Do children really understand love? What does it mean to truly love a child?

First of all, you have to understand a real fact: not only children don't know love, but adults don't know love either. There is no one in the world who says that he understands love, and if he really says that he understands love, it must be false.

Have you ever thought about it: every man is married to only one woman, and of course every woman is married to only one man, and it is not easy to divorce. With billions of people in the world, is it possible that God has arranged it so accurately?

So that so many people have found the only love of his or her life, no. If there really is such a coincidence, then there will be no diversity in the natural world?

Love" is just a beautiful decoration. What is the peacock opening screen and the bird singing? Isn't it just to attract the opposite sex? It's a natural instinct of people and animals.

You are still a secondary school student, and you are a good student for your future life. But I believe that when you graduate from your PhD, you don't know what love is, because no one knows.

Love is a natural instinct, and if you don't feel that way, it's not a good thing, but if you feel it casually, it can hurt yourself and others. All people's expressions of love are very normal, natural, and beautiful. But love and receive love seriously, so that you can reduce the troubles in your life.

However, young people nowadays should not be too rational, because being too rational is also harmful, and it is necessary to properly control the proportions.

I wish you the best way to find love soon, because she is the best thing in life.

The child doesn't understand at all, it's just talking. They just think it's fun, but they think the other party is beautiful and handsome, so they like it.

This is also love, don't take love too preciously.

When you think you know how to love, you don't dare to love.

I don't know anything at all

Let's not joke with promises

That's just naïve thinking.

Children don't understand, they just have fantasies about love.

Dizzy pull, you go here and take a look.

100% left to them.

Then the parents themselves use their own pensions to support the elderly, and even use pensions to subsidize their lives, and then when they are old enough to a certain extent, they go to nursing homes by themselves.

It's called 100% love.

That is: all the benefits are mine, all the pressure is parental.

You're still struggling with love for something like this, you're so naïve. Do you think they really care about this kind of abstract stuff?

The love in their hearts is very concrete. For example, a house, such as a car, such as a ticket. Giving is love, not giving is not.

I read a question in one of the other sections: whether parents have a second child or not need the child's consent.

Then, a bunch of people made me numb.

Do you know what they say? They said, of course, of course. Because the second baby will take away their love.

I'm going to laugh, is it a matter of course to love you? Why can parents only love you one and no longer love Erbao?

Do you want all the love of your parents, do you love your parents? Are you filial to your parents? Do you deserve 100% love from your parents?

To be honest, people who say such things don't deserve a shred of love from their parents at all. Because of this selfish personality, they fundamentally do not love their parents, they just treat them as parasites who demand material things.

The only child is a product of a special era in our country. If there weren't that special period, not many parents would have chosen the one-child route. Because it will make many children think that everything is taken for granted.

After taking it for granted, there will naturally be no gratitude.

Many people say, no, our family is very harmonious, and my parents are willing to be good to me, leaving everything to me and so on.

Of course, your parents don't have a choice.

Parents of only children do not necessarily think that the child is good, how good, how worthy of pain, and many times they have no choice.

Many only children who say 100% love ask themselves, are you worth it?

In fact, with the exception of a few patriarchal, or patriarchal families. In most normal non-independent families, parents love each child 100%.

In the minds of many people, the so-called partiality of parents is completely the perspective of children. In fact, parents love all children the same in their hearts, they are all 100% love, but they are limited by objective conditions, and many times the material conditions cannot be equally divided.

And these so-called people who claim to love 100% of the people, in fact, their so-called "love" is whether the material conditions give more or less.

If you give my brother an extra piece of meat and give me a less, you just don't love me enough.

So much for. To put it bluntly, if you want 100% love, you just want 100% material.

Understand children, what should be communicated with children, maintain a good relationship, do not blindly impose their own wishes on children, parents should be supervisors for children, or a relationship of friends, not superiors and subordinates, and children should not have too much dependence on their parents, and educate children to be independent from an early age.

<> "Mom, please love me like this."

A child's private complaint.

Love, I think every parent will say that they love their children very much, but sometimes the love you give may make the child very depressed, burdened, etc.

I think as parents, we should listen more to our children's voices, communicate with our children, and communicate more.

