I ve been in love with my partner, and she doesn t keep quiet when it comes to getting married, why?

If you talk to your partner about marriage and she is silent, it means that she has some thoughts in her heart, and she may feel that your current relationship has not reached the point of marriage, and she will say that your family has many limitations and has not yet reached the step of getting married. Because the woman will think more and more comprehensively, he will consider the development between the two people, the two people's own families, and also consider geographical factors.

So at this time, girls tend to think more long-term than boys. In fact, you can't rush to get married, because you haven't reached the point of getting married yet, so your girlfriend will only be silent and won't express her position. When you get to that point, the two of you will be able to reach a common understanding.

The first reason may be that your relationship has not yet come to that point, and the relationship is not so deep, so the woman has not considered the issue of marriage.

The second reason may also be your family factor, it may be because the two families in the family are far away and the geographical factors are limited, so she will think about it a lot.

The third reason is your work and development problems, the woman may consider whether she can buy a house in the future because she will not have a good development prospect after marrying you. There are also children, whether they can solve their children's learning problems, life problems, and family problems.

Therefore, as soon as you mention the issue of marriage to the object, she is silent, because the girl thinks about too many things, which is more comprehensive than we may consider, and it may be that the woman's parents hope that he can marry in his hometown, or a city closer to his home, and it is possible that he does not agree to marry so far. So there may be a lot of factors between you that you need to get to know slowly, communicate slowly, and remove all the obstacles.

Generally, two people will talk about love for a period of time before getting married, and your partner may not be ready to get married, after all, marriage is a lifelong thing for girls, and you can't be sloppy.

It should be that your partner is not ready and ready to get married, so you have to give him more time and don't put too much pressure on him.

Maybe it's because I didn't want to get married so early and didn't know what to do with you.

It is said that love begins with appearance, trapped in talent, most love at first sight is love, people are visual animals, so if a person is very good to you, but the long Han Duan Zheng is not good-looking, will you still fall in love with him or her? Personally, I think that falling in love is when both parties are suitable together, feel good, and the other party is kind-hearted, and they don't care about appearances. If my other half is ugly, but is very good to me, good to my parents, and loves me, and two people fall in love, we can understand each other and tolerate each other in all kinds of life, and I think we can talk about getting married.

First, it depends on his character, his relationship with his family, and his relationship with colleagues and friends. If you have a close relationship with your family and are friendly with your colleagues and friends, this man is still more reliable.

If the man does not have a good relationship with his family, then the man is unreliable. Even if it's good for you, it's temporary, or pretended.

Second: It can be observed in the details of life, such as talking about Songguo, a man is scheming everywhere, and he is not suitable for marrying him.

Third: you can look at his ability to work. If you are not motivated at work and keep making excuses for not being promoted, this kind of man cannot be married, and it will be painful for a lifetime if he marries.

A woman's greatest sorrow is to marry an incompetent man.

Fourth: see if he has the courage to take responsibility. If you excuse yourself for any mistakes, complain about others, and shirk responsibility, this kind of man can't marry.

Fifth, the way money is used.

One saving, one wasteful, for example, when you receive a utility bill every month, the party that may save will complain

Why do you always forget to turn off the lights? Why do I keep the water on when brushing my teeth? One buys it when he likes it, and the other always buys a bargain ......The difference in the use of money and the difference in the way of buying things actually contains the difference in the whole value.

Sixth, family matters.

In fact, it not only includes the question of who should do how much housework, but also some trivial things that need to be paid attention to: for example, a love to throw it around, a hanger and a hanger are almost the same distance between them; One loves to collect everything, and the other magazine is disposed of as garbage after reading it; Even as small as squeezing toothpaste, small things add up to big ones, and such details often become the fuse of a big noise.

Being intervened by parents when they are in love is really a common phenomenon for wives. There are many people who are sad after obeying their parents' arrangements for many years, and there are many people who regret not listening to the old man after getting married for many years. Of course, there are very few male guests like "If You Are Honest, Do Not Disturb" are so tough.

