As a man, I didn t have a father s love since I was a child, what should I do?

Updated on psychology 2024-04-26
29 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-08

    If as a man, if you don't have father's love since you were a child, you will feel very uncomfortable, because everyone wants to be loved by their father, then in this case, you must let yourself not be like that, and you must give your children enough fatherly love.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    I think you might think that your character is lacking something because of the lack of fatherly love, and I don't think that's a problem, because there are some things that can be cultivated, and you can develop yourself through some experiences.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    There is no way to do this, because this is your own nature, if you think that you lack fatherly love, and you are missing some qualities, or some feelings, you can go to experience, such as playing games, this is the most intuitive feeling.

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    As a man who has not had a husband since he was a child, he should work harder and learn more to make himself a capable and responsible person, so that he can make up for his shortcomings.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    I think that if a man lacks fatherly love since he was a child, then he will be a more insecure person. At this time, if there is a girl who can give her enough security, then he will be very dependent on this girl.

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    I think you have to establish the right values and not distort your spiritual world because your father didn't give you paternal love. You can get other love from so many things.

  7. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    As a man who has not had fatherly love since he was a child, I think he may have some emotional deficits in this area, and then find a cold girlfriend.

  8. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    As a man, he has not had fatherly love since he was a child, and he can make up for it from other things, and he can also feel fatherly love from other character relationships.

  9. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    One: The child is insecure.

    A sense of security is very important for the growth of children, if the child lacks father's love from an early age, it will be very insecure, and the more insecure the child, the stronger the sense of self-protection, and often very paranoid.

    Two: low self-esteem, low evaluation of oneself.

    Children lack father's love from an early age, and subconsciously children will question themselves, feel that they are not good enough, not worthy of love, and are very inferior in their hearts, and they are also relatively withdrawn, and their evaluation of themselves is relatively low, and they are prone to mental illness.

    Three: Affect character.

    The lack of fatherhood has a great impact on a child's personality, and there is a saying that boys who spend a lot of time with their mothers and other women will lack masculinity. And girls will be psychologically masculine and easy to become women. It is difficult for a child who lacks father's love to have a sound personality, and it will also affect the child's view of marriage and love.

    Every father wants his child to be a sound personality, mentally healthy, happy and confident child, so don't "play and disappear" in the process of your child's growth, and don't always leave your child to your mother. We should accompany our children more, communicate with them more, love our children, and love them should not be expressed in the bottom of our hearts, but should be expressed with actions.

    Dads need to understand that the lack of fatherly love is a very serious injury to the child, because the child loves you very much.

  10. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    From a psychological point of view, the personality will be more feminine, mainly depending on the personality of the boy's mother. This is the case if the father is not around.

  11. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    What happens to a boy who lacks fatherly love in general?

    His personality is to a certain extent less masculine, decisive, masculine, strong, less organized, less rational thinking, etc.

    You will find that he has a little more feminine flavor on his body, such as hesitation, delicacy, sensitivity, timidity, etc.

    This cannot be said in general, it depends on individual differences. Some people don't, and vice versa.

    In general, it is not good to lack father's love, and parents should try not to let their children lack any love, and of course, not too doting. The lack of love from one party will have different degrees of impact on his life.

    What happens to a child who lacks a father's love?

    Growing up in a family without love, you will be very sensitive to love, you don't believe in love, because you want true love, you don't trust men very much because of your father's influence, especially people who have the same shortcomings as your father. There is no love without trust.

    It is precisely because I have not received warmth that I have very deliberate requirements for feelings, so the pressure on others is also great, and the two of them will slowly become tired when they get along, and then give up by themselves.

    I think you should first learn to love yourself, be kind to yourself, don't always hope for others, come to this world to have the right to love and be loved, there will always be someone who understands you and you are willing to believe, before that, live well, be good to yourself, because only when you live well, can you feel the feelings of others with a normal and peaceful attitude, so that you will not be blinded.

    Father has not given you love, it has affected you for 18 years, don't continue to affect your life in the future because you don't mind this matter, your father has no choice, your own lifestyle can be chosen, come on.

  12. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    The absence of fatherhood can have the following effects on a boy's growth and development:

    1.Emotional aspect: Boys may feel emotionally lonely and uneasy because they are not accompanied and supported by their fathers to learn how to deal with their emotions.

    2.Social aspects: Boys grow up learning how to get along with their peers, and the lack of a father's presence may affect their social skills, making it difficult for them to build good relationships with their peers.

    3.Behavioural aspects: Boys may exhibit aggressive or negative behaviour because they lack discipline and guidance from their fathers to learn how to control their emotions and behaviours.

    4.In terms of values: fathers are often an important role model for boys in their upbringing, and the lack of father's company may affect the formation of their values and lead to their inability to establish correct moral values.

    5.Self-identity: Boys' self-identity is often closely related to their father's identity, and the lack of father's presence may affect their self-identity and lead to a bias in their evaluation of themselves.

    Therefore, boys who lack fatherly love need attention and support to help them overcome emotional difficulties and behavioural problems, and to promote their growth and development.

