

On the one hand, you can give your child more power to choose, and let your child choose one of the two feasible plans to implement, and the child will be more willing to cooperate. On the other hand, be informed in advance. For example, if you ask your child to turn off the TV at 8:30 p.m. and start washing, you can remind your child at 8 o'clock and then remind him at 8:20.

In this way, give the child a psychological buffer time, and the child is more willing to cooperate.

At the same time, let the child participate in the formulation of the rules as much as possible, so that the rules become "the rules proposed by the children themselves" rather than "the rules made by the parents". Because it is easier for children to follow the rules that they are involved in making.

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First of all, what age is this child?

If the child is 2 years old, 6 years old, 9 years old or puberty, then we can preliminarily judge that the child's rebellious behavior may be related to age.

The 2-year-old child is in the awakening period of self-awareness, the concept of "I" is budding and sober, he has to try his best to test how much strength he has, the boundary is in the **, but he does not have enough security awareness, and he often conflicts with adults.

The age of 6 is the period when the child is psychologically separated from his mother and moves towards independence;

The age of 9 is the period when the child is separated from the world and realizes that the self and the world are two different existences;

Children in these periods, due to the role of nature's life potential, cannot self-control to complete the task of life growth, but because their minds are not mature enough, they do not know how to better express their needs, manage emotions and behaviors, so they can only say no to adults bluntly, trying to get rid of the control of adults and show their own power.

Of course, these age points are only approximate nodes. Each child's development rhythm is different, some enter the rebellious period earlier, and some later; Some come out of the rebellious period faster, while others come out slowly.

Only by paying attention to the characteristics of children's growth stage can we better guide them in a targeted manner, rather than simply labeling them as "rebellious".

Secondly, what is the parenting style of adults?

Confronting others takes a lot of effort. Why should a child be confronted by an adult when he can express his wishes and needs in a reasonable and peaceful way?

Therefore, when we frequently encounter uncooperative behaviors from children, it is better to think about how we usually treat children.

Be able to respect the child, take the initiative to meet his needs in a timely manner, and allow the child to express his own opinions; or arbitrary control, requiring children to obey and obey themselves; Or do you leave it to its own devices?

When conflict occurs, is the child's opinion respected and heard, or is it suppressed and ignored?

Different parenting styles will cause children to have different psychological feelings and reactions. Only by taking the initiative to adjust their parenting style and knowing how to respect and listen to their children can they win their cooperation and be a good remedy for children's rebellion.

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Introduction: If a child is rebellious, he does not listen to his parents and only follows his own ideas. If parents force their children to do something at this time, the child's rebellious behavior will become more and more serious.

When children have a sense of self, they will not rely on their parents and feel that what their parents say is not right. Today, I will tell you about how to educate children correctly if they have been very rebellious recently and do not listen to anything.

If parents find that their children are becoming more and more rebellious, do not beat and scold, it will put a lot of pressure on the child. At this time, parents should continue to communicate with their children, and do not let children have a psychological burden, otherwise the children will become more and more rebellious, and even run away from home. Parents should respect their children's ideas, and only by respecting their children's ideas can they let their children slowly follow their own opinions.

When a child is rebellious, what parents need to do is to communicate with their children on an equal footing. Parents should think not only from their own point of view, but also from the perspective of their children. Parents need to understand what their children are thinking and what their children want to do, and only in this way can they be affirmed by their children.

If a parent often gives his child orders according to his wishes, the child will become more and more rebellious. Parents must learn to respect their children, only then can they develop harmoniously.

No matter how old a child is, he is still a child in the eyes of his parents. Parents must not look at their children in this way, otherwise they will make their children more and more rebellious. Children will have their own ideas after reaching a certain age, and parents should respect their children's ideas instead of blindly letting their children listen to their own words.

Parental authority should be in moderation and do not interfere with the child's decisions all the time, which will make the child very disgusted. If a parent can communicate well with the child, it will make the child develop better.

When educating children in the rebellious period. Parents should be based on the basis of equality to hurt their children's communication, pay attention to ways and means, and focus on grooming. Solve problems calmly.

I think you can try to put yourself in the child's shoes, so that you can better deal with what happens during your child's rebellious period.

I think the best thing to do is to put yourself in the shoes of your child, so that they don't have to deal with you.

1. Children should be actively encouraged so that they can learn to be self-motivated.

Parents should encourage their children and not pay too much attention to academic performance. As long as the children have done their best, even if the test results are not good, they should not be harsh, and the parents are not too demanding, the children do not need to bear too much pressure, so the anxiety is reduced, and the study will not feel hard.

2. Parents really let go of their bodies.

Parents Mengyuan really put down his body and respected his children from the heart.

3. Don't quarrel with your child, communicate calmly, and understand why your child doesn't want to go to school.

In the rebellious period.

Boys, they will become very short-tempered, they will often show helplessness, anxiety, loneliness, etc., they feel that no one can understand their inner world, so parents must first understand the child's situation.

4. Maintain a good family atmosphere.

The quality of the family atmosphere has a great impact on the children in the rebellious period, and the words and deeds of the parents have a subtle impact on the physical and mental growth of the children at all times. Therefore, parents must be more correct in their words and deeds, and try to avoid commanding and didactic language and attitudes, so that children can feel that their parents respect him.

5. Help find the right way to learn.

Solve the problems that children encounter in learning.

If the child doesn't say a word during the rebellious period, as a parent, you should lead the child to the place where the child likes to play, and lead the child to eat what the child likes to eat, so that the child feels that the parents are the brothers who care about it the most.

