How to guide the jealousy of a six year old?

I think if you want to guide a child not to be jealous, you have to start from life, words and deeds are the best education, and the influence on children is also the most effective.

A child's first teacher after birth is his parents, and his parents' behavior directly affects what kind of person a child will become when he grows up. If you want to control your child's jealousy, I think first you need your child to learn to share, selfishness is the source of jealousy, jealousy that others are better than you, jealousy that others have more than yourself...This is all a bad sign. Secondly, do not instill in your children the concept of comparison in family life, once they like comparison, then jealousy is inevitable.

So remember that your child will always see you as their teacher, and you must think twice before you say anything in front of your child.

But what if your child already has a jealous mentality? First of all, you should guide her carefully and explain to her that jealousy is a bad behavior, and it is best to use your own example, or the example of people around you. It's easier to be there that way.

Although the child is only six years old, they already have their own subjective thoughts, and you can explain to her what is right and what is wrong. He will have a deep-rooted understanding of the matter. And even if it is to take care of their parents, they will learn not to compare and be tolerant.

You can envy but not be jealous, it is best to let the child learn every bit in life is taught by words and deeds, and lay a good moral foundation for the child, so that he can become a dragon among people in the future.

All in all, no matter how to educate children, parents are the best teachers!

The most important thing is to make the child aware of his own uniqueness, he is a unique individual, there is no other him in this world, his appearance, personality, body, everything, is unique. No matter how good others' grades are, how good their personality is, and how much their parents and teachers praise him, his unique self is unique. Tell him, you see, there are never two leaves in this world that look exactly the same, and in the same way, there is no other you.

Think about it, is it interesting to have someone who is just like you in everything, or you are exactly the same as another person, so that you are not unique at all.

On the other hand, you also need to cultivate children's self-confidence, self-confidence is good for children in many ways, you as a parent must encourage your children, let your children know that they are the best, and do not praise other people's little pot friends in front of children, but praise their own children.

At the same time, you can make your child better than other children of the same age from an early age, that is, improve your child's own ability first, so that he becomes the object of envy in the eyes of other children. You can first apply for those Chinese, mathematics, English or Olympiad competition classes, and you can also apply for some other interest classes, which can be musical instruments, dance, calligraphy, as long as he is interested, you can. Let him stand out from children of the same age when he is young, so that he will not envy other children, because he himself is good enough.

Of course, this method is also more extreme, adding too much burden to the child and making him lose the meaning of childhood. It may also have a lot of negative effects on the child, but if it is successful, it will have a lot of positive effects on the child's future path.

1.Make the bath humorous.

Jealousy is common to all. This negative mood is simply innate. Babies who are more than 10 months old will react with crying and disturbing when they see their mothers breastfeeding other children.

When some children reach the age of five or six, they will feel unhappy when they see that other children's toys are better than their own, and their clothes are more beautiful than their own. Among gentlemen, jealousy is also a very rare sight: some gentlemen will fall to the ground because the teacher praises their peers; Some of them are overjoyed that their classmates surpass them in their studies or their exam results are second to none, and they are ......

Jealous teenagers have a strange temperament and find it difficult to get along with their peers, and if they are not corrected in time, their personality will be further distorted, their souls will be purified, and their conscience will be extinguished. After such children enter the society, it is difficult to have harmonious interpersonal relationships, and they will encounter unexpected difficulties in career, social, family and other aspects. Ancient medical research has shown that jealousy is a kind of restless mental behavior with personality defects, and the excessive irritation that occurs can cause fragmented central nervous system and endocrine fragmentary dysfunction, reduce immune function, and easily provoke a variety of psychosomatic diseases.

So, how can parents and teachers help children avoid jealousy?

Children who live in jealous families tend to have a strong sense of jealousy due to the influence of family members. Therefore, parents should take the lead in setting an example and educate their children with their wonderful words and deeds. When parents find that their children show the germ of jealousy, do not blame them strictly, let alone speak coldly, so as not to damage the child's self-esteem, they should listen to the child's complaint honestly and patiently, and then analyze the results with the child, and eliminate all kinds of confusion in their hearts in the storm.

