Tell us about some of your experiences of suffering losses and blessings?

Suffer"It is not only a realm, but also a kind of wisdom, a tolerant and open-minded attitude towards the world. A truly wise person will not care about trivial matters, nor will he care about the slightest gain or loss. What they value is the gain behind the loss, yes"Abandon it"Later"Get"They are the real wise men and the masters who can become great things.

Throughout the ages, such wise men and masters have abounded, and people have regarded them as role models for how to behave in the world, and their stories have become classics through the ages. "Suffering is a blessing", here"Suffer"That's it"Concessions", which is the surface of things"Suffer"The harvest behind it is"Concessions"The essence of the . Those who achieve great things will not be stingy businessmen; A businessman who has become a climate is definitely not a short-sighted person who must be compared.

Suffering is a blessing, and this sentence is also the most common nagging sentence I have heard from my mother since I was a child! There are probably many examples of this from childhood to adulthood! For example:

When I was young, I never competed with my friends for food or toys, and I always looked like a good friend! When I grow up, whether it is to friends or colleagues, I have the attitude of helping if I can. I never have too much consideration because of personal gains and losses.

This is especially true for family members, probably because they have always adhered to this sentence that their mother believes! Although I haven't realized much of a reward for this until now, at least my heart is full and peaceful. Nothing is proportional to the balance of conscience.

That's probably what it looks like!

I remember that I did suffer a lot in my last job, my job was a human resources position, which was of a civilian nature, and then the regional manager asked our personnel commissioners in all regions to be responsible for the health inspection of each campus at the same time, and the employees who failed the inspection were directly fined with a maximum of 50 yuan each time. The manager knows that the inspection of fines is the work of offending people, and assigns us work, threatening not to be afraid of fines, and not to be afraid of offending people, who will find him directly if he is not satisfied, but the employee is fined, and he will definitely hold a grudge against the person who fined him. This policy lasted for more than a month, and the effect was not significant, but caused a high turnover rate of employees.

Although this process offended many people, it was canceled due to the lack of humanity in this policy, but our work was not in vain, and the salary of the month was more than 1,000 yuan higher than the salary of the previous month. Therefore, it is a blessing to suffer occasionally, and not all blessings must be suffered first.

There is a new employee in the company, a little dirty, but very obedient, the other employees have piled up all the work for him to do, and the new employee does not mind....Silently help them all to complete, the supervisor saw that he was diligent, and asked him to help do a lot of things, but he didn't mind at all, but he was obligated to help the supervisor do things....Finally, one day, the leader wants to open a branch....The supervisor is going to the new company management....The supervisor actually promoted the new employee with the leader.

When I was young, a few classmates played in an Internet café, and I was so happy that I went to buy something to eat. When I bought it back, I found that no one was gone, the text message was not replied, and the ** was not answered, so I was very puzzled and ate a few people's things, and then picked up the equipment they hung up. When I went to school in the afternoon, I found a few people standing neatly outside the office.

I was instantly relieved, and when I was shopping for food, the old class went to the Internet café to check it out.

I remember one time, there was something in our department that other colleagues were reluctant to do, but I resolutely took on this task. On the surface, I was at a loss, but when I did this, the leaders saw it, and my colleagues saw it, and my image in their hearts naturally improved.

If it is a blessing, then it is not called a loss, but a change of name to eat blessing.

Suffering a loss is not necessarily a blessing, but it is possible that he said so with the old man.

In fact, it doesn't mean that he doesn't care, it's how big his heart is, how big his ability is, his heart is big, his ability is big, his heart is small, and his ability is small. It's not that he doesn't mind suffering, it's that he doesn't bother to mind about him. These things, whether others take advantage of his interests, or steal his limelight, or let him carry the black pot.

He didn't think it was important, because he had more important things to do, and he didn't take these little things to heart.

If you are thick-skinned enough, you will find that there are always strange people and things around him。I thought that forbearance was calm for a while, and I took a step back to open the sea and the sky, but you will find that it became forbearance for a while. Take a step back and take an inch, and you will find that most of the forbearance is exchanged for the other party's unscrupulousness.

Those who are willing to suffer losses will not be able to suffer losses after all, and if they suffer too many losses, there will always be a good reward, and those who love to take advantage will definitely not be able to take advantage. In real life, there are always some people who are afraid of losing money, as long as there is a little advantage, they will take advantage of it. Just imagine, if in a relationship, one party keeps paying, and the other party has to take advantage of every inch, can such a relationship last?

The answer is self-evident.

