21 year old marriage, family, mother in law and daughter in law are so annoying

Well, basically most women have the same experience as you after getting married.

I am. Of course, there are some differences.

1. Speaking of children. I guess you're a stay-at-home wife! It's not good.

Hurry up and free yourself from the burden of being a housewife.

After your child goes to kindergarten, you can go to work, and if the family can help you pick you up, it is best to let him spend the day at school if there is no one. In short, don't just revolve around the family.

2. When my husband comes back, he must be very tired, you should try not to disturb him, you can hug him and tell him about today's children's interesting stories. It's easy for people who work to get angry when they get home and if someone is still nagging on the side. So, serve him well, pour him water, pinch his shoulders, put his arms around him and say he's tired.

You can also tell me how tired you are and ask him to help you pinch your back?

3. It is not easy to take care of children, so the hard work is certain, but you have to find a way: go shopping with your children (buy groceries), talk (ask what to eat while walking), tell stories (learn with children, cultivate children's good habits of reading), play games, or do housework to let children help (swing shoes, pick up tabletops). ）

4. The relationship with my mother-in-law, alas! The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is the most difficult problem to solve since ancient times. So, be less careful, be more patient, after all, it's an old man, after all, it's your husband's mother.

If you can't bear it, it's not good to quarrel, and it will only destroy the relationship between husband and wife. If it doesn't endanger its own great interests, then endure it! Death endure!

Desperately endure! 5. Regarding the second child and others, alas, don't worry too much, I also let myself not think too much, anyway, I have the ability to make myself live well, don't I? Why do you look at people's faces. (So you have to work, you have to be independent, you have to fight for status).

As for the title, I don't think anyone older than me should call me sister-in-law, right? He's awkward, and I'm awkward. I was the same year as my sister-in-law, and we were both called by name.

It's nothing. It's really nothing. The New Year's will be called, or don't give her a red envelope, haha o ( o haha

Eat vegetables or something, it's better for me to clip it myself, I don't know if it's good to eat it if someone else clips it, eat his saliva! Disgusting! I don't want someone to bring me food. My husband's is barely OK! Hee Hee ( Hee Hee ......

If you are with your husband, you won't be angry, that's enough, the person who will accompany you for the rest of your life is your husband. If you don't have a good relationship with your in-laws, you can consider splitting up and moving out. In fact, at least more than 60% of the daughters-in-law who live with their in-laws do not have a good relationship with their in-laws.

You quarrel with your mother-in-law, and your husband stands on your mother-in-law's side, although it is a little eccentric, but it is a traditional filial piety, because it is his mother, and you also have a son, just imagine, if your daughter-in-law joins your son to quarrel with you in the future, how sad will you be? I'm afraid that I will be in the mood to drink pesticides, hehe, of course, this is just a hypothesis. So, when arguing, it's right that your husband can't be on your side.

You can communicate with your husband that when you quarrel with your mother-in-law, he can remain neutral. Also, it would be unwise for you to consider divorce just because you don't have a good relationship with your in-laws.

Dear mianyun1991, I can understand your grievances, at the age of 21, you bring your eldest son by yourself, the pressure and hard work can be imagined. Moreover, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law often cause conflicts due to trivial family matters, and the tension between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law leads to disharmony in the whole family. What I want to tell you is that in a big family, the mother-in-law has a preference for which side, don't care too much, talk about principles in big things, style in small things, don't care about your own gains and losses, and take the initiative to sincerely help family members when they need it, which is conducive to resolving conflicts and improving the relationship.

I think the main problem is that you have a bad relationship with your husband, you don't have a lot of communication, you don't get support and understanding from him, and you become like a powder keg. The hotter you are, the more silent he is, and the more silent he is, the hotter you are. Instead of complaining negatively and throwing tantrums, you have to ask positively and speak directly about your needs.

To be honest, there are not many mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law who have a good relationship, unless they don't live together.

zhi can't do it, so I have to make do with it, you don't.

You have to take things too seriously, and you can't tell what they are. There is a saying"It's hard to get confused', so that you don't take everything to heart, everything doesn't matter, and the days go by day by day. Every family has a scripture that is difficult to read, and in a blink of an eye, people will be old.

The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has not been very good since ancient times, and most of them are not good.

It's that you think too much、Marriage is something that everyone will experience、

I have some suggestions for dealing with family and kinship:

1. Be humble, don't be a needle to each other about everything, give each other more opportunities to talk, think more about each other, avoid unnecessary conflicts, and family affection is priceless.

2. A surprise creates a dramatic effect, and often many contradictions are lost in jokes.

3. Divide responsibilities, assume your own responsibilities and obligations, do more for the family, and think less for yourself.

4. Dualized communication, many conflicts are due to the lack of communication between family members, which exacerbates the conflicts.

5. Be open-minded, life is short, we should create a harmonious society and a harmonious family, think about everything, don't worry about everything, don't intrigue, don't be greedy, be open-minded, and be grateful to live a relaxed and happy life.

Bear with it, just blame you for thinking too much about marriage.

It is recommended to split up and live your own life.

Either endure it, or stay away, preferably the kind you don't see twice a year.

In other words, I know that my mother-in-law is a very strong person, and if you have to take care of everything big and small, in fact, you can just take a step back and take a picture of her ass.

Get along well and think more about each other.

It couldn't be better. The only way is to live separately.

Keep your distance. Alike.

Like her - don't know what you like her, like someone, not to know what you like her, like is to be with her, to be happy together, to watch her laugh is very comfortable, to watch her pain is very uncomfortable. Feel it with your heart.

Communicate more with your wife, and when the relationship between the two of you is good, she will naturally not vomit with her mother-in-law.

It would be nice to make more money, listen to me, the relationship is not good because you don't have money, right?

Whoever does the right thing will stand on someone's side.

Hello, talk less, do more. In front of your mother-in-law, be diligent. If you should be filial, you will be filial, and you will not need anything else.

The best person to deal with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is the husband, because the mother knows the most and is the closest to her son, and the daughter-in-law knows the most and is also the husband, and they will all listen to this man, and this man is also very convincing. After all, there is a lot of age difference between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and besides, they haven't been together for a long time, so they don't know each other very well. But after all, the mother-in-law is an elder, so the daughter-in-law has to give in a little way, in fact, a smarter man can handle the relationship between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law very well, as long as the personality of the daughter-in-law is not too strong, the husband on the mother-in-law's side will take care of it casually.

Once your mother-in-law treats you as a daughter, and you treat your mother-in-law as a mother, it's broken, why? You take your mother-in-law as your mother, how do you deal with your mother? Casually, the two of them just scolded and broke the bones and tendons, but you say a heavy word to your mother-in-law, or she says a heavy word to you, can you stand it, you must remember it for a lifetime, so she is not a real mother and daughter, don't treat your mother-in-law as a mother.

Optimistic attitude, after all, it is your husband's mother, no matter what's wrong, will you still be petty to your mother, in the mother-in-law encountered something unpleasant come back and tell your husband on the line, if no one can solve it, just go back to your mother's house for a few days, out of sight and out of mind.

Because everyone's personality and growth environment affect his behavior, the most difficult thing to do is the male host in the family outfit, he is like a sandwich cookie sandwiched between two people.