How to communicate effectively with the giant baby ?

To get along with people with a "giant baby mentality", then for example, are you willing to get along with a person who is arrogant and dictatory, always asking others to do this and that, and thinking of himself as the master of the world? The answer should be yes, no one wants to find such anger for themselves, so it's better to hide if you can!

Most of the people with giant baby psychology are quite self-righteous, always feel that others should listen to him, put him first no matter what they do, and can't listen to others' bad comments about him, criticize him, and think that the people around him should take care of him and hold him.

Babies are born into this world, they can enjoy the care of their families, so babies will have a psychology at this stage, that is, they think that as long as their hearts move, they can let the people around them listen to their own calls and act according to their own will. For example, if there is only one cry, people will provide them according to their needs.

So, babies will think that all this unconditional giving is due to their superpowers, "Look, they all listen to me!" "I can do anything! ”

That is, he thinks that he is omnipotent, that he is a character similar to God, that the whole world is his appendage, and that he cannot respect others, because in the early days, he was not well loved and guided, which led to the fact that his psychology has been stuck in this stage of omnipotent narcissism.

This kind of person always treats himself as a child, immature, not growing up, growing up in the "incubator" of the family, perhaps because his parents doted on him too much, or he did not suffer too many setbacks, and the road to growth was smooth, thus forming this "terrible" giant baby psychology.

Relying heavily on the imaginary world, escaping from the real world, for example, escaping difficulties, problems, and escaping the reasonable criticism of others. The reason is simple, he must maintain that his imaginary world cannot collapse, otherwise, he may fall into depression, and such a setback will make him lose his sense of omnipotence.

In psychology, this omnipotent narcissism of infants is divided into "narcissism of the will" and "perfect narcissism". Narcissism means that my will must be implemented and cannot be stopped, especially by my loved ones.

Perfect narcissism is the feeling that you are perfect, either explicitly or implicitly. Among them, explicit narcissism is usually about the image of the individual; Vague narcissism is narcissism about morality and ability.

Narcissism is powerful for interpersonal relationships, especially intimate relationships, because people with narcissism usually have strong control and explosive emotions, and if they encounter a situation of disobedience to their own wishes, they will appear in the form of aggression, or externally attacking others, or internally attacking themselves.

Regarding the parents of a giant baby, whether to stay away from them or accompany them, children cannot choose their parents, and parents cannot choose their children. Regardless of whether their children are excellent or uncompetitive, most parents will do everything possible to raise their children. It is often seen that some children have serious diseases, and those parents have to go to treat the children even if they are bankrupt.

Parents can treat children selflessly, children should also treat their parents selflessly, whether parents are sick or have various shortcomings, children should not abandon them, should accompany their parents to do their filial piety!

My parents were both giant babies, so they divorced early. Then I feel like I'm teaching students every day like a teacher. My father is the kind of big baby who cooks zongzi and throws the dumplings down before the water is boiled, and my mother is better, stewed pork ribs into a dry pot, and adds some to the rice cooker if she forgets to put salt in the stir-fry.

It may be that I have eaten the dividends of reform and opening up, and I don't have to worry about living an easy life, so I have been raising me, and I have not said that I want to support them, and I always hope that I will sing all the way to the doctor, get ahead, and earn face for them, but I can't help at all except pay.

If you want to completely get rid of such a relationship, based on China's legal status and social reality, going abroad is the best choice, because giving up Chinese nationality and separating from Chinese society can completely sever the parent-child relationship. If you feel that you have the ability to change your mother, then I can only wish you all the best, this is a road that seems to be great and righteous, only those who walk it know how painful it is, and it may even become a pit that buries you together.

As parents get older, they become more and more like children, and they want you to help them with everything, and it is understandable that their ideas cannot keep up with them because of the constant changes of this era, and there is some panic and anxiety. We should help them think about the front in every detail.

I really feel tired every time I go home, and my home doesn't look like a normal family at all. I'm kind of competitive. They didn't invest in my education in the slightest, and it was all by luck that they picked up a more motivated, good-tempered offspring like me.

He has a bachelor's degree in Beijing Foreign University, a master's degree in the National People's Congress, and is now working in a large financial company, which is also quite good in our third-tier small county. But I also clearly feel that my family of origin has really caused many flaws in my personality. I've been struggling with my bad self, and I'm really tired of living.

Parents are the God who gives us life and water our growth, although sometimes there is a generation gap, but only parents will give to you without reservation, and even exchange their lives for your life! We must respect, know the reason for the misunderstanding between parents and you, and you will know that in fact, they are also children who do not grow up, and they need our care, understanding, and encouragement!

Under the influence of a giant baby father and a teenage mother, I felt that my values were really very distorted. I never believed in father's love for mothers, and I vowed that I would never have children in this life, because I was also afraid that I would become an unqualified mother. It's also cautious when it comes to falling in love, whether you love or not puts it in the second place, and the first thing is always observing, for fear that your boyfriend will show a little sign of a giant baby.

My mother was the same. However, the difference is that my father is very tolerant of her and has not been divorced for more than 20 years. But I'm still unhappy.

On the surface and under the flat is the surge of undercurrents. What I want to say is that this kind of person can't be changed, just give her living expenses. I hope to find my way out of the country as soon as possible so that I can get away from it.

I think that's the case with my mother, even though she's in her 50s this year, but sometimes she's really naïve, she gets angry easily, she gets angry easily, and I really wish she could change herself one day.