Can anyone tell me what I should do in the face of family and love? 20

Life will inevitably face many choices! Of course, within the scope of not violating your conscience, since you have a family, you have to take on your responsibilities, not to escape, since you don't like it, why get married and have children! Is it forced to be helpless, is it impossible to choose?

Then why are you choosing now, I believe you can't figure it out yourself, in my opinion, you are not a responsible man, you should not be cowardly, you should not hypocritically ask others how you choose! You have to ask yourself, how do you choose! The above is just my personal opinion!

Finally, I advise you to cherish what you have.

What is a breakup? Divorced? If you have a relationship with that woman after a divorce, then your choice becomes unimportant, it should be your life.

But if you just break up in the form of separation, then you are doing it wrong, maybe you will be angry when I scold you, but you have to admit that the more you can't get it, the more reluctant you are! My personal opinion is, adults should not be too selfish, and think about children!

Let's separate the fruit segments, so that it will be harmful to both people. For the sake of the kids!

If you don't have the right mind, you should straighten yourself out first.

It's like seeing a story of Romeo and Juliet.

You say a lot of your concerns, without the actual situation of you and the girl. Do you love her, does she love you? What did she think?

It's because you can't get it, that's why you think she's good. If you really get divorced and stay with her, slowly the shortcomings of both of you will be exposed. Your wife has already passed the run-in period with you, and you already have a mutual identity and tacit understanding, but this lover may not be.

In addition, even if you divorce and don't want a wife, you don't want children? Even if the judgment is given to the woman, you have to see your daughter regularly, you are allowed to ensure that she can stand the fact that you see your daughter often, and she is allowed to ensure that you can buy gifts for your daughter? Let me tell you, a woman wants all her husband's love and does not allow others to share it, and your love must be shared with her daughter, so she will never be able to get all your body and mind, which is a very crazy thing for a woman.

And you have to pay for your daughter's child support, two junior high school students, that's a lot of money. For example, on the weekend, my daughter said, Dad has a well-known tutoring class, I want to attend, do you pay for it? When my daughter arrived at college, she said that her father's classmates had a lot of pocket money, but I didn't, so Dad should give me some pocket money, can you give it?

The daughter took a fancy to a beautiful dress and said that Dad wants it so much, can you buy it? When the time comes, she will play with you for trivial matters, and it will not be dreamy at all.

Besides, what if my daughter gives you one? Then the contradiction between her and her stepmother is big.

Therefore, the price paid for the divorce of a family with children is too great, so you should consider it carefully.

Oscar Wilde once said: There are only two kinds of tragedy in the world, one is to get and the other is not to go. You are all thirty people, don't be too naïve, don't give up the beautiful and happy life you have now, in fact, I am a post-80s, I understand very well, the past is the past, the present relationship is the most important, if you leave the current wife and children, hurt almost everyone, first your wife and children, then your first love boyfriend, and then your parents and your wife's parents, as well as your mutual acquaintance, friends, I advise you, cherish the beauty of the present, don't live in the past.

You don't have to worry, you have a wife and children, she is getting married, what do you want to do? Isn't it better to have both sides?

Why bother yourself unless you want to eat it all This is immoral and unreasonable First love is just a good memory of your youth Why should you destroy it?

You can't give up family responsibilities for love, but if you give up this relationship, you definitely can't do it, protect this relationship well, I think it's useless to persuade you. Since the other party is already talking about marriage, I still advise you not to disturb them first.

If you don't handle it well, it's easy to cause 4 people to be injured, and your first love is beautiful, especially if you can meet your former favorite again.

This is just a dream that is beautiful on your mental side, because you have not realized it, and your mind is always thinking, but if you give up your current life and realize the dream in your heart, it will not be long before you feel regretful. You don't only have love now, but also family affection, think about it, you also have to be a responsible father.

If you can't do this, it will cause a lot of harm to the child, and what you are talking about may only be a temporary nostalgia and good memories, you have also experienced love and marriage, and you should be able to clearly feel that there is a big difference between them. So be sure to think carefully ...

The beauty of the past can only be regarded as a memory, and perhaps only then will this beauty not change its taste.

Why destroy two families for the sake of a former past, what you think is the highest peak? On that day, my mother graduated from junior high school, and before you got married, you went to old age.

Selfish people are happier.

I didn't have it, so it's the highest peak in your heart, it's too selfish, what is the wife who gave birth to two daughters for you, is your two daughters not as important as your first love.

First of all, before making a choice, it is suggested that we should consider whether the two can be unified, after all, this contradiction is not irreconcilable.

When you have to choose, choose your lover, it's not a move to give up your family. Lovers are hard to find, they are scarce, cherish them. Family, it's understandable to leave your family when you need to, and at the same time, your family won't ask anything from you, they just want you to be happy!

