How can I not be afraid of others and not be shy.

I don't know your specific age, it shouldn't be very old, I'm more introverted and shy First, I'm not happy every day, and I don't have any friends. I don't know what kind of friend you yearn for, in fact, the world is very realistic and busy, it is very difficult to find a relatively intimate friend, we still have to rely on ourselves, regulate our emotions and adapt to the environment. You didn't say why you were unhappy, if you were unhappy because of something specific, you had to be brave enough to solve the specific problem.

If it's a persistent bad mood with no specific reason, it should be a problem with your state of mind. This requires you to change your perspective slowly, which is very slow, more difficult, and also a matter of establishing a life outlook and values. Second, I am afraid of shopping and meeting strangers.

You didn't say how scared you were. It is normal for girls to have a certain degree of shyness, and they will withdraw when they encounter strange unknowns. You have a clear understanding of your situation, you are not autistic, and do not expand your personality difficulties into mental illness.

This only adds to the burden on oneself. I think you can find friends to go shopping with, such friends don't have to have a good relationship, ordinary friends can do. At the same time, it is also a way to build friendships.

It is also possible to participate with friends when there are strangers. This is a great way to overcome your fears, and you can get to know each other and become friends with the people around you. Thirdly, I think it may be difficult for you to be bold and proactive in reaching out to strangers.

If the results are not as good as expected, it can also increase the psychological burden. The more you want to make a good impression, the more you can't do it. If you are not mentally prepared, you don't have to force yourself to do so.

Take a good look at the people around you and pay attention to what kind of topics can arouse the interest of others. You can practice it when you're alone. Fourth, you are very mindful of what others think of you.

In fact, everyone cares about what others think of them, once someone clearly shows that they don't like themselves, or even laugh at their own attitude. Everyone will be embarrassed and shy. It's just that some people show it and some don't.

Because we can't live alone from the crowd. So it's normal for you to care about other people's opinions, but a shy personality magnifies this mind, paying too much attention to other people's attitudes, and amplifying other people's unintentional, slight information. To learn to relax, you can't ask everyone to like and approve of you.

Some irrelevant attitudes are negligible. In fact, what you mind is that others don't like you, or look down on you. Such worries will only increase your worries.

How do you know that people don't like you? Maybe many people appreciate your quiet personality, but they are afraid of hurting their faces, but they won't make it clear? Relax, be confident, and trust that someone will find you good and special.

What are you afraid of, you have to tell yourself that this makes people feel very uncomfortable, even annoying. I'm afraid it's useless to speak boldly, it doesn't matter if you face up to others, others do the same. Speak louder and don't make it difficult or inaudible.

Tell yourself that I'm great, not worse than you.

If possible, shy people can try to integrate into a new social environment and gradually overcome their shyness. Suggest yourself as much as you can to be confident, improve your skills, and develop your hobbies.

First of all, you have to gradually make your voice louder, which is the first step for you to get rid of shyness.

Secondly, you need to take the initiative to talk to others, starting with acquaintances.

If you do the above two points, you shouldn't be shy.