I don t want to have family, I m not normal

It's really abnormal, and I'm just like you. But if you can't stand the people who are best for you, and you don't think they can meet your ideal appearance and your needs, then you must not be content, and you have high expectations and dependence on all the people close to you. If you still think that you have a good relationship with your friends, wake up, it is just your own imaginary consolation, and sooner or later your friends will let you down and make you unable to find yourself.

Therefore, we should be generous and broad-minded. Read more books, increase your own connotation, and improve yourself more. This way we will be more independent and less dependent on others.

No, because family is a kind of responsibility, when you were confused before, when you are learning and growing, your ability is not strong enough, but you have recognized the responsibility, but you don't have enough ability to take on family responsibilities, you will have a sense of escape! Don't be afraid or panic, the responsibility for the family is the responsibility and obligation you must bear, grow up to support your parents, raise your own children, enrich yourself when you are young, and strive to pursue and complete your goals and ideals. Parents also love and raise their children selflessly and unreservedly!

If you think so, you should have a more warm family! I understand the kindness of your parents to you, and you want to repay it, but you have more than enough energy to do it! Don't worry, you'll grow stronger, it's a process!

But never ignore and give up this responsibility, otherwise life will be meaningless!

In fact, many people have this kind of thinking now. Because of the pressure of life and the pressure of the surrounding society, it is very normal for us to have this kind of psychological state. But if you can adjust it a little better.

If there is someone who can happily go with you for the rest of your life. Actually, I suggest that it is still worth having.

If it's temporary, it's normal to not want anyone, and if it's long-term or has become a nuisance, it's not normal.

This is not called a psychological problem, this is a kind of choice and tendency to deal with people and things in my own outlook on life. But what you have to face is whether you have the habit of this aspect of yourself, so that you can practice a "say what you should say, what you shouldn't say, and I won't say what you ask." ”

In fact, there is another aspect of my personality that is exactly the same as yours. My reason is that my parents are both members of the public security department, but my father just hides everything and doesn't tell us when he goes out (including my grandparents, my mother, who is the closest person to my father, his parents and his wife) From when I was a child, what happened to them in the workplace, how they dealt with it, what they thought in their hearts, they never mentioned anything in front of me. One day I would suddenly show up while they were talking, and they would immediately keep silent.

So, I gradually learned this habit, this habit, if you grasp it well, it is a good habit, and if you don't grasp it well, it is a serious bad habit, and the advantage is that you can communicate with your family members and understand each other. The disadvantage is that each other is not a worm in each other's stomachs, how can you know what the other party wants to do, which will create countless misunderstandings, this, in the career (with the leader and colleagues), in the family (with relatives, and the most serious is with the other half and the next generation, because our parents accompany us when we are young, and the other half is from the time when we are married and pregnant to accompany the second half of our lives. If the two sides exist without understanding at all, then in exchange for endless misunderstandings and quarrels, this scale, how to handle it, this is a major philosophy of life.

Learn to put yourself in their shoes. If you are a child and you want to go out to play, and your parents keep asking out of concern about where you are going, and you don't say, okay, when your parents are 70 years old, we have grown up, and they have entered old age, and some even have dementia, so they want to go out, no matter how you ask them, they don't say they want to go**, you ask, you say "I don't want to tell you" or even "why do you ask so much?" Aren't these two moods exactly the same?

If you want to go out and the other half wants to care about when you go to ** and when you will go home, the starting point of his question is actually just to know that you are going to ** and know when you will come back, which means (if you go home after 3 hours) 3 hours later, when you come back, she will not be lonely.

If a friend asks you what you think about something, and you don't want to say it, and you don't express it clearly or even don't say it, gradually, the friend will feel that you don't think of him as a friend at all (of course, friends have to know how to be in a balanced way, and the bridge of friendship is sometimes fragile). If you take it properly and share some psychological words with her (of course, you also have to analyze the personality of your friend, what you can say and what you can't say), he will feel that your friendship is in your psychological weight, and he will also cherish everything about you.

We are afraid to make our own affairs public, nothing more than afraid of making a fool of ourselves.

Why do some people usually do good to others and do not provoke right and wrong, or suffer from the cynicism of others? Maybe the seeker is trying to tease out of boredom or fun, but this disturbs our personal time in a way, and we are fed up with this harassment, what we need to do is to get them a tough response, there was a bad boy who bullied you when you were a child, and you insisted that silence was golden, but what came was an increase in the insult.

If someone upsets you, you can just treat them. No one will make a person feel inferior, except yourself. To be an assertive person in life, of course, you must fight for malicious language provocations.

Studies have shown that people who are usually submissive will develop corresponding wrinkles on their faces. In this way, people's nature, when they see the faces of the weak, will be dismissive, let alone respectful.

Seems off-topic.

In fact, we let others see the positive side of our own strength, perseverance, hard work, etc., we can calmly face everything, whether it is ridicule or contempt, I will get better and better.

Never underestimate yourself!!

1. Be humble, don't be a needle to each other about everything, give each other more opportunities to talk, think more about each other, avoid unnecessary conflicts, and family affection is priceless.

2. A surprise creates a dramatic effect, and often many contradictions are lost in jokes.

3. Divide responsibilities, assume your own responsibilities and obligations, do more for the family, and think less for yourself.

4. Dualized communication, many conflicts are due to the lack of communication between family members, which exacerbates the conflicts.

5. Be open-minded, life is short, we should create a harmonious society and a harmonious family, think about everything, don't worry about everything, don't intrigue, don't be greedy, be open-minded, and be grateful to live a relaxed and happy life.

