What is it like for time and space to alienate close friends?

At first, it was very sad. Because we don't see each other for a long time, and because we are not in the same region, we rarely see each other. Gradually, they all have their own social circles of friends, and the connection between the two people is getting weaker and weaker. Later, I got used to it, and people always have to grow up.

I feel so sorry, my heartache is that my former friend has become a strange appearance because of the limitations of time and space, and I feel that something has been lost between me, and I slipped away unconsciously, and I want to get back the previous feeling but it's a little difficult.

When two people stay in different times and spaces for a long time, they are already used to not having each other, and then the two people will have different circles, and the circles are different, and there will be no topic to talk about.

I think it's a pity, because in the past, they were all inseparable, for example, they would go to dinner together, go to the toilet together, and then everyone would make friends together, but since then there may not be much time to get along together.

This may be an inevitable trend, after all, no matter how good the relationship is, it must be carefully cared for, and it cannot escape the test of time and space. People are emotional creatures, and close proximity will make it easier to cultivate feelings, on the contrary, long distance will also break feelings.

Obviously, two friends who had a good relationship in the past, but because of time and space, they gradually became estranged, and I feel that sometimes I feel a little regretful, and when I think about our previous relationship, I will feel what happened between us.

I think it's normal for this kind of thing to happen, because when two people's lifestyles and the people around them change, their temper and habits will change, so some people will feel uncomfortable.

In fact, true friendship is inseparable from these two things, because no matter where you are, everyone will have a place in each other's hearts, and then they will also care about each other.

I think that now that the Internet is so developed, you can completely contact your friends through**or**, after all, as long as you have a good relationship, time and space are not much of a problem.

In fact, this topic is very similar to my situation, I have a high school classmate, we both feel inseparable, no matter what delicious and fun she shares, but that is only limited to high school, she did not study well in high school, so we applied for different majors and different universities, in time in a city, and we also feel very estranged, after all, I need to take a three-hour bus to find her. And I also have classes on Saturdays and Sundays now, which makes it even more important that we haven't been in touch for a long time.

It is said that best friends will always care about you even if they are not together, and they will always be by your side, but in fact, sometimes it is not. Friends also need our greetings from time to time, after all, every time in a new environment, there will always be a suitable friend as a good friend, for everyone is like this, if you don't contact her for a long time, and she has a good relationship with her good friend, which makes each other more sad, "It turns out that a good friend in high school is not as good as this friend" In fact, everyone will think like this, bag. Since we separated, I haven't had much contact, and I'm actually very disappointed in her, after all, I was so kind to her at the time, and I forgot about her birthday a few days ago.

Second, give more gifts. A person judged that it may be a birthday gift from each other, remember her birthday a few days ago, I did forget, so that there is very little contact between us, but I prepared a rich gift for her, she also likes it very much, this can only ease the relationship between us, if there is a National Day Mid-Autumn Festival or something, there is no need to give a gift completely, but at least there should be a greeting, send a text message, ask what you are doing, in fact, giving a gift also shows that you care about her, and your relationship will ease a lot.

Friends don't need to have any scheming, if you see each other as very important, I think you don't have time, no matter how far away you are, you won't lose your friendship, although my friendship may be about to be lost, but I don't regret it, maybe we really don't fit it, I hope your friendship will last a long time.

I have such drawbacks when I make friends, I rarely make bosom friends, generally fish and meat friends, but I make friends generally treat them as my bosom friends to socialize, but in the end I have to divide, there are not many friends to communicate with myself, which makes me feel very uncomfortable, but when I was in high school, I realized that I gradually changed the direction of making friends, I changed from friends who can play with me to bosom friends, friends who play with me, friends who play with me, It's just a friend who plays with himself, and when he goes to college, he will contact his friends from time to time, and friends can only be maintained for a long time by taking the test, whether he is your fish friend or your bosom friend, he needs to be contacted from time to time.

This is a very helpless feeling, close friends are very important people, but for various reasons, there is no longer the intimacy of the past. Faced with this situation, if you want to redeem it, there will be 2 different temporal phenomena: it may be a long process with no good results, or it is your initiative and you will return to the position of good friends in the next second.

