What do parents think now? Need a door to door right? 50

How to say it. The family has the same level of wealth, the level of education is about the same, and there is no problem with other things, what the parents think is that they don't have to work so hard after their daughter gets married, and the wife married by their son is in good health. The rest is just how people look, I don't think there's a problem.

I'm an ordinary person who doesn't know your situation.

This kind of problem mainly depends on what the attitude of the parents on both sides, who has raised the child for more than 20 years and is willing to let him go with the hardships, the so-called can be the right person, don't be too disparity, I don't think it's very important, the two children love each other more convincingly than can be the right person, Lu Yao knows that the horsepower has been seen for a long time, and the statement that you can be the right person after getting along for a long time is naturally broken, they are all a family, how can they talk to two families, they can live well and fight every day, better than anything!

Every parent wants their children to live a better life, the old man said, marriage must be the right family, no matter whether the son and daughter find a better condition than their own family, marriage will also suffer, find a bad life and suffer from it, and their own half a pound and eight taels are almost the same,

I hope that my children are better off than myself. If the gap between the husband and wife is too big, how to operate it is problematic.

Most parents want their children to live better than they do now. It is relatively better to be able to be a good person.

Yes, it's about getting the right thing to do.

It doesn't matter what you think, the conditions don't matter, the important thing is true love

Don't think that living in the modern era is an ancient noun

Every parent thinks differently, and they can't overturn a boatload of people with a single rod.

After the poverty of the 80s, they were afraid that their children would suffer hardships ......

No, it's good that you live happily on your own.

Consider. The right family means that the status and wealth of the family of both men and women are equal, and they are suitable for marriage.

1. The door is a pair of stone piers or stone drums placed opposite the entrance of traditional Chinese buildings. In ancient times, the hierarchy of different levels of family doors was very strict. Architecturally it is a part of "door trousers fiber pillow stone", commonly known as door pier, also known as door seat, door platform, door drum, holding drum stone with stone drum, because the drum sound is grand and majestic, powerful as thunder, people think that it can avoid ghosts and respect, and the people believe that it can avoid evil, so the folk widely use the door sleeper stone on behalf of "door dang".

Second, the household to Hu imitation, refers to the lintel used to fix the door frame of the brick carving or wood carving, because they are all even number, so called "household pair". The "household pairs" are usually cylindrical or square, each about 30 centimeters long, parallel to the ground scale. The cross-section of the "household pairs" is engraved with patterns, because they protrude from the eaves to resemble the hairpins on the heads of ancient women, so they are often called "door hairpins".

And the number of "household pairs" is directly proportional to the wealth of the owner's family.

Third, the right family, in a strict sense, means that each other's family conditions are similar since childhood, and they are also relatively compatible with each other's knowledge, ability, level, cognition, and three views when they grow up.

The best thing is that it has always been a particularly evenly matched existence, and neither one should be too far behind the other in some way. As far as marriage is concerned, it would be a good thing if two people choose to union.

However, it does not mean that it must be completely consistent in order to be together and be considered a match.

In modern times, when we are looking for a partner to marry, there is no need to follow the old society or the unified model of "the right person". According to your own "door", you should go to "house to house" to find a marriage partner.

Why do we need to change now?

Reasons: First, we have received nine years of compulsory education since childhood, and we spend more time with our parents. After going to college in high school and going out of social work, I hardly spent time with my parents.

We don't grow up entirely dependent on our parents. Second, now after we go out of social work, most of the people are almost relying on their own ability and knowledge to find a job for development, and the network circle of their parents is a few Hui is not much communication (except for the second generation of the official rich relying on their parents) Third, we have a lot of learning opportunities in modern times, and the knowledge contact is also wider, as long as you are willing to work hard, you can change better.

Therefore, the psychology, attitude and style, lifestyle habits, thinking concepts, and ways of life of modern people do not all originate from their parents.

However, these cannot be completely "door-to-door" to look at each other's parents.

On the other hand, if the other party has been growing up with their parents since birth and has never left home or lived independently, then the above reasons are not valid.

