A friend who hasn t been in touch for a long time borrows money from me, should I borrow it?

Updated on society 2024-04-21
9 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-08

    I think it depends on his character and credit, after all, everyone gets along with each other differently, and they can't be measured by their own ideas or values, so when a friend who hasn't been in touch for a long time comes to you to borrow money, the first thing to do is to think about what you haven't been in touch for so long, and to see what his character is, after all, borrowing money is not a trivial matter, and it is human nature to think more.

    Just like the people we have come into contact with, you can't treat anyone is an attitude, because everyone has their own character, some have a lively personality, some people are born more shy, friends are still more honest after a long time, we can't treat these two kinds of friends in the same way, this is the way friends get along, you can't blindly let others obey you, but to understand and get used to each other. But what exactly are you because you haven't been in touch with that friend for so long? There are always some reasons, it may be because of something, it may be because of separation, it may be that each other is busy and neglect each other, and there are many possibilities, but no matter what, as long as one party does not abandon the other, the friendship between you still exists, because there is no doubt about each other in each other's years.

    You used to have a happy time together, but the time was too ruthless, you were in each other's care, slowly reduced the contact, but the heart still cared, suddenly one day he came to you to borrow money, you must be very surprised, this is human nature, not only he suddenly found you and surprised, but he also asked you to borrow money also made you very surprised. You care a lot about what he's been through during this time, otherwise why would he come to you to borrow money? If he is an honest person and takes the initiative to borrow money from you, he must still think that you are a friend, which is true, because honest people are like this, and he will ask friends to borrow money unless he has to.

    You should lend it to him, and he will remember you well. If a friend who used to play suddenly asks you to borrow money, since it is a friend, it also depends on his attitude, after all, this is also an opportunity to test whether your friendship exists for two years.

    If this friend of yours takes the initiative to stay away from you, so that you gradually cut off contact and suddenly ask you to borrow money, I don't think it should be borrowed, it is not a cruelty, I think this is not fair to you, he has no friendship with you.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    I think that people who have not contacted you for a long time, at this time suddenly ask you to borrow money, the most important thing to think about is whether this person is **, whether he has a mobile phone stolen number, this is a, normal people should have the idea, because I think that if a person does not contact me for a long time, but suddenly looks for me, or borrows money, then I must have always had ghosts. This thing must be done well, sure, see if there is a problem, if you have his mobile phone number, you can call to confirm whether he is talking to me again, at this time there is anything to say on the mobile phone, and if it is not you, then you don't hurry up to report this**. If you don't have a mobile phone, you can also call him QQ**, if he doesn't dare to answer, I think it proves that he is weak-hearted, and you don't need to pay attention to him at this time, let alone want not to borrow money.

    Then if you really want to borrow money from someone at the time, it depends on the distance between you and him at the beginning, I think friends, in fact, you should help, but if it's that kind, it's not particularly good with you at the beginning, it's an ordinary friend, and then it's slightly better than a stranger, I don't think there's much need to take it, don't say that I have a person in the group, you give me too much to do, if you want, you don't have to lend him money, because helping people is love, It's your duty not to help. But if something really big happens to him and he is really short of money, I think he can actually lend a helping hand, but this is different from the nature above.

    And if the two of you have a particularly good relationship at the beginning, in this way, in fact, I think it should be established, even if it is short and long-term, there is no contact, it may be because, what will the time relationship be like, can't make time, it's not that there is no such possibility, don't think she doesn't want to contact you, maybe it's too busy, at this time, in fact, it's okay to lend him. They are all classmates, and I think they should also know their roots, and they should be able to know their character. So you can borrow something like that.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    If a friend you once trusted borrowed money from you, you used to be friends and friends, but everyone chatted when they had something, and they had each other's words in their hearts, this situation should be lent to him, at least I don't think I can live up to this friendship. Sometimes talking about money is a hurtful thing, but since the friendship is at the end of the day, and you happen to have this spare money in your hand, it doesn't hurt to lend him it. It's also okay for friends to help each other, and you might want to borrow money from him when you have something to do in the future.

    But if it's just an ordinary friend, I think you should be cautious, because I don't usually have much contact, and now I'm looking for you whenever something happens, which is very embarrassing. A thin-skinned person would not care about borrowing money from someone who has not been in touch for a long time, so it is very risky to lend to him.

    If you feel that you can't pull it off, everyone will open your mouth, and you must be mentally prepared to lend it to him, because the money lent out is like water spilled out, and basically you can't get it back. Be prepared for this mentality, so that you don't get angry in the future if you can't get the money back, and regret why you lent him money in the first place.

    Or if he borrows more money from you, you can also say that your capital turnover is not open, and there is no cash around you, but if you find a friend, you may be able to borrow a little, but at this time, don't lend him too much, you can lend him a little less, the money is also lent out, and your favor is also sent out, if he is a person who knows how to be grateful, then he will definitely remember your favor. In the future, if you really can't get it back, the degree of distress will be a little less.

