Why don t you dare to choose the life you want?

I remember when I first came to Shanghai 15 years ago, many people asked me why I had the courage to come to Shanghai alone. What if I can't find a job? What if your job in Shanghai is stable in the future, but your parents are sick?

At that time, I answered almost everyone's questions one by one, in fact, now it seems that this is why some people are afraid to choose the life they want, always look ahead and backward when they do things, and they are already frightened by all kinds of obstacles in their minds before they start to do it.

There are two reasons why I dare not choose the life I want, one is the objective reason, just like the hindrance of my parents, the reality cannot be changed, but in my opinion, this is secondary; The second is the subjective reason, which in my opinion is the most important, I said that life is everyone's own, so the choice is also our own, and in the same way, the consequences of choice can only be our own. A few days before I came to Shanghai, my mother told me that they didn't want me to come to Shanghai at that time, but my mother said that we can only give you advice, and you need to make your own choice, and I don't want to blame us for hindering you when you regret it in the future, because you need to bear the consequences.

Why don't you dare to choose the life you want, the subjective reason is definitely the most important, even if there are objective reasons, but in my opinion, the objective will eventually transform into subjective, for example, your compromise and acceptance are subjective. Procrastination, hesitation, always thinking more than doing, are all reasons why you can't choose the life you want.

When we have made it clear what we want in life, we should boldly go ahead, don't be afraid to go home, and don't be afraid of excessive resistance from the outside world, because resistance often turns into motivation, don't look ahead, don't think too much, what you have to do is to do it and choose him. You have to know that everyone in the crowd can understand what kind of life they want, I have met many people, they have been studying all their lives under the protection of their parents, living, getting married, having children, they don't know what they want at all, but their parents give it, they take it, and that's it. Some people are born knowing what they want, while others don't know what they want all their lives, so don't let down when you're lucky enough to have something to look forward to.

<> ideals are very full, reality is very skinny, and our ideal life may be incompatible with reality. Then we need to slowly find a balance between the ideal and the ideal, that is, to discount the ideal and make the balance of life more inclined to real life.

I don't dare to choose the life I want because of a sense of responsibility. Although we are an individual with independent thoughts, we have relatives, friends, and families, and we are responsible for them. We can't leave our family responsibilities willfully and walk away, but we must also work hard for a better life for our families.

I believe that many people have had such a dream, carrying a bag, hiking, traveling around the world, but few people really realize this dream, because we have an inalienable sense of responsibility, so that we have to bow to reality.

I don't dare to choose the life I want because I haven't achieved financial freedom. Suppose that if we have endless money to spend and we don't need to think about the economy, then we have enough power if we want to live a life. We can travel the world, we can travel in space, we can go to a place where no one is around.

No matter what kind of life you have, as long as it is achievable with money, it can almost be achieved.

We don't dare to choose the life we want because we can't give it up completely. Everyone has their own life, everyone has their own social circle, everyone has their own way of life, if you give up all what you have now, no one can completely give up, it is precisely because of this bond that many people finally tend to the side of reality, after all, not everyone can endure loneliness for a long time, keep loneliness!

In the past few days, I have talked a lot with my husband about what kind of life I want to live in the future, and I have some feelings.

Whenever asked, "What kind of life do you want to live?" Many people may describe what life will be like in the future, including my own general imagination of the life I want in the future. But why can't we? Or do we have no motivation to make it happen?

1.The burden on your shoulders can't get rid of this ridge.

There are parents to support, and children to take care of ......How can you leave it behind and live the life you want? Indeed, these burdens are what you must face and bear in your life, are we still human beings if we lose them?

2.I can't lose what I care about.

Or there are attractive people, or there are attractive jobs, or there are high-income ......These things are not something that can be put down.

3.Fear in the heart.

If I don't have a job, I will have no income, if I don't have money, I will go hungry, and more importantly, I will lose face in front of my family and friends, ......These inner fears to face are terrible. It's better to keep it as it is, why bother to suffer for yourself?

All of these are the reasons why we can't make changes. You may not be convinced, but it is. For example, if you look forward to living a slow-paced life in the countryside, you can actually achieve it immediately, pack your bags, go to the countryside to rent a house, plant land every day, raise dust, raise flowers and plants, raise some poultry, do some small work, and do some investment.

Life is certainly carefree, but do you really dare to leave everything behind to live it? The vast majority of people can't.

The reason why we don't dare to live the life we want is, in my opinion, because we have too many internal entanglements and too much greed and hatred. We don't really understand what we want, what is most important in our value system, and what we want to do in our future lives......When these factions or issues are not thought through, most of us do not have the courage to live the life we want.

If I had a choice, I would like to live like this, so that I don't have to be very tired, I don't have to be very busy, I can simply eat three meals a day, and live my life quietly.

I may live in a small town, wake up at 7 o'clock in the morning, walk slowly to the breakfast shop to buy soy milk and fritters, the flowers downstairs are in full bloom, and the quilt on the terrace is still wrapped in the fragrance of soap. When I walked into the house, my lover was laughing, my children were making a fuss around me, and the old man was basking in the sun on the balcony.

Once people have expectations, they will inevitably be disappointed. There is still a long way to go between reality and ideals. Occasionally, it is like a stone falling into the night, and it is impossible to knock in the direction ahead.

