The quality of the heart is not good, the love is urgent, and the heart is like fear

In fact, your biggest enemy is yourself, the first thing you have to defeat is your own demons, it's not good to take yourself too seriously, and always feel that other people's opinions of you are important, right? This state of mind has a proper term called "the importance of others", which refers to the fact that a person attaches too much importance to what others think of him or her and ignores his own feelings, which are more important than his own feelings. I always feel that there are many pairs of eyes watching me, and the more I do this, the more nervous I become, in fact, maybe others are not looking at you at all, or when you are talking to others, although they are looking at you, they are actually thinking about other things, and you don't have to care too much about what others think.

On the other hand, you will be nervous because you are not confident in your appearance, appearance, if you can work on your appearance and give yourself a little confidence, you will not be so nervous. First of all, you must be confident, get up every day to face the mirror, give yourself a hearty smile, and be very happy. I hope it can help you, and I recommend you to watch a Western film "The King's Speech", which is more inspirational.

It may be related to genetics, neurasthenia.

It may also be caused by your poor health, and it has little to do with psychology, because you are nervous because you are nervous because you are trembling.

Pay attention to your habits, develop good habits, and get rid of some bad habits completely. Exercise more, you know?

This is not a pathological disease, it should be a psychological problem. Find a psychiatric clinic to try.

First, BAI boosts self-confidence.

Second, learn not to care too much about other people's dao vision, contact with outsiders more, and exercise more power.

Practice the third, learn to be calm, always warn yourself to be calm, it's not a big deal, you know, the boat is naturally straight to the bridge! There is a solution to everything.

Don't put too much pressure on yourself, take it easy, the world is still beautiful, open your heart! Be strong in the face of everything!

The personality is more introverted and copy, you will be in the pro.

Do you behave like that in front of people, contact them more, there are no secrets, your secrets are just some things that you feel embarrassed about, those that are of course laughing at you in the eyes of others, and others also deliberately want to hurt you, character exercises, often communicate with people who are not very familiar, of course, to ensure your own safety.

It should also be a psychological cause of nervousness, which is caused by mental stress or mental fatigue caused by overwork. It tends to be emotional. Symptoms such as sweating, blushing, palpitation, chest tightness, etc., for the ** of this disease, it is generally necessary to use psychological adjustment and anti-anxiety how to overcome tension:

Find an open place, face the trees, whether there is someone behind you or not, take out an essay at random, read it aloud, and stick to it for a week.

If you are a student, then the duty officer is a great way to overcome tension and eliminate tension by working with classmates. When you feel nervous and unable to think, familiarize yourself with some jokes and tell jokes.

What you do will make you nervous, and then you will repeat it so that you are not nervous, mechanical exercises can numb people and exercise mental qualities.

Sometimes it's easy to get nervous because you don't have self-confidence or even low self-esteem. Then you can find out what makes you feel inferior. If you overcome it, you can overcome it. If you can't get over it, try to cover it up.

When you're on stage, try to take deep breaths and then exhale slowly to relieve tension. The harm of excessive tension, excessive tension can cause people's behavior to be disordered, which can lead to irregular behavior and reduce efficiency.

Because people are overly nervous, the brain nerves are excited and inhibited, and there will be a temporary imbalance. At this time, people will experience restlessness, excitement, and irritability that is difficult to self-control.

As a result, a range of behavioral disorders are disordered. Occasional excessive tension can be adjusted in time without causing significant harm to the person, but constant emotional stress is particularly harmful to the human body. Some people say that there is constant emotional stress, and as long as you relax and stay calm, you will not be nervous.

It is recommended to find a psychologist for a consultation, because it has caused trouble in your life and needs to cooperate with psychological counseling for counseling. This is the most effective, if you do not accept counseling and intervention for a long time, the psychological tension will become more and more unbearable, and the psychological pressure will become greater and greater in the long run.

Listen to Buddhist scriptures**, such as the Heart Sutra, the Great Compassion Mantra, if you don't exclude it, you can read the Jizo Bodhisattva Sutra and dedicate it, it will be effective.

