How to educate children so that they do not rebel 20

It is certainly impossible not to rebel.

Praising your child more will reduce rebellion.

The root of rebellion lies in the child's curiosity and blind pursuit of new things.

If the pursuit is wrong, please praise the child before guiding him, and tell him: In fact, there is a better note that mom can try......

Parents must be patient and not impatient, to suppress the fire, do not let the child you annoy him, just a year, communicate with the child more, be their friend, and not to educate him with the attitude of a parent, after all, now.

It's up to your parents to start educating them.

Sixth grade is a sudden period of children's emotions and emotions to prevent children from forming rebellious personalitiesChildren are generally around 10 years old, children's self-awareness begins to rise, they strongly need the respect of their parents, and they need parents to treat them as big children.

However, many parents do not understand the psychology of their children, and still treat their children as children, so children in this period often deliberately oppose their parents because they do not get the respect and understanding of their parents. Parents should not think that their children deliberately oppose you, just simple disobedient behavior, in fact, there is a deep reason behind the child's desire for your understanding and your respect.

Self-consciousness is in the formative period of the sparrow, they have their own opinions and opinions on things, and they are always stubbornly believing that they are right. However, due to the lack of life and social experience, children's views and opinions are often incomplete, early or wrong, therefore, the gap between ideals and reality will also make children's emotions and emotions change greatly.

What is the focus of your child's education

Find out the cause of your child's mood changes, and your child will have words like "I'm bored", and the number of such words will continue to rise. For example, in the second unit of this semester, the assignment content is "Talk about the heart", and I ask the children not to talk about their studies, but about their personal troubles.

One child said, "The clothes my mother made me wear were always things I didn't like; I like long hair, but my mom made me cut it short, and mom was disrespectful to me. Another classmate said, "Mom and Dad don't let me play with my classmates and don't let me read the extracurricular books I like."

They never seemed to believe me. In fact, children's worries are not only about playing with utensils, clothes, hairstyles, or extracurricular reading materials, what they need is the understanding and respect of their parents. When the child truly understands and respects, all his negative and rebellious emotions will disappear.

You can't take a tough approach to rebellious children. On the basis of understanding him, we should move with emotion and reason, and educate children. High school children have their own opinions, and although their views are somewhat biased, they are reluctant to admit it.

You won't be able to use the right set for children. You can consciously expose your children to some more positive and excellent children, so that they can be exposed to them and be well nurtured, which is more effective than that.

1. Respect children, parents should not always focus on children's weaknesses, and do not compare children's shortcomings with other children's strengths. When contacting children, parents should try to find out as much as possible about their children's strengths and encourage them to reduce their resistance to parents. In addition, parents should be patient with every question or request from their baby.

Listen carefully to what your child wants to tell him/herself. You can make full eye contact with him when he can't articulate himself, but don't interrupt him.

2. Empathy, parents also came from the rebellious period of youth, but they are not as obvious as the current children, so in the face of the children's incomprehensible behavior, you might as well empathize and think about why the children are like this. When you have empathy, you will understand the child and find out the crux of the problem. There is a mother who likes to take her eldest grandson and 4-year-old daughter to the mall.

And the daughter is always crying and making a fuss about life and death, and she doesn't want to go in. The mother couldn't understand why the child didn't want to go to the mall because the store had a wide variety of goods, and the child should like it.

Once, when she squatted down in the mall to put on her daughter's shoes, she suddenly understood. It turned out that standing at the height of the child, the goods could not be seen at all. Only the human legs swaying back and forth made the child feel monotonous, depressed, and uncomfortable, and she finally understood the reason why the child was reluctant to go to the mall.

3. Do not follow the topic of learning, communicate with children, parents should not always enter the question based on academic performance, which will only make children feel pressured and doubt the motivation of parents to communicate. When communicating, parents can start with family affairs and talk about business after their children's emotions have stabilized.

4. Stabilize emotions, parents with emotions to educate their children, it is definitely irrational, will cause children to resist more and more. Therefore, when parents are impatient, upset, and not calm, do not educate their children. When you are calm, talk to your child again.