It is a kind of value thinking, it is a trade-off, I am suffering now for the long-term interests of the future, and I can suffer a small loss for this benefit, so he has a bottom line. My interests are here, if it doesn't involve the bottom line, it's easy to say anything, but if it touches the bottom line, it definitely won't work.

But some people, suffering too much, they have no bottom line, and they have even become a habit. This is called the good old man. Then someone will definitely bully you.

Those who take advantage of everything will suffer in the end, but those who suffer losses often take advantage in the end. When you are with him, you let people take advantage of it, everyone will not be wary of you, it is good, they must think of you, you are taking advantage. You were very good at the beginning, everyone was afraid of you, and then you were alone.

The closer they get, the more they leave you behind. Therefore, people must remember that they cannot be shrewd, and they must not be shrewd.

The real loss is a blessing, it is that you can accept this loss, and eliminate the old karma with the fate, and you can only fully accept this glimpse from the heart to bring wisdom, and the troubles are Bodhi. When the essence is presented, it is the light of conscience, the flowers of all laws, and the good life is bliss.

I think soThere is a saying that "if you can't bear it, you will make a big plan", sometimes you can get more precious things by suffering a small loss, and suffering losses also makes people grow.

One. If you can't bear it, you will make a big plan

Sometimes in the face of a big game of chess, it doesn't matter if you lose one step or two steps, as long as the final result is to win, simply put, it is to focus on the overall situation, make a comprehensive decision, and win the final victory。For example, if the leader gives you a big project, you and your team work day and night for the project, but you still encounter difficulties, and when you are thinking about how to solve it, your competitors come to ridicule your ability to do so, I am afraid that you can't get such a big project, and you don't know what you have done behind the scenes to get this project, what should you do at this time? Furious and at war with each other for your so-called dignity?

Or do you ignore it and continue to focus on solving the problem? My choice is the latter,If you jump up and start a war with the other party, it will not only make people think that you are irritable, but also give the other party a grip, which is very detrimental to the whole big project. To know,Your ultimate goal is to get the project done well, instead of recovering your so-called dignity from the other party's mouth, others are scheming to slander you, you should not use your mouth to speak, but to use your strength to block their mouths.

Two. Eat a trench, grow a wisdom

Suffering losses is a must in life, sometimes suffering losses are caused by their own negligence or being young and ignorant, at this time there is no need to feel sorry for ourselves, because after suffering hardships, we will have unforgettable memories, and we will not make the same mistakes again in the future. The losses suffered by our own negligence let us learn to be careful, learn to think comprehensively and prudently; The disadvantages of being young and ignorant make us mature and grow mentally, and understand what a mature person needs. For example, because of their own negligence, the hard work of the whole team was in vain, at this time, in addition to self-blame, accept the negative energy of the team members, but also deeply learn a lesson, and will not do it again in the future.

When I was young, I confronted my elders, ran away from home, encountered difficulties on the way to work, and finally ran home in disgrace, in addition to feeling sorry for myself, I also branded my heart, and I grew up in the future, and I would not do the same stupid thing again.

Three. Summary

There is a certain truth in the sentence "Suffering a loss is a blessing", eating a small loss to get a big blessing, eating a trench to grow a wisdom,It is the losses that make us grow and mature, and become a cautious and thoughtful person.

<>We often hear others say that suffering is a blessing, and I never think that this sentence is circulated for the purpose of deceiving people, on the contrary, I very much agree with the saying that suffering a loss is a blessing. Suffering losses is not only a life strategy, but also a kind of life wisdom.

Suffering is the true meaning of blessing

We can always learn more from the losses we have suffered, so as to achieve the effect of prevention. As the old saying goes, "if you eat a trench, you will grow a wisdom", which reflects that we are not without benefits, or that suffering losses are not all bad, on the contrary, if we make reasonable use of the "wisdom" we get in our lives, it will be of greater help to improve ourselves. Another example is "failure is the mother of success", failure is not a kind of "loss", after we have paid time, energy or money but do not get the expected return, but the tribulation brings us not only the tribulation itself, which contains the truth of success, and we have made sufficient preparations in advance for better in the future.

Success is not achieved overnight, life is not smooth sailing, people are floating in the rivers and lakes, where can not be knifed, where can not suffer, but more importantly, what we see and feel from it is really precious, is the loss of the precious wealth.