When asked by the female guest how to deal with the relationship between the spouse and the parents, how to deal with the opinions and participation of the parents when choosing a mate. The male guest made something unexpected, he bluntly said that he would not consider his parents' opinions, and even Grandpa Meng expressed his amazement. After in-depth understanding, I found that the male guest's hardness was not without reason, but because the original family itself was very tolerant, supporting him "I am the master of my life", and giving the male guest enough space to choose.

But the truth is that not everyone's family of origin will be so tolerant. It has been said that "a marriage that does not have the approval of parents is a marriage of courage." "It takes a lot of courage because you have to face more difficulties and obstacles, so it is best to have the support and approval of your parents for love and marriage.

And when facing the interference of parents, what we have to do must not be to worsen the existing situation, but the following three points: respect when there is a difference of opinion, first of all, we must respect, not only respect the parents, their opinions are for your own good, but the important thing is your own mind, you must know what kind of person you are suitable for and need, after you are determined, you need to respect your own ideas, so that you can grow into a truly independent person. Communication is followed by communication with parents, and no matter what the outcome is to be achieved, effective communication is always essential!

Communication is crucial in how to convince parents to handle a good relationship. Attention needs to be paid to the tone of communication, attitude and logic, and it is necessary to communicate rather than arguing. You can first ask them about the reasons for their objections, and then make targeted breakthroughs, combining theory and examples, and finally introduce your partner to your parents and achieve communication between them.

Balance Finally, for parents interfering in love, we must remember "harmony" and "balance", in the face of parents' intervention in their feelings, we must stay sober, do not be carried away by emotions, no matter whether the situation is difficult or not, it is very important to maintain the harmony of parents, yourself, and lovers, and it is also a long-term consideration. Sister Fei still hopes that everyone's love can be blessed by their parents, and they can be properly handled in the face of family interference, because love and family affection are very important.

The reason why some people will say that it is not okay to get married in love is mainly because they still lack sufficient psychological preparation for marriage with such a person, thinking that two people have not really understood each other, so they will say such things, in the hope that the other party can respect and take into account their own feelings.

Because falling in love is relatively simple, as long as two people are in love, I and I can do it, but marriage is a very complex system engineering, involving a lot of things and interests of two people, and also involving a lot of relationships between two families, to coordinate and the durability of this relationship. Therefore, falling in love is relatively simple, and getting married is indeed very complicated, and many people are discouraged.

The other party you see in love is all advantages, they are all beautiful, they are all flowers before the moon, and if you get married, it is firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea.

It may be that she is not ready to start a small family with you, and there is also a possibility that she just doesn't want to be shackled by the family so soon.

It seems that she is not ready, marriage, a major choice in life, how can she not think about it? When she wants to mature, she will naturally give you a satisfactory answer.

For the distress and tangled problems you encounter.

1. Whether the relationship with the lover is worth the sacrifices and concessions you make.

2. Whether the family resistance can be withstanded.

3. Stick to each other, whether the emotional support can withstand the test.

4. See if there is the possibility of having the best of both worlds and being able to compromise with each other.

5. Look at whether you really need a career or a family, there is no perfect thing in the world, and see if your efforts can make you feel worthwhile and have no regrets.

6. We must leave room for independent existence in society and family, and understand what we need and desire in our hearts.

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I think the house you said is old, I think it should be the appearance of the house, including the environment of the community, which is outdated, and the woman's parents may feel that they have no face when they get married, which is understandable. Since the money to buy a car is used to buy a new house, the bride price should be able to do without, to ask and say that all the money is invested in the purchase of a new house, selling the old and sticking money to buy the new, from an economic point of view, there is nothing wrong with it, but maybe your parents feel that they can't be too indulgent to the woman's parents, how to say, as if the world has a daughter in their family, you ask to save the bride price, and then change to a new house can work