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At this time, you should squat down, look at him with his eyes, no matter how he makes trouble, with a small voice, please note, use a small voice, and say to him: "Baby, are you feeling unwell?" There are already a lot of such toys at home, let's not make trouble in public, okay, let's go home and play with toys together, okay?
You can rest assured that with such a gentle but firm tone, you will quickly calm the child's emotions. Note that it's not what you say to them that matters, it's that this gentle but firm tone of your voice itself influences them.
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Ease emotions and guide. Why does a child lose his temper? The child did not achieve the goal he wanted, so the child's inner frustration, disappointment, and longing were mixed together.
At this time, parents should not say, you already have a lot of such toys and so on. Parents can ask, why do you want this toy, it's good, isn't this similar to the toy at home? Why don't you play with that toy, after this series of questions, it is estimated that the child will not want it anymore.
As long as parents stick to their principles, do not back down, do not compromise, and make the child realize that crying is really useless, this habit will slowly disappear.
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When disciplining their children, it is important for parents to do what they say and behave consistently. When faced with the situation of children rolling on the floor, parents only need to respond: "I will definitely not buy it for you" to show and reiterate their firm position, and let them know that coquettishness cannot succeed.
If the child has pocket money, parents can ask the child to be responsible for the expenses, so that he understands that everything needs to be paid, and it cannot be solved by blindly being spoiled.
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Use the "reward system" to give incentives: In addition to the strategy of "postponing shopping", another strategy is to use the "reward system" to encourage children to give and work hard for the toys they want, which can also make children cherish hard-won things more. For example, if the child wants to buy a 1000 yuan game machine, parents can give the child a piggy bank, and paste the ** of the game machine on the piggy bank as an incentive, when the child completes a housework or performs well, the parents can give appropriate rewards, so that he can use his "earned" money to buy toys.
This method can make children understand that many things can only be done through their own efforts, and in the process, they can learn to distinguish whether they need or want the object, and can make them appreciate what they have more.
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The correction of children who make principled mistakes or bad habits in the early stage is the most critical, and it is of course best for parents to reason with their children to correct them obediently, but if the children do not listen, my method is to correct them at one time with strict means, which is to make the child feel afraid and never dare to make similar mistakes again, and then find a suitable time to explain the reason to him after correcting it, otherwise it will be difficult to correct it in the future or the cost of correction will be greater.
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When a mother encounters this situation when she is shopping with her child, she may wish to try to say to her child, "But today we are out to buy groceries, and we have no money to buy toys." If the child does not understand it yet, you can continue to tell the child:
If we buy toys, we may not have the money to buy groceries, so the baby will go hungry! And so on, so that the child understands that the purpose of this shopping is to "buy groceries", so we only have the budget to buy groceries, and we do not have the budget to buy toys.
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In fact, it is very important for children to get used to hearing you say "no", and to continue to deepen education with the ultimate goal of allowing children to learn to think for themselves and have the right view of consumption.
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What should parents do if their children are vexatious?
1) distract the child;
I believe that parents will encounter the situation that their children are unreasonable and do not listen to what they say, at this time parents need to divert their children's attention and keep their children away from this place. It is easy for children to be distracted, especially after parents have changed the position of the child, and the child can forget about it appropriately. If the parent stays where the child is, the child will keep thinking about it, which will make things more and more difficult.
2) Show understanding, but have a correct attitude;
The child is naturally unpredictable, and it is inevitable that there will be unreasonable situations, and parents can give understanding and let the child know that the parents care about him. But parents should also have a correct attitude, show the majesty of parents, and let the child know that his current behavior is very incorrect. Especially in public, if the child is splashing and rolling on the ground, then it is even more important for the child to remember the lesson.
Parents can record their children's behavior with their mobile phones, and after the child's emotions calm down, give the child **, so that the child knows that he is wrong**.
(3) Cold treatment, not on the platform;
Each child's situation is different, some children's parents coax it, but some children's parents coax, the more children go online. In the face of such a child, parents need to be cold, and if the child is unreasonable and disobedient, the parent must pretend not to see and ignore the child. After a few times like this, the child will find that his behavior will not get the attention of the parents, and there is no threat to the parents, so he will not do it again.
This method is very effective.
Why does my child behave unreasonably?
1) Attract the attention of parents;
I believe that many parents will find that when they talk to other children, their children will appear too active, interrupting parents and other children to talk, and attracting parents' attention. And children are vexatious, and many times it is also to attract the attention of others. Therefore, in daily life, parents should give their children a certain amount of warmth and care, so that children know that parents care about him.
2) to achieve their own goals;
The child's vexatious behavior may be because he still wants to buy something or do something, but the parent does not agree, so the child will use this way to make the parent compromise. The most common is that parents take their children to the supermarket, and the children want to buy toys, but the parents do not buy them, so the children will lie on the ground and roll around to force the parents to buy the toys they want.
3) in a sensitive period of order;
Before the age of six, children will have a sensitive period of order, and adults will regard this as obsessive-compulsive disorder. The child will be very persistent in something, and must press the elevator button by himself when taking the elevator, and if someone presses it, the child will also cancel and press it again. The child wants to dress himself, but if the parent helps him to put it on, the child will cry and behave unreasonably.
Therefore, if the child frequently has similar situations, then the child has entered a sensitive period of order.
Therefore, it is very important to educate people at ordinary times, and parents should infiltrate these into their children's brains and make them aware of them, so that they will reduce the frequency of making mistakes.
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They will tell their children that this is not right, that they should be clean and hygienic, and that they should communicate with their mothers in the right way, instead of rolling on the floor. In this way, the child will be able to realize his mistakes.
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They usually choose to do their own thing, and they ignore this action, because then the child will realize his mistake.
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First wait for the child to vent his emotions, and then let the child stand up on his own. Finally, take it home for education.
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Cryogenic treatment. Neither immediately accedes to the child's request nor scolds the child. Make your child feel that this behavior is not the solution to the problem. Until the child is exhausted and he has relented, then reason with him and tell him what to do.
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First of all, parents should criticize their children harshly, and then let their children realize their mistakes, and never beat and scold and punish.
I helped solve the problem through communication and guidance. And it can also increase the relationship between me and my child.