After a failed relationship, I was always afraid of falling in love

Being a human being is still very important, you shouldn't be ashamed of yourself because of the failure of your relationship, won't this disgusting cycle delay yourself? The failure of a relationship doesn't mean that you're not good, that you're not worthy of him, or anything like that, it only means that you're not destined for it, and if you're languishing now because of this little thing, then even if you start a new relationship and there is a conflict in the middle, then do you have no information about the new relationship?

You should now believe in yourself and develop your self-confidence that you engage with someone who has self-confidence and you will find out.

He will exude an inside-out aura It will be very comfortable to be with him Open your hands Come out of your grief Go and touch someone Maybe the next person will be with you for the rest of your life All you need to do is believe in yourself!

I wonder how long you've been in a failed relationship? If it's a short time, don't let yourself be quiet first, give yourself a space to be free and think, if it's a long time, you don't want to be shadowed by the failure of the last relationship, if you really can't do it, you can see a psychiatrist, see what your problem is, haven't you heard "failure is the mother of success"? Be brave, friend!

To believe and affirm yourself, green vegetables and radishes have their own love!

Brother, I'm just like you! This proves that we are infatuated! Just try this, slowly forget about her, forget the bits and pieces with her! (Of course, it's hard) will get better!

It seems that you are still in the early stages of your relationship, and there is no need for this. Girls nowadays are more open than boys think

As long as you don't ask for looks, there will be a company of women.

There is always such a period of time, it is not your problem, be confident!

This situation should have occurred in most people, as long as everyone is sincere in a relationship, there is a high probability that they will be afraid of love after breaking up, and they dare not try to fall in love easily. After all, I have been injured once before, just like being bitten by a snake for ten years and afraid of the well rope, it is understandable that everyone is afraid of it. <>

Of course, I know that there are many people who are very decisive and straightforward in their relationships, and they will quickly get out of the sad mood after the breakup, and may soon start the next relationship, and will invest in it. But such people can only account for a part, and it does not mean that everyone can have the courage of theirs. Because I'm one of those people who take a long time after a relationship is over, I can understand what it's like to be timid after a breakup.

Next, I will talk about what you should do in this situation. <>

The emotional wounds that people suffer after a broken love take time to heal, especially those who have been hurt badly in a relationship may not dare to start a new relationship for several years after the end of a relationship. But don't feel inferior or anxious because of this, it's normal. Since you can't let go of your feelings quickly, then give yourself enough time, and love is not something you can have in a hurry, so you can wait for your injury to be really ** before starting a new relationship.

I understand that I don't dare to trust others after a failed relationship, let alone give my sincerity to others, but everyone always has to take that step, and you can't stop falling in love because of a bad experience last time. You can give yourself some time to adjust your emotions, but in the process, you can not completely lock your heart, but also try to accept the people around you. The last time the relationship failed, it can only be said that the person is not the person who will accompany him to old age, and those who can be entrusted to him for life have not yet appeared, so we must try to accept others, otherwise we will really push the best person away.

At this time, you should change your mentality, you should change your state, you should recognize and appreciate yourself, and don't pin all your hopes on others. Be sure to divert attention.

You should try to get out of the social circle, expand your social scope, follow the advice of some friends who have come before, face your feelings bravely, always look forward in life, don't become timid, and don't dare to fall in love easily, so it's easy to go astray.

You should pay attention to your emotional problems, don't make yourself nervous, and also pay attention to your mentality, don't let yourself be too inferior, if you have free time, you can also travel, you can also go shopping, you can also go to the movies, you can also go to listen to **, because these methods can divert your attention, and you can also make yourself very happy.

You should change this mentality, you should have more contact with the opposite sex, you should become more confident, and you should make yourself better, so that you can fall in love.

Psychoanalysis: I'm just a sensible girl, and I have my own ideas, and after I went to college, I fell in love. was originally full of his own longing and hope to talk about this relationship, but it turned out to be controlled by the sleepy mind.

I feel very distressed about what happened to the subject. But fortunately, the subject stopped the loss in time, knew his mind control, and finally succeeded in getting out, but the subject's uproar hall has been unable to get out of this shadow in his heart, and he dare not fall in love. But not all boys will mentally control girls, and we have experienced a hurt and our own inner growth.

How could it be so easily mind-controlled again? So how do we avoid being mind-controlled in a relationship? ?

If you always feel dominated in a relationship, or even feel that your personal value has become small, you always feel that you need to get better in order to be indiscriminately matched with him, you feel tired of love, anxious, and isolated, these are all signs of "mind control", if you find this hint, stop the loss in time. ?The injured party in mind control often has a strong sense of guilt, and this guilt can also hold the victim back in a wrong relationship.

We should understand that it is unreasonable for us to take full responsibility for the conflict in this intimate relationship, and that we cannot and should not take the blame for the mistakes made by the other person. ?After being hurt in an intimate relationship, the abused person often chooses to compromise to avoid conflict and maintain a "bad balance" in the relationship.

But in fact, when we are wronged, the abuser will only intensify the harm, and in an intimate relationship, there is no need to maintain a "bad balance", not afraid of conflict, stop hurting is what we should do. Love is not control, it is not possession. We need to be wary of mind control in love.

Once you are aware of these signals, you must make your position clear in time and get out as soon as possible. Best wishes

I have seen a lot of stories of failed love, so I am afraid of falling in love, because love is something that everyone yearns for, and if you have expectations, you will naturally be disappointed, so you will be afraid of falling in love. No matter how much love you hear, you might as well try to experience it yourself, whether it is success or failure, it is a life experience.

