Is it worth it to unilaterally play the role of listening and understanding in a friendship?

Since it's your friend, it's worth it! In fact, communication must have an object to communicate with. That is, communication is two-fold.

You can't communicate with yourself. Therefore, there are questions and answers in the communication between people, which is the real communication. This requires us to not only be able to ask questions in the process of communicating with others, but also to be able to answer only good and good answers, which is an effective communication.

Your friend is always willing to share her story with you, and you are also a very good friend, in fact, sometimes there is a friend who really listens more with each other. But this is mutual, if it is just you unilaterally playing the role of a friend who listens and explains, then after a long time, you will feel that the friend cares about you not only your relationship, but treats you as a complaining trash can, so your relationship becomes your so-called friend relationship.

But you learn to listen to other people's bad! You can discover another side of yourself, and you can also exercise the other side of you that others don't. Since you were once a friend, there is nothing worth talking about, and it is also a part of your life!

When people are in this world, they inevitably survive in a variety of relationship systems, and the most typical of them is family, friendship and love. However, friendship is one of the main forces, and it often confuses us. Because our friends are not necessarily our favorite type of friends, and getting along with different friends determines what kind of friendship relationship you are in, and you will find that your role positioning is diverse.

Is it worth it for you to unilaterally play the role of listening and understanding in a relationship? Let's look at this from a different angle. First of all, let's talk about the question of whether it is worth it or not, a friendship, no matter how much you give in it or whether you get what you want, it is an experience, and your friend will also be a scenery in your world, that is, whether it is worth it in a sense or not, it is an experience.

Next, let's talk about the issue of one-sided listening and understanding, and the role of the two of you in friendship depends mostly on the way the two of you are formed. That is to say, you play the role of listening in this friendship, mostly because your friend personality is easier to talk to than you, and he also thinks that you are more mature than him, he depends on you, and expects you to help him solve his problems. It also has to do with the way you usually get along with each other, and you can notice if he is the same as other friends.

If so, you don't have to worry too much. If he only confides in you, then your relationship can withstand you discussing with him about how you get along, and you can clearly express that you don't like it and don't want to accept his negative energy. In short, it is necessary to solve all kinds of problems, and if your friendship collapses because of this, it will only prove that it is too fragile, and it is not worth the question of whether it is worth it or not.

I don't have many friends, but they all have different personalities, some quiet and some open, if she doesn't like to talk, I'll say more. If she's always like a little bird, chirping and talking, I don't mind being a listener.

When I was in high school, I met Huang and Lin, and later the three of us became very good friends, and we were inseparable from each other, although we are now in college in different cities, we still maintain a certain frequency of calls. The personalities of Huang and Lin are very lively, but compared to Lin, Huang's words are relatively much less, every time I play **, I am basically talking, talking about my own college life, such as when I went to the cafeteria to eat a few days ago, I met a boy who was particularly like Deng Lun, and for example, I was scolded by the teacher when I slept in class a few days ago. She patiently listened to me talk about these extremely trivial things at the end of the **, and from time to time she laughed in agreement.

When I talked to classmate Lin, she was basically talking, I think this woman is amazing, because no matter what kind of things she encounters, she is always happy, and she is still depressed in the last second, and she is full of fighting spirit and vitality in this second. It was her turn to tell me about her life, she was depressed and told me that she had a very unpleasant quarrel with her roommate because of some conflicts, and she was emotionally high and told me that she went to the movies with the boy she liked a few days ago, and I sometimes laughed and sometimes enlightened her on this end of the **.

We will meet many people and meet friends who share our interests, but each friend has a different personality, and the role played when getting along with people with different personalities will also be different, so sometimes we will be a listener, and sometimes we will be a twitter storyteller.

For example, when your good friend has something to ask you, what he wants to hear is, of course, what you have to say, listen to your analysis, and you should be a storyteller at this moment. If your friend is in trouble or unhappy and wants to talk to you, then you need to be a listener.

Friendship does play a lot of roles in our lives, sometimes she is a listener, sometimes a teller, because they are interchangeable between the two, when they have difficulties they will talk to us, when we have difficulties to find him, we will talk to him, in fact, friends are the street lights in our lives, illuminating our way forward.

I think we should play the role of a listener more in friendship. Because personally, if the other party is a listener and a storyteller, I prefer to choose that listener. When we encounter something, we can talk to him, and we can share happy things with him, which is very enjoyable for us.

But if the other party is a complainant, I get bored, probably because of my own personality.

In friendship, the listener and the talk should look at when, if your good friend encounters something and wants to talk to you, then you are the listener, you will comfort the speaker, if you are talking to your good friend, I believe your good friend will also listen to you with peace of mind and then tell you some truth.

I think it should be a listener, the most important thing in friendship is to have a person who can listen to your inner voice, when friends are in difficulty or psychological pressure and want to complain, I will be a listener at this time, because what is most needed at this time is to listen to others and vent with them, I think every friendship needs such a person.

In friendship, I feel that both parties should play the role of a confidant and a listener. First of all, everyone will talk about everything in front of their friends, and listening at this time is a role that makes the other person feel comfortable. The second is the kind of character who can stick a knife in both sides for his friends, as long as he treats you as a true friend, he will do his best to help you no matter what.