It's normal for society not to want children these days. If you don't want it, and you reluctantly have a child because of the pressure of people around you or your family, it is irresponsible to your child. You may still be young, so it's not too late to enjoy the world of two people first, and then it's not too late to stabilize in a few years.

As a person who has come over, I want to tell you: men grow from boys to men because they become fathers, and women rebuild a new self because they become mothers.

It's normal, and there could be many reasons. For example, I feel that children are very troublesome and annoying, and I also feel that giving birth is painful.

As for whether anyone said that if it is a relative, there must be a point of view, a woman should give birth as soon as she is young, otherwise she will not even have a child when she is old, and her husband will not want you.

No, many people don't want children now, but if there is a child in the future, there is a concern, an expectation, and can enjoy the joy of family, after all, blood and family are different......Moreover, most men in families want children, so children can also play a role in stabilizing the family......

I don't want children, at least not yet, because I'm very depressed right now. My thinking was, I'm like that, at least I can't let the people I live with live like I do. Everyone has their own thoughts, and there is nothing abnormal about them.

There's nothing abnormal, now the society is different, don't compare with the previous feudal society, people are not the same, but you just don't want to take children, you can also be born and let your mother-in-law take it, is your life like this? Or wait until your old hair turns gray, will you regret it by that time?

Think twice about everything.

Find someone at random and let him yell on the street: I'm a normal person!

If you look at the eyes of others, you can understand that if you look at developed countries, most people don't want children. As for us, yes, there is great power in numbers, but what era is it now, and we still have this sentence.

In the end, not only are you not an abnormal person, but you are also normal, and the whole world should be the same for everyone, and if you go against the public, you are heretical.

First of all, the baby is not painful, either with anesthetics or natural delivery, and secondly, there are no ugly women in the world, only lazy women, you simply don't give yourself the opportunity to dress up and show your charm, no.

Again, you certainly haven't met someone you love, and if you met you would be willing to give his students, a whole bunch of kids yo the happiest in the world, because of their grandchildren.

Oh, you are a Cinderella, do not give up waiting for your own prince Oh, because one day the happiness will fall from the sky on your door.

Well, yes, my mom doesn't want me to have children.

Everyone has such a confused period, just like I just cried today, but adults say that the eyes are swollen because of too much mobile phone play.

You may have a slight self-forcing disorder.

It's the same and my mother-in-law is not good I don't want to deal with those relatives There is a saying that is good My husband is good to you is a family My husband is not good to you You are an outsider So you don't care what other people think Life is still a matter of two people Two people have a good relationship and other people should not hear what they say It may not be a good thing.

Take your time! Remember not to lose your temper at his family

Your personality is a bit like mine, but I don't say anything, what others do, I will do what I want.

But because I did it with a cheerful boy (I'm a man), my character was on his probation and became cheerful. When I installed a lot of him with him because he was joking. Later I changed for the better.

I think you should be cheerful with the people around you.

In fact, I have had a similar experience, all kinds of cranky thoughts, and there is no shortage of people like us in the process of needing help.

Since we have this kind of problem, let's analyze it from our own perspective.

Obviously, my heart is not pure, and my personal memory is bound by a certain pattern of my own memory, and there is a collision. What we see and what we think is a collision. And then what we see is our memory, and the habit of crankiness is a formula.

Of course, the two can be called memories and routines to exchange roles between each other.

So we have to clean ourselves up, we are in this state that affects our normal emotions and work life, and we have a lack of concentration. What we need is inspiration.

When we have problems, we can see that we are not good about ourselves. You can say to yourself like this, "Oh? I have abused you, please forgive me, I'm sorry.

It's like speaking to your own soul. Just meditate in your heart. Be decisive and apologize to yourself.

Or you can also "Are you feeling good?" I've not been good enough for you in the past two days to make you anxious, I'm sorry."

Or "I'm sorry, please forgive, thank you, I love you" is a direct way to comfort yourself that you love your family and friends, but you also need to be loved. Treat your soul and divinity as a part of yourself. Remember to be nice to them as well.

I also have this thought, inexplicable, not intended, I don't know why, maybe it's because of insecurity, fear of loss, longing for the constant companionship of loved ones.

It's because I care too much and care too much that I think too much. Even if there will be some accidents in life, it doesn't mean that it happened because of your thoughts, who in this world doesn't have a little accident? So don't think too much about a crash, it will only add a shackle to your own family.

Just relax and don't think so much!

If you want to believe that it will be fine, recommend a movie "Three Fools in Bollywood", a comedy with the phrase "everything is fine", be brave.

Because I love my family too much, I am afraid of losing!

If you can talk and do things for the sake of others, you will make a difference!

I sometimes think this way, I care too much.

It is recommended to see a psychiatrist for counseling.

First of all, your mother is not obligated to raise you, and she is obligated to raise your children. There is no obligation to "help" you. If you help a little, even a little, just the things you said you counted on your fingers, then you need to be grateful.

Secondly, filial piety is not based on whether you take care of your children or not, but on whether you were raised when you were young. That's her responsibility. Thirdly, cooking, if you live with your parents, your parents are not obliged to cook for you.

You are an adult, not a child. You can do it too. Don't mind, you're an adult, but you're still asking your mom to pay for you unconditionally like a child.

And yet what did you do for her as an adult? Of course, when it comes to money, doing ** must be a good business, and she may not understand. Earn hundreds of thousands, is it for yourself or for your mother?

If it's the latter, then you have the right to ask for some help, and if it's for yourself, hehe. If you earned tens of thousands of dollars that you didn't give to your parents, but your parents spent them inexplicably, you were unwilling, you should be held accountable. But at the same time, you should give monthly alimony to your parents.