Friends who are not close start when they are no longer in touch, and they live in the same place anymore, which of course leads to all kinds of not even having the opportunity to speak. Therefore, this requires one of the parties to take the initiative, maybe you have your own things and are 2 places apart, and you haven't played ** for a long time. Then pick a time for a long chat, if she happens to have time that day, you chat, you can talk about some of your happy memories together, care more about her current life, understand what she needs now, maybe through this chat, her memory is mentioned by you, there is a tacit understanding between friends, maybe at a certain point, you are just like yesterday, or that her, so, naturally, your former intimacy will be found again, and you will make a lot of agreements, say a lot of little secrets, Complain about something they hate.

Time and space alienate close friends, and if you can't talk to each other like in the past, you can only talk to each other like in the past, only polite thanks, conversations in a tone that is more distant than strangers. Or took the initiative to contact her a few times, but she was indifferent, then forget it, now you are in different cities, different lives, maybe the people you know each other are different, your attitude will change, the content of your speech will be different, and even your views will be very different. Everyone has a new life, and you can't fit into her life now.

Sometimes, the comings and goings of friends also have to go with the flow, if you redeem it, but you still can't find the original tacit understanding, each other's lives are different, there is no need to feel sad, those people who have been lost, your life is still going on, you will get new friends.

For friendship, you must not be stingy with time, because friends are very precious, and it is really not easy to meet good relationships and like-minded people in your own life, so you must not be stingy with time for friendship. Especially the friendship after graduation season....

It's like every time we cook together, she always tells me, just wash the vegetables, stay away from the kitchen after washing, don't waste the dishes...Because I can't cook, I can't, at least I don't poison people, although sometimes it's really hard to swallow...True friendship is something we need to cherish.

Only true friendship is worth our sincerity, if other friends don't need to care too much, anyway, no matter what you do, some of them won't look at it, so why bother? It's good to be yourself, to master your own heart, and to treat people who are sincere to you, it's all mutual.

As everyone grows, new members will continue to join, and naturally there will be old members who will quit your world.

My best friend and I, after college, were in different provinces, far apart, and the things and people we came into contact with were different, so I had a hunch that the distance between the two of us would become far away from the beginning. According to normal logic, we would contact each other more frequently at the beginning, complaining to each other about the university, how many classes there were, what the weather was like, what happened today, and how the school was. Gradually, everyone didn't have much contact.

Only on such a major day as the Spring Festival, will I wish a happy Spring Festival on QQ.

Of course, I've tried this method on other people as well. The friends I want to keep in touch with are not just my girlfriends. But the others didn't last long and disappeared.

I admit that there are some problems in the way, not everyone likes to say good night and good morning every day. What I want to express is that if two people are not estranged, it is not enough to rely on the efforts of one person alone, a slap will not make a sound, and only when two people have this consciousness can friendship last forever.

The people around us change every once in a while, and on the train of life, there are constantly people getting on and people getting off. All we can do is keep those good memories. Although we don't interact anymore, I still remember that time, you laughed at me.

It's not just couples who defeat in a long way, but also friends. There are many who may be childhood playmates, or good friends from junior high school and high school, but they gradually become estranged later, firstly because they haven't seen each other for a long time, and secondly, they are not in the same place, so they are so estranged and no longer keep in touch. In fact, there is indeed a type of friend who is like this, if you don't contact for a long time, if you contact again, no matter what you say, you will feel very embarrassed and distant.

Until later never to be contacted again.

Actually, I had a good friend in high school, and this was the case, we had a good relationship at the time, but then we went to college, and we were not in the same city, so we rarely saw each other, and at first because I didn't play QQ much, I didn't take the initiative to contact them, and he didn't take the initiative to contact me, so after a long time, we seemed to have forgotten that we were still good friends. Gradually, they stopped contacting. But this situation is really sad.

Now I occasionally want to contact him, but I find that I have nothing to say, I don't know what to say to her, because after a long time of separation, the two of them have no common circle of friends, and there is no common topic, no matter what they say, it is embarrassing. Even if the relationship was good, it was the past, and maybe others no longer wanted to mention it, so they gradually became estranged.

But I have another friend who is not like this, we are not in the same school after we go to college, nor in the same city, we have not been in touch for a long time, but then we have been in touch, and it feels the same as before, and there will be no awkward feeling when talking, maybe this is the real friend, even if we don't contact for a long time, we can have a lot to say.

I can only say that friends are not more expensive, but more expensive than fine, as long as there are one or two good friends, really to my friends, the others may just be passers-by in life, we have to do our best, it's okay. Maybe he's just a passerby in your life, and you're just a passerby in his life, so there's no need to force it.