  13. Anonymous users2024-01-27

    Boys who lack fatherly love will become more lonely, more susceptible to bad influences, more prone to self-indulgence, and more vulnerable to bullying!

    In addition, they may also have feelings of inferiority, anxiety and depression, and may even have negative thoughts about themselves

  14. Anonymous users2024-01-26

    Just because you don't have a father doesn't mean you don't have to lack love.

    What kind of personality does a lack of fatherly love create?

    There will be a lack of security, and it is very strong, you are very timid, afraid of making any mistakes, because since you were a child, you have not had a father who can stand up to the sky to support you, the result is, I am almost 20 years old, I will still be very afraid of the dark, I don't like the rain very much, I will be afraid to shrink my feet into the quilt when thundering at night, I don't like to be alone alone, sometimes a relationship is in front of me, and I don't dare to start because the desire to control is too strong due to insecurity, or I pay too much attention to the other party after I start.

    There will be a very strong feeling of loneliness and loneliness in your heart, you will feel that even if you are in the middle of a familiar and lively crowd, you will feel a little lonely, even if you can fit in at the time, you will feel very empty later, in short, lonely. I really longed for someone to accompany me, but I couldn't say it, and I looked forward to entering someone else's circle, but I was at a loss.

  15. Anonymous users2024-01-25

    In the past, children from single-parent families really had a withdrawn character, don't say that she lacks love? In itself, it is a child who lives in an unsound family and does not fully feel the love of the father, do you say that there is no lack of love?

    Maybe as a other half who loves him the most, it is suitable for me to love him more, and I can slowly correct his long-lost love, and the future family will be happier.

  16. Anonymous users2024-01-24

    Not necessarily. Some people lose their father when they are young, and they may lack father's love, but not all people are like this. Most people are still mentally healthy.

  17. Anonymous users2024-01-23

    There must be a lack of fatherly love. But it's not necessarily a bad day

  18. Anonymous users2024-01-22

    This is a very normal phenomenon, and there are many girls who like guys who are older than themselves. The father-love complex mostly appears in families where father and daughter depend on each other, or where father and daughter are too close and mother and daughter are not close enough, which is an objective environmental reason.

    Paternal complexes are mostly introverted, and they are often squeamish, brutal, and willful, which is due to subjective personality. The crux of the father-lover complex is that the daughter is unable to achieve psychological separation from the father, and even some daughters are adults and still ask to sleep in the same bed with their father, the result is often very bad, not only will hinder the normal interaction between the girl and the man of the same age and even marriage and love, even after marriage, the relationship between the husband and wife is difficult to deepen; It will also affect the father's marriage, and it may also lead to family tragedy.

    Girls who lose their father's love prematurely often transfer their feelings for their father to a certain character in reality, who becomes a substitute for their father, but he is different from his father. Under the aura effect of the father, the image of "him" often becomes taller and becomes an irreplaceable "love saint", enshrined in the depths of the girl's memory. Because "he" is closely associated with a specific period, and that period is unforgettable for girls, invisibly, the latecomers will always make girls feel that they lack resonance.

    From Zhang Ailing's body, we can see her two extremes, one is silent and does not speak, according to the memories of those old writers and her classmates who saw Zhang Ailing in Shanghai, Zhang Ailing is a very quiet person, this kind of quiet in literary language is the quiet of burying gold and sand, is such a quiet girl, when her love for her father was betrayed by her father, she wanted to die herself, she wanted to kill her mother, This kind of personality is the expression of the extreme narcissistic personality.

  19. Anonymous users2024-01-21

    It belongs to a kind of paternal complex. This kind of heart is not very normal, and I hope to be able to adjust it in time.

  20. Anonymous users2024-01-20

    It's normal, boys older than you are mature and steady, and can give you a sense of security.

  21. Anonymous users2024-01-19

    This is a manifestation of a lack of love, because of the lack of love, so I always want to be loved by a boy who is much older than me.

  22. Anonymous users2024-01-18

    I think it's normal, older boys know how to take care of girls.

  23. Anonymous users2024-01-17

    This is not normal, it means that you have lacked love since you were a child, and now you still want to impose this feeling on others.

  24. Anonymous users2024-01-16

    It's more normal, you haven't had fatherly love since you were a child, so you hope that a boy older than you will take care of you, take care of you, and make up for your father's love, so it's normal to like a boy who is older than yourself, but you have to be clear about that kind of love, whether it's love between men and women, not just to make up for father's love.

  25. Anonymous users2024-01-15

    This must be a relatively normal mentality, because what is lacking is what you want, but it is really not particularly suitable.

  26. Anonymous users2024-01-14

    I haven't had much fatherly love since I was a child.,I like boys older than me because I feel safe.。

  27. Anonymous users2024-01-13

    This situation is normal, you can also find someone who is relatively older and more mature, don't be too outrageous.

  28. Anonymous users2024-01-12

    It's normal, they all say that there is a father-love plot without fatherly love, and you have to find that feeling in other men.

    But generally boys are older than girls, as long as it's not too big.

    The key is to find the right person for you to be happy together.

  29. Anonymous users2024-01-11

    It's normal, I want to be cared for like a father's love.

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