What if you can t see your own advantages and don t dare to fall in love?

You are obviously not confident in yourself, it is a special lack of confidence, which may have something to do with the surrounding environment in which you live, the most likely is your family, your parents may treat you in a harsh way, they will scold or even beat you if you don't do well, and many times even if you do a good job, they will not praise you, let alone reward you, and still face you coldly. These have buried shadows in your heart since childhood, you feel that you are not good enough, so your parents don't like you, and after a long time, you think that you really have no merits, and you can't get out on your own.

This is a problem in the psyche, if this is the case, you can go to see a psychologist, they will help you and give you sound advice. At the same time, you have to give yourself confidence, you can get from your classmates or friends around you to know what kind of person you are, you can directly and seriously ask them if they have any advantages, or what are their advantages, and you can't see your own advantages, then learn from others.

A person can face up to his own shortcomings, how can he not find his own advantages, you refuse to face yourself in your heart, or you are afraid of prying on yourself, you are afraid that you will find that you are really useless, in the final analysis, you are not confident in yourself. Since you can't see any advantages of your previous self, you can create your own advantages from now on, even if you study hard from now on, isn't it also an advantage to be a top student. In the future, if you graduate from a prestigious university, how can this not become your advantage, a high degree is your advantage.

When life comes into the world, there is always a special meaning for his existence. If you find that you don't have anything, start creating.

Sister or brother, please allow me to call you that, not seeing your own advantages is a big problem in life, not only related to falling in love, but also related to your future work and life.

As far as this question is concerned, when you have such doubts, I can have the following guesses:

1.Your love partner is excellent, and you don't feel worthy of him.

In fact, this is human nature, and people often say that natural feelings are the most enviable, which is indeed true, because both sides are equal, and no one has a higher status than the other. However, such feelings are a minority after all, and most of the love is that one party moves his mind and thinks first, and then he and I will be happy.

2.Feel that you are flawed, imperfect, and that no one will like you.

In fact, there are no perfect people in the world, beauty and ugliness, wealth and poverty are relative. You say that you have no advantage, but have you thought about it, when you wear cotton shoes in winter and look at other people's cotton shoes are more beautiful, some people are shivering with cold in single shoes, some people are poor and can't afford to buy shoes, and some people don't even have the feet to wear shoes. Telling you this is not to make you miserable with others, but to say that your flaws, your ordinariness, do not mean that you are useless, and some people want but can't get it.

3.Think of falling in love as an exchange of interests.

Maybe you think of falling in love as looking for a job, wanting to match values and exchange interests. Yes, if lovers want to be long-lasting, they must break even. But isn't it embarrassing that he likes to eat your little apple that God has bitten into, but you think that he prefers juicy pears and can't see the crispness of the little apple at all?

Here are some tips for you to ask people around you to see what they think of you, and maybe you can find an advantage in the eyes of others. Even if all aspects are mediocre, but we have many dimensions, we can cross borders, you can achieve 100 points in one dimension is also one-dimensional, and I only have 80 points in each two-dimension, which is bigger than you.

If it's you, I have someone I like, whether I have strengths or not, I will chase them, and sometimes my strengths will be discovered by others!