The world is not too perfect, and sometimes it can give a gentle blow. But there are always people who let us know that the world is not only about monetary benefits, but also about kindness and sincerity; Feelings are not only weighing the pros and cons, but also pure and beautiful.

Some people dance on a rainy day, some sing in adversity, some are sick and still carry a load, and some people fall and still look up at the starry sky. So why should we give up if we work hard?

Someone asked me what kind of person I wanted to be, and after thinking about it, I probably wanted to be a warm person the most.

It is an ability to make people feel warm. A person's top charm is not the appearance of falling in love at first sight, but the character and upbringing engraved in the bones, and the sincerity and kindness from the bottom of the heart. When kindness meets gentleness, it is a perfect match in the world.

The world is inevitably difficult, those gentle praises, those casual thoughts, and those unexpected kindness can become the warm current of the heart to recall in the future.

People who are not related by blood but are good to us are gifts from God. The warmth you feel will become the strength you have accumulated in your heart to fight against those dark and confused moments on the road of life.

Then let yourself be a warm person first, warm others, and also illuminate yourself, wait for the person who is as warm as yourself, and give each other warmth and tenderness.

The greatest joy in the world is that through one's own efforts, life has become what one likes. Have a job you like, a lover you like, and a life you like.

Everything is made by our own hands, slowly and hard.

What makes us more and more confident is the power of quietly. When we have the strength to embrace ourselves, we have the strength to embrace others.

We have to work hard, but don't rush. It takes a process to blossom and bear fruit.

Set out towards the light in your heart and do something concrete and happy about the little things. Complete the small goals of each day, reward yourself with a delicious meal, buy a book that you want to read recently, accumulate little by little, and make progress little by little. Although life is bitter, there is always sweetness, and from the complicated moments, pick out your own small expectations.

Don't be afraid that there is no road ahead, as long as you have courage and determination, you can walk out of the flowers all over the thorns.

But do good deeds, don't ask about the future. Love and be loved, poetry and distance, will come.

If you don't go out, your home is your world, and if you don't take the time to create the life you want, you will be forced to spend a lot of time coping with the life you don't want.

So you first have to be clear about what you want to live in life?

Take the initiative to choose your own life instead of being arranged by others. Writer Yang Daxia Yang Ke said, learn to make decisions about your own life.

You have to know what your goals are and what you want to live your life!!

Do what you think psychologically, provided that you are brave.

Whether it is sorrow, joy, smoothness, twists and turns, you have to bear and bear it yourself. Don't regret your choice, and don't blame fate.

As "If you don't work hard, no one will give you the life you want" says, people who can't give up anything can't change anything.

So, how should you deal with difficulties and setbacks?

Try these three tips:

The first is to reduce the difficulties to zero. Maximizing the resources available at your disposal can yield results that far exceed your expectations.

Second, when you fall to the bottom, don't give up on yourself. The most regrettable thing in life is not being abandoned by anyone, but giving up on oneself.

Third, we must make unremitting efforts. Life is not a 100-meter race, but a marathon. If you don't work hard, no one can give you the life you want; Keep your curiosity and motivation alive, and always remind yourself that your goal is the sea of stars, but you have to keep your feet on the ground every step of the way.

Even if you can't see the other side, you have to row oars in the sea of life, sing songs, and go to your distance.

Do you think it makes sense?

There are two main reasons why people are afraid of choices: anxiety about taking responsibility for their choices; Worried about giving up on another option. Sometimes, faced with a choice, people want to run away.

And of course, don't trust anyone who helps you make your choices, people who don't understand you and won't be responsible for your choices. I hope we can all have the courage to take responsibility and choose the life we want to live.

Life is a practice, cultivating one's patience, perseverance, and normalcy. Life is to have and lose at the same time; Choose and give up. What is strange today is familiar yesterday; What is remembered now is forgotten later.

It's not life that chooses you, it's that you choose life.

The possibilities are endless, and our life choices are endless. "Now you may be deviating from the norm and creating a legend, or you may be living a stable life and trying to live as an ordinary person that everyone trusts, no matter what you are, please don't get bored easily, every moment of you is worth it. Those joys and sorrows that no one cares about will eventually become the code of history, waiting for someone to reveal the secret.

And your tenacity will shine brightly.

Each of us, past, present and future, will be on our own unique path in life. Maybe some people can achieve their dreams, and some people can't. There are times when life is difficult and there are times of pain, and at those times, I believe that we will all think of a place where there are infinite possibilities in our lives.

Career importance and happiness importance are two of your choices, are you sure they are two? All right! Both of these lives have one thing in common:

It's just that you're going to do things! Whatever it is, you have to do it, everything is done satisfactorily, you can get a sense of accomplishment, and you will be happy! When you get into the habit, your career is successful!

Therefore, it is better to retreat and close the net! Find something to do yourself, complete everything carefully and successfully, and you will get both!

Everyone has their own life path to follow, but everyone's experience is different, so life is also very different.

Now I seem to be wandering at a junction, I don't know where to go, if the fate to speak it is my own choice, maybe it is really destined, destined to have a lot of ups and downs, destined to have a lot of forks in the road, destined to have a lot of choices, but now I am really afraid, I want to make a choice, but I don't have the courage to face my unknown fate.