How to solve the problem of being treated hot and cold by roommates?

Reduce the time you spend in the dorm room and find something truly meaningful to make yourself better. Be a good self and you will attract like-minded friends. You have to dare to be different from others, maintain a hard work attitude and a good attitude. Improve your behavior and be self-reflective at all times.

Don't take it personally. You live your own life and don't cause trouble to them, just as they don't cause you trouble. When they talk to you, you tell them, and when they don't talk to you, you can do your own thing, but be careful not to disturb others.

Otherwise, that's what they say about you in the future.

Secondly, do not do unto others as you would have them do unto you. Again, don't deliberately please anyone, you can take the initiative to speak, but you must not be humble or arrogant, don't blindly pander, and don't deny yourself when you have different opinions. In the end, you have to show your own courage, since you can't be gregarious, bravely show yourself, and speak with your achievements.

You may feel lonely at times, but the road to success is never a bustling street, but a narrow road that only allows a few people to pass. So, either lonely or vulgar. If you don't have a solid family background and don't have a good job arranged by your family, then it is highly recommended that you keep working hard.

This is an increasingly fair society, and as long as you are willing to maintain an upward attitude, your destiny will be rewritten now! And the more successful you are, you won't even care about how the dorm people treat you.

What's even more terrifying is that some students who have a little stronger willpower and can maintain self-improvement and maintain their learning state are easily regarded as outliers, isolated, and even ridiculed by others in the environment of collective truancy in classes or dormitories. But what Senior Sister wants to tell you here is that human beings are a species with a strong sense of self-identity, and it is easy to have a good impression of people who have the same concept as themselves, and feel that the other party agrees with them, so we often like to be close to people who have similar three views to ourselves. However, you also have to realize that most people are mediocre, so it's understandable that mediocre people like to be friends with people who are just as mediocre as themselves.

In fact, the reason why roommates are annoying is mainly because they don't agree and live too close. Although everyone is a college student, reading more really doesn't mean that you have a good upbringing. So what do you do when you meet a strange roommate or when you are considered unsociable by your roommate?

First of all, we should first improve our behavior on the basis of caring for others, and reflect on ourselves at any time. Maintain your self-esteem, but also draw your own bottom line.

Your question, recall what you did to make him unhappy? Or what he wanted you to do but you didn't? Find this problem and communicate with the roommate. If you're just trying to deal with negativity, I think you should know better how to make yourself happy.

People who dare to maintain a progressive attitude are not destined to be mediocre, so when you get up early to memorize words and go to the library to study, you don't have to care about other people's strange eyes, and you don't have to feel sorry for what others say, after all, the gap between people is generated in this little bit.

If he is such a person, then you should treat him in the same way as a person, and let him know that you are not a vegetarian either.

If you have such an attitude, he will definitely be a little unhappy or strange about your attitude.

Then he will definitely come to complain about your dissatisfaction with you and ask you why you are so kind of attitude towards him now.

Then all you have to do is ask him why he is hot and cold to you, so that you don't know what to do with him. If you like it, you like it, and if you don't like yourself, you won't force him.

We should be skillful when we speak, so that he can feel that the root of the mistake is not you, but him, without offending anyone.

If he likes you, he will slowly change his habits in the future, and he will pay attention to your feelings when he talks and acts.

There are all kinds of strange things in college, it's nothing to meet such a roommate, girls have a little temper of their own, and your little mistake may be serious in his opinion, after all, everyone has a different view of life. For this kind of person, don't care too much, because you said that he is also your better friend, so you care a lot about her views and attitudes towards you, then it is this to make more friends, let yourself be the focus of everyone's attention, your unhappiness makes them care a lot, college is like this, requires a high degree of independence, let yourself be amazing, whether it is academic or school activities, as long as there is something to do, you will not spend too much energy on him, my freshman year, I think there are a lot of strange things in school, But I'm still having a good time

I'll tell you a truth: a slap doesn't make a sound. If there is a conflict, there must be a problem on both sides. If you are more humble, the problem will definitely be solved.

Remember a sentence, what others do to you, you treat them the same way, don't be soft-hearted, hope to be useful to you.

Keep a little distance, because distance produces beauty, when she cares about you, you will entertain a few words, ignore you, you should not have this person, keep a distance from her, can't get too close, some people are cheap, the better you treat her, the more she doesn't care about you, in turn when you ignore her, she is more and more good to you, some people are like this, the easier it is to get and not cherish, the harder it is to get the more to pursue!

It's good to be normal, do what you want, don't have to think about others and be careful, the more careful it is, the more difficult it is to maintain, and try to show your true self without touching the danger line between friends. Looking at your self-description, I feel that you have not really released your heart, and you are not happy, and others will naturally feel bad.

It's just a roommate, don't care too much, just go with the flow, don't deliberately please her, it's cold, he's hot, you're hot, it varies from person to person, it's good to get used to it gradually, don't be demanding for others, wronged yourself, just grasp the measure, no one owes anyone.

I think you live too humble, since you are a friend, you should make it with your heart, obviously his family doesn't treat you as a real friend, I think it's useless to have such a friend, you can broaden your horizons, participate in more school club activities, make more friends, care about your friends, people have to learn to throw something!

He is hot and cold to you, which means that he is a snobbish person, he is enthusiastic about you when he needs you, and cold to you when he doesn't need you.