First of all, if we are afraid of love, we must face up to this psychology, fear is not a flood beast, it is a normal psychology. Although love is something that everyone yearns for, no one's life is smooth sailing, and the same is true for love. If the road of love goes smoothly, it must be a kind of luck to meet a person who is in love with each other and ends up from the beginning, and there can be only one mode of love in reality.

Many people have a bumpy road to love, and failure in love does not mean anything, after all, there are many other things in life besides love.

Secondly, when we encounter a failed relationship, we should also examine ourselves, let ourselves slowly let go, and summarize why the last relationship failed. The best way to indulge yourself once in a while and let your sad feelings be released in time is to chat with friends or people around you.

In the time when you are single, don't give up easily, it's better to take this opportunity to cultivate yourself well. There is a good saying that if you want butterflies, you should not try to catch butterflies, but plant flowers. It's the same with people, only if you are good enough, you will meet better people.

Love is not immutable, as long as you are willing to believe, one day, you will meet the person who really understands you and loves you. Everyone only has one chance to live, and we should live as we want to be. Don't compromise easily, don't give up easily.

Only when you have experienced love will you know how to maintain love, so even if you have heard countless failed love experiences, it is inevitable to be afraid and worried, but this should not stop you from being brave enough to pursue love.

In short, I hope that each of us can meet our own love, where the heart desires, there are expectations, and I wish all the people in the world can eventually become married.

I don't think you should always watch some failure stories, you should read more success stories and find confidence from those successful relationships.

I don't think you should be afraid, just because they fail doesn't mean you're going to fail, maybe you're the only one who is lucky.

I think that you should talk to your family or friends more about this situation, so that it can be well resolved.

Then you are not suitable for love.

Are you a cricket brother or a moldy girl?

I'm also unreliable.

In your case, it is typical that the previous feelings have been hurt and now you dare not pay. Actually, in this case you don't have to be anxious, don't be anxious, you have to do it.

First, carefully analyze why your previous two relationships, hurt and why they left, find out why, and then learn from the experience to pay attention to these things in the next relationship. Second, don't be anxious, improve your ability to distinguish others, meet the right person, treat each other sincerely, but also learn from the previous lessons and learn to use your brain. Otherwise, you will not be able to find the right person because you will choke on food.

Wishing you happiness!

When a person's relationship fails, they will be afraid of encountering such feelings again, afraid of being hurt, this is a very normal phenomenon, this period of time you don't look for any love is no problem, but people are a kind of animals with desires, and when you don't have a long time, you will go to find another relationship again, and then you will forget the previous pain, this is human instinct.

It's like this just when you failed, and after a while you'll be fine, go out bravely. Find a loved one again and live a happy life.

What are you afraid of, if you want to love, don't be afraid of hurting, come back when you hurt, hurt so much that you can't hurt anymore, you will be invincible.

Don't be afraid to come out as soon as possible. Go and look for your volume, look for your love, everything will be fine, and believe that the future is good.

Hello, in fact, whether it is a boy or a girl, in the relationship, there will always be times when things don't go well, but don't be easily discouraged.

If you are a girl, it is recommended that you can maintain your single status for a little time, you can find your girlfriend or a good same-sex friend, pass the time together, divert attention, let you get out of the demanding love and painful love, and slowly find your true love, girls to find true love, in fact, it is not very simple, but there is always fate, believe in yourself, don't be afraid.

If you are a boy, you can summarize from your experience why you failed before, what is the reason for your fear, summarize it, and then implement it step by step to the opposite sex you are pursuing, so as to avoid mistakes, and you will not be so afraid.

There is no return for giving, this is indeed a difficult problem to explain in love, but this is not something that can be solved in a short period of time, so you can only rely on yourself to slowly grope and find the person who is indeed suitable for you.

It's not so much that I don't have the courage to fall in love, but that I'm afraid to get to know someone again. It's like when an article is almost finished, but the teacher asks you to rewrite it because of your sloppy handwriting, although you remember the beginning and content, but you don't bother to write it again, because an article has spent all your energy, and you are only short of an end but you have to start all over again.

A breakup does not actually affect a person's sense of love, but the way of dealing with the love life before the breakup and after the breakup. influencing one's own perception of future love life. Many people like to put a sentence on their lips after a breakup:

I don't think I'll ever fall in love with anyone else."

In fact, this is telling others how hurt they are. Often this kind of saying is actually self-healing very quickly. The most difficult to get out of are those, holding all the grievances and pain in your heart and bearing it silently alone.

This type of person may often have nowhere to vent because of the pain they have endured, resulting in the idea of escape and fear of love.

Hurting in a relationship is a traumatic experience. When the experience is too intense, you need to vent all your emotions. After venting, the defense mechanism will wrap you around like a shell, affecting your cognition, your behavior, and making you an unlovable person.

Only after you have rested enough, summoning up the courage to face the traumatic event and finding an acceptable explanation or meaning for the event, can you let go of your defense mechanism and restore your ability to receive love. Only when you can receive love, can the outside love come in, and you can truly get rid of the shackles of the past and embrace the right person in front of you.

Sanmao once said: "What is the heart, there is like a thousand miles of maze, thousands of miles away, there is no boat to cross people, except for self-crossing, others can not help." ”

Only by crossing oneself can we cross people.