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In the relationship between two people, many times it is because of the accumulation of little things together, which makes people feel very disappointed. These things may just be some trivial things in life, or even just a word from the other party, which will gradually form some harm in your heart. In the relationship between two people, I think that doing the following three behaviors will make people very hurt.

1. Treating feelings with disloyalty. Being unfaithful to your relationship and being unfaithful to your partner can be said to be taboo in your relationship. Everyone wants to be unique, so love is the same, and you don't want your partner to betray you in a relationship, if such a thing happens, then it will make people feel very hurt and sad.

For many people, there is no way to accept the fact that the other party, betrayal of feelings, and infidelity to love, in fact, some people can endure it, so there will be many hidden dangers in the future relationship between two people. <>

2. Disrespecting your partner. In the relationship between two people, the most disappointing thing is that they don't respect their partners, because two people have different living habits, different growth backgrounds, and different personalities, which determines that they also have their own different hobbies in life. If a partner will only interfere with or hit other people's hobbies, it will slowly hurt a person's heart very much, learn to respect each other's choices, because everyone is different, don't use your own standards to measure others, stand on the moral high ground to criticize others.

3. Don't know how to be considerate of each other. There are too many such people in life, very selfish, self-centered, always only know how to enjoy each other's contributions, and never know how to give their feelings for each other. In the relationship, two-way pay is more meaningful, we must learn to be considerate of each other, not easy and difficult, stand in the other party's position to think about the problem, rather than self-centered.

The most disappointing thing for me was that I had a fight with him on the street, and he actually left me alone on the street and left, which made me very disappointed.

My heart is not cold, and the most disappointing thing about the other party is that he was not able to calm my emotions in time when I was unhappy.

The most disappointing thing about the other party should be that he is not self-motivated, especially lazy, which makes me feel that my future life is not guaranteed.

What disappointed me the most was that what he promised didn't happen. Sometimes they promise me to go shopping with me on the weekends, but then forget about it because they play games.

The most disappointing thing for me is to say things that hurt me, because I don't feel like I've done anything to be sorry for him between me and him, and he shouldn't say that about me.

The most disappointing thing for me is that he still misses his ex after being with me, and this incident makes me completely disappointed in him.

When I had a fever and no strength in my body, he accompanied me to get an injection. When I got the injection, I felt cold because of the fever, but he put his cold hand on my body, and I felt that he didn't love me at all.

The two of us together are the one I pursue him, because I like it, at that time I felt that liking was the most important, and it didn't matter who pursued him first, so I stalked him to him, and after we were together, I also treated him with my sincerity, but I didn't get equal treatment, and after a long time, I chose to break up.

For example, the two of us have been together for so long, I have been doing this and that for him all the time, he has never done anything for me, such as dating if he says what time to go out, I will wait half an hour in advance, because if he arrives early and I am late, he will lose his temper in various ways, so I arrived early later, but he asked me to wait for more than an hour, wait and wait, I like no way, but I called you one after another, why don't you tell me how long you have to come out, You just let me stand alone downstairs, standing in the rain, standing in the snow waiting for you, can't you say a little later?

I like him very much, so I don't care about him, but every time I go shopping, why do I have to discipline me in front of my friends and classmates every time, is it just to show that I care about you, no matter what you say about me, I won't leave, is it just to show your self-esteem, don't others have self-esteem, I don't understand that I like someone, shouldn't I consider the other person's feelings, I don't understand when I like to become like this.

The last time, he asked me to stand in the snow and wait for him, let me buy him a meal, and it was for all six boys in the dormitory, and then stood in the snow and waited for him to come down after the game to get it, I wanted to bring it back, but I was afraid that he would go downstairs later, because he said that he would come down in a while, but I stood in the snow for more than half an hour, and the food was almost cold before he came down, and also complained that the food I bought was not delicious, saying that it was not the food he said.

I broke up with him because I didn't like him anymore, and I wanted love, not slavery.

It's that the other party says something very ugly little by little, and then he usually doesn't care about himself, doesn't love himself, and disappoints himself step by step.

It is a slow process for the other person to let their hearts be cold, slowly not paying attention to themselves, and then slowly ignoring their own feelings.

In life, the other party doesn't understand him, he doesn't care about himself, and he always lets himself face his love life alone, so that he is disappointed step by step.

In fact, the main reason is that the other party constantly deceives me, and he is hot and cold towards me, which makes me more and more disappointed in him.