You can take some sedative drugs to help adjust, of course, the main thing is to exercise more by yourself, the more nervous you are, the more you have to take the initiative to face it, and the more times, you will slowly get used to it.

You have to exercise your mental quality, it's best to find a psychologist and let him give you guidance, find some appropriate situations to exercise, and be afraid in your heart, often scare yourself again, it should be okay to improve your mental quality, you have to believe in yourself.

You may be facing a dilemma, you may be going through unspeakable tribulations, but who dares to say that this seemingly cruel change is not a proof that you are getting better and better? From ignorance to wisdom, from naivety to maturity, when ability replaces rustiness, we are all on our own growth path gradually steady.

It means that you have either been growing up in a quiet and peaceful environment before, or your parents were too strict with you when you were a child, causing you to be too depressed to release your emotions. So panic at the slightest movement. You should improve your psychological quality, participate in more social activities and communicate with others, and improve your self-confidence.

Engage in social interactions. Please cooperate with the drug when it is serious**.

Don't take it too seriously in the first place. The more you care, the easier it is to overcome. Try to adjust your mentality.

You can also go to a psychiatrist, and in a situation like the one you described, it should be related to a phobia. There are some behaviors that can be done. For example, fear of snakes.

There is an attempt to use anxiety, or is it relaxation**. Carry out**. Slowly overcome psychological barriers.

Little by little, it will get better. The more you care about it, the harder it is to overcome. Try to analyze and solve the problem you are experiencing.

If I can't, it's best to find a counselor to help me analyze it.

Look at a psychiatrist, it should be something that affected you as a child, and you have to believe in yourself and be as brave as others. Autosuggestion will improve a little bit each time, and you can become less afraid.

Hello, according to the situation of particularly poor psychological quality you described, I think that it can be initially considered to be caused by a strong cowardice mentality. This is a kind of timidity, fear, cowardice, and restraint personality performance defects, which belong to general psychological problems. Therefore, I suggest that you need to consider that you seek professional psychological counseling for personal growth and emotional management and control that I provide for you, so as to help you effectively eliminate the psychological factors that cause you to have a strong cowardice mentality, enhance your psychological quality to resist tension and anxiety, so as to help you return to a normal life and mental state as soon as possible.

It's okay to have more contact with people, and you should usually participate in more physical activities, speak bravely, and it will be good for a long time.

This requires you to improve your mental quality, ways to improve your mental quality:

1. Life has experienced many setbacks. It is necessary to exercise and grow in setbacks, and grow in strong winds and waves.

2. Don't think absolutely. It is necessary to think about problems through multiple channels, and do not let absolute beliefs such as "must" and "must" be swayed. Zhuangzi said: "Misfortune and blessing are lurking, and blessing and misfortune are depending" to look at the problem should be divided into two and two points.

3. Always think about others when encountering problems. If you only think about personal interests, you will suffer from gains and losses, and your psychology will be out of balance; People who think more about others will be happy forever if they are selfless in their hearts and the world is wide.

4. Make friends at all times. If you don't have friends, you're depressed, you're meditating, you're not communicating, you're nowhere to vent, so what's going on? People with a cheerful personality can communicate through multiple channels and improve their psychological endurance.

Seeing oneself through others and understanding the greater misfortune of others is a good recipe for one's own misfortune.

First of all, nervousness is our normal emotion, emotions are functional in psychology, and the function of tension is that it can make us more vigilant to solve the dilemma we need to face.

Our approach to nervousness is learned, for example, how do you know if you're nervous or excited? Nervousness and excitement are very similar physiologically, the difference is that nervousness is negative, excitement is positive, thinking about a common, parents take their children to the zoo, the child is more anxious, and then the parents say don't be nervous--- you start to understand that this is nervous; If a parent says that the child is a little excited to see an animal for the first time--- you start to understand that it is excitement.