In the end, the family is a parental family, and in the end you still have to build your own family when you grow up, and sooner or later you will have to leave, and this choice is just early. In reality, there are too many children who are not filial to their parents, and it cannot be said that they are not filial, this is just a form of society now, and the development and change of society also need to change the relationship between family organizations!

If both things are important, you have to stand your ground in order to prove your resolve and resolve the conflict.

If you have to choose one or the other, then you have the determination to give up the other.

1. It should be your parents who think about you and hope that you will give up the impossible love for fear that you will be deceived.

The starting point is to hope that you are okay, can you give up your family?

2. Long-distance love In the end, your lover can hold on for you and try to prove how far you love?

How much of him or her is worth your efforts? Please be sure of your answer.

3. It takes courage to resolve the conflict and you need to be persistent with him (her) to prove it to your parents.

To sum up, I hope you will find a path that suits you.

First of all, you have to distinguish the importance of the matter.

It is not to pursue love and give up family affection, let alone to cling to family affection and give up your love.

It's definitely not because of the family's opposition to the boyfriend's (woman's) appearance, economic strength, and character, it's just the distance. Can distance separate two people who love each other? No.

I hope to master the balance between them as much as possible and manage your relationship in a reasonable way.

This can only be considered and decided by yourself.

First of all, think about it, can the two be harmonized?

Then, think again, which is more important to you? Imagine what would happen to your relationship with the other if you chose one side?

I think you should have the answer, because no matter how important the two are, there is a priority.

Family and lover are equally important It is a problem There will always be a solution Family cannot be with you for a lifetime Lover is to be with you for a long time Don't give up if you love each other very much, just go home often.

You choose to leave, the answer is yes, it proves that you are not deeply in love with each other, please choose to leave; On the contrary, love deeply, clearly tell your family that you love each other, and your family will support you after getting a clear answer, come on! I wish you happiness.

At the critical moment, give up the car to protect the handsome, which side is in your own interests. If the benefits are great, choose which side to choose, this is the real society

Since you are reluctant, you can make yourself a bridge and connect them.

Don't always think about difficulties, but solve them yourself.

Such a big person, you have to learn to analyze the choice. The advice we give is not necessarily right for you.

I suggest taking care of it. Learn to deal with it. It is also important for the future.

Think about it a little more and see if you can find a balance and wish you happiness.

...How to put it, it's a bit complicated.

1.He and your family, you and his family have contradictions, which will make life more challenging in the future, and it is not good to deal with it before marriage, let alone after marriage? Right...

2.There is a lack of communication between you and him. You must know that falling in love is a matter of two people, and marriage is a matter of two families.

If you can't handle your relationship with him well, let alone talk about it after you get married... After all, they are people from two families, and their living habits are different in all aspects, and they can't get along with emotional things, let alone living habits, right? Besides, if a man is a big man, he doesn't know how to coax women, he doesn't know how to be filial and polite, are you sure you dare to marry this man?

Are you sure he will make you happy?

3.Why transfer jobs? Now the work is yours, the decision-makers are not their home, ok? Besides, can you ask your colleagues, parents, and friends for their opinions? Don't be so reckless in doing things, it's good to analyze everything clearly!

I advise you to postpone your marriage and think about the transfer of work! After all, I don't think he's very suitable for you, because he's such a big person, and he doesn't know how to hurt his girlfriend, I don't know how he will treat you when he marries you in the future

Remember, marry a man who is good to you and loves you, not a man who always delivers goods to you and doesn't know how to get along with your family... Smart women have smart choices Besides, your conditions are not bad Don't be afraid of missing this relationship, maybe you will be better for you in the future! Be confident in yourself!

Are you really sure you love him?

Getting married is no small thing. And if you get married, you have to be with him.

If you always quarrel like now, if you have nothing to do, maybe the family will not be so harmonious.

And if your husband and mother can't reconcile, you will probably be in a dilemma after getting married.

Maybe we can ask both sides to talk calmly and well, and everyone takes a step back, isn't it just the sea and the sky?

One wrong step will make one wrong step.

The landlord still thinks clearly, after all, he is a person who has lived a lifetime.

I just think that if he can't even stand my mother, how can he put up with me and even my married life in the future? "My mom said he was talking too much"I can't be wrong with that. No matter what the reason, how can the mother-in-law who faces the future be angry when she is also an elder?

Getting married is not a trivial matter, and since it's all like this, the days ahead will be long!! Think about it!

It depends on how important your love is, and your family will generally forgive you.

This kind of thing happens and always makes the person concerned feel very distressed and does not know what choice to make.

If you have a good relationship and your parents are against it, you can communicate more with your parents and do more ideological work to make your family accept him.