At first, I thought that the other person was a very strange person, but later I found out that he was disloyal, so I became more and more disappointed.

We got acquainted when we were in junior high school, and we were lucky enough to be in a school although it was a different class, in the second year of high school"Caught up with the trend of the times and fell in love"Finish. In his words, he liked me for five or six years. But at that time, because we were a closed high school, it was completely forbidden for boys and girls to have too close relationships, so we generally sent them back and forth by letter.

But I'm a girl who doesn't like to express myself, and I don't like to talk to him about some things in my heart, and I never take the initiative to go to him. In this way, I slowly pushed him away, he felt that I didn't like him, and we broke up peacefully. Actually, it didn't feel like anything at the time, but then I felt that I liked him very much and cared about it, but I found out that it was too late.

When we got to college, we were so far away that he seemed to have completely forgotten about me. But I know that I still like him and hope that one day I can open my phone and receive his messages, but all this seems to be my fantasy, and he has not contacted me once. There were a few times when I took the initiative to contact him, but there was no reply from him after a few simple chats.

Until one day I jokingly asked him if he had forgotten me after not being in touch for so long, and he replied yes"How could it be, classmates for so long"At that time, my heart was holding my mobile phone and expecting his answer, and I didn't want to say a word, I felt like I was about to cry. I was thinking, I really fell in love with a cold person who shouldn't be liked the most.

Habit is a very terrible thing, sometimes you inadvertently say something that may hurt the other person's heart, maybe you just like to joke, maybe you sometimes don't choose to say so that you don't consider whether the other party will misunderstand after hearing it, so speaking is actually an art, if you don't know how to chat with others harmoniously, then sometimes don't say so much, just listen.

After that, I explained to him what I was doing, and then I felt more sad. Maybe it's also because he's more introverted, not confident enough in himself, and insecure, so sometimes he misunderstands my behavior. Feelings are not necessarily to be expressed, everyone expresses feelings in a different way, even if you don't say some things, the other party can actually feel it, the person who believes in me will believe me if I don't explain it, if you don't believe me, and I'm not familiar with it, I won't explain.

In my freshman year, I also caught up with the fashion and talked about a boyfriend outside the department, because he is a very slow person, so from the realization of love, it took me nearly half a year, and he also spent most of the year chasing me, and then spelled this fate.

I never felt that there was anything good about being in love before I fell in love, but I just looked at the people who were in and out of the pair, full of curiosity about happiness, but after falling in love, I felt that the advantages and disadvantages of myself and the other party were not like the ones deduced, they were all beautiful shadows. Every day we go out and come back together, go to the library together, his good is the kind of attentive good, I will think a lot for me, but I ignore him a lot because of this calmness and slow enthusiasm of feelings.

That's just what he told me, he said I was too quiet, and it took a lot of effort to feel my presence with me. It was precisely because of his words that I realized my inferiority and began to take it seriously. Because of him, I have become talkative, laughing, and teasing, and my roommates often say that I have a good boyfriend, which makes me both cheerful and sensible.

I think so too.

This relationship lasted until this year, he became an intern in his senior year, because we were busy and we got together less and left more, I was looking forward to the weekend almost every day, but what I saw was his deeper and deeper face, I knew that he was under a lot of pressure, and he had to accompany me on the weekend, so I endured it and told him that I didn't have to accompany him every week, and asked him to focus on work first.

I thought he would be happy for my thoughtfulness, but instead of looking at me and smiling as usual, he ate with his head down. It wasn't until I was sent back to the dorm that he grabbed me and told me that he wanted to be separated.

I didn't understand, I tried to calm myself down and asked him why. He said helplessly, saying that his family did not agree with us being together because of the long distance.

I don't agree with why I didn't say it in my freshman year, and now I don't understand, I can't agree.

I asked him what he thought.

He seemed to have thought it through, and without much hesitation told me what had made me desperate, and I suddenly felt that I did not understand his language, the meaning of his words, and the person who he was.

Will the person who was so good to me, who made me grow and change, really separated from me because of my parents' disapproval? I can't understand, I have asked more than once, whether it is in his dormitory, at the door of the internship unit, **, text message, I can't believe that I have spent the past three years in self-fantasy? But I couldn't get the signing I wanted, only after almost half a year, even if I was already cold-hearted, I had the right to treat him as a stranger when I saw him again, maybe I couldn't get by, but after so many days and nights of hard questioning, it didn't make any sense.

Maybe men are like this, when they love, they are dead set on you, and if they don't love you, they are not even as good as strangers.