Why do many young couples always drag their feet and don t want children?

Nowadays, more and more young couples do not want children, and people in the family are more and more anxious to have children, and they are always dragging their feet and unwilling to have children, why is this?

Actually, I think that if it were me, even if I wasn't too old, I wouldn't be willing to have a child so early. Not long after we got married, the two of us haven't had enough of the two-person world, so early to have children, and some of them have arrived, we must have become very busy. There is also the age of **, the husband and wife have not worked for a long time and have not even earned the milk powder money back and then have to have a child, then the money will come from **, and if there is a child, there must be ten months of pregnancy, and there will be a person to take care of the child at home, then the family's economy will become extremely difficult at this time.

I think most young couples are reluctant to have children so early, and most of the reasons are that they don't want children to become a bond between husband and wife so quickly.

The arrival of a child means that a family is truly inseparable. The existence of a child means that two families have to do a lot of things around this little thing. It will also be very hard for husband and wife, it is not easy to raise one, and it is even more difficult to raise a child.

I think that if we want to have children, if we are responsible for children, we should have a plan for the arrival of children. We should be prepared, and we should not let him come when we are not able to raise the child enough, because it is not good for the child and let him come down and suffer. Wait until you have the ability and psychological preparation in a short time, so wouldn't it be the best of both worlds to have a child at this time?

If you want children, don't be in a hurry. Take your time, there's always the right time and the right place.

Everyone has their own career, and they all hope that they can go on smoothly with their strength. To see the world at large, to be able to live as energetically as young people. And to be able to live very comfortably.

If you have a child, you can't travel together very freely, and if you have a child, you can't go out to eat together and go shopping for a long time. The appearance of a child means that two individuals have lost their freedom, and for some couples, it is a bolt from the blue.

The appearance of a child is not just as simple as an extra pair of chopsticks. It is the addition of a life that will reverse the fate of the two people. Maybe these two people will not be taking care of themselves in the future, but will have a new life around this new life.

I can't live a prodigal life anymore, and I need a stable family to help my children grow. The inclusion of a child can change the trajectory of one parent or another. It may be that for the sake of the child, the mother will give up the job, and the father will give up the business trip and transfer.

The advent of the child. Families will be affected. It can be said that after the birth of a child, more than half of the couple's life has passed, and the future life can almost be seen to the end.

Watching the child grow up, being responsible for his food, clothing, housing and transportation, watching him drift away. His mother will choose to take care of him when he is young, and will not drink tea with his friends; My father would work hard and choose to save money instead of drinking and drinking with friends. The mother will change from a girlish mentality to a mother-in-law, nagging non-stop, worrying about this and worrying about that.

The father began to be no longer cheerful, and began to run for the family, doing flattery that he was unwilling to do when he was young. Subtly, they have all changed each other's mentality.

The appearance of a child is a deliberate decision. A little later, it is the performance of a person in charge, and in the mature period, he can better understand how to educate an ignorant little life and better guide his life direction.

Because young couples are not ready to have children, they want to provide a better living environment for their children, so they always drag their feet without children until they have this ability.

I feel that in today's society, many people are material conditions, life is not bad, and then I want to be free for a few years, I don't want to take children, I feel like two people living in a two-person world, and then if there are children, girls' ** and other aspects will also get worse, and then they don't want children very much, think about it after a while, some people don't want to bring their own news, children always feel that they are not very good at taking care of it, and then they want to talk about it after a while.

Because I want to enjoy the world of two people more, and I feel that I am not capable of raising a child.

Because today's young people know how to be comfortable, because if they have children first, they will be more stressed and busy, so today's young people always drag on not wanting children, and they will want it when their careers are stable, so we can understand this.

It may be that they feel that their lives will be bound by children after they have children.

In recent years, more and more young couples do not want children, which is due to a variety of factors. Here are some possible reasons:

1. Economic pressure.

As prices** and house prices soar, so does the cost of living. Many young couples find it difficult to afford the cost of raising their children and providing them with better education and health under financial pressure.

2. Marital relationship.

Some couples may have problems such as unstable marital relationships and lack of affection, which will also affect whether they are willing to have children.

3. Career development.

Many young people want to get better development opportunities in the workplace and reduce the career pressure caused by childbirth. In addition, in some industries, children can be an obstacle to working hours and career advancement.

