If a child is beaten by a child of the same age, should parents educate the child to fight back?

I think this is of course not advisable in a civilized legal society, children are beaten by their peers, I know that parents will be very distressed, but if parents educate their children to fight back, this may be able to solve the problem for a while, but this is likely to bring a lot of trouble in the future, and the impact on children may be a lifetime.

First, if parents don't ask whether the two sides are right or wrong, even if it is their children's fault, they should educate their children to fight back, which will bring a message to the child, as long as others have conflicts with me, then I will start to fight, and train the child to be a person who will only use violence to solve it, and the child may never recognize his mistakes, never know how to write the word apology, and how to get along with others when he grows up in the future. I don't think every parent wants their children to become a barbarian isolated by others, and they all want their children to grow up healthy and happy.

On the contrary, if parents learn that their children have been beaten, first ask the reason for the incident, whose fault it is, even if someone else's child moves first, then the child should also be taught to have a tolerant heart, lenient to others in exchange for friendliness, beating, violence is relatively not able to solve the problem, will only make the problem more and more complicated, children have been taught by their parents since childhood, tolerant, which is very conducive to the healthy development of children's physical and mental health.

Second, parents have a great influence on their children, they are the first teachers of their children, and they do not learn the first lesson of the school year, so it will be very difficult for them to change their children in the future. Children are innocent since childhood, what kind of character and what kind of people parents are, it may directly affect children, parents like to scold, and the children will have a few words of scolding, which everyone understands.

No, hatred will only breed hatred, and children must not be filled with violence in their hearts, and children must be taught to face all the ups and downs and tribulations in the world with love......”

Oh......Most people must be like that, I agree, but I would never do that.

Parents can't educate their children to fight back, and countering violence with violence is not the way for civilized people to solve problems, but I must not let cowardice and concession take root in the hearts of children.

Clause. 1. Investigate what happened, a slap does not make a sound, the fight must be a mistake for both children, find out the cause of the matter, deal with it properly, criticize and criticize the child, and the education and education should not be ignored, or blindly protected.

Clause. Second, as a parent, you should take the initiative to communicate with the parents of the other child's children and discuss solutions to ensure that similar incidents will not happen again.

In front of the child, appropriately demonstrate to the other parent, let the child know that the parents will protect him, and the parents can be tough and the child can be tough.

Clause. 3. Tell your child that if you want not to be bullied by others, you must first become stronger, only children who study hard, have a strong body, and have a smart mind will be liked by the teacher in order to be respected by their classmates, and urge him to insist on exercising every day, insist on reading, and tell the bully with actions that you will never be bullied for the second time.

I've been naughty since I was a child, but I never cause trouble at home, my dad taught me to learn to respect others, be polite to others, if the other party deliberately bullies you, then beat him if you can't bear it, because he dares to bully you for a while, he dares to bully you for a lifetime, don't cry and cry when you lose a fight outside, don't be afraid of the other party's retaliation if you win, if you win, your dad will support you, but you are absolutely not allowed to fight casually, you are not allowed to find trouble, you are not allowed to bully others, there is a difference between toughness and hooliganism.

I think my father is very right, he didn't protect me too much, and he didn't encourage me to retaliate, his purpose is to teach me to solve problems by myself, weigh the pros and cons, and educate children on the issue of not blindly conniving, let alone being too strict, to teach children how to solve problems, it is better to teach people to fish than to teach people to fish.

Of course it should be called back! And as a parent, you must be a good "leading big brother" for your child! This is not to be ashamed, let me tell you about my own experience.

Once, I took my child to play in the community, and I brought his favorite toy gun. As soon as he went downstairs, he was stopped by a tall boy, who was quick to snatch the toy gun from Tong Tong's hand. Seeing that his toys were about to be snatched away, Tong Tong was so anxious that tears rolled around, I originally thought that the grandmother standing on the side would teach him a lesson, but I didn't expect this old lady to be even more unpopular, just said happily:

It's normal for children to fight, and my grandson likes it, so he plays with him

Originally, it was really a trivial thing, but seeing that this old and young are so bearish, how can it conform to the values of eight honors and eight shames in today's society without education?

So after the old lady finished speaking, I "swished", snatched the toy, and said with a smile: "Children, do you like this toy very much?" It's a pity that this is my brother's, if you want it, just hurry up and ask your grandma to buy it for you, just buy it in the community supermarket, and now it's still in stock, it's too late to go!

When the boy heard this, he became arrogant, returned the toy, and began to attack his grandmother

I turned around to return the toy gun to Tong Tong, but my nose was sour because of the sight. Ah, really, I remember so long later! Tong Tong, who was less than 2 years old at the time, was so small and short, standing in the sunset, his little spine was straight, holding the toys that his mother had helped him fight, and his eyes flashed with pride, gratitude and pride.

There were seven more words in that light: "I am so worthy of love." ”

His mother is like a hero who rides colorful auspicious clouds to protect him.

If your child gets into a fight with another child, listen and understand why. When a child fights with someone else, first of all, don't rush to conclusions, parents can't abuse at this time, let alone do it. It is necessary to find out why the child is fighting and what causes it.

At this time, children are very scared and need the most care from their parents. The attitude of parents also seriously affects the child's psychology in the future, so nothing can leave a psychological trauma on the child.

<> analyze the cause and guide it correctly. Once you understand the reason for the problem, you need to guide your child's behavior. If someone else's child is bullying your own child, you should tell your child to stay away from this kind of person, first stop it with words, and then fight back inappropriately, so that others know that they are not the child who is being bullied.