No, the door is right, it is the overall condition,

I think it should be.

In such a marriage, each other maintains the same water model selling level, there will be no deviation, so that they will get along more easily.

If the gap between each other's families is too big, there will be a sense of distance and pressure, and you must pay attention to your words and deeds in daily life, otherwise it will cause pressure on yourself.

Only people who are looking for similar families can resonate and understand more together, and they don't need to show too much.

For such two families, both parties are able to understand and respect each other, and there is no need to please and cater too much.

A good marriage and a good partner can reduce half of life's suffering.

Adult marriage is nothing more than finding someone who is quite comfortable with each other, so that it makes sense.

1. The cultural heritage is comparable.

Such a family has been sought after since ancient times, although in recent years, it has been suppressed by the demolished family, but it is definitely still a fragrant bun. It's very simple, such a family is knowledgeable and more inclusive, and your father-in-law, mother-in-law, or father-in-law, whether you have culture or not, is really important.

This will directly determine the cultural background of your partner and even your children, the cultural differences are big, without the same thinking, it is very difficult for you to live together and want to communicate. At the beginning, this kind of conflict will be covered up by the cloak of love, and later it will be revealed, and you will only have endless quarrels.

2. The economic strength is comparable.

It's not that it's too materialistic, love is indeed simple, but marriage is inseparable from firewood, rice, oil and salt. Therefore, it is very important that the economic conditions of both parties are similar. Ninety percent of the troubles after marriage come from those inconspicuous and trivial things.

In the final analysis, it is nothing more than money, those with poor economy will feel that the other party is wasteful, and they don't know how to save at all, and those with good economy will also feel that the other party is too stingy and does not know how to enjoy life. The economic difference will really bring an insurmountable generation gap to both sides. The best way to avoid these contradictions is to find a home with similar conditions.

3. Healthy family.

There are two aspects of health here, one refers to good health. Don't underestimate this, even if your subject seems healthy, be sure to find out if he has a history of genetic diseases in his family. Don't feel embarrassed, this is also for your child, many hidden diseases will cause harm to children.

The second is the spiritual aspect, if you really love each other, even if the other person is not so healthy, you can actually consider it. But if you're mentally unhealthy, there's no need to talk about it. There is only one such thing as domestic violence, which does not happen and countless times, and people with this tendency must stay away from him.

A sufficient, rich family conditions, both for couples and for the next generation of children are very helpful, although many young people are lying flat now, lack of struggle, but before getting married, there are usually hard efforts to struggle, to create rich family conditions for marriage, to create favorable conditions for the arrival of children, this is what many young people want to do before becoming parents. If the family conditions are good, then the finch will struggle less and be clear, and you can enjoy a stable and happy life.

1.The child's family conditions match, and both families or small families need money in an emergency, and both parties can help.

2.The family is right, and the education received by the company is usually the same, and the children chat and fall in love, and the elders have no reason to be picky.

3.Children born in the same family banquet conditions have similar personalities and experiences, and are more topical, which is conducive to emotional harmony and stability for a long time.

4.The woman does not have to worry about suffering after getting married, because the marriage of the right family is not much different from each other's premarital life, and there is no such thing as one party lowering the living standard of the other party.

Parents want their children to find the right family, it is for the good of their children, because such a marriage is more stable and long-lasting.

When it comes to being the right person, our young friends are disgusted by the word, believing that the hierarchical division of people is a disrespect for people and a repression of emotional freedom.

Even, we will often see that many young friends will give up the "happy marriage" arranged by their parents and family, and start a vigorous love with a person of the opposite sex who is far from their own family status, often the more opposed by the family, the sweeter and more persistent the love.

Cheng Xiao graduated from a prestigious university in Beijing, his father is a professor of Kongjian at the university, his mother is an artist, and his parents have a very harmonious relationship. Cheng Xiao was born pure, beautiful and intelligent, the favor of his family when he was a child, the preference of teachers in his study career, and his versatile intelligence made this girl a flower in a greenhouse.

