Is independence really bad in society?

There has never been a black-and-white decision-making in this world, only a matter of personal cognition. What you say, "Is it good to be alone in this world?" "I think it's a matter of personal values, some people will think it's good, because it's a very avant-garde way of life, and then of course some people think it's bad, because it conflicts with our thousands of years of social and family concepts, so this question just depends on whether you think it's good or not, and you don't have to care about other people's eyes at all.

In my opinion, "being alone in society" may represent a kind of celibacy, and I don't think there's anything wrong with that. There is a saying that "to exist is to be reasonable." We should all admit that each form of life that exists in society can exist, and there is no such thing as good or bad, but everyone chooses a different way of life.

Maybe some people don't think your life is a good thing, and they think you may be lonely. But in your own eyes, as long as you are comfortable, you are happy, and you can tell anyone very directly, "I think I like this kind of life very much", then it is actually very good, because in fact, this way of life gives us a lot of freedom to a certain extent.

We all say now: as long as it suits you, no matter what kind of lifestyle you have. No matter what status or person we are, we will face the same things that we need and what we end up getting.

So we don't need to care about other people's eyes, and we feel that other people's eyes will actually make us very tired all the time. Rather than this, it is better to find what suits us and choose what we have enough. For celibates, being alone in this society is inherently part of their own values.

And they don't hurt anyone, they just want to exist in an independent form of life in the whole society, which is a way of life that doesn't depend on others, which sounds cool.

I think it's better to think about how to be alone in this world than to think about whether it's good to be alone in this society. Because you already have this idea, then you really want to become a celibate person, then you don't think about what you should do if you really want to "be alone in this society" or how to make your life better, this is the most important thing. Instead of thinking about whether this question is good or not, the same life, some people live well, some people live badly, it all depends on the person who lives the life.

"Du" means a person, in this prosperous society, people seem to be accustomed to talking and laughing in the noisy crowd, as if only in the crowd can they find their own sense of existence.

Presumably most people have seen Liu Tong's "Your Loneliness, Although You Are Defeated", there is a passage in it that I like very much: Your face is calm and light, and no one knows how tight your teeth are. You walk with the wind, and no one knows that you still have bruises on your knees from falls.

You laughed heartlessly, and no one knew that you could only cry silently. To make people feel effortless, you can only work extremely hard behind the scenes. Indeed, a person's world only knows the ups and downs, we want to integrate into the circle of others is easy, as long as you want to join, understand the rules of their circle, but it is difficult to learn to be lonely, and it is very difficult to endure loneliness, we now always have a kind of person who is alone is the person who is abandoned, the person who can't get along with others, looking at the pedestrians on the road are in pairs, and you are a little desolate if you are alone, On the contrary, I feel that others will say that you are the only one and must not have good friends or anything like that.

Just like when we were in school, what we saw were also in groups, fighting, rarely the kind of alone, I still remember when I was taking the teacher qualification certificate alone, no one could go to the classroom to study together, only to go to the classroom by myself, when I went to the classroom, whether others were studying, playing, not to mention dating, at least two people, I felt that I was quite lonely, but then I slowly got used to it, I knew that a person is also very good, a person is rare quiet, You can calm down and think about some things, you don't have to think about disagreeing with others, you don't have to cater to others at some times. When we are lonely, we can be alone with ourselves, and we can enjoy reading and traveling alone. So I think in this impetuous society, it's good to be alone, you can let go of other distractions and be yourself.

Today's society may prefer teamwork.

Teamwork can better create value, and of course, everyone has a clear division of labor, which can also make things more efficient and faster.

However, if you go it alone, things may not go so smoothly.

In particular, if you live alone and withdrawn, you may not feel young now, but what if you get sick one day and need someone to take care of you. Don't say you're physically strong and won't get sick. No one can say for sure this kind of thing, once you get sick or have an accident, how can you take care of your own life alone.

At this time, you need the help of friends, and after having friends, it may be that you are alone, but after two or more people are together, it will become very simple.

For example, if you're moving, of course you can move by yourself, maybe you have to go back and forth many times, and then the furniture is moved one by one, but if you have friends, isn't that a lot easier all of a sudden? We all moved everything at once, so you don't have to go up and down the stairs many times by yourself.

Of course, there are many things that you may not be able to solve alone, or there are areas that you are not involved in. But you're just running into something right now, and it's in this field. For example, if you hit your car and you don't know much about insurance, at this time, if you have a friend who understands insurance, it will become much simpler, and things may be solved all at once.

Independence is not bad, it may also be your attitude and way of life. But we can't be alone all the time, we're isolated all the time.

We live in an environment full of people, we need to communicate with people more, and connections are very important.

In today's society, we not only value your ability, but also your social circle and network.

Therefore, we still have to go out, now is not the time to work behind closed doors, one person's ability is strong, I believe it is better not to work as a team.

I read this morning: Excerpt from Oda Li's book "Women, the most important thing is to live a good life":

I feel a little guilty about two or three people in my circle of friends.

We added WeChat through different channels, worked with one of them for a short time, bought one or two other things, they are all young people, and there is one thing that I appreciate: diligence! They work hard in their respective fields and understand life very well.

They all asked me out for coffee or tea. I said, okay, when I'm free, let's go together.

But this agreement has not yet been fulfilled.

In the final analysis, it's just that I'm lazy and too "lonely".

Carefully calculated, the life of this alienated group has been more than ten years. There is no loneliness in life that needs to be endured, but it is very enjoyable.

Now, every morning after sending my children to kindergarten, I walk to a café for a drink, and then I go back the way I came, occasionally buying some groceries on the way. When you get home, sit on the balcony and soak up the sun. Then work, make lunch.

Watch a movie at lunchtime. In the afternoon, I will drive to exercise or swim. In the evening, after taking the children home, play and wash and sleep.

After she falls asleep, I read a book, or work for a while.

It's a good life. There was no part of it that made me feel like I needed someone to talk to or get together.

There is less and less need to meet new people.

Du, Chinese character, pronounced dú, radical 犭. Shape sound. Traditional Chinese characters from dog, from Shu, Shu also sound.

Chinese name only. Total stroke pinyin.

dú radical. Traditional.

Unique 1Single, only one: sing. Stand. Tyrant. Cut out. Create. Special. Finding a new way (a new style or a new approach).

Discerning (describing a keen eye and superb insight).

2.Old and childless: widowed and orphaned.

3.Could it be: "Don't you see the people who are interested in the market?"”

4.Orphan surname.

5.The particle of the language, as if "it": "Abandon the king's life, who will accept it?".”