Suffering losses is not blind

We can't blindly suffer losses, we should shoot when we should shoot, it doesn't matter if we suffer losses, but if the other party has to make an inch or let us suffer a loss in vain, this cannot be said to be a loss, the nature of things has changed, broad-mindedness can not be regarded as the other party's presumptuous capital, this kind of blessing can not stand it, then we have to start to fight back, after all, for this kind of "loss" The final result is not in silence The method is to perish in silence, why do we definitely have to break out. It is necessary to know how to reasonably distinguish between the kind of loss and the kind of "loss" that is completely unreasonable, and stop this kind of meaningless loss in a timely manner, which cannot be called a loss.

Refuse to suffer blindly.

In life, we will encounter all kinds of problems, we might as well suffer losses, take a step back, maybe see the scenery is more beautiful, we get more, but also make our mood more beautiful, but if we encounter unreasonable losses, we must shoot when we should shoot, and we must not accept the unclear "loss".

Resist unwarranted losses.

Finally, I hope you all have a happy life.

Suffering a loss is a blessing, which does not mean that you will see a blessing so simple, this blessing is a blessing, and dedication is a kind of kindness, and it is also a manifestation of planting blessings. For patients who feel uncomfortable at a loss, they first need to convince themselves to accept the fact that they have suffered. Although it is human instinct to suffer losses, if you keep struggling, you may find yourself in a more troublesome situation.

Suffering is a blessing, there is another half of the sentence, this half sentence is also what the old people often say, that is, it is rare to be confused, did you not think that suffering a loss is a blessing, and there is a rare confusion in the back.

The allusion of "suffering is a blessing" first came from Zheng Banqiao, one of the Qing Dynasty writers and painters "Yangzhou Eight Monsters".

In that year, Zheng Banqiao was transferred to Weixian County, just in time for the drought, and he wrote to his boss who was worried about the livelihood of the people.

Unexpectedly, the boss ignored it completely, and just wanted to ask for a few of his calligraphy and paintings. At the same time, a cousin from his hometown sent a letter asking him to help teach him a lesson because he was arguing with a neighbor over a wall base.

It's rare to be confused, and it's a blessing to suffer. These two sentences are annotated to:

It's hard to be smart, it's hard to be confused, it's even more difficult to turn from smart to confused, let it go, take a step back, don't care about losing, don't care about gaining, feel at ease at the moment, not to be blessed later. ”

It's just because of a momentary frustration that I feel emotional, not to warn people to really regard losses as blessings.

The ancients often said that "suffering is a blessing", but in our reality, people who are willing to suffer losses and be fooled are often considered stupid. Now everyone generally thinks that it is shrewd to be able to get cheap, to get something for nothing, and to make money, which is a blessing. At the end of today, I will talk about the topic of "suffering losses are blessings", and it is estimated that I will risk the condemnation of the world and be scolded by many people, but the reason for scolding is still to be scolded.

Many people eat public meals, can get a little cheap from the unit, take something to the house, use the public car to do private affairs, or use the convenience of the public to find some benefits for themselves, such people, everyone is often very envious, feel that people have the ability and ability. There is also a kind of person who is particularly shrewd, can speak well, speaks eloquently, and is good at deceiving other vertical wheel people, and has made a fortune for a while and has become a "gong", and everyone is also very envious, thinking that this is also a capable person.

There is another kind of person, that is, loyal and honest, sincere and realistic, he believes what others say, he is often deceived, and he is often deceived, and he is often deceived.

This may be the current mainstream values and outlook on life, and being able to seek benefits for oneself by unscrupulous means is the pursuit of life, and it is considered shameful and shameful to be fooled. So why did the ancients still say that suffering is a blessing? Are they all stupider than us moderns?

No, it's our modern people who are confused and upside down.

The ancients said that "being clever is mistaken by being smart", and in ancient times, to say that a person is very shrewd, that is not a word of praise. Imagine if a person is very shrewd, calculates others everywhere, and is bent on taking advantage of himself and making people unguardable, are you willing to be friends with such a person and deal with it? I'm sure you won't!

Since you won't, others won't, so even if a shrewd person takes advantage of it for a while and makes some benefits, but after a long time, people will recognize his true face, and they will avoid it, and this kind of person's popularity will get worse and worse, there will be fewer and fewer opportunities, and the road of life will become narrower and narrower, so what is there to envy such a person?

So why is it said that suffering is a blessing? Who are the people who are willing to suffer? Generally honest people!

Loyal and honest, honest and reliable, easy to believe in others, it is easy to suffer, he does not plan for his own interests, always for the sake of others, such people, not only ** like, who of us does not like it? Therefore, although this kind of person often suffers losses on the surface, his popularity will get better and better, and there will be more and more people who like to associate with him, and there will be more and more opportunities in life, and his blessings and luck will be better and better in the future, so the person who can suffer is really blessed.