This can be natural, don't deliberately force it, it's cold, he's hot, you're hot, it varies from person to person, it's good to get used to it gradually, you don't have to ask for yourself for others.

This kind of fickle person can't really treat him, after all, he doesn't see you as a friend. So this kind of person should keep a relative distance from him.

It doesn't matter, if you give convenience to others, others will also give you convenience, if you feel that some things are inappropriate, communicate slowly, don't be careful, treat each other with the heart of the city, and your roommates will like you. People cannot lack communication, understanding, and tolerance.

Maybe there are such people in every dormitory, don't like things or feel sorry for themselves, and have a normal heart, what should they do.

It depends on what kind of person you are, and it depends on your own ideas.

Don't look at others. Depending on what you do.

Make friends with the feelings of tolerance from parents and not asking for anything in return, and I dare not say that we are 100% brothers and sisters with each other, but 100% no one hates you.

It's best not to live with them, and it's better not to be troublesome or troublesome for people who have a lot of things.

Treat him with the same attitude.

Don't think about his blank, just think about his good.

If a man can marry a very beautiful wife, then no matter how you look, I believe that when you take your wife out, you will definitely usher in everyone's envious eyes, so a beautiful wife is like a decoration on the façade, although it is not too appropriate to say so, but men probably think so in their hearts. Everyone has a love for beauty, and some people ridiculed: Men are the most dedicated, no matter what age they are, they like twenty years old.

What does twenty mean? Youthful, beautiful, beautiful......? Marrying a wife is not a beauty pageant.

Those girls are both talented and beautiful. "Of course, beauty is not synonymous with stupidity, but beauty is all the same, and the soul is colorful.

I also treat my intimate friends sincerely, and I don't pay sincere friends if I fake them.

Just use the most normal attitude and maintain the most insipid way to treat it, and the roommate relationship is just as fateful.

Actually, I often feel the same way about you, because I don't think our dormitory relationship is very harmonious. There were four people living in our dormitory, but there was one person who didn't get along with us, of course, the main reason was her own problems, but let me be honest, each of us had one or another personality flaw.

So if you have a problem like that, don't panic, I think it's a normal phenomenon, at least in the girls' dormitory, and I think if you want to be yourself, you don't have to worry about other people's feelings, because it's very likely that you're taking into account other people's feelings, and other people don't necessarily take care of you.

Take myself as an example, I have also experienced this kind of thing myself, for example, in high school, in the same dormitory, because I felt that I had to deal with the dormitory relationship, so I cared about the girls in the dormitory in every way, no matter what happened to them, I was the first to stand up, and I could help them if I could, but then I gradually found that when I encountered something, they did not necessarily help.

So I saw this myself, so gradually, I didn't treat them as well as I used to, and my relationship with them remained in a balanced state, so I want to say that if the people in your dorm are hot and cold to you, it's not a problem at all, or it's not as serious as you think.

I used to have a friend who had a good relationship at the beginning, but after getting acquainted with her, I found that her hot and cold times were really painful, and when she was enthusiastic, it was really good, and I felt that our relationship could reach the level of best friends, and everything could be shared.

But when she got up, even if you said goodbye to her after school, she wouldn't pay attention to you, it's such a polarized contradiction, and then I thought, bear with it, everyone has advantages and disadvantages, and there is nothing to tolerate a little.

But in the end, I still feel that this is too painful, and it is better to be friends again, so that everyone will be a little more relaxed, you keep your character, and I will keep mine, so that everyone will not have any more conflicts.

In my opinion, the best way to get along with someone is to go with the flow, you don't try to please someone, and you don't deliberately alienate someone, so that you don't feel embarrassed or confused about your relationship. I think this should be the best state of making friends, and I hope you can understand what I said.

Don't put this at ease, your roommate must have his own reasons, don't think too much, if he wants to talk to you, you can talk to him more, he doesn't want to pay attention to you, you just do your own thing, don't do anything deliberately, just go with the flow.

You need to have a good chat with them, treat them to dinner, hang out together, and just talk about it.

Don't get along with people who really can't get along, stay away from your roommates, it's good for everyone, whether it's in study or dormitory life.

You should have a good talk with Sheyou, see what your problem is, and after you make it clear, your relationship will get better and better.

Then just keep a certain distance from him, because this is the most embarrassing relationship between acquaintances and unfamiliars, and it is better to be like a stranger.

This is a very normal thing, don't worry too much, your relationship with your roommate can't be good all the time, you have to get used to this change.

You can talk to your roommate, find out why you are too sensitive, and see if you think too much about it.

Keep a normal heart, when the relationship is good, care more about the other party, and when the relationship is bad, there is no need to deliberately please, the twisted melon is not sweet.

Interpersonal relationships can't be forced, everyone has a different personality and a different way of getting along, so this situation can only go with the flow.

Then play more with your roommates, soak with your roommates every day, share some things about yourself, strengthen the connection between each other, and find common topics.

Usually I am so cold that I can't do it, I'm a top student in our class, and at the end of the term, he began to treat me well, and began to ask me how to do questions, and began to ask about borrowing all kinds of notes, I really hate this kind of person, but what can you do, you can only endure these few years, and you have to swear that you have to study hard, get admitted to graduate school, find a good job, drive a luxury car, and then pour cold water on me and then pour it back. What I actually want to say is that your roommate is cold to you, it doesn't mean that other people are also doing the same, you still have to live happily, make a few more friends in college, and maybe you can help yourself when you come out in the future.