I have been in love with my girlfriend for 4 years, her family is very rich, my family is very poor

As the saying goes, "it's not that a family doesn't enter a door", women are different from men, women can have no economy, but men can't have no careers, women's youth is short, and men will only get stronger and stronger, and her family is good, her parents are even more unlikely to use her youth today to bet on your success tomorrow, in case you can't succeed, does it mean that her daughter has to live a hard life with you for a lifetime? For her parents, it doesn't mean anything to just be motivated and idealistic, what they need is reality. What is needed is a successful man to be the son-in-law of his family, and this is the case in this real society.

A man must have backbone, don't let people who look down on you laugh at you, since you broke up, don't think about it, work hard, and strive for career success is what you should do now, and when you succeed, let the people who once looked down on you regret it, why do you have no wife? If you have a career, you can't find a gentle and virtuous wife, gentlemen, don't be like a girl, so weak about feelings.

Her mother has a problem with her thoughts, it doesn't matter if you have more money or less money, you may have had good memories before, but she has changed, she is not suitable for you anymore, why be nostalgic.

And the relationship is together.

Let it go, if there is still love, it won't be these helpless hits, I guess she can't support it, it's not so love.

Modern society is too realistic, and your girlfriend's innocence when she was studying will be infected by this filthy society after stepping into society. You're a man, and now that she's decided to break up with you, any retention pales and is powerless. Only by working hard, striving for success, this is the most important thing you need to do at the moment.

You should think about your future well. Some things are barely coming, only cherish the present, not hang yourself from a tree!

If your family hosts a banquet in a restaurant to entertain the woman's parents, or your parents buy some expensive gifts to meet her parents, it doesn't matter how their family entertains your family! Discuss it with her!

What's the matter, it's good to be sincere, the best preparation is psychological preparation, it is possible that their family will not accept you as a son-in-law.

Restlessness and nervousness are normal. Disparities in family backgrounds are an inevitable problem. Then comfort your parents, dress neatly and neatly, and answer naturally. It would be nice for them to see the sincerity and natural simplicity of your home.

You don't have to do anything deliberately, just communicate with your parents as usual, and don't be stressed.

Your parents don't think their family is educated???

Buy some cigarettes and alcohol, and nothing else.

In fact, their family came to meet at your house, which means that their family still recognizes you, if you don't approve, there is no need to meet this person at all.

If you don't have anything at home, you can go to the hotel and book a private room. In this way, the two families can sit in the private room to eat and drink, and then they can meet and talk about some things between the two children, which is also good.

If you're meeting in your own home, you'll want to have a sumptuous feast. It's that your mom and dad must have some specialty dishes, so make some home-cooked meals and so on. Buy some drinks, melons and fruits, some melon seeds, peanut snacks and the like.

In short, don't be overly nervous, just go with the flow. It's not good if it's too unnatural. When your parents meet your girlfriend for the first time, they should give a little meeting gift, that is, it is best to wrap a red envelope for your girlfriend.

Hey, in fact, feelings are like this, often in the end are unsatisfactory, but you also have to be strong and think on the good side, at least fortunately, it's not okay to get married and then leave, it can be regarded as seeing it clearly, improve yourself well, and slowly there will be someone who is suitable for you.

She is not the only woman, fortunately, she ran away before you got married, and you didn't have any financial losses in the bride price, so you work hard to become excellent, and find a suitable person to live and marry.

It's okay, don't be too sad, you're still young, a woman ran away, proving that her heart doesn't belong to you, your parents are satisfied as long as they see you married, and you don't necessarily have to find her to marry, you can find a better one.

Your parents mainly want you to be happy, and you are looking for a good girlfriend.

You've been dating your girlfriend for two years.

Then the other party was directly with each other's first love.

It shows that the other party has always been in contact with the first love.

Why should you be so obsessed with a woman who has two boats on her feet?

She may be the green tea she is talking about now.

