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I'm a man, and my family is in a similar situation to yours. Let me put it this way, living with the elderly is prone to incongruity, and it is better for the young and the old to live together, and everyone is happy. And the relationship will be better.
If you can't solve it for a while, you have to think more about your husband, if you blindly think about your parents, and snub your husband's ideas, the consequences will be more serious. There are some words that men are inconvenient to say.
Listen to me, young people can't live with old people. It doesn't matter who pays for the house. It's not a matter of gratitude or gratitude, respect or disrespect.
It's not convenient to live together. My situation is more serious than yours, and I have reached the point where I can't stand it, and I told the accountant directly, it is inconvenient to live together. Quarrel with my wife about this.
The reason is that my wife doesn't think about me. I don't understand my suffering.
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Men are very self-respecting, and your husband lives with your family out of helplessness, and he must be aggrieved in his heart. As a wife, you have to think more from his point of view, after all, he has a feeling of being under the fence. It is recommended that you still live alone, even if the conditions are a little worse, but you will be very happy.
I wish you all happiness!
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In fact, there will be a lot of problems living with the elderly, the old man has a lot of traditional things, young people may not be able to do it, I think he is not intentional in this regard, but there will be some dissatisfaction in some aspects in his heart, it may be revealed to the subsection, in addition, you think about it, how his parents lived, what I want to criticize you is, don't have some crooked thoughts in your mind, it is your husband who will be with you all your life, and your relationship with him is the most important. The affairs of the elderly can be solved by means of communication, and do not deal with some things of course.
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Is it your own mentality, just missing a little greeting is disrespectful? , You said he told your mother and daughter to go out and fall, I think you completely blackened your meaning of fishing for the father, your mother wants to go out, he will take care of the children himself and let you play with your mother, this is filial piety, you are too harsh on your husband, you want him to have the same mentality as you to your parents, how is it possible?
Relax your mentality, think more from the side, compare what your husband has heard and seen with your husband, and other people's husbands who are not filial to their parents, and you will find that your husband is still full of loveliness.
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Maybe he's not a careful person! If your parents don't say anything about him, don't worry too much! If your parents say that he is wrong, then you can help him explain it on the one hand, and communicate with him on the other hand!
But you don't have to blame him, maybe you can teach him how to do it!
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Eldest sister, I think you are a little too harsh, there are a lot of things that you think in your own heart. Your husband may be tired of taking care of the children because of the old man, so he let you go out to take care of the children, and besides, what is he worried about with you and your mother?
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It's that you think about it too much, every detail, maybe it's just that you think about it, everyone's thoughts are different, maybe he doesn't do well, but it's not a problem, the problem is that being together is to live a good life, not thinking about it, and regretting it in the end It's yourself So a little trouble, just let him go Family harmony and beauty are the most important thing I wish you happiness all the time.
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Look at how your husband treats his own parents, if the difference is too big, you have to communicate.
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I knew this was the case, why bother in the first place?
Can you communicate well Why can your family do this?
Why do you have so many ideas.
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Regardless of the reason, parents should not be disrespected, there are thousands of men, and there is only one parent.
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1. If your husband looks down on her mother's family, it is not recommended that you learn from your husband, if you are not good to your husband's family, it will not be able to solve the problem, and you can only make more and more family conflicts, and the situation will get worse and worse.
2. If the mother's family does not know that the husband looks down on them, then they must keep this secret and not be able to tell the mother's family this information, otherwise the mother's family will definitely feel uncomfortable. Of course, you can't tell your mother-in-law about this kind of thing, because after all, her husband is her son, so she will help her son no matter what.
3. How to deal with the husband who looks down on his mother's family, it is recommended that everyone communicate well, and if there is anything to say, you can explain it to prevent some misunderstandings. If there is a misunderstanding, then everyone can open the knot.
My husband doesn't respect me and my mother's family, so I shouldn't get a divorce.
1. If your husband does not respect whether your mother's family wants to divorce, you need to look at it according to the situation, not impulsively, it is recommended that you communicate it first, to see if you have misunderstood or the fact that the situation is like this, different analysis in different situations, the result will definitely be different.
2. If it is because of your own misunderstanding, there is no need to divorce, you can communicate with it, and it is possible that your husband has some misunderstandings about your mother's family, if so, then solve the misunderstanding, and then open the husband's heart knot.
3. If the husband does not respect his mother's family, this is an indisputable fact, and after communicating with the husband, he is still the same as before, like this case, I think there is no need to live together, because respecting parents and elders is the most basic, and even if you can't do this, it means that there is a problem with your character.
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This shows that your husband does not love you, and if he does, he will definitely respect you and respect your family. So in this case, you should keep an eye on it and don't let the chickens fly and the eggs beat.
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Don't just look for someone else's, you summarize why you don't respect your family, everything is there for him.
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Tell him about him, let him know right from wrong!
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In fact, this problem will appear in many families, and when encountering such problems, we should not avoid or impulsively do some irrational things, but actively communicate. First of all, I will point out that my husband's approach is wrong, even if the parents do something bad, we should not disrespect them, but solve the problem; Then I will talk to my husband about the reason for doing this, find out the contradictions between them, and open the knot between the two parties.
If your husband is disrespectful to your parents or speaks loudly, it is definitely not right, it is not only rude to your parents but also disrespectful to you.
Both husband and wife are mutual, first of all, you have to do what you should do well, be filial to your in-laws, be good to his parents, if you do this, the other party is still not good to your parents, then it must be his problem; If there is any misunderstanding or contradiction between your husband and your parents, then you have to adjust in the middle, eliminate the misunderstanding and contradiction, and everyone live in harmony.
The other thing is that you have to look at your own attitude towards your parents. Your attitude is very important, if your usual words and deeds do not care about your parents' attitude, then he will definitely not respect your parents. We have zero tolerance for our husband's disrespect for his parents, and we have to make him understand from the beginning that this is unacceptable to you, and it is impossible to condone his attitude.
Moreover, you need to examine your marital relationship with your husband, if he ignores your parents like this, then he must not respect your feelings, either think that you are not financially independent enough and rely on him, or he thinks that you are more cowardly and unprincipled, and he has no way to treat him, and he does not respect you, of course, he does not respect your parents.
Then you should communicate well with him and let him think about Wang Yan, if he is still bent on going his own way, then such a husband himself has a problem, and a person who doesn't even talk about filial piety can't talk about being responsible for the family and loving the family. Then such a husband should think carefully about whether you really want to spend your life with him.
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Even if he doesn't respect your parents, then you do the same as he does and don't respect his parents, which may change the fact that he will respect your parents.
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Do a good job of ideological education.
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If your husband does not respect your parents, this can lead to tension and conflict in family relationships. Here are some suggestions when dealing with this situation:
1.Communication: Talk openly with your husband about your feelings and tell him why you feel he is not respecting your parents. Make sure your tone is gentle to avoid sparking an argument. Try to improve this problem together.
2.Seek compromise: Find mutually acceptable solutions that are mutually acceptable to both parties. For example, you can suggest practices to enhance the flow of friendship and understanding between the couple and the parents to promote better coexistence.
3.Family Meetings: Consider organizing a previous family meeting in a relaxed, open environment for your husband and parents to communicate directly. Encourage everyone to share their opinions and feelings to help improve understanding of each other.
4.Seek counseling or professional help: If the problem persists or can't be resolved, you may need to seek help from a counselor or family therapist. They can provide more in-depth guidance and support to help address potential family dynamics.
Whichever approach you take, it's important to be patient, understanding, and respectful so that all parties can build a harmonious relationship.
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