Why are post 90s men becoming more and more afraid of marriage ? I cried when I knew the truth

Because of the pressure, marrying a wife requires a bride price, hardware and a house, which are not small amounts, and the key is that it is even more bottomless to raise children after marriage.

There is no car, no house and no money, and the mother-in-law wants a bride price of less than 100,000 yuan and more hundreds of thousands. Who would dare to get married now? If it weren't for the old ones, there would be a few cars and houses.

It's not because there is no money, there is money, who is worried about the future, if there is money in hand, it will be full of children and grandchildren, as a young person, I think it is better to focus on the career, and everything else is easy to say.

Glad you had a question you want to know.

I'm afraid of getting married. Actually, this is mainly due to stress.

Essentially, there is no difference between boys and girls in terms of stress.

Life is not easy now.

Money is hard to make, but it's so easy to spend it.

And society, especially girls, often thinks that it is natural that they should be raised by men.

Faced with such a high cost of living, boys naturally began to fear.

It's hard to live comfortably by yourself, let alone drag your family to take care of the young.

There is no such thing, now and in the future, there are very few people who are afraid of marriage, accounting for a very small part, not a lot, that is an individual phenomenon.

1.The marriage of your parents is a chicken feather in itself, but when you get married, they don't seem to be able to see the complete failure of their marriage, and they try to pull you into the quagmire of marriage.

2.You enjoy your peaceful life, but they try to sell you like a dead seller every day when they want to meet people they don't want to meet.

3. I want to get rid of the troubled and poor more than to get rid of the single. No one tells you about the difficulties you encounter at work, and no one cares about the unhappiness in your life, but as long as you are not married, everyone can point fingers at your private life, and there are one life after another around you, and everyone wants you to live like her, a happy marriage and a happy family. But you clearly know that your repressed personality since childhood is very likely to not meet someone who likes it and wants to enter into marriage.

4.Every time I was forced to go out on a blind date, I felt that the pigs raised by the two families were pulled out for breeding. The feeling of not being respected by his family gave rise to a sense of shame in his heart.

I believe that there is love in the world, but I don't think I can meet the so-called love.

If there is no love, what is the value of marriage itself?

My own work is less money and more close to home, and my friends around me are very envious, but now I have been harassed by my family to the point of physiological disgust, and I am seriously thinking about taking the next year to take other schools, leaving my family, living alone, even if it is a little harder, I don't want to be a puppet of my family.

I appreciate the "rebelliousness" and independent thinking of the post-90s, but it has caused a large group of post-90s people to fear marriage. The main reason is nothing more than the fear of facing the elders of the post-60s, the fear of raising the children of the post-00s, and the dissatisfaction with their living conditions. Now many emotional self-** are frantically promoting and rendering the painful memories of love and marriage, and many paragraphs, **, and articles are written about the scumbags and scumbags of the post-90s, which makes the post-90s even more frightened, those who have not yet found a partner are afraid of finding a partner, those who are not married are afraid of getting married, and those who are married are afraid of divorce, for fear that the person next to the pillow is also a scumbag and scumbag in the mouth of **.

And scattered, now there is a short **serial drama style on the Internet, and several big Vs I follow in Chongcongshan have changed careers to shoot families**, a profound interpretation of the contradictions in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, a detailed description of Zheng Ye of the relationship between husband and wife after marriage, and a sad description of the hardships of having children, coupled with the emotional performances of the actors, make the comment area full of marriage-phobic voices. In addition, it is the extreme performance of the gap between the rich and the poor after the 90s, many of the post-90s bear work pressure and emotional pressure, and buying a house and a car has not yet been realized. Most of these reasons have become the reason for the fear of marriage after the 90s.

1.Poor. Now the cost of marriage is relatively high, buying a house and a car is more stressful for the post-90s generation who have not long entered the society, and many people are not willing to let each other suffer with them.

2.Inferiority. Whether it is financial embarrassment or humble psychology, they will be reluctant to enter the marriage hall because they feel that they are not worthy of others or delay others.

3.Lazy. Because of laziness, or relatively homely, the social circle of life is relatively narrow, it is difficult to contact the opposite sex, especially the opposite sex you like, and you don't even have a girlfriend, how to talk about marriage!

4.Failed love experiences. Because of one or several failed love experiences, people are afraid of love and even marriage, afraid of being hurt and hurting others.

5.Advocating singleness. I think that a single life is more relaxed and happy, and if it is two people, it is inevitable to wronged themselves or compromise with each other.

6.Insecurity. I have seen many examples of unhappy marriages in life, and there are also many typical examples of unhappy marriages in movies and television, and there are many typical examples of unhappy marriages.

7.Marriage is no longer pure. There are more and more only children, and many of today's marriages are not just the problem of two clean people, but the union of two upright and prudent families, and the burden of marriage is heavier.

Chen Peng is 28 years old this year and is still single. It's not that he's not good enough and not handsome, but because he likes to live alone, and he's not willing to break the habits he has developed over the years. In the end, it's because he didn't meet the woman who really made his heart pound.

Although Chen Peng himself does not have much desire for marriage, his parents are very anxious and anxious, and often urge him to get married quickly. Chen Peng also seriously considered getting married, and even under the arrangement of his parents, he went to meet twice.

However, every blind date ended in nothing. It's either that he doesn't look down on others, or that others don't look down on him. A partner who can really talk to him has hardly ever met.

To be honest, as he grew older, Chen Peng was more or less uneasy. Especially when he found that most of his peers around him were married and had children, and he was still alone, he was worried about the bleak evening.

Although he sometimes feels lonely and lonely, he doesn't want to find someone to marry casually. He didn't want to get married and have children just because he was old. He felt that this was a sign of irresponsibility to both of them.