Then you'd better get a new girlfriend, let the past pass, and regret can't be helped.

It won't be like this if you really love you.

1) The first thing to say is that a person uses the resources available to solve the problem, and I don't think there is any problem. Edition, however, I used to only know that valuables and valuables can be mortgaged. I didn't expect that Wenpin, these identity documents can also be used as collateral.

2) A person does business, as long as he can control the risk. It is not to blindly expand operations, but to use scientific means to deal with it, so as to make good profits and losses. Within a controllable range, it is okay to mortgage anything. Because a secure mortgage is only a means, it does not mean that it is lost.

3) You are not at ease with your girlfriend's mortgage behavior, you don't trust, or you still feel that the risk is uncontrollable.

4) If you think that your girlfriend's mortgage behavior is an uncontrollable risk, you should be patient and persuasive. If you're just a little worried, you don't have to. Personally, I don't think those things are as important as supporting your girlfriend.

Moreover, once there is a risk, there will be people who will save the day.

It can be seen that you like her very much, maybe because she has stayed in Shanghai, she has become realistic, but marriage is a ...... that needs financial security

In this case, I advise you to give up, if she really loves you, she won't be so ruthless, although you were very happy at the beginning, but your love was eventually defeated by reality, in the face of this kind of thing, you should look forward, there are many better girls, don't be upset because of this matter, slumped, you have to work hard now to earn money and work hard, break out of your own world, to find a better her.

Hopefully, you can come out of your heartache and pain.

Does she still have love for you in your feelings? Have you spent a lot of money in the past four years with her? Her change was not sudden, maybe it was just after graduation, under the leadership of her family, she found out what she really needed, but she ignored love...If anything.

Sit down with her and talk (if she still loves you), talk about the past, talk about the present, and look to the future. to find a common goal. Let's work together to create your own life!

For this kind of realistic woman, it may not be your dish, you chose the wrong one from the beginning, but now it is not too late to find this, there is still a chance to start your happy life again, find the right person, someone who will never abandon each other, so that it is worth your enthusiasm for life.

Give up, if she really likes you, she won't let you suffer so much.

Another question about the wedding bride price, friend, in fact, the issue of bride price money involves money and customs, face issues, give you a brief analysis:

If there is more money, the family also has face around the neighbors, on the contrary, there is no face if the money is less, everyone has a comparison mentality, and it is normal to send an older generation to have an idea;

There is so much money for the bride price, in fact, it may be that the woman will give some dowry when she gets married, or when she will get married and buy a house, when she will subsidize or buy furniture, it is possible, continue to support the woman's family, I don't know what I said, can you understand? Although I only gave a bride price of 20,000 yuan when I got married, the woman's parents promised us that they would buy us a set of furniture after we bought the house;

A method or breakthrough to solve the woman's family's refusal to let go of 50,000 yuan:

Find your girlfriend, take her as a breakthrough, whether this gift money is more or less and your future small family basically does not have much impact, but the important thing is not to make the parents of both sides unhappy because of the different opinions of this gift money, and then affect the marriage of the two, we all know that marriage is a lifelong thing for two people, if there is any trouble, it may become a defect in life, and it may affect the relationship between the two, once the girlfriend helps the woman's family to speak, Then the relationship may go down the drain. So try your best to make your girlfriend stand on the same side as you, in a neutral position, and be impartial.

You can say to your girlfriend like this: Now all the money in my family is so little (let's say 80,000), if the 50,000 is given to your family, we still have to hold a banquet, but also invite a wedding, take wedding photos, buy a wedding diamond ring, this set is indispensable for 40,000, this is less, then it will exceed the total price, if you give 30,000 40,000 to do these things, the remaining 10,000 is reserved for preparation, and then what to do with our life after we get married, you also have to make a plan for life, and convince your girlfriend with these plans, And then let him convince his parents.

It's a bit too much, and it's a bit messy, I hope it can help you!