My son is in the sixth grade of elementary school and is now a bit obsessed with online games

Hehe, many children have this mentality.

Actually, your child is okay. A lot of kids go straight to WB to play.

Generally, some games will give out related activities at special times (festivals, etc.). At this time, virtual products such as rewards are more attractive to children, especially children who usually have little time to play, and the activity time is very short.

Is there a way to get the best of both worlds?

Your child seems to be listening to you.

It is advisable not to talk to your child about right and wrong issues right away. Don't talk about the importance of learning either. At this time, the child must not have a mind. It must have ended with a quarrel in the end. Because a child is still a child after all. It's in nature to play.

If you encounter a similar situation today, I don't know if your child will go online and get it or say that he will play for a long time. If your child says to get it down, you can let your child get it. That's fine.

If the child says it takes a long time to play. You can negotiate with your child. Otherwise, it's not good for your child's mind to be full of games.

Psychologically speaking, it is much better to let the child play for a while than not to let it work at all! After the child is satisfied, he will not have the idea of wanting to play for the time being, otherwise he will be panicked. You can tell your child that they can relax for 15-30 minutes when they come back from school.

Or I went to class seriously today. Isn't tomorrow Friday? In the evening, special circumstances allow half an hour to 1 hour of play.

But say yes only this once! In this way, the child will also go to class well. Otherwise, he would definitely be very inefficient in class at night!

You see, your child has explained to you why. So you can analyze it from your child's point of view before you educate it!

After a period of time (2-3 days) you can talk to your child. It is better to choose at night. Because after research, parent-child communication is most effective at night!

Telling your child is not to say that you are against games, but because you are afraid that your child will have games in his head every day after playing. Moreover, it is not entirely unreasonable to tell your child that parents are not entirely unreasonable. If it's really just an online gift and so on, the parents will definitely agree!

The premise is that you must be away from the computer within 5 minutes. ）.Then tell your child that play and learning should be separated.

The game is virtual. It's just for fun. Don't put too much thought into it!

I believe that after you talk to your child in an appropriate tone, he will understand. Because children also listen attentively to every word their parents say.

If you have any communication questions, you can send me a message.

Finally, I wish the child a healthy and happy growth!

How to educate children.

Don't hit or scold to educate children.

There are thousands of ways to discipline children, and hitting and scolding children can be said to be the most direct. But times are changing, concepts are also being updated, and the way parents discipline their children cannot, of course, not change! Parents may wonder if they will spoil their children if they put the stick away?

In fact, when children make mistakes, letting children take responsibility with a respectful attitude can better cultivate children's independent and rational personality.

Parents' hands should be full of love and warmth, rather than making children feel strange and afraid. A child who grows up trembling will gradually develop negative behaviors, such as lying when he is afraid to express his true feelings, stealing when he is afraid to speak up when he has a need, etc. However, some parents often find it difficult to find effective parenting methods other than scolding.

Now, let's learn together the 10 best ways to discipline without beating or scolding!

A common cause of slapping and scolding a child.

When asked why they hit and scolded their children, many parents "don't listen to discipline". In response to this reason, Teacher Cheng Guiying would like to clarify here. When parents beat and scold their children, they always put all the blame on the children, thinking that the children are forcing themselves to do this, but rarely seek other ways to teach their children.

In fact, no matter what kind of discipline is used to treat children, the responsibility must be borne by the parents, not the children. It is precisely because parents are unwilling to bother to find other educational methods that there will be sloppy performance of beating and scolding. Generally speaking, there are four main reasons why parents want to beat and scold their children.

Traditional upbringing.

It is undeniable that the traditional concept of parenting still has a subtle influence on us, such as "if you don't fight, you can't make a weapon", "filial piety comes out under the stick" and so on. Because in the traditional concept, the relationship between parents and children is top-to-bottom, and there is no concept of respecting children and getting along with children on an equal footing. The respect of traditional culture is mostly focused on getting along with peers, but it is very lacking in the parent-child relationship.

This thing can't be stopped, I still think the best way is to reduce his interest in this game, and the specific way is that you also play, play with your son's character, and watch him kill him once at a time, so that he will be disgusted with the game. But be careful not to let him find out that you killed him.

Let him read books every day, you can talk to him, don't let him be too immersed in the Internet! ~

The child is getting bigger and bigger, but it is also becoming more and more difficult to manage, many parents complain that now there is always a feeling of being unable to discipline the child, and it is too difficult to manage the child. Especially when it comes to the topic of children playing with mobile phones, it seems that it has become the main conflict between many parents and children, and some children will even run away from home because of the problem of playing mobile phones.

What should a 6th grader do if he is addicted to playing with his phone?