Fourth, lifestyle.

More and more young people are focusing on personal freedom and independence, and they are more inclined to pursue their own way of life rather than live according to society's expectations. For example, they may choose to have a career, travel or study instead of having children.

5. Educational level.

With the improvement of education level, more and more young people are aware of the importance of childbearing to individuals and families, and they no longer treat the issue of childbearing as blindly as before.

To a certain extent, children are not necessary for marriage, children are the crystallization of love between both parties, and it is also the best time to have children when both parties are ready to take on this responsibility.

In fact, when I think back to my own growth, the impulse of love for the opposite sex in adolescence, and the talk of marriage in adulthood, perhaps more parents do not have a clear concept when they first enter marriage, "I need a child" and "What does this child mean to me". It's just that since this is a program, Zen Han will complete the general execution of the mission of life.

It is more due to traditional concepts, as well as the pressure and gaze from parents or society, I feel that if two couples do not implement or plan to have a child, it will be very "different", just like the current lack of understanding and support for "Dink". Even if we face the "struggle" of "chickens and dogs" with children every day, we will still promote the concept of having children to the young people around us.

There is no need to numb oneself for reasons such as raising children to prevent old age. To this day, parents in the family are still running around for their children to help their children raise the next generation. Even if parents who are not involved in parenting tasks are taking care of themselves, if there is a real need to "prevent aging", maybe there are few things that children can do for their parents.

In order to participate in the growth of a life, a life starts from nothing, from small to large. Feel the wonder of a life, the surprise of two hearts beating in a body, the wonder of slight changes and fetal movements. Feel the tenacity of a life, and come to a world with complete trust.

In order to better understand yourself, to be a seed, a new life, and an understanding that comes to this world with trust. To better understand one's own state in the process of growth, to see and accompany the process of one's life growth, is to take care of and understand oneself in the process of growth.

In order to better understand life, it is with children that our lives are fully possible. It is with children that we can become parents and better understand our own demands, our own love and hatred.

If he can't even take care of himself, he doesn't want to defend his children to suffer with him. Therefore, being unable to afford it is also the main reason why many young people are reluctant to have children. Reason 2:

Ideologically, they are not prepared to be parents, and it is true that many young people's feelings and marriages are not stable enough, because their minds are not mature enough, and they do not have the confidence to raise and educate their children, so they choose not to have children for the time being. Reason 3: The post-90s generation is a sleepy early generation that is more self-conscious, and they don't want to be wronged.

The young people of the post-90s generation, they yearn for freedom, and a large part of them are exquisite egoists, unwilling to let marriage and children become shackles that bind them, nor are they willing to reduce their quality of life. Therefore, it is their idea not to marry or have children and live their own lives. However, now that society is becoming more and more inclusive, people are not willing to pay too much attention to other people's lives, let alone interfere, and everyone has the right to choose their own way of life.

The different times have created people with different pursuits, and in the era of the post-90s, their own ideas are the most important. So say post-95, 00. After unmarried and infertile will become mainstream.

These people fundamentally believe that this is the ultimate means of controlling each other, and once this means has no way to control each other, then the marriage is extremely dangerous. In fact, it is not easy for two people to get married, and they have to go through a relatively long stage.

First of all, from the acquaintance of two people to the gradual familiarity, and then to the gradual exploration, to the living habits of the other party and the financial situation of the other party's relatives and families, etc.

These are all things that need to be understood before getting married, so that two people can get married, and there will definitely be a huge risk in that kind of flash marriage, but after two people get married, that is to say, many things are realized.

When he gets married in real life, you will find that firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea surround you, making you feel that there is not only feelings in life, but a piece of chicken feathers in the life you face.

You need to face what to eat every day, what to drink every day, wash the floor every day, wash clothes every day, who to dry clothes every day, etc., so many imitation things need to be faced by you, it turns out that there are people to do these at home.

Now it's time for the two of you to bear it, and it's a very bad feeling, so the two of you have a feeling of controlling each other. But in fact, after two people get married, they should quickly enter the state of life, and after a while, two people will have children, we all want to live a better life, in fact, if you want to get married again after divorce, the banquet of remarriage is not necessarily good, so it is better to live a good life.

Because many young people are under great pressure nowadays, they have to pay off their mortgages, car loans, and some trivial things at work and have no time to take care of having children.