How to turn from a disadvantage to an advantage in a relationship?

I've had a similar experience ...

I also liked him first, and then we determined the relationship, so that he slowly got used to having me, you will definitely be very enthusiastic at the beginning, but, no way, who let us like him first, who is active and who is passive, then this situation has caused us, we have to find a way to overcome the difficulties, there is a problem like the question...

I want him to get used to my presence first, if he makes you unhappy (such as making you feel that he doesn't care enough about you), you can tell him that you are angry, but also very strong, don't let him think that he is determined to eat you, you like him he is amazing, you have to be him! Don't let him have this sense of superiority.,It's better to have a boy chasing you but you don't like it (I just regret that there is a boy chasing me.,I refused directly.,And told him about it.,In order to show that I like him.。。。 But then I thought about it, and I regretted it to death, which made him feel that I couldn't do it without him).

Later, I didn't want to be in a passive position in this relationship anymore, so I held back, didn't text him, didn't call him, and waited for him to take the initiative to contact me, and get used to the days when I was around... I put up with it for a week (just two weeks before I came to school) and then, I couldn't reply to his text messages, or just a very short word count... Let him find that you have a big change from his previous attitude towards him, he will reflect, and then find a way to coax you (provided that he already likes you a little), if he still ignores you, then you have to endure it even more, which shows that he really doesn't like you, and it is not interesting for you to spend time around him, as long as he likes you, he will always find a way to please you, if he won't, then he is not a fool or doesn't like you enough, you also have to think that 1.4 billion people in the country can choose!

Why would you pick someone who doesn't love you or is a fool?! Wouldn't we be even more stupid?!!

This is what my mother taught me, and I am only 20 years old, and I talk about a very simple relationship, and my mother sometimes helps me analyze and analyze

Then, a few days ago, he sent me a long e-mail, telling me that he had a lot to say to me, how much he missed me, and so on, and I succeeded in this one, but it will take time for him to take full initiative...

Men don't like it when they say they don't like it.

Won't change.

In this way, you yourself know that you love him a little more, in fact, how to say it, feelings are such a thing, if one party always pays more than one party or loves more than a silver letter, in fact, it is a fair thing to fight or walk, from your words it seems that you still hope that you are reconciled, girl, you might as well try to sit down with him and talk to him, to see if his feelings for you are deep, or how he thinks of your feelings between the Wu, and, you have only been in love for three months, you should still be more sticky to each other, Maybe you want to be too right, or maybe this boy is good at expressing his feelings, ask clearly to make decisions, you also want to blindly pay unilaterally, it's good to be sensible!

What do you mean? What are the disadvantages of a 26-year-old newcomer?

The only thing you can tell is your age, the rest is wooden.

In the journey of life, we will encounter various difficulties, but not every disaster is a curse, and early adversity is often a blessing. When we are in a desperate situation, there is no need to panic, first to calm down, and then find a breakthrough, maybe it will make you successful. Today, I read an article "The Donkey at the Bottom of the Well" and talked about such a thing!

An old donkey fell into a dry well, and the owner thought it was too old to be useful, and there was no need to go to great lengths to save it. So he called his neighbor and took counsel to bury it. At first, the donkey cried very sadly.

However, after a while, the crying stopped, and the owner was curious, so he stretched out his head to look, and could not help but be surprised. Because the donkey took advantage of the dirt and slowly stretched it out. Stand in front of everyone.

The donkey at the bottom of the well cleverly uses the dirt to save himself from adversity. There will always be setbacks and tribulations in our lives, but when we encounter them, what kind of mindset do we have? We need to know that every setback or unfavorable mutation is likely to carry the same or greater favorable seeds, and we must learn to turn the adversity into an advantage.

We have to be like donkeys that don't give in to fate.

Helen Keller was in the midst of a contrarian trend, but did not give in to the contrarian trend, and at the age of one and a half he lost his hearing due to illness, lost his eyesight, and could not speak. This is undoubtedly a pain for the average person. But she does not give in to "it".

With the education and help of her teachers, she was able to overcome her illness strongly, learned to speak, obeyed with her "fingers", and mastered five languages. And he devoted his whole life to the cause of the interests of the blind and deaf people in the world, and was praised by many countries and people. Helen Keller, with her spirit of not succumbing to fate, eventually turned her disadvantage into an advantage.

The famous German composer Beethoven, who suffered from ear disease at the age of 28 and died at the age of 57, was in adversity and had to fight against the terrible deafness every day. Faced with the challenge of fate, he shouted: "I will choke the throat of fate!"

Indeed, Beethoven did not succumb to fate, and in a limited time, did not give up any opportunity to compose, and most of the world's works were born during this time. Even until he was completely blind and deaf, he was unwilling to put down the pen in his hand and continue composing. Finally, with tenacious spirit, he finally wrote the most famous and combative work of his life, the Ninth Symphony, a few years before his death.

Let people see his strength not to succumb to the contrarian trend and create an advantage for himself.