What happened to the reconstituted families?

It is also ridiculous to say, ten years later, the aunt is no longer a young and beautiful big girl, and the so-called straightforward and simple true temperament has gradually become vulgar and ignorant, and he began to recall the gentleness and generosity of his ex-wife, and began to repent of the cruel indifference to me back then, and the Virgin Mary who married home has become intriguing after his intentions are elusive, and there is no lack of her pen and ink chasing the breakdown of our father-daughter relationship, yes, my old father began to regret it. Regret can't make up for the helplessness and hesitation of my youth, but this regret is back to my own father, and now I, looking at the old father with mottled hair and beginning to hunchback, can't say the accusatory words when I was young.

Before my mother passed away, my dad was really, really good to me, and then he was hehe, not abuse or anything like that, it was neglect and then later ignorance, accompanying me for my birthday and buying clothes or something is free to talk about, the kind of living expenses that have to be asked for every month, how much is the first sentence of a fever and cold. It didn't take long for my aunt to start living in the school, and when we met, it was endless noise, and I really didn't know what I did to make them unbearable to make them say, "You've been a very playful person since I entered the door", I was just 12 years old.

Of course, I was scared that I would be at a loss and doubt my life, but so what, negativity will not help you solve any problems now. I hope you don't go to extremes like I used to and make your life worse. When you see an irresponsible father and a stepmother who is not so friendly, you must also remember that you still have relatives and friends who care about you very much, please don't dispel the light in your heart.

You have to understand that from now on, there are no more people who love you unconditionally, you will slowly be different from others, I said it is different, you spend your parents' money is no longer a matter of course, and the support and sponsorship of relatives and elders is not taken for granted, you have to remember their help to you, you have to remember that he will repay their help in the future.

As a child who grew up in a restructured family, let's talk about my own experience. When I was 12 years old, my mother died, and when I was about four months old, my father brought my aunt into the door. The requirement is to get along with the aunt well, otherwise the aunt will leave, and he doesn't want the aunt to go.

So, whether it's my problem or not, it's mine in the end.

Moderate catharsis is necessary, but too much complaining will only strengthen your resentment and sadness in your heart, and only increase your weakness, and the road of life will eventually have to go by itself. Study hard, work hard, live well.

I'm 20 now, and the relationship with my aunt and my dad is just to maintain a good face, that is, I want to say that in addition to considering the feelings of the newlywed daughter-in-law, please don't ignore the feelings of the child, the child is very sensitive.

Dad is so irresponsible and excessive, isn't he not wanting me, I can not want him? This thought has been circling in my heart for ten years, but after all, it has left a door in his heart, and I said to myself, you just have to look back at me and I will forgive you.

How can a reconstituted family do well?

A reconstituted family is when both parties are divorced. Or both parties are widowed, and two broken families are united, which is also called a reconstituted family.

Definition: A reconstituted family is a family in which at least one adult has children in a previous marriage or relationship, i.e., a family in which the child of at least one parent is not related to the other parent or partner by blood or adoption.

Introduction to restructured families and single-parent families

A single-parent family refers to a family formed by a child and one of the parents, which is called a single-parent family; The reorganization of the family may be the result of a single-parent family, the reorganization of an orphan with another family, or the reorganization of a child with another family after the child's parents have been deprived of custody due to legal issues.

The number of single mothers has always been higher than that of single fathers. However, with the development of society, the proportion of single fathers is gradually increasing. Parents should pay more attention to their mental health, and seek appropriate education methods according to their children's pre-nuclear personality traits, both to prevent "simple and rude" and "excessive spoiling".

Problems should be identified as early as possible and seek professional help to solve them in a timely manner, so as not to let psychological problems seriously affect children's life and learning, and ultimately affect children's lifelong happiness.

The first question is whether both parents are able to accept each other.

For parents, they don't easily trust that someone would treat their grandchildren as if they were their own children. Grandparents are very fond of their children and don't want their children to be wronged.

In a restructured family, each child must learn to share his love, which is not easy for most only children nowadays. If children don't get along with each other, it's hard for parents to accept this fact.

The second question: the distribution of property.

For some restructured families, it is not only necessary to bear the maintenance of the parents and the education of the children. It is also necessary to give some financial support to the predecessor appropriately. It's a heavy burden for a family.

To reorganize the family, first of all, there are more children, and now education expenses are a lot of expenses. For average-income families, it is indeed a pressure.

The third question is whether children can be loved equally.

Many people do not dare to remarry after divorce, the main reason is that they are afraid that their children will be wronged. We can never guarantee that someone else will be able to treat your child as if it were their own.

Because you yourself can't share love equally with these children. Children will compare with each other, and in the long run, if the child directly has a big conflict. It will directly affect the love life of both parties.

Because, one or both parties have a history of marriage, therefore, couples who generally reorganize their families cherish their marriage more, so they prefer a stable and happy life after marriage, but in real life, it is the opposite, and there are more reorganized families separated by Seriga, for the following reasons:

One is the issue of children. One is when the children of one or both parents oppose the reorganization of the family; One is that one of the children cannot get along with the new parents and has conflicts; There is also a reason why the children are afraid of reorganizing the family and causing disputes over property. This is the main reason why families are reunited and separated.

Second, the division of property between the two parties is not clear, and the burden on the family is uneven, and they are both afraid of suffering. The reason for the reorganization of a family is that one or both parties have children, and both parties have selfish intentions in their property, hoping that their property can be given to their own children, which will inevitably lead to conflicts.