1. Understand your child's behavior when using mobile phones.

When your child is playing with his mobile phone, don't complain and nag. Parents can stay and see what their kids are playing on their phones. If they use TikTok, parents can communicate with their children once they find a good short**. Why is this ** so popular?

In today's era of online classes, most parents will use online courses to guide their children, so children will inevitably be exposed to electronic products. This requires parents to understand their children's behavior in using mobile phones, and encourage children to watch more ** that is conducive to learning and growth.

2. Distract your child's attention.

Children are addicted to playing with mobile phones, parents can try to professionalize their children's attention and guide them to do things that interest them. For example, playing blocks, playing ball, singing, watching movies, visiting shopping malls, and so on.

3. When children are at home, parents should set an example not to play with mobile phones.

Some parents have poor self-control and often play mobile games, which also seriously affects their children. We don't play with our phones at home, creating a good atmosphere. Outside of work, parents should make some time to do activities with their children, such as:

Reading and talking together, shopping together, talking with friends.

In short, parents should leave a little time and space for themselves to accompany their children, parents should put down the shelves, listen to their children's voices, and pay attention to cultivating children's independence and maintaining children's self-esteem. It is best for parents to visit their child's teacher from time to time and cooperate with the teacher.

4. Go out with your children more.

If parents have time, they can take their children for a walk in the forest park, go to the aquarium to see marine animals, and go on a vacation to the beach. The child's poor nature is to be playful. As long as the child has seen the outside world and realized that it is more interesting than playing with the phone, he will not be addicted to the phone.

Therefore, parents should take the time to create opportunities for their children to get in touch with nature.

The child is now a sixth-grade student, addicted to playing games, parents should have a good talk with the child, tell him that he is addicted to the harm of the game for the future, if he really likes to play games, he can crack and wait until he grows up to take this as his own work, game development or competition.

Parents should guide their children reasonably so that they can realize the dangers of playing games, and learning is the most important thing.

You can stop him from playing. You're still in control of this thing. You can't let him play with the computer.

In order to prevent children from playing mobile games after going to primary school, the school has given us several trainings, all of which teach parents how to help their children quit game addiction.

If there is too much content, I will say the most practical way, first of all, to figure out why the child is addicted to online games, the first is that the game is really fun, the second is that the child has too much free time but no one to accompany him, he feels lonely, and the third is interpersonal and social problems.

Directly said the second article, primary school students have more free time, generally the school is out of school at about four o'clock in the afternoon, at this point in time the child comes home even if he finishes his homework for a long time is nothing to do, and at this time if the child has nothing to do, and there is just a mobile phone or computer around him, he may want to play games, if the child has a group of friends running downstairs to play, or there is a family to accompany the child to play the game he is interested in, then he will not have time to play games.

The second interpersonal relationship, the child's friends must be playing games, they are out of class, the most talked about after school may be the content of the game, and at this time, if their children do not understand the game, then there is no way to integrate into the group, he wants to make friends so he will play games.

For the above situation, parents should not be too fierce to stop, parents can ask their children how to play, and apply to play with the child, and let the child play with you, become friends with the child in the game, when you become his friend, he is willing to listen to you, you can explain to the child, not not to let him play the game, but to control the time, and when you play, you can call you together, the two of them play together, you accompany the child to do what he likes, he will listen to you, and treat you as a friend.

First of all, it is to repair the relationship, especially the healthy attachment relationship between parents and children, accept and recognize him, fully understand and trust him, parents must be able to see the motivation and need behind his game, and once he is seen, there is light, and he can stand shoulder to shoulder, and continuously convey to him the strength to face reality, which is the most critical and the most patient step.

Later or at the same time, face the difficulties in reality with him, and find solutions to problems together, such as learning methods and skills, the relationship with teachers, etc., by solving practical problems, let him see his plasticity and hope, parents must not just point fingers and stand and talk without backache, to be concretized, and to strengthen the alliance with the child.

Again, seeing the needs of children, not just seeing a lost teenager who is addicted to games, the lost person is actually us (parents) ourselves. Freezing three feet is not a day's cold, and seeing it is the beginning of everything for the better.

To expand his other interests, support and praise his other good things, and give him a sense of accomplishment. Games are something he can play, but he must be told that he must be moderate and not addicted.

Playing games is still because the family has no time to accompany him, and he is used to playing before, so accompany him to the park, go to the zoo, go to painting and dancing together, don't be at home all day, the game can only be played for one hour a day, and the time is set

Simply delete the game.,The game thing,I think it's useless to be reasonable.,Everyone understands the truth.,It's just not possible.,If he comes back again.,You can look at his record of playing games.。 And punish him.

It is recommended to strengthen management and find more other interests.

No, you can only play the game for a while if you tell him that he has done his homework

Parents must control their time.