Is there a bit of hypocrisy on the part of polite and thoughtful people?

Politeness is one of the important impressions you make when dealing with strangers. But being too polite often creates a sense of hypocrisy for others, especially in front of yourself or your superiors, being too polite will make others feel that you are flattering this person or slapping the horse, making people feel hypocritical and disgusting at the same time. <>

This phenomenon is a feeling that others will have, whether the person concerned has this meaning, whether the real intention behind the politeness is to please others, or really polite, we have no way to verify, so we don't know.

It is precisely because of this mentality that I will only be basic polite to people, especially those who are better than myself, and only limit myself to the most basic, but don't think that I am the kind of person who does not know how to be polite, then I am too wronged. I still have the politeness that I should have, but I don't think about it a lot, and I think about it very thoroughly, because I don't want no one to say that I tend to be inflammatory. If you do a good job, others will praise you for being polite, and if you don't do it well, you will be said to be hypocritical by others.

As for whether politeness and thoughtfulness is a little hypocritical, I don't think it's entirely true, and it is not excluded that some people are born with a more delicate mind and will consider others thoughtfully, we can't generalize, and all polite and thoughtful people are considered hypocritical people, which is too hasty, whether this person is hypocritical or not, or to consider from many aspects, if he wants to achieve some of his improper goals through thoughtful politeness, then, of course, there is no doubt that he is a hypocritical person.

So, a polite and thoughtful person is not necessarily hypocritical. It should also be analyzed on a case-by-case basis.

I actually have a lot of respect for polite and thoughtful people, because first of all, let's not say whether it's hypocritical or not, but in the end, polite people are better than impolite people, so I think that many times if you meet polite people, you will be much better in terms of communication.

I have personal experience of this, because of my own work, so sometimes I need to go to Party A to check the data, and then if I meet some difficult people, they will be very rude, and they feel that they are going to fight at any time, but some of the person in charge of Party A will be very polite and very reasonable. I think that a person's quality and quality are shown in his words and deeds, so sometimes polite people are needed in this society, and I think it's okay to be hypocritical occasionally.

is like the goddess in the minds of many boys in the entertainment industry, Sister Chi Ling, many people think that Sister Chi Ling is very fake, from his baby voice, and then complain about her personality, because everyone knows that in fact, Sister Chi Ling is very good to others, whether it is fans or those celebrity friends, and then she is very polite, and she doesn't play big names, just like the feeling of a big sister next door, and then someone stood up and said that Lin Chiling is a very hypocritical person, very pretentious, pretending to be innocent, pretending to be innocent, this kind of thing.

But Lin Chiling has never refuted anything until now, because she is a polite person, just be yourself.

So now Sister Chi Ling is still the same as before, so I think if a person has always been so polite and knows how to be humble, then it is not hypocrisy, but a manifestation of the kindness of this person's heart.

That's for sure, otherwise how can you be polite and thoughtful? People are animals with thoughts and feelings, not all people and things can satisfy themselves, and some people can make us feel disgusted for no reason and no reason, which is human nature. So those humble gentlemen who look like they are respectful to everyone on the outside are actually just hiding a lot of their feelings and pretending to be very polite to interact with others.

Just like those salespeople, salesmen in the sales office, even if they can see at a glance that a customer is poor, they will still politely explain the various advantages of their building to the customer. And the identity of the customer is cleverly elevated high in his own words, so that the other party has a sense of pride and vanity, and finally even if he goes home to take out a loan, he has to buy the building.

People who seem perfect are people who pretend to be perfect. Their psychology can't accept their own imperfections, so they must be demanding of their perfection. Most of these people are psychologically unhealthy, that is, they have various psychological disorders.

Just like when I was younger, the thing I longed for the most was that my family could praise me for being good and excellent. Later, I tried my best to cover up my shortcomings, hoping that those shortcomings would not be discovered by others. Treat anyone with respect, for fear that some of your own practices will make the other party unhappy.

In fact, my heart is very bitter, wronged by myself, happy with others. It makes sense if you call this cover-up hypocritical, after all, it is something that is performed, not a sincere idea. However, most of the polite and thoughtful people are very modest, and their hearts are very fragile, even if they are disguised as polite, it is a kind of respect for others.

Politeness and hypocrisy, to be precise, should be politeness and politeness.

If it is out of sincere politeness, the expressions and movements will be more realistic, not the kind of pretending to be.

If it's just polite, the cold and warm on the surface, then you can know it at a glance.

Hypocritical people speak insincerely, and there is a little flickering in their eyes, which sincere people will not have.

Politeness and hypocrisy, don't be too clear.

When I was in school, I read a small article by Lu Xun, which means that a family has a child, and when people go to congratulate them, they will say that the child will live a hundred years and so on. If anyone says that the child will die, it is true, but the Lord will drive him out. Lu Xun's meaning is probably to criticize the hypocrisy of the Chinese.

But if you think about it seriously, when someone gives birth to a child, saying words of blessing and congratulations is not hypocrisy, but respect for the owner.

Many times, we can't do whatever we want, we can't say what we want, not because there is anything wrong with the words and deeds themselves, but completely out of politeness and concern for others, which is also the meaning of following the local customs.

If someone else has a child, and you go to this house, if you care about the feelings of this main family, of course you won't talk casually. If you know the character of this lord very well, and you know that you don't care what you say about him, then it doesn't matter if you tell the truth. There is also the slow situation that you are not a mortal yourself.

Not all of them are saints.

This is a very simple truth: everyone will have some dark and bad thoughts to a greater or lesser extent, but they are well controlled, and they are not allowed to affect their own behavior, in this case, if you still want to obsessively dig out these thoughts, dig out the ugly part under the mask, you will be very disappointed in human nature, infected by all kinds of negative consciousness.

This is called "sincerity".

In contrast, I would choose hypocrisy.

It doesn't have to be that the more polite a person is, the more hypocritical he is. A person's politeness may be due to self-cultivation, and a person's politeness may be just to disguise oneself better.

The more polite a person is, the more hypocritical he is, but the more modest and cautious he is, who knows how to be polite and respectful to others, and who knows how to respect people more than hypocritical people

In my opinion, I think yes, polite and thoughtful, not all out of intention, there is always a little bit of hypocrisy, it is true, but as for why, who can say clearly.

No. A polite person is a well-educated person. Impolite people, uneducated.

Politeness is the most basic condition for doing things, and it is also the first thing you must understand when getting along with people.

Excellent people always know how to respect others!

China has been known as the "State of Etiquette" since ancient times, which shows that the people pay the most attention to politeness. What is Courtesy? The scope of politeness is broad, there is respect for teachers, brothers, friends and brothers, communicating with each other in a rational way, putting yourself in the shoes of others, etc., this is politeness.

This is not 100%, some people are based on their own literacy!

This can't kill everyone with one shot, some are very hypocritical, but some are also very upright.

Politeness has nothing to do with hypocrisy. It should not be equated.