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    What kind of society is this now, it is the uncle who borrows money, and when you ask him for money, he is even more uncle. In your case, I suggest that you better not lend him money.

    You're friends, but you haven't been in touch for a long time, and you don't know how he's doing. I don't know if he has a serious job now, and if he has enough financial means to repay you this money. No one's money is blown by the wind, and our money is also earned by our own hard work.

    So you can't just take the risk and just lend it out. And you don't know if he's doing business now. After all, there are too many people who are abducted and deceived nowadays, especially deceiving relatives and friends.

    If he is doing this kind of thing now, you will be miserable. Mind you so much just in case. Don't feel that if you don't lend it to him, then you will hurt the feelings between friends.

    Think about it, you haven't been in touch for a long time, and if it weren't for this borrowing behavior, you might never have been in touch again in your life, so what friendship do you have to talk about?

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    When it comes to borrowing money, I believe everyone is reluctant to find someone to borrow money, but who wants to open this mouth until the last resort?

    Who doesn't need help from a friend. It is said that talking about money hurts feelings, but everyone has three urgency.

    If you want to borrow money from each other, what kind of friends do you have to divide to decide whether you can lend it or not.

    If it's a friend I trust, such as a girlfriend or a friend who used to play well, no matter how long I don't contact him, as long as it's within my ability, I won't say a word to borrow money from him.

    One of my roommates borrowed money from me once. When we were in school, we played better, almost in and out together, inseparable.

    I got married after graduating, and she went to find a job in another place, and we didn't keep in touch for a long time. <>

    Later, after more than half a year, she suddenly said that she was asking me to borrow money, because her company was in a recession, she couldn't pay her salary, and her mother was sick again and needed money urgently.

    After I checked with her, I gave her 2,000 yuan, although after graduation, we didn't talk to each other halfway, but I didn't hesitate to lend her our relationship in college.

    Because I know her, she won't borrow money from me if she can't help it, and she's also a trustworthy person. It's been six years since I graduated, and now we have a good relationship.

    But if it's a very ordinary friend, just a nodding friend, usually don't contact him when there is something to do, and you don't know him very well, then I don't think there is any need to lend him money.

    Such friends have not been in touch for a long time, and the friendship between you has not reached the level of borrowing money. Who knows if he borrowed it for a long time and didn't contact him, and I don't know if he will pay it back....

    For the sake of insurance, it is still not possible to borrow. After all, no one's money is blown by the wind, it is all earned by hard work.

    And if you borrow it and don't pay it back, it's not easy to urge. Everyone knows that when you borrow money, it's your grandson, and when you pay it back, it's your grandfather.

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    If the economic conditions allow, you can borrow as much as possible, after all, these relatives are also open to you only when they have to do so. If there are other candidates, it is estimated that they will not borrow money from a relative who has not been in touch for many years. I feel that I have already opened my mouth to say it, then we must be in great need of money, we can help if we can, after all, no one knows if we will seek their help in the future?

    Basically, you won't ask others to borrow money, unless it's a last resort, and when you do, you'll be able to see who your real friends are. Some people say that they have a relative who has not been in contact with them for many years, and suddenly they are looking for money to borrow from themselves, and they don't know whether to borrow or not, and they think that this depends on your financial ability, if the economic conditions allow, you can borrow as much as possible, but don't borrow too much, after all, no one knows when the money will be repaid, but if your economic conditions are better, borrow more and borrow less if the economic conditions are not good. <>

    Everyone knows that since the other party has spoken, it means that you are desperate, no one wants to borrow money from a relative or friend who has not been in touch for many years, and they also know that they will be discussed by others when they open their mouths to borrow money, and even scolded by others, but now there is really no way, I can only open this mouth. After lending money to others, don't urge others to repay their relatives and friends, others mainly have working capital, and they will definitely repay the money immediately. <>

    I also hope that everyone can save more money on a regular basis, so that we can also save an emergency when we encounter special circumstances, don't be a moonlight clan, and no one is willing to lend you this or that when you use money. We make money to spend, but it is also to make our future life a little better, so we must have a long-term vision. I also hope that those who borrow money can be a little more conscious, and when I don't have extra money, I must hurry up and pay off the money I owe before, and it is not difficult to borrow and borrow again.

  7. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    No, because this kind of relative will only come to you when he borrows money, and in ordinary life, he will not think of you at all, and this kind of relative is not worthy of our deep friendship.

  8. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    If our relatives often ask us to borrow money, we should look at the situation according to the situation, because we all know that there is an old saying that the emergency does not help the poor. If the relative's family is currently in debt, lending him money is a very headache, it is very likely to hurt him, and even harm ourselves, if the relative's family is in a hurry to get married and buy a house, you can lend him money, but it also depends on the situation, I hope everyone can know this.

  9. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    It depends on the specific cause, and if there is really something urgent that needs help, if you have the ability, you can help.

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