The best education for children is for parents to accompany their children to grow up.

parents are the best teachers

Do you really understand the love that children want?

You didn't scold loudly when I was vexatious, and you didn't compromise immediately, but calmly accepted my emotions and thought about the reason for my crying from my point of view.

Do you really understand the love that children want?

When I said a dirty word when I was angry, you didn't immediately label me with "Bad boy.""Instead, he told me: "You can be angry, but it's much more useful to be brave enough to express your true feelings than to swear." "

Do you really understand the love that children want?

When I lied to avoid punishment, you did not lash out, but understood my inner anxiety and helplessness.

Teach me that it's not scary to make mistakes, give me the courage to face them, and teach me how to take responsibility.

Do you really understand the love that children want?

When I made a mistake in front of everyone, you didn't dislike me and be embarrassed, but tolerated my shortcomings and encouraged me to stand up in ** when I fell!

Do you really understand the love that children want?

It was when I got a very low score that you didn't disappoint me, but hugged me who was disappointed, and accompanied me to find a way to encourage me to learn what I didn't learn.

Do you really understand the love that children want?

It was when I didn't meet your expectations, you didn't lose confidence in me, but understood that I have my own rhythm, and understood that I also want to do well, but I still lack time, methods, and practice.

When I got good grades, you didn't immediately hit me and ridicule me, but shared the joy of progress with me and encouraged me to continue to work hard and become a better version of myself!

We do not deny that any parents and elders need to love our children, but the concept of love and the concept of doting are very different. Loving children is from a positive and correct direction, so that children can get a good education and growth;

And spoiling is an incorrect and inappropriate way to make children form unscrupulous behavior habits. So spoiling is really not a good thing, and it is easy for children to have problems. But now there are many mothers who are particularly doting on their children, especially the following points.

1.In fact, many mothers also know that this approach is not quite correct, but their behavior is often contrary to their own ideas, and they will still follow their children even if they know that it is wrong. In fact, this is also because the mothers spoil their children too much, because they dote on their children too much, they are afraid that the conditions proposed by the children will not be met and they will be in a bad mood, so they have to compromise with the children in the end.

On weekdays, no matter what the child wants or what he wants to do, the mothers are satisfied one by one, which is one of the first manifestations of doting on children.

Everyone should have seen the scene that will be described next: when a child falls on his own, he does not cry at first. But when the mother came to her side to care for her, the child began to cry.

One of the truths expressed by this example is that giving children too much attention will make them feel more vulnerable. So when the child does something small, or something small happens, you don't need to pay special attention to the child. If you pay too much attention to everything, it will only form a greater dependence on the child's mind.

No matter what happens after that, the child may not be able to become independent. Therefore, this kind of spoiling is also very undesirable.

3.Arrange everything for the childMany mothers always use the excuse that the child is still young to help the child do everything well. There are some things that children are indeed out of their reach, and it is certainly understandable for mothers to help their children do these things.

But there are also many things that children can do on their own, such as eating, dressing, putting on shoes, brushing teeth and bathing. But often these things are all taken care of by the mothers, and there is no chance for the children. Mothers always feel that their children are not good enough to dress themselves, or to bathe and wash cleanly, but the problem is that if they don't let their children try these, then when will they learn well and do well?

So arranging everything for children is also a big manifestation of doting.

Parents who are often smart, no matter how wise they are, will lose their rationality when facing disputes between their children and other people's children, and even do particularly unreasonable things. It is inevitable that there will be some small contradictions and frictions between children, but mothers often feel sorry for their children and are unreasonable, blindly complaining about each other, and rarely criticizing their children's mistakes. And this kind of performance is even more of a kind of doting, and this kind of doting is likely to make the child become unreasonable in the future.

It is not the doting of the principle of no pants shooting, nor is it nagging about the truth of Li Chun's limbs, nor is it controlling the child in the name of love in the world, and making him your appendage.

True love is to let go of the hand that controls the child, try to run forward on his own, and the child sincerely appreciates you, takes the initiative to imitate you, and learns from you.

There's really only so much you can do, just let him know that you're looking at him from afar as he's on his way.

But. No matter when and where, as long as I think of you, there will be warmth and strength in the child, because your heart is always together, this is true love.