If it is your own children who start trouble, discipline them. If it is the responsibility of other children, they cannot let the children obey and become a cotton sheep to be slaughtered. If the other party is strong, teach the child to stay away as much as possible, learn to protect himself, don't dance with ruthlessness, but can't avoid it, and there is no need to be bullied.

Again, try to let your child figure it out on their own. After the child fights, the parents tell the cause and effect of the incident, and give correct guidance, believing that the child will accept the teachings of the parents. But parents can't come forward to solve problems for their children, and parents face to face often say what they really think, and even start.

Children are our treasures, and the positive guidance of our parents is to give children the best positive education, not to teach children"Call me back"。If you don't blame your children, you should teach them to respect school discipline and to be united among classmates. Finally, teachers teach students to resolve conflicts and be united and fraternal.

Let children learn to take responsibility. Everyone is responsible for their own actions, and if they do something wrong, they must bear the consequences. Talents with responsibility may have a good foothold in society. As long as the parents guide well.

If the child is bullied, first stop the other party with words, don't play with this kind of child, and at the same time teach him how to protect himself.

Of course not. In the process of growing up, children are likely to be bullied, which is actually a relatively common thing. However, this is not to say that it is more common for us to take it seriously, on the contrary, the coping methods taught by parents to children may directly affect the development of children.

1.Children respond to violence with violence and develop bad character.

The child's return is undoubtedly Lu Sen's means of countering violence with violence, and such a method is not reasonable, but a counterattack in an unreasonable way. Regardless of the outcome, the child will not learn the right way to deal with the problem, and every day he thinks about how to defeat the other person. Unconsciously, you will develop bad character qualities, which will have an indelible impact on your future development.

2.Keeping yourself safe is the most important thing.

Parents must tell their children that you can do everything you can to protect yourself in the face of violence, you can say "no" loudly, you can ask teachers, police, parents for help, you can run away ......Whatever method you use, make sure you're safe first, and then address the root cause of the matter. How much harm is based on the child's feelings, the real victim of school violence is the child, so parents should not judge the size of the matter from their own point of view, and do not choose to forgive or hold accountable for the child, you can give the child advice but also accept the child's decision.

3.Children who bully are more likely to "introspect."

Psychologist Dollard proposed the "frustration-aggression theory", arguing that aggression is always a consequence of frustration. Among them, there is a point of view: if the intensity of the frustration is constant, the greater the expected punishment, the less likely the violation will occur; If a certain punishment is expected, the greater the setback, the more likely the violation will be.

For a child, if he is only given a demerit and is simply punished by parents and teachers, then he is not afraid and will continue to choose to bully other classmates. However, if he is called to the police and receives a more severe punishment, which will seriously affect his future life, then he will think about the consequences before he violates others. Therefore, the police will make it easier for bullying children to self-reflect and recognize the reality of this society.

1. Teach children to face bullying correctly.

Children are the hearts and minds of parents, and if they are bullied outside, parents will feel very uncomfortable. In the face of being bullied, should children be taught to endure or resist? Parents may be more conflicted, first of all, they must not agree with their children being bullied and blindly tolerate, which will only help the abuse, and their children will form greater grievances.

In addition, if the child is bullied, you will fight back, and if others beat you, you will fight back, which is even more unreasonable, and it has created a wrong value for the child from an early age. How to correctly balance the two is what parents need to consider.

2. It is not recommended that children fight back easily.

Children fight back when they are bullied, which seems to be a very brave performance on the surface, but in fact, it is just a simple and rude approach. When a child is beaten by others, he immediately punches and fights back, and parents may think that this is a symbol of majesty, and other children will not dare to bully their own children again.

But this kind of behavior can not solve the problem from the root, rough response, children will only develop the habit of solving problems by force, and it is difficult to control emotions when encountering problems in the future, and the use of fists and violence has become commonplace, such children often grow up to be eccentric and irritable people. Huai Laoxiang.

3. Don't let your child blindly put up with it.

Some parents who are afraid of things, when they encounter their children being bullied, may persuade their children to tolerate the past in this way in the spirit of calming things down. But such an idea cannot be justified either. Blindly tolerating will only make children more bullied, and children themselves will not be able to form protection, they will become more timid and cowardly, for fear of being attacked by others.

This will have a great shadow on the child's psychology, and growing up in this bullied environment, the child's psychology will be distorted, and it may become a revenge psychology later, so parents must be vigilant about this.

What is the right thing for parents to do?

1. Teach children to protect themselves.

Parents should instill in their children the awareness of protecting themselves in this way, report to teachers and parents in a timely manner when they are bullied by others, do not be afraid, and bravely defend their own rights and interests. Only when you form a self-protection will you become strong, and others will no longer dare to bully you easily.

As a young child, he may not have a strong defensive ability, so he must seek help from adults from the outside world, and tell the children that when they encounter danger and bullying, they have the courage to take up the righteous ** to fight, not just fight back with their fists.

2. Educate a polite and high-quality child.

The key to the quality of the child depends on the education of the parents, usually parents should tell their children to be polite when they go out, not to bully others, to be friendly with others, not to be a bad child who bullies others, of course, when they are in danger, they must also learn to fight back moderately to protect themselves from injury, so that "people don't offend me, I don't offend people".

In short, when children encounter bullying, they must face it correctly and be brave enough to protect themselves.