Then the language has a certain psychological hint to us, and you change the way you deal with anxiety because of your parents' preferences. In fact, nervousness and excitement are both types of anxiety, and they are actually very similar, because of the difference in results and perceptions.

How do we deal with tension?

Accept the tension. If the small gestures of nervousness are not particularly annoying, accept them as if you were sneezing when you have a cold. Because they are functional and essential, treating it right, rather than thinking of it as a manifestation of cowardice, is the first step to overcoming anxiety.

Decatastrophizing. In fact, life is just to grasp the key points, there are two kinds of choices in life, not easy to reversible, and easy to reverse, in the reversible choice, tell yourself, in fact, nothing.

Relaxation training. When you are nervous, you can relax your muscles, drink some water, take deep breaths, go to the bathroom, listen to songs, etc., and you can also learn relaxation training.

If you can't control your nervousness, or even generalized, please find a psychological counselor in time.

When a nervous emotional response arises, an effective way to adjust should be to face and accept your nervousness. You should think that it's normal for you to be nervous, and many people may be more nervous than you in a certain situation.

1. When facing someone or something, feeling nervous and scared is a manifestation of lack of self-confidence, courage and security, and nervousness and fear are also a normal psychological and physiological reaction of people to face things, just like joy, anger and sorrow.

2. As the saying goes, courage is practiced, if you want not to be nervous and afraid, you must continue to strengthen learning, comprehensively improve your own quality and comprehensive strength, and enhance your self-confidence and courage.

3. We must dare to face the challenges of various people and things, it is painful to passively endure, and if we take the initiative to meet them, we will become calm, and we will not be nervous and afraid.

4. I wish you to become strong and confident as soon as possible.

I have no regrets in my heart, and I am not afraid of ghosts knocking on the door in the middle of the night. Whether you have done something wrong or mistaken someone else's thing, you can't let go of it in your heart, for fear of being implicated or held accountable. Either they are born timid and afraid of things, unable to bear any worries, and will put pressure on themselves at the slightest accident, build a wall of tension by themselves, and set up a long river of fear.

What's wrong, what's wrong, what are you nervous about, what are you afraid of, say it, I can help you.

Sister, I think that in your case, if there is no organic serious disease in the hospital examination, in addition to auxiliary drugs, exercise is the best**.

In addition, I suggest that you come to find the meaning of life, to know the true God, and to correct our outlook on life.

In fact, Chinese life is not easy, everyone has a lot of helplessness in life, no matter what, we must have the courage to face life. We need to learn to do our best in all things and put the results in God's hands, so that we can have a clear conscience as long as we do our part.

It is recommended that you read a book "The Wanderer Yin - Eternity is Calling", which is available on the Internet, and I can see it after a Google search, in fact, only when people have true faith, they will see the glory and preciousness of life, and they will also have mature values, and find the meaning of life. In love and gratitude, we will be happy to fulfill our responsibilities and get rid of a life that feels hard and sad all the time.

You can try to pray that you will put the burdens of life before God and ask Him to lead you in the life ahead. The Savior Jesus said, "Come unto me, all you who labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest." ”

Try it, and you will find that the God recognized by Newton, Einstein, Sun Yat-sen, and the previous Americans** really exists. He is willing to help you.

When you come to know and come to God who created all things and truly controls the destiny of each of us. In the perfect love of the Savior Jesus, you can find true security. Jesus said,

Those who are not sick do not need doctors, but only those who are sick can use them. "He heals the insecurities in your heart. The Heavenly Father who watches over the little sparrow is willing to take care of you.

As I said downstairs, finding a psychological sustenance is not a good way to do it, and it is worth trying.

Yes, what people are most afraid of is not having courage. As long as you face it bravely, then many things can be solved.

There are often many difficult things in life, if you don't face them bravely, and expand his difficulty for no reason, then you will often delay the fighter, lose your sharpness, and finally do more and more badly.

Therefore, when encountering difficulties, you must face them bravely, and you must have the courage of a newborn calf who is not afraid of tigers, and then you can become a success.