It s hard to be with your boyfriend, isn t it time to break up

To be honest, the girl's four-year relationship suddenly broke off is a big blow to both men and women, and his obsession is very normal to miss his ex-girlfriend, after all, people are animals with feelings, and it is impossible to forget But it can be forgotten, you need to give him time, and now he is just immersed in memories, which is understandable, all you have to do now is to talk to him and clarify his thoughts Whether you want to be with you or not to be realistic and then decide whether to leave him, so as not to regret it. Good luck girl, spend every day happily.

If you love him and want to be with him, continue to enlighten him, but looking at your description, I feel that you are still ...... away from himHis four-year relationship is not something that can be let go of in one or two years, during this period he will treat you like you said, you won't be able to stand it, or find someone who loves you and is suitable for you!

You have to decide for yourself Before giving you and him a chance First of all, don't worry too much about yourself, and tell him the confusion and sadness in your heart (pay attention to the tone of tactfulness when you say it), if you say it, he is still like that, then it is better to separate directly After all, you and he may be sad in the future.

Talk to him and tell him everything that is on your mind.

Break it off! There is a give-and-take.

It's up to you to see how long you've been with him.

1.Because the relationship is deep: If you have been with your boyfriend for a long time, then the relationship between you is already deep, and this relationship is not something that can be parted in a short period of time.

The joys and sorrows you have experienced together, and the good times you have spent together, will make it difficult for you to let go of them in the moments of separation.

2.Because of the uncertainty of parting: parting means uncertainty about the future, and this uncertainty can cause you a lot of stress and anxiety. The uncertainty of not knowing what dilemmas and challenges you will face after leaving your boyfriend can be very unsettling.

3.Because of the change of habits: after being with your boyfriend for a long time, your life, habits and lifestyle have formed a unique pattern, which has become a part of your life.

When you leave your boyfriend, you will face a completely different environment and lifestyle, and this change will be equally difficult to accept.

4.Because of the pain of separation: In addition to the reasons mentioned above, separation itself is a painful process.

Being separated from your boyfriend means that you will be away from him, and it is a painful experience. You need to adjust to the loneliness, to the feeling of emptiness that comes with losing him, and it takes time and energy to adjust.

Hello, in fact, the feelings you think are not deep, in your heart has changed, if the feelings are really not deep, you will not be particularly sad to break up, which also shows that in fact, in the depths of your thoughts, your feelings are already very deep!

Because your relationship is gradually flattening, unlike when you first fell in love, bland tends to be dependent, which is why when he is not by your side, you are uncomfortable, in fact, this is also a kind of love that tends to be dull, and people will unconsciously become dependent. That's why you don't feel emotionally deep, but you're particularly sad.

Sad, it means that you have also invested in this relationship.

Feelings are two-sided. It can only be combined if both parties are in love.

Feelings cannot be forced, even if they are obtained by short-sighted tricks or even deception, they will not last long.

Feelings also need to be managed. Only when two people have similar views will they go far.

It is recommended that you communicate sincerely, understand each other's concerns, dispel misunderstandings, and enhance understanding.

Good luck.

If the feelings are not deep, it does not mean that there are no feelings!

And people have feelings, it is impossible not to react to a breakup, isn't that a cold-blooded animal?

And in a relationship, it is impossible not to invest in your feelings, and once you are involved, you will inevitably fall into it, which is normal.

It's best to keep yourself in a relationship, because you are you, you are the most beautiful.

Henan friends are together, and they don't feel so deep feelings, but they will be particularly sad when they break up, why is this? This is because your relationship also tends to be flat, unlike the state in love at the beginning, dull tends to be dependent, and habits become natural, which means that when he is not by your side, you will be very uncomfortable, this is also a kind of love, it tends to be plain love, just like love and marriage, you are now in the state of marriage, that is to say, people will unconsciously become dependent on something or someone, that is, it makes people feel like part of the poker style, People are unconsciously accustomed to the various good and bad brought by another person to you, so you feel very sad, that is to say, everyone has been with another person for a long time, if you suddenly don't socialize, don't speak, of course you will feel sad, this is the habit of natural psychological state, that is to say, he is in front of your eyes every day, every day in front of you, good and bad for you, you have now become a habit, so if this habit suddenly disappears, you will feel particularly lonely, especially uncomfortable, this is human natureAlthough you say that you have no feelings, in fact, your feelings are slowly tending to be flat from love, you are now in a bland state, you have feelings tend to be bland after love, bland feelings, feelings will sometimes still be gladly accepted, some people will feel that there is no emotion, it is this feeling, this is the person's thoughts, views determine his statements and practices, ideas and views determine the results, this is the difference between people and people, people stand from different angles, think about different problems, different qualities, Emotional intelligence and IQ are all different, so different people have different lives.

Because you will feel unwilling, because you have given your feelings, but you have not got the results you want.

Because I haven't met a better one than him.

As for what you will miss each other after a breakup, I see the following points:

1. The other party has long formed a habit of being good to himself, and he will naturally think of the other party. In a relationship, the other party's care and concern for themselves is one of the reasons to maintain the relationship. After a long time in love, I have long been accustomed to the care of each other, and there will be traces of each other everywhere in life.

Even if you propose to break up, you will often think of the good of the other party. For example, when you get off work, someone will pick you up, someone will pick you up when you eat, and someone will help you when you open the lid. Suddenly, your life is not as convenient as it used to be, you will encounter difficulties everywhere, and there is no one to help you with care.

In that moment, you will often think of the old one who is good to you.

2. Seeing other people showing affection, or seeing something that has the common memories of two people. On the road of love, two people always have a lot of sweet pasts, a lot of memories and things to do together. And when you propose to break up by yourself, you feel that the other party has not met your requirements, but your heart will still be dependent.

When you see things that the two of you have experienced together, or things that you have had good memories with, you will always be touched by the scene and remembered the bits and pieces of the past. You will feel sad and sad, after all, there is a other person, you can do happy things, someone helps you share your worries, and someone helps you create more happiness.

3. After all, two people have loved each other, have been attracted to each other's former advantages, and want to be able to last for a long time. But because he proposed to break up, the other party did not keep the relationship and did not continue to insist on it. The girl still feels unwilling in her heart, and wants to let the other party know that she is good, so that she can turn around and coax herself, give herself a step down, and maintain her relationship.

But the other party's abandonment is still difficult to give up in the girl's heart, and she will often recall it.