5. Allow children to make mistakes, this stage is the critical period for children to form their own opinions, and small mistakes are inevitable, so parents should allow children to make mistakes and suffer some losses, and do not tie their children's hands and feet too much. At the same time, parents are the best role models for children, children in the rebellious period have strong imitation ability, and parents' good words and deeds can have a subtle influence on children.

Parents should no longer rely on their own experience to explore education, to scientific and correct guidance and intervention, if the child's rebellious behavior is not corrected in time to make scientific and correct guidance, the child's rebellious situation will only become more serious.

There are two ways to improve education. 1. Be friends with children, and don't take radical behaviors.

To educate your child correctly is to let go of your posture and take the initiative to be friends with your child, rather than acting high all the time. Parents should often have in-depth and intimate conversations with their children to convey their love for their children.

In addition, when children make mistakes, parents should first calm their emotions, avoid taking aggressive actions against their children, regardless of whether they are indiscriminately taught with sticks first, but calmly help children analyze and solve problems.

Treating children harshly not only fails to make them realize their mistakes and correct them, but also leaves a shadow on their hearts and makes their personalities extreme.

2. Give your child more company.

No one can replace the love and companionship of parents, only under the careful teaching and companionship of parents can children receive better education and develop good habits.

But in real life, many parents are forced by the pressure of life, and Jing Pei has to ask his grandparents and grandparents to come over to help watch the children or leave the children in their hometown.

In this case, parents are unable to provide enough time for their children, which will have a negative impact on his development.

Therefore, parents should treat their children more attentively, communicate with them more often, communicate with them or play more, keep abreast of their life and learning, and let them feel that even if their parents are not in the world, they are still caring and loving themselves.

1. Everyone will have a rebellious period.

The phenomenon of rebellion in the child, don't make a fuss, everyone will experience this rebellious period, of course, you must keep a calm treatment, I used to rely on yelling or strict discipline of the child, basically in vain, and the child is even more disgusted. It wasn't until I took the parent-child course of Gaotu Beautiful Family that I finally knew how to get along with my children correctly, and I was no longer as antagonistic and disobedient as before, and now I am more like friends with my children! I'm so relieved!

Therefore, parents should learn more about education methods, how to do education in the rebellious period, and then be more considerate of their children, knowing that educating children can no longer rely on simple and crude forms such as fist violence and abuse, to be civilized, to reform, to have cultivation and mastery of modern educational concepts and knowledge, in order to be a good parent. In order to let the child walk well and go through the inevitable course of adolescence in this period of life.

2. Respect children's equal treatment

Parents should avoid too many unnecessary restrictions on their children's behavior, respect their children, treat them as friends equally, and give children a certain amount of space to explore freely, which is a way to control rebellious psychology and rebellious behavior from the source, so that children can feel understood, accepted, and understood. Do not use coercion or intimidation threats. Rebellious psychology occurs precisely because of the child's dissatisfaction or anger towards his parents.

Although subjugation and threats can temporarily reduce rebellious and rebellious behavior, they increase the child's inner anger and contribute to potential conflicts.

3. Don't expose your child's shortcomings

Every child has its own advantages and disadvantages, as a parent must not do what is not to expose the child's shortcomings, especially not to compare him with other children, adolescent children especially need to face, if you want to correct the child's incorrectness, you can communicate with the child sincerely, understand the child's true thoughts.

Since I was a child, I was someone else's child: a good student in the eyes of my teachers and a good child in the eyes of my parents. My parents also have complete trust in me, so they are very supportive of any ideas I have when I decide.

So, there is hardly anything rebellious in my life. So, let's talk about one of the most impulsive experiences of my life.

One of the most impulsive experiences in my life was when I was filling in the college entrance examination. Since I was a child, my dream was to become a doctor in Western China. After the college entrance examination is completed and the score is completed, after filling in the volunteers, consult the teacher's advice.

The homeroom teacher thought that it was difficult for me to get into my ideal school and major, and I estimated that I needed to repeat my studies, and it was very difficult for girls, especially for me, to study clinical medicine. After listening to this, I was very apprehensive, but I still reported to volunteer. After volunteering, I consulted with another senior teacher two days later.

