How do you come to be further away in a friendship?

Don't forget your friend's birthday, send a blessing in time, the gift doesn't need to be too expensive, even if it's a blessing text message, then your friend will think that you are attentive, and this is probably what it means.

Time flies, ten years have passed in a blink of an eye, they have all started a family, you have your circle of friends, I have my circle of friends, occasionally contact, but I don't know what to say, the best relationship has become to see through or not to say it....

There will be all kinds of conflicts between me and my good friends, sometimes we will quarrel and quarrel, but after a day it will be fine, as if nothing is it, what is the benefit of each other, the human heart is the most unbearable suspicion, as long as there is suspicion, the two will drift apart, so try to trust each other more and be less suspicious.

I once had a good friend. I played in junior high school for three years. She likes to be in charge of people.

If you want to do something, you need to use my resources. It doesn't matter if I agree or not. She speaks.

The more times I have passed, my resentment has accumulated. And she's very controlling. I'm a coward, but I have a lot of ideas.

I was admitted to a school in high school. During the summer vacation of her third year of junior high school, she told me that we were going to play together in high school and that we would be together until college. But then I had a different heart.

Because I don't want to be controlled. Because she always forced me to do things I didn't want to. When I got angry, she told me a big reason.

By high school I avoided her. We are not in the same class either. I really miss my sophomore year of high school.

The two walked together again. I found that I couldn't get back the feeling I had at the beginning. Separated for more than a year.

They made new friends with each other. But in my heart, she is unforgettable. I hated myself, too.

Why did you love your self-esteem so much at that time and avoid her. I lost her. Until now.

I've always had a place for her in my heart. She's like a thorn. I can't forget.

Later, although we missed, we were not together. Experience differently.

Time can change everything, especially when two friends and classmates who were once close and were not together for a long time. Although they are often in contact, there are fewer and fewer common topics, and they can't talk about it together, and in the end there are even fewer to none.

Thinking of my girlfriend in college, we used to be strange, from strange to familiar, acquaintance to love, together through the four years of college, the unpalatable canteen, the familiar playground, the study room to review together, the Internet café all night together, every inch of land has left our footsteps, once we, accustomed to each other's lives, feel that the life without each other is unimaginable, until later, due to time, region, family, work and other reasons, had to part ways, since then separated from each other, each began their own lives.

I think it's not just friendship that will fade, but also feelings, sadness, and even love. Because a lot of emotions need time to maintain and manage from person to person. When we downplay a relationship, maybe a relationship is slowly sublimating.

True friendship may be diluted, but it retains its original flavor and can be warmed up at any time.

I've been with my girlfriend for six or seven years, and our friendship is still very good, we are like sisters, and we can sometimes beat my husband, according to my experience, everyone has their own position, there is no absolute right, there is no absolute wrong, we have to understand each other more, try to think from each other's point of view, more understanding.

I think it may be time, and the more time passes, the more the worldview, values, and outlook on life change. Another reason is the distance, the distance is far, and the hearts are not so connected over time, you don't know his life, he doesn't know your life, he has no topic, and even hasn't seen him for a long time, and he will feel embarrassed when he meets again.

When a friend encounters difficulties, we should lend a helping hand in time and do our best to help the friend, even if you don't help in the end, at least you accompany him through the most difficult days, companionship is the best help, but also a powerful force.

I have a classmate who was like this, we were close at school, we spent our living expenses together, secretly bought cigarettes together, cared for each other in study and life, and encouraged each other, basically inseparable. Now the two of us, he is in Zhejiang and I am in Chengdu, engaged in different jobs. We all have new circles of life and work for each other, but we can't blend in with each other.

It is life that has changed our appearance, no one can go back to the past, and those memories of youth are gradually becoming precious memories.

There are many reasons why friendships between people can lead to drifting apart, mainly including:

1.Changes in living circumstances. Classmates or colleagues become long-distance friends, the opportunity to meet is greatly reduced, and it is difficult to maintain the original intimate relationship, which is the result of objective reasons.