Comparison and jealousy are human nature, children's problems are often not serious, but serious is the anxiety of parents, and it is parents who project excessive anxiety generated by the fear of their children's "badness" onto their children. Children, it is God who gives all parents a chance to hone themselves and improve themselves, and all parents should focus on perfecting themselves.

When children are six years old, there is jealousy, and we should correctly guide children out of this misunderstanding.

Last time we talked about jealousy, in fact, jealousy is one of our most common psychological states, but if this common psychological state is not adjusted, it may form a vicious circle, and it is very important to control your jealousy in time, and even eliminate jealousy in time.

In most cases, we can adjust it through psychological immunity, in other words, if you use psychological cues to tell yourself not to be jealous of others, you should cheer for others, repeat it every day, after two weeks, you will have a corresponding psychological immunity.

However, many people's psychological immunity is still poor, so they need to be adjusted in other ways, most of the ways next to Hongxiang, the more effective is through family and friends and friends and lovers, often, communicate and chat, go out to eat, go out to climb the mountain, go out to travel, are possible. It is a great help to get rid of jealousy and low self-esteem:

When it is necessary to have a feast, you can also communicate with the psychiatrist, let the psychologist give you psychological counseling, and slowly you will come out of the jealousy, in short, no matter what, the most important thing is to adjust yourself, if you are just negative to avoid jealousy, blindly to scheming with others, can not cheer for others, see others are good, unhappy, how can not adjust.

Therefore, it is necessary to challenge self-willpower from two aspects, on the other hand, on the other hand, it is to communicate with others, and finally wish that the landlord can be happy every day and everything goes smoothly and the whole family is healthy.

<>1. The first is to affirm the child's sense of competitionWhen the child has a sense of competition, parents should give affirmation. But instead of focusing only on winning, let children know the importance of a sense of competition and participation. In this way, the child will not only care about grades, but will also ignore the most important things, and at the same time ease his jealousy.

After all, jealousy in competition is mostly natural for children because they are too eager to win.

2. Correct your child's jealousyParents tell their children that jealousy is allowed. However, excessive jealousy can lead to the depravity of their hearts. Therefore, parents should reasonably guide their children to accept their own jealousy, and then do not focus on the jealousy of others.

Because it is more important to improve yourself than to be jealous of others.

1. When the child's audience makes the child reasonable and appropriate, the child will definitely show it through some words and actions when the child is jealous. Parents should pay attention to their children's behavior, be good at being their children's listeners, and patiently help their brothers eliminate jealousy. When the child is jealous, when he has a tantrum, parents can not criticize his jealousy at once, but can do some other things with the child to divert it, such as playing with some sensitive judges, etc., and slowly wait for the child to calm down.

2. Parents should lead by example and pay equal attention to words and deedsResearch shows that children living in families full of jealousy often have a strong sense of jealousy due to the influence of family members. Therefore, parents should take the lead in setting an example and educate their children with their own beautiful words and deeds. When parents find that their children show the sprouts of jealousy, do not blame strictly, let alone sneer, so as not to hurt the child's self-esteem, should listen to the child sincerely and patiently, and then analyze the problem with the child, and eliminate all kinds of confusion in his heart in the gentle wind and drizzle.

3. Tell children about the harmfulness of jealousy, parents, as the first teacher of children, must tell children the harmfulness of envy and jealousy, and let children understand that this is a pathological psychology, if children have jealousy, they will slowly develop resentment towards others, which is very detrimental to the unity and friendship between classmates. It is very harmful to oneself and others, and jealousy often leads to retaliation.

4. Help children establish a confident mentality, often children will have jealousy due to their own lack of self-confidence, now many children put their interests first at a very young age, and their self-awareness is relatively strong, once they have suffered any setbacks, they will have inferiority complex and feel that they are inferior to others. The more you want to maintain your inferiority complex, the more you like to belittle others to balance yourself, so you are prone to jealousy. So be sure to help your child build self-confidence.

5. Let children understand that it is better to surpass others through their own efforts than to be jealous, and when children have improved through their own efforts, parents should guide their children to compare whether it is more meaningful to surpass others through hard work than to surpass others by being jealous of others. Let children see the strengths of others, learn from others' experience, and make themselves better, so that they can surpass others. After the child understands these truths, then the jealousy does not exist.