She also has the same opinion, and mentioned that the food profession will definitely be good in the future. So, I wavered and went to the Education Bureau to take back the volunteer form that had been submitted and fill it out again. So, I chose a school with a top ranking in food majors to apply for the exam, and randomly filled in a second major.

At the time, I didn't even know the city where the school was located.

Later, I was successfully admitted to the school I applied for, which was more than 150 points higher than the admission score of the school, and that year was the highest admission line of the school, and the score of Sichuan University, which I originally wanted to apply, was the lowest in the past. Unfortunately, I didn't learn my first major, and I was admitted to my second major. Faced with such a result, I was very annoyed and entangled in my heart.

I regret my impulsiveness, I regret that I gave up my childhood dream so easily. I wonder if I want to repeat it. But I didn't repeat it, and I chose to make a mistake.

Therefore, I was not happy in the first few years of undergrad, and I wanted to go back to repeat my studies many times in the first semester of my freshman year, but I still tried to persevere in my studies, and my grades were not bad. Later, graduate school was also an undergraduate major, and finding a job was also related to the major. Now it seems that this major is also good, the employment prospects are much better than the food major, and at the same time it is also very interesting.

Now that I've grown up, I look back and think that if I really studied medicine, I might not be able to afford it.

Maybe this is the wonderful arrangement of life, not everything will come according to plan, but as long as you always remember to live hard in the moment, there will be beauty and happiness. An impulse that changed the trajectory of life.

First of all, adults' minds must be mature, don't care too much, and don't always be good for children. So be sure to grow yourself.

Children are too rebellious, parents should set good rules from an early age, establish a correct view of right and wrong, let children face up to their own mistakes, and establish a good communication environment with children.

1) Establish good rules from an early age: avoid being obedient when the child is young, otherwise the child may grow up with too strong personality, or be self-centered and rebellious.

2) Establish a correct view of right and wrong: formulate a correct and unified standard of right and wrong, and cannot rely on the mood of parents to decide whether it is right or wrong, if it is a mistake of principle, the concept of parents should be unified.

3) Let children face up to their mistakes: Educate children to reward and punish clearly, and give rewards when children have good behavior. Don't tolerate when children do wrong things, even if it's just a small mistake, they should be punished appropriately, and avoid scolding and blaming too much, so that children can face up to their mistakes, correct them in time, and avoid falling deeper and deeper into their mistakes.

4) Establish good communication: Parents should establish good communication with their children, listen to their children's internal thoughts, understand the reasons for the occurrence of rebellious behaviors, and conduct targeted communication.

5) Others: It is recommended that parents set an example, set an example, and be consistent in words and deeds.

1.Build trust and communication: Build trust and communication with your child when educating them so that they feel accepted and understood.

Don't force indoctrination and commands, but help them understand what is right and wrong and what costs are cost, listen to their ideas and constructive feedback, and work together to develop reasonable standards and rules.

2.Give your child enough support and autonomy: Teach your child to respect their independence and individuality, give them enough support and autonomy, and give them the right to choose and make decisions. In this way, children can experience their own values and abilities, and it is easier for them to receive education.

3.Focus on emotional channeling: Young people tend to rebel when they find themselves unable to follow up on their feelings.

Therefore, we should pay attention to children's emotional counseling, help them recognize and deal with their emotions, and provide reasonable output methods, such as sports and artistic creation.

4.Avoid coercion and violence: If parents feel that their child has begun to rebel, it is important to be calm and take reasonable and non-violent measures to resolve the issue, avoiding coercion and violence.

You should give your child tolerance and support to help them find the right direction and reduce their stress.

5.Adjust your own education methods at the time of learning: Targeted education should be carried out according to the child's age, personality, ability, etc., and the principle of differentiated education should be observed, according to the child's interests and characteristics, and in a way that makes them interested in going to school, strengthen interaction, experience and sharing, until an effective habit is formed.

In short, educating children is not static, and proper adjustment and treatment, finding the root cause of the problem, and cultivating children's understanding and autonomy are all keys to helping children avoid rebellion. Be sure to give your child clear and clear wrong information, as well as clear and correct directions, so that they know their responsibilities and obligations.