Let's put it this way, both the listener and the teller should be the role we play in friendship. Because in the process of getting along, always being a confidant or always being a narrator will have a feeling of boredom, and it will make the other party feel the same. You have to rotate the two from time to time so that everyone gets along.

Love is a kind of vast and grandiose, can be safely inhabited at any time on the embankment of understanding, now in retrospect, when I was a child in junior high and high school, it was a warm person, so I like to play with my classmates, at that time, my playmates felt so comfortable, happy and simple, quarrels are those little things, who are you better with, and I am farther away from me, anyway, it's all small things, but very happy, because it's not complicated, but later, slowly graduated from high school, and after entering college, the change of friends is that they have some of their own small thinking, and they have their own new friends. A little circle, After graduation, there was a dazed period at the beginning, but slowly entered the society or something, everyone has their own work, experienced and some things have changed, and become a little personality change, but at this time, even if life is not easy, but there are still many friends who are really willing to stretch out a small hand for you when you are difficult, cry with you, cook porridge with you, play with you, do what you like, and unravel the fog for you, so I think friends are really different roles at different times.

The song "One Like Summer and One Like Autumn", written by Yao Ruolong, composed by Chen Xiaoxia, and sung by Fan Weiqi, was included in Fan Weiqi's ** "Our Anniversary" released in 2006. Full Lyrics:

Oh oh oh oh

yeah~~，yeah~~

The first time we met, I didn't like you, who knew that the relationship was so close later, one of us was like summer and one was like autumn, but we can always turn winter into spring, you dragged me away from a snowstorm of love, I carried you to escape from a dream break, met a person, and then changed all my life, it turned out that it was not a plot that only had in love, if it wasn't for you, I wouldn't believe it.

Friends are more dead than lovers, even if I'm busy in love.

Freeze you and you won't hate me.

Just scold me a few words, if not you.

I'm not sure, friends listen better than lovers.

My voices are beyond the strings, and my mouth is not hearted.

I can't do without darling, and I can't do without you, you drag me away from a snowstorm of love, I carry you to escape from a dream break, meet a person, and then life is completely changed, it turns out that it is not a plot that is only in love, if it is not you.

I wouldn't believe that a friend is more dead than a lover.

Even if I'm busy in love, I'll freeze you.

You won't hate me either, just scold me.

If it weren't for you, I wouldn't be sure.

Friends know how to listen better than lovers, and I have no voice.

I can't do without darling, I can't do without you, you know all my proud things, so I often pour cold water on me, afraid that I will get carried away, you know all my humiliating things, but keep my beautiful image secret, if it weren't for you, I wouldn't believe it.

Friends are more dead than lovers, even if I'm busy in love.

Freeze you and you won't hate me.

Just scold me a few words, if not you.

I'm not sure, friends listen better than lovers.

My voices are beyond the strings, and my mouth is not hearted.

I can't do without Darling, and I can't live without you, oh oh oh yes yes

The song is called "One Like Summer and One Like Autumn".

One Like Summer and One Like Autumn" is a friendship song sung by Taiwanese pop ** female singer Fan Weiqi, written by Yao Ruolong, composed by Chen Xiaoxia, and included in Fan Weiqi's ** "Our Anniversary" released in 2006.

The lyrics of this song express the friendship between two girls, and friendship is sometimes more important than love. The song was co-written by Yao Ruolong and Chen Xiaoxia, and when Fan Weiqi first heard the song, she had goosebumps all over her body. Because the lyrics of this song are based on the friendship between Fan Weiqi and Xu Xidi.

In the song, "You dragged me away from a snowstorm of love, and I carried you to escape from a dream break" is based on the story of Xiao S's last relationship, who lived in Fan Weiqi's house for a period of time and was accompanied by Fan Weiqi through her emotional sorrow.

In addition, other lyrics also come from the bits and pieces between the two, such as when Mike proposed to Xidi, Fan Weiqi and Xu Xiyuan also took a camera to film the process. Another time Da (Xiao S's dog) fell into the river, Fan Weiqi and Xu Xidi climbed into the river full of feces and dead fish in the cold current, and after saving Da Da, the two of them hugged their heads and cried for a long time.

One is like summer and the other is like autumn.

Singer: Fan Weiqi **: "Our Anniversary".

Words: Yao Ruolong.

Music: Chen Xiaoxia.

The first time we met, it didn't look good for you, who knew that the relationship was so close later, one of us was like summer, the other was like autumn, but we can always turn winter into spring, you dragged me away, a snowstorm of love, I carried you out, I escaped from a dream break, met a person, and then my life changed It turned out that it was not a plot that only happened to love, if it wasn't for you, I wouldn't believe it, a friend is more dead than a lover, even if I'm busy in love, freeze you, you won't hate me Just scold me a few words, if it weren't for you, I wouldn't be sure Friends know how to listen to me better than lovers I can't do without darling, I can't do without you, you know all my proud things, so you often pour cold water on me, afraid that I will get carried away, you know all my humiliating things, but keep my beautiful image secret.

It's Fan Weiqi's, one is like summer and the other is like autumn.

One is like summer and the other is like autumn.

It's sad.

Tears".

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