After so many years, I always feel that I can t love people, and there are several suitors around me

The number of divorces now is too large But it shouldn't be thought of as your own fault Whether two people are suitable or not in a marriage Only you know Neither wants to continue to live together It is normal for you to divorce and stop losses in time You feel that you will not love others anymore It is not unreasonable for you to be afraid of being hurt again After all, it is not unreasonable to be bitten by a snake for ten years and be afraid of the well rope But whether you can live a lifetime really requires courage and real getting along to know that the past is the past There is no need to keep entangled Life is so long You have the right to choose happiness It is important to choose the one who loves you.

You're picky, aren't you? Look at your own pursuits, what are your goals? Is it to love you, or is it to be loved?

I still know that I only know to find the right ones who understand you. Like yours. Feel the same way about each other.

It's a kind of fate. That's the big premise. Be sure to think it through.

Respect your own heart, you should choose, and then the people who are with you through thick and thin have common ideals, a common outlook on life and values. People who pursue together.

Make it clear to them, like is like, dislike is not like, you must be firm in your position, as long as you refuse, there will be harm, you must make a decision immediately, and cut through the mess quickly.

Choose people who are sincere to themselves, people with a sense of responsibility and responsibility. Judging by the conduct, a caring person will not be bad.

1. Don't force yourself, really fancy remarrying.

2. Life is the foundation of everything, don't leave life to talk about love.

3. Loyalty and single-mindedness are important factors to consider.

Regardless of whether what you say is true or not, first of all, make sure that even if you are divorced, you can be so attractive, which is really admirable. Emotional matters, can not be forced, grievances and perfection, will only make the relationship worse, no matter when, the two love can last for a long time, I hope you can meet the right one.

Don't talk nonsense, it's not that you don't know how to love people at all, you just like to be surrounded by a group of men, the feeling of being pampered, you go to the street and ask, which good woman is chased by several people.

When fate comes to you, choose well and find someone who truly loves you and cares about you.

How can life be more satisfying, everything is only half satisfied. Agree with this statement, and maybe you will have a relatively correct choice.

Each of us hopes that we can get a happy and sweet love, and we strive for it. ......Among them, the love at first sight love that touches the heart at first sight is the most romantic and what we look forward to. But that doesn't mean that we will give up when we meet a boy or girl who doesn't have a crush at first sight.

The reason why I say this is because love at first sight is hard to find, people can only really understand each other through long-term interactions, and love should be rational and not emotional.

1. Love at first sight is unattainable, so it cannot be forced.

At first sight, this kind of love at first sight is the most romantic, and it is also the most enviable and expected headshot. ......But this kind of love is hard to come by, and only a very small number of people can get such love, and it is undesirable for most people. ......Therefore, we can't force this kind of love, even if we can't meet it, we should choose it rationally.

2. People can only really understand each other through long-term interactions.

Fundamentally, for two people to fully understand each other, they must be able to achieve it through a long relationship. ......Therefore, the kind of love at first sight, although it may be romantic, is not necessarily the best state of love. ......In fact, for love with the goal of lifelong companionship, two people who love each other should still get a full understanding through long-term dating, in order to achieve true happiness.

3. For love, we should be rational, not emotional.

Although love is a kind of feeling, the process of pursuing love cannot only focus on feelings. ......Emotional love is destined to fail to achieve a satisfactory result, so the kind of love at first sight that looks at the first glance of the heart does not necessarily lead to happiness, only through rational analysis and judgment, choose the most suitable person for yourself as a partner, in order to find a lover who is truly suitable for you. ......Therefore, even if we meet a boy or girl who is not attracted at first sight, we should continue to choose and give each other enough time to get to know each other, so that we can leave no regrets.

Nowadays, there are many people who are more and more reluctant to pursue others, and now some people are reluctant to pursue others because of pride and arrogance, but there are some people who are introverted and do not have the confidence and courage to pursue others.

Now it's getting better and better after birth Thinking is not as traditional as before Women in the past had to choose the path of marriage After marriage, there are too many trivial things The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law and machismo husbands shudder to think about It Now women are independent, have jobs, can support themselves, and are fearless whether to marry or not, so it has become difficult to chase and the requirements are also high Yes, men are discouraged.

This should be a choice made by a self-judgment of the happiness index of the future life, today's young people are not at all like the sixties and seventies and the previous people have the desire to start a family, but according to their own ideas and opportunities to choose life, if you meet the ideal lover, and are each other have the same feelings, then it is natural to interact, get married, and if you do not meet the person you like, you will not have no principle of improvisation, unsatisfactory marriage is not as good as a person living by himself without burden, free, as he wishes.

It can't be said like this, for example, some people don't take the initiative, they are too passive because of their high self-esteem, they want to save face, some are introverted, and some are because they have been hurt, he doesn't want to be hurt again, he must be sure that after safety, such as making sure that the other party is sincere to him, he will really open his heart and start a relationship, generally not actively, but once this kind of person starts, it must be serious.

Life is stressful, which makes people lose confidence in life, so they are not confident in everything, they dare not take the initiative to the person they like, dare not talk to her, dare not express their intentions, afraid of speaking, the other party does not agree, and ordinary friends can't do it, so they still don't say it!

It's not that I lost the ability to love someone, but I was hurt by love and didn't have the courage to chase love again.

Maybe there is no one worthy of his initiative.

Because there are too many money worshippers and scumbags.

It's because of having low self-esteem. Low self-esteem is deterrent.