He still hopes to meet someone who has a heart-to-heart relationship with each other and truly loves each other in the future.

It is undeniable that there are many young people like Chen Peng who are more or less afraid of marriage. So why are more and more young people feeling fear or anxiety about marriage?

Freedom-loving and afraid of being bound by marriage.

There are a lot of young people who love freedom, and they would rather be single than be bound by marriage. If marriage is a besieged city, then young people nowadays are not so eager to step into the city, they are more greedy for the scenery outside the besieged city.

If a person loves freedom and does not want to be dragged down by marriage, he likes to do whatever he wants, he does not want to consult with someone about everything, he prefers to live a free and easy life, then such a person may be full of fear of marriage.

Marriage is a process of two people coming together to run in and compromise with each other. Since you have decided to get married, then you must give up some freedom and space, you have to get along day and night, and you have to learn to face the unknown together.

For young people who love freedom and don't like to be tied down, they may not have much enthusiasm for marriage, but they will be full of fear and insecurity about marriage.

Afraid of divorce and unwilling to bear the risk of renting nuclear insurance.

The reason why more and more young people are afraid of marriage is often because they are afraid of divorce and they are afraid to take risks.

Marriage, like love, can change anytime and anywhere. He once swore to you at the wedding, in front of everyone, that he would love you for the rest of his life.

In order to avoid divorce and minimize the loss, many young people would rather be single than easily step into marriage.

The reason why many young people are afraid of marriage is because they are full of anxiety and insecurity about the unknown, they don't know how long this marriage will last, and they are afraid that the marriage of two people will have to divorce for various reasons at the beginning.

Almost a product of the only child era, being overcared for by a family of six (grandparents, parents), not knowing how to deal with the problem of potato Kaili, interpersonal relationships are even weaker, self-respecting, a sentence of Shengsen can quarrel with each other and weak, marriage is so trivial, and there are so many bad examples. Natural fear.

The cost of the main foundation and the current wedding banquet is too high. Throw away the car, don't talk about the bride price. Having a house is basically a prerequisite for marriage. A house of millions of dollars can not be accepted by few people who can afford to get married.

1) Fear of no freedom after marriage.

When in love, men want to have their own private space, and after marriage, they need freedom. For most men, the discipline and demands of the wife are a constraint and a burden, which means a loss of freedom.

2) Fear of not being able to take on the responsibilities of the marriage.

After starting a family, the man is the "backbone" of the family, and if he can't take care of the whole family, it is likely to cause the marriage to fail, and the man is also very affected in his heart. Therefore, when a man is not mature enough or the economic conditions are not enough to support a family, he will be afraid of marriage.

3) Worry about the pressure of returning to the family financially after marriage.

After marriage, men have to face a series of problems that have to be considered, such as work, disturbing children, and both parents. These financial burdens naturally fall on the shoulders of men, and even if their wives can support and help, few men can accept them. And because most of today's marriages require a house, a car, and a stable job, these men who do not meet the standards may be powerless about marriage.

4) Marriage can constrain careers.

Most ordinary men, in addition to supporting the material needs of the family on the one hand, also have to bear the trivial affairs of the family, as well as to deal with the sending and welcoming of relatives between the two sides of the family, so as to do a good job in the intricate relationships between the family and the family. The short-term handling of these parents usually makes men exhausted, so career and life naturally cannot be both. Most men whose careers are still on the rise are naturally afraid of marriage obstacles.

The post-90s outlook on marriage and the pursuit of marriage quality are getting higher and higher, which is the reason why they are reluctant to get married or even afraid of marriage.

For love, the post-80s and post-90s generations have different concepts and attitudes. The post-80s think. Marriage was improvised.

Two people can get married as long as they are right together. And the post-90s generation doesn't like this concept, they have their own ideas, and they don't like improvising marriages. For Chinese-style improvisation marriages, the post-90s generation is very disgusted.

There are many reasons for fear of marriage. For example, the disappointment in love is precisely because of the example of the failed marriage of the post-80s generation. Therefore, the post-90s generation is even more disappointed in love and marriage. In love, the post-90s generation also has feelings of disappointment.

Can two people be together. It's more about liking, not improvising. The post-90s generation is in love.

Probably came into contact with a lot of people. So they have their own views on love and marriage. may be very disappointed in marriage, so the post-90s generation rejects getting married very early, and may be very disappointed in love, so we should observe the other half first, rather than getting married hastily.

When the post-90s generation gets married, they will inevitably worry about the firewood, rice, sauce, vinegar and tea of the two people, and they will also care about the family situation of the other half. This has greatly reduced their standard of living. The post-90s generation now has high requirements for life and wants a better life, not just having a child, getting married, etc.

The post-90s generation is different from the post-80s, they always have a concept of raising children to prevent old age. And we pay more attention to the present life. For the future, there are their own arrangements.

Instead of blindly getting married and having children.

This also leads to the fact that the post-90s generation does not want to get married, or does not want to get married so early. They hope to meet someone they like and have their own career in order to live a better life.

Now the cost of marriage is getting higher and higher, and if you don't get it right, you will lose all your money, and the post-90s generation is becoming more and more afraid of marriage under heavy pressure.

Because the post-90s generation has a strong sense of autonomy and has their own unique ideas, and most of the post-90s generation are only children and are more favored at home, they will feel afraid of the life pressure and responsibilities that they will bear when they get married.

Because the post-90s generation is becoming more and more independent, they feel that they will be bound after getting married, and it is better not to be free before marriage.

Because the current post-90s generation has seen too many people around them who have had flash marriages and divorces, they are afraid that their future marriages will become like this.

Because the current post-90s marriage gods are all in Scorpio, people with this aspect are more picky about their feelings, they are afraid of having a bad time, and they are afraid of divorce.