2.Differences in values or interests. People's values and interests will change with the growth of experience, and if there is a big difference between the two people in this regard, it is easy to lead to emotional estrangement.

3.Changes in their respective social circles. At different stages of life, I will choose different circles of friends. If the new circle of friends is more suitable for you, you will also unconsciously alienate your past friends. This is the inevitable result of the dynamic development of interpersonal relationships.

4.Feelings deteriorate. Due to long-term separation or changes in the focus of their respective lives, the relationship will change from the initial depth to just staying at the level of acquaintances, and thus gradually drifting away. Feelings need to be maintained regularly, otherwise they will easily disappear.

5.The difference between active or transitive and passive. Sincere friendship needs to be maintained by the joint efforts of both sides.

If one of them becomes passive, the other party will be active but will also feel tired in the long run and give up. So drifting away is often a two-way process.

6.Misunderstanding or resentment. Sometimes due to the generation and accumulation of some misunderstandings or resentments, the relationship between the two becomes broken. If you don't communicate clearly in a timely manner, it can easily lead to the breakdown and rupture of the relationship.

Therefore, the changes in the relationship between people are complex, and there are many reasons for the gradual drift away. It is important to learn to cherish the people and things in front of you and give due investment in your feelings; At the same time, we must also learn to be relieved and accept the parting brought about by the changes in life, which requires a certain amount of life experience and realm. Learn to cherish the present more than to remember the past.

1.The stages of life are different.

Over time, we go through different stages of life, such as employment, marriage, childbirth, moving, and so on. These different stages of life can lead to changes in common topics and lifestyles between us and our friends, which can lead to drifting apart.

2.The outlook on life and values are different.

Everyone's outlook on life and values are different, and these beliefs may affect our attitudes and behaviors towards life. If our friends have different outlooks and values than we do, then we may be confused or disagree with their actions and attitudes, which can lead us to drift apart.

3.No common interests.

Interests between friends are an important way to connect and communicate, and if we don't have common interests with our friends, then we may find that we communicate less and less with each other, and eventually lead us to drift apart.

4.Lack of communication and exchange.

Whatever the reason for our drift away from our friends, the ultimate cause is a lack of communication and communication. If we don't communicate with our friends in a chaotic way, then we may find ourselves getting farther and farther apart, which will eventually lead to the breakdown of our friendship.

The main reason for this is a lack of communication.

First, lack of communication: Lack of effective communication can also lead to alienation and conflict between friends. When problems arise between friends, without proper communication, the problem may not be resolved, leading to the deterioration of the relationship.

The second point is the change in social circles: when people enter a new social circle, they may meet new people. This can reduce the connection between them and their old friends until they lose contact.

The third point is the change in lifestyle: after leaving school, people's lifestyle may change a lot. They may start working, moving, getting married, or having children.

These changes can lead to large changes in people's interests, needs, and timing, which can affect their interactions with friends.

Fourth, there is a difference in values: people's values may change as they grow older and more experienced. This can lead to different ideas and conflicts of interest between friends, which can lead to contradictions and disagreements.

So what should we do to make the relationship better and better without breaking up?

The first point, understand the cause: Understand the cause of a friend's estrangement is the first step to solving the problem. If the problem between friends is resolved, the previous relationship may be restored.

Second, change your mindset: change your way of thinking and realize that estrangement is a normal thing and doesn't have to be addressed. It may be necessary to accept this fact and try to find new friends.

Third, communication: Try to communicate effectively with your friends so that they can understand each other's thoughts and feelings. If a friendship's problem occurs in a place that cannot be resolved, both parties may need to accept this fact and look forward.

Fourth, mutual respect: respect each other's decisions and ideas. Even if the relationship is over, you should be respectful and avoid malicious words and actions.

In short, it is a very common social phenomenon to drift away from friends or even quarrel and break up after leaving school. Understanding and respecting each other's decisions and ideas is key to maintaining a healthy and independent friendship.