When Chi Xincheng Xiao was reading Doudan's senior year, she met her love. The other party's name is Xu Wu. Xu Wu's parents were both laid-off workers at an early age, and later his father drove a taxi and his mother ran a small business in a certain market.

What attracted Xu Wu to Cheng Xiao was that he had a unique temperament. He has a unique "bad" taste, a little pretentious, a little disdainful, a little cynical, and what Xu Wu presented to Cheng Xiao was a state that no one had in her previous life.

After Cheng Xiao's parents learned of their daughter's relationship, they did not support it, and they had already designed a future path for their daughter: let their daughter go abroad after graduating from college, and then choose a boy who can match her daughter among many children in the world.

Of course, such opposition will not help. On the contrary, the stronger the opposition of his parents, the greater Cheng Xiao's determination to stick to love.

The reason is very simple, because of the opposition of her parents, Cheng Xiao's subconscious self-sacrifice has increased, and she has no experience of failure, plus she is so self-sacrificing to achieve love, then she will think that she is more sure to control such a romantic love.

It is not so much that Cheng Xiao is in love, it is better to say that she verifies her worth in the process of rebellion; It is not so much that Cheng Xiao is sticking to love, it is better to say that she is sticking to her confidence that she should be a successful person.

We often hear a word that is the right match, which refers to the fact that young men and women should pay attention to the right match when they get married, especially in ancient times, it was very important to have two good matches. In fact, the family pair is also suitable for today's couples, and the love of the family pair must be relatively smooth, without many twists and turns. There are some unsuitable loves, although two people have deep feelings, but there are also many twists and turns.

The so-called door-to-door here refers to many aspects.

1. Family economic status. Two:

Three views above. Three: academic status.

Therefore, the sea of words left by the ancients is still very reasonable, and the love of the right person must suffer less, at least it will be blessed by everyone, and there will be no great contradictions.

The right family mainly refers to the social status and economic conditions, if you can do the right thing, the family will be more harmonious.

The right family actually refers to family, education and ideology, but marriage pursues two people to love each other, and nothing else is a problem.

The family pair mainly refers to the family economic aspect, if the family economic aspect is not particularly compatible, the married life will not be particularly good.

The family must be a family match, and the family background of the two families is similar, and the educational background between the two people should also be similar, only in this way can they become a good match, and there will not be much pressure on such two people to be together.

We all know that in fact, many times we will also get married very ****, marriage itself is a major event in our life, and many times, we are also thinking about our life event, and we must be cautious when considering life events. At this time, it is not that we can simply like it, but it depends on the problem of the two families. When we see on the Internet that parents say that marriage should be the right person, many people will have this question, that is, how important is the right person in the relationship?

on this issue. In my opinion, I think the right match is very important, and it is also a measure of how long two people can last, let's take a closer look.

1 Door-to-door pairs are very important

We all know that in fact, in our daily life, many times for those young couples, they don't think of anything in their ordinary life at all. Just saying that you look and feel okay, and then the other person feels okay for you, and then you feel that the two of you are very happy and happy together, I think these are all very childish behaviors. And it is also a manifestation of irresponsibility for one's own life.

In my opinion, I think it's really like what my parents said that marriage must be the right person. In my personal opinion, I think it's very important to have the right person.

2 A measure of the relationship between two people

We all know that in fact, what we used to call a good family relationship means that the family situation of the two parties must be about the same, so that two people can live a better life after marriage. But now what we call a good match is to have a time in terms of thinking and our pursuits, and there is a lot of common ground in our values, which is a reason why two people can live better in their ordinary lives.

Therefore, in my opinion, whether it is in the economic aspect or in our ideological aspect, our values must be similar, and when we think about problems, our ideas can be thought of together, so that many contradictions can be reduced. to be able to make our feelings stronger and stronger. So in my opinion, I think this kind of door-to-door pair is really important.

He is an important yardstick to measure whether two people can go on for a long time. Therefore, when we choose our life partner, we should also think carefully. It's not that you can get married just because you like it.