The third rebellious period of the child is about 13-17 years old. At this time, the child has entered puberty, and his thoughts and behaviors have gradually entered a period of relative maturity. Generally, they will show behaviors such as laughing and talking back to their families, antagonizing their teachers, and more serious manifestations are running away from home, self-harm and suicide.

At this time, the family should start from these aspects to deal with the child's rebellion:

1. Understand the child's rebellion, because it is normal for the child to rebel during this menstrual period. Communicate with your child to avoid confrontation.

2. You can't manage your children in everything, you should properly let your children cultivate their independent personality, and let them exercise more on their own.

4. When the child has rebellious behavior, he must not form an opposition to the child, and when it is enough, the tone must be relaxed.

5. Interact more with your children, such as participating in your children's affairs more, playing games with your children, etc.

6. The family environment also has a lot to do with the child's rebellion, and the husband and wife should show a loving atmosphere for each other, so that the child can live in a harmonious and happy environment.

Clause. 1. Communicate more with children, understand their problems, and solve them in a timely manner;

Second, we should give children the opportunity to experience and show themselves clearly, and properly satisfy their vanity;

Third, we should look at the children with an appreciative eye, praise and encourage them more, so that they can reply with a certain sense of achievement, do not scold, scold and complain, but praise and encourage them more.

Fourth, it is necessary to avoid hurting their self-esteem, and not to criticize and blame them with serious language, and to carry out verbal attacks.

Fifth, take care of your children and spend more time with them.

1. Don't discipline your child compulsively.

Once parents find that their children have a rebellious mentality, they must not forcibly stop it. For example, when some of the child's hobbies affect the normal homework, you must not stop it immediately, it is best to talk to the child openly, you must know the child's psychological thoughts, and learn more about the child's hobbies, such as games or ball games, you must go to understand with the child, and then use some euphemistic words to remind the child what should and should not be learned. Be sure to teach your child step by step, and don't use the unreasonable and adult world to force your child to do things he doesn't like.

2. Learn more and communicate more.

In many cases, parents must integrate themselves into their children's world, and look at why their children are rebellious from the perspective of a third party, that is, a bystander. Parents should not be self-righteous to restrain or criticize their children with their own or adults' thoughts, which is not only a sign of disrespect for children, but also a sign of irresponsibility for children. Therefore, we must look at children from a different point of view and integrate into the child's world calmly.

3. Think more from the child's point of view.

Parents must stand in the child's point of view, or integrate into the child's world to experience the child's feelings, and understand why the child is rebellious. Many parents habitually use their own way of thinking to discipline their children, thinking that children should only learn at this stage and should not do other things, so that they lack the ability to contribute to their children, making children more and more rebellious. Therefore, parents must integrate their children into the details in all aspects to understand their children, and they must set an example to ask their children, not blindly ask their children to do something.

Children are rebellious and do not listen to adults, which is normalGenerally, when children reach junior high school, they are very rebellious for a period of time, and they will be better after junior high school.

The child is usually very good, every time he goes to study and class, he is very angry because of a little thing, every time he says something particularly annoying, angry his parents cry several times, but sometimes he speaks very well and obediently, we all suspect that there is something wrong with his brain, we sometimes feel that the child should be considerate of the child in the rebellious period, but I have not seen this kind of too annoying. Every time I play a game, I am very happy and smile very brightly, and if anyone in the family makes him unhappy, he can always stop eating or drinking, and no one should talk, and I want to ask the doctor to see what is wrong with this child for me.

Children in junior high school, with the development of the child's body and mind, the child's sense of autonomy begins to increase, independence and rebellion begin to appear, the child has his own plans and ideas about many things, and often sings with adults who disagree with parents and teachers. At this time, as a parent, you don't have to be too anxious, but should be open to your child's growth stage, and at the same time care for and help your child correctly, and guide your child to go through adolescence with a positive and sunny attitude.

1. Respect and understand children。Parents should change the previous condescending attitude, do not simply make decisions on behalf of their children, listen to their children's opinions more in communication with their children, and on the premise of not violating the bottom line of morality and law, they may wish to respect their children's choices in some things, so that children have the opportunity to try and make mistakes.

2. There can be no lack of love and guidance for childrenEspecially when children encounter confusion and setbacks, don't just blame, but become a strong spiritual pillar for children, provide a warm harbor for children's hearts, give children some constructive solutions, and help children regain their courage and regain the confidence to stand up and move forward.

3. Accept your child's shortcomings。Parents should be more tolerant of their children, let them have different views and opinions, learn to accept their children's negative emotions, and help them find solutions to their problems. Improper parental education will naturally cause children's rebellion, children's daily psychological changes, parents should also learn and change, when found that the child's behavior is deviated, parents do not force, do not hit the child, can be corrected through positive guidance to the child.

4. Learn to praise children。Some parents are picky about their children, racing against time, always think that other people's children are better than their own children, in fact, every child has the advantages of each child, parents should believe that their children are also excellent, and the child's achievements or changes must be praised for the child. This can not only stimulate children's enthusiasm, cultivate children's self-confidence, but also enhance the parent-child relationship.

5. In the process of communicating with children, we must pay attention to the method and content, and pay close attention to children's mood fluctuations. You need to understand the reasons for his mood swings, the reasons for his rejection, the reasons for his resistance, the reasons for his cheating, the reasons for his particular preferences. After understanding this truth, taking gentle communication and gentle slope guidance can alleviate the child's rebellious psychology to a certain extent in a calm, objective and accepting attitude of communication.

6. Parents should learn to overcome impatienceDon't get angry when your child is nervous, but also treat it with emotion. This will intensify the resistance between the child and the parents, strengthen the confrontation between the child, and is not conducive to the communication between the parent and the child. So, I think it's a process where companionship and communication are the best way.