May be deliberately reserved.

Probably don't like it.

There may be objects, uh uh.

Like someone can be in a moment or a year.

You really meet someone you like, and you will want to pursue it.

Simply looking for a partner is either lonely or ambiguous, okay, off topic.

The economy is developing too fast, the society is very realistic, and the pressure is very high.

In real life, some people have many suitors, but it is difficult to fall in love with them. This is because they are very principled, they know what kind of other half they want to find, they know what their ideal type is, and they are very good themselves, they have many choices, and they don't have to be afraid that they will always be single, it is precisely because they are in good condition that they have a high vision. Ordinary ordinary people can't get into their eyes.

It's also possible that they already have someone they like, but they haven't dared to say it and have been hiding it in their hearts, so they decisively refuse in the face of other suitors, let alone fall in love with them. And when a person chases you, it is difficult for you to see whether this person is sincere, how long can he last for this part of your liking now, in fact, many suitors don't really like themselves, most of them just see a certain aspect of their lives, they feel that it is the type he likes, and then pursue it violently, but often such a pursuit is untenable and can't last too long.

Because the conditions of the vast majority of these suitors are not good, nor are they good enough, and they are not attractive enough.

Many people are like this, what they can't get is the best, and what they get easily won't be cherished.

Because most of the people who pursue others are not very good themselves, when they pursue others, most of them cannot accept them, and everyone rejects them from the heart.

Maybe it's because you feel like you're on the superior side and look down on the person you're being pursued. I always feel like I'm superior to my suitors.

It can only mean that you don't work hard enough, or your strength is not enough to allow it.

The gap between yourself and the other party can never be bridged, which will cause this outcome.

Because they have no feeling for the suitor itself, and then the suitor is too humble and puts his status too low.

It's not easy to fall in love with a suitor, in fact, the main reason is that you don't like this person at all, and then this person uses it to pursue herself, and you will feel particularly painful and depressed in your heart.

This has nothing to do with whether it's a suitor or not.,The main reason is that there's no feeling.,If there's a feeling.,Even if it's only a few days of pursuit, maybe the two of them will get better.。

Because the people who pursue themselves are generally not what they like, and the people they like don't pursue themselves, it is normal that it is difficult to like the suitors.

Because the other party's requirements are very high, he can't meet his requirements, and at the same time, he may also have a favorite object.

It is difficult for these people to fall in love with their suitors because they think that the suitors love them very much, that they don't need to love themselves, and that they don't have to give anything to get their love.

Hello, there are two factors in my history that led me to delete the people I liked, and that was the communication problem and the different direction of growth.

The first factor is the problem of communication. When two people are together, communication is the cornerstone of a stable and healthy relationship. If both parties are unable to communicate openly about issues and feelings, the relationship will start to have problems.

In my case, I've found that people I like are always reluctant to communicate with me, especially when I'm trying to talk about something deep. He often avoided talking about it or just gave me something simple. This caused me to feel neglected and helpless, while also hindering further communication and development between us.

Eventually, I decided that there was no future for this relationship that lacked communication skills, so I decided to cut him out.

The second factor is a different direction of growth. When two people are together, they are separate individuals, and during dating, they communicate and share in all aspects of their lives. However, sometimes we find that we may grow in different directions and we have different ideas and plans, which makes it difficult for us to be together.

In my case, there are significant differences between me and the person I like in terms of career planning, lifestyle, and long-term goals. His plan seems to be more focused on pleasure and the pleasures of the moment, while I am more focused on self-growth and future planning. Even though he is a very interesting and charming person, I think that if we continue to be with him, we may have differences in the future, which eventually led me to delete him.

In conclusion, even if the person you like is attractive, the key is to recognize if the communication and growth direction between you are compatible. If there is a problem with these two aspects, then it will be difficult to maintain such a relationship. In my case, I chose to cut out the person I liked, and although it was a painful thing, I thought it was to find a better relationship and future for both of us.

Good luck.

It is because everyone grows up in a different environment, so everyone's preferences and aesthetics are different. The same person, some people like it, some people don't like it, some people don't like the same item, some people love it, and some people turn a blind eye. The same song, if it can resonate with the fragile part of your heart.

Of course you can, that's how I am. Everyone has their own way of life, so why bother with others. Individuality is the cornerstone of human nature.

This is zero IQ in love.

What are the options? It's best to choose what you like relatively well, and if you really don't particularly like it, choose the one you think will be a little better in the future.

If you can't be together, maybe it's because you don't have a part.

Maybe he only regarded you as a relative rather than a lover since he was a child.

Now that he is married, bless him.

You haven't really seen your feelings clearly.

It's good for both of you that he does this.

Try to understand others.

It is an indifferent person, seemingly casual, but in fact it is closed and self-、、、

Because they are interested in each woman, because they have different personalities and different appearances. Maybe this is the nature of men, they think that there is a sense of accomplishment in shuttling among women all day long, and when they see those women relying on themselves, their machismo begins to spread, alas, men are like this, and there are a few who concentrate on it.

I don't understand my own heart when I have it.

When you know your own heart, you don't have it anymore.

Cherish the people in front of you, don't do his tears of regret.

Bless you. No, we won't know about it......In short, he likes his younger brothers very much, Ki-beom, Yoon-ho, Donghae, Siwon, and Jang-in, ......

It is generally understood that you don't really like it, but it may also be that you like it more rationally, after all, possessiveness is not a necessary manifestation of liking.