The third is that one of the new couples lacks justice and love, cannot treat the other party's children and their own children equally, and lacks care for the other party's children.

Fourth, both parties will compare the new object with the previous object, and their psychology will change, and they will be dissatisfied with the new object. will think that they have suffered a loss, so there will always be quarrels.

Fifth, the durability of marriage becomes fragile, and it is easy to divorce again. Because, having the experience of a previous failed marriage, they will lose their patience to persist in marriage, and when one party files for divorce, the other party can easily agree.

Sixth, the incompatibility of personalities, interests and behavioral habits makes it difficult for both parties to tolerate it, leading to divorce and marriage.

Yes, the key to happiness lies in the individual. It is said that no one can define happiness, but you can define the happiness you want. It is impossible to do what you want, but you deliberately let life do what you want.

And the reconstituted nuclear deflushing family, to a certain extent, is more able to empathize, after all, there are some things that have already been experienced.

It depends on the relationship between the two people, and the restructured family is also very happy. After all, it is a second marriage, and when you get married, you will think carefully before you come together.

In this current life, in fact, there are many reconstituted families, so in the reconstituted family, whether any class will give real feelings to the children of Dun Dun Dun Dun, then there is indeed this problem, and it is only appropriate for me to come, because I live in such a restructured family, so today I will share with you my personal views.

First of all, I think whether it can really be affectionate is the most important relationship with whether the family is harmonious, if a family, the two of them are not harmonious in their lives, then she will not be for her lover, pay the sincerity of this, I am very experienced, because in life, in fact, when I live with my stepmother, I can clearly feel that in fact, each of us is a perfunctory behavior for each other, Although I do guess that I want to get closer to him many times, I will find that there is always a large distance between two people, or a really thick wall, and it is difficult for two people to communicate openly or treat each other sincerely.

In fact, I think that in life, if two people are more happy in their families, or more harmonious, two people may get along more harmoniously together, then they may pay a little sincerity to each other, although I have never experienced it in this kind of life, but in my life there is no shortage of such a family, so they also get along with each other non-envy type of harmony.

In fact, I think the relationship is still a two-way street, so when you want to know if he is sincere to you, you can also ask yourself if you have paid him sincerely, but if you want to get the love of such a special family, it is actually more difficult and difficult to achieve, so I will never expect him to love himself deeply, or to be able to love himself a little.

When some adults make another choice about their lives, they hardly consider the feelings of their children and selfishly want to pursue their own happiness.

Everyone still remembers the hit "Family with Children" that year. A remarried family, three children with distinct personalities from two families, many people envy them for being able to live in harmony and always have a happy life like a complete family. But in real life, remarriage has caused secondary harm to many children, leaving a bad impression on the children's hearts, and if the restructured family is not too harmonious, it is the children who are hurt in the end.

Generally speaking, children hate divorce, they crave the love of their parents, and divorce deprives them of the right to enjoy this love. In the eyes of the children, the breakdown of the family has reduced the love they receive by half, and now the stepparents have broken into their family, and may also have their own children, each parent is selfish in their love for their children, and perhaps sometimes they cannot take into account the feelings of other children, they become the "aggressors" of the family, the "enemies" who deprive them of what little love they have, so they have all kinds of strange and incomprehensible thoughts, will do something different from the past, etc. Good students who used to be smart and excellent may gradually become unreasonable and depressed, and they will use their intelligence to provoke the relationship between their biological parents and stepparents, and hope that their biological parents will pour all their love into them and ...... to their stepparents' childrenThis kind of blind behavior gradually pushes them into a strange circle of deformity.

Therefore, remarried families will have a lot of bad effects on children, maybe some families are forced to do so, everyone has the right to choose again, but I hope to consider the child's thoughts, after all, adults can't let children become victims.

So how should a remarried family contribute to the family? First of all, strengthen communication with children, create a relaxed learning and living environment for them, and satisfy them spiritually as much as possible, so as to guide children to reduce their psychological burden. In addition, compensatory love or laissez-faire is unacceptable.

Remarried parents should give their children both a complete family and complete paternal and maternal love. Let the child feel the warmth of the past and accept the present.

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Yes, in today's society, there are actually a lot of restructured families, so in the reorganized family, will you give real feelings to each other's children, then there is indeed this problem of dispersion, and it is only appropriate for me to do it, because I live in such a restructured family, so today I will share with you my personal views. First of all, I think whether it can really be affectionate or not has the most important relationship with whether the family is harmoniousIf a family, the two of them are not harmonious in life, then she will not be true to her lover, pay the sincerity of this, I am very experienced, because in life, in fact, when I live with my stepmother, I can clearly feel that in fact, each of us is a perfunctory behavior for each other, although in many cases I do want to get closer to him, But I will find that there is always a big distance between two people, or a really thick wall, and it is difficult for two people to communicate openly, or treat each other sincerely. I think that in life, if two people have a happier family or a more harmonious family, two people may get along more harmoniously together, then treat each other with a little sincerity, although I have never experienced it in this kind of life, but there is no shortage of such families in my life.

I think the relationship is still a two-way streetSo when you want to know if he is sincere to you, you can also ask yourself if you have ever paid him sincerely, but if you want to get love in such a special family, it is actually more difficult and difficult to achieve, so I never expect him to love him deeply.