Talk about it, have you seen any parents who were shocked by your education?

Usually parents let you study hard and find a job, but my classmate's parents have always paid more attention to the cultivation of his entrepreneurial consciousness, as soon as he graduated, he started his own business, and now his achievements are far higher than his peers, although he is very ordinary!

On the bus, there was a little boy who got motion sickness and threw up on the ground, his mother immediately took out the paper from the bag to wipe it, and asked the people in the same car for a plastic bag to put it in, and apologized to everyone, and took the plastic bag away and threw it in the trash when he got off the bus. I think this mom amazed me.

In fact, my parents are more open to my education, and they don't mean that they are more tolerant of me like the so-called tiger parents and tiger parents.

While waiting at the bus stop, a child threw the garbage from the trash can into the trash can, and I felt it was necessary to praise his parents for their views on education.

Once, when I was working in a tutoring class, I saw a parent's concept of education that had a profound impact on me, and she was a student under the stick.

I was on the subway at the time. Seeing a mother say to a son, don't cry, don't make trouble, you will make noise to other people, I think it's really an amazing education.

Little X, a good friend of my friend's son Xiao Q, is also a boy. Xiao X was curious about the girl's little skirt for a while, and had to wear Belle's yellow dress to kindergarten.

My parents taught me to be a good person, without many pursuits, and then let me study independently.

Some parents spend their children's time in different places every day, not allowing their children to have time to play, and letting learning occupy all their children's time.

A boy told his mother that he was going to bring his object back for dinner tomorrow, and his mother was very happy, and the boy paused and said that what I like was boys, and his mother was stunned for a moment and said that he would buy more, and that boys would eat more.

When she was in college, she had a roommate, and her parents came to send her to school, and she felt that her mother was so beautiful and young, just like her sister.

A good way of education is to accompany the child and accompany the bladeWhy does my grandmother take care of the child at home every day and spend the longest time with the child, but she always complains that the child only listens to the mother and does not listen to me? For example, when the child is putting away toys, why does the mother scream but the grandmother can't?

Grandma worked hard, but her time was spent sweeping the floor, laundry, cooking, and she was concerned about whether the child was cold or not, hungry or not, and physiological satisfaction. And the mother has a closer relationship with the child, because her companionship is in line with the child's shouting or emotional satisfaction. Changing to the vernacular to educate children is not only a simple physical companionship, but also needs emotional and above companionship.

So, in addition to physical and emotional companionship, what are the specific types of companionship?

When it comes to educating children, the parent-child relationship can be divided into three levels:

1.The satisfaction of physiological needs is the most basic part of the satisfaction of the first level of physiological needs, and taking care of them to eat, drink and Lazar belongs to the first level of satisfying their needs.

2.The intensity of the parent-child relationship refers to the high-quality companionship that focuses on the cognitive and emotional needs of the child. Children listen to people they have a good relationship with.

For example, playing games and telling stories with your child is an investment in the parent-child relationship, which is a high-quality companionship. Working parents are sometimes unable to balance work and childcare, and sometimes although the time spent with their children is reduced, it does not mean that the children must not be able to manage well, and they only need to spend their time "on the cutting edge".

3.The Power of Role ModelsChildren learn by imitation, and they often imitate people with whom they have a good relationship. Therefore, to educate children to develop good habits, the first thing is to make parents develop good habits first.

Self-driveSelf-drive is the ability to move forward with a child throughout his life. The push of parents and worrying about everything about their children will make children feel that their goal is to meet the needs of their parents, and their value comes from good grades, and they cannot see that their actions can produce results, so as to build Zheng Wuli's motivation and confidence. Therefore, respect and support for children is necessary to achieve the highest level of parent-child relationship.

Educating children is more about spending your time on the cutting edge, building a relationship with your children, and setting an example for them, and more importantly, respecting your children's support and choices. Don't worry about your inability to balance family and parenting, take the time to meet your child's parent-child relationship needs, role model needs, and self-motivation needs, and you can spend less time to be agile and raise good children.

As long as you are a child, you are bound to make mistakes.

Some parents may think that reprimanding and scolding their children in public will make them more fearful and obedient. In fact, those children who have been punished in public, the biggest feeling in their hearts is humiliation. Moreover, improper punishment can easily make children go further on the wrong path:

Since you all know that I am a bad boy, I will simply be wrong.

There are many ways of parenting in life, which is very amazing. I once met a mother of Song Zhao, a Tachibana Sakura Traveler, who, after the child took something from someone else, did not reprimand loudly, but carefully taught the round stool.

When a child makes a mistake, the first time is not to treat the child emotionally, nor to beat and scold the child, but to ask the child the reason, and then tell them the harm of doing so.

Case 1, a single-parent family, a daughter, and a father work very hard, all for the sake of two children, the younger one is the daughter, and the older one is the son. His daughter, when I first got to know her, was still very good and consciously worked hard. Later, I couldn't stop the "companionship" of mobile phones and computers, and met some strangers through QQ, WeChat, etc., and begged for money from strangers, or asked the other party to give money, but did not send it home, but sent it in a small shop next to the school.

And when my father found out about these situations, he was not surprised at all, and felt quite supportive.

Case 2, ordinary family, son, only child. The parents fell out with the teacher because of the son's seat problem, and it seriously affected the child's learning at school. The son is the tallest and strongest in the class, that is, he asked to sit in the front row, but the teacher did not agree, and from then on, the things assigned by the teacher were either dragged out or done, which mainly refers to the child's homework.

The teacher did not talk to the parents face-to-face about the problem in this seat, but the son asked the question, and the teacher explained the problem to the child, and finally it became like this.

Case 3: In an ordinary family, two sons, and parents are people with a certain level of cultural knowledge, the supervision of children's education is the biggest problem, and the child's attention is not enough, even for five minutes in class. Teachers communicate with parents, pay good attention to the child's concentration at home, and let him complete his homework well. Due to lack of patience, parents directly told the teacher that they were angry with their children, and they didn't care about whether their children could read or not.

Families have given up on their children, can they still count on others? However, it has a great impact on the class, and the performance evaluation has a great impact on the teacher's assessment.

Either money is the picture, regardless of whether the child is physically and mentally healthy; Either they ruin their children with a small problem; Either you don't have the patience and give up on educating your own children.

Of course, there are many such homeschooling problems.

Many parents are willing to be friends with their children, and they can think about their children's ideas and listen to their children's voices from their children's perspective. I will also reason with my children. And when the child does something wrong, the parents will not scold at the first time, but will calmly analyze with the child, tell the child the solution, and let the child learn to be independent in life.

Will use the correct concept of education to educate children. This kind of education is really amazing to me.

Du Jiang, Ran Yingying, Their education method amazed me, although they are stars, but the education method is very correct, Du Jiang taught his children to love their mothers. Ran Yingying taught her children not to waste and to respect the fruits of their father's labor, and their ideas were very correct.

It is some very wise parents, they will let their children make some decisions when educating their children, and they will put their children's thoughts in the first place, never force their children because they are worried that their children will lose at the starting line, they are very concerned about their children's psychological activities, and they will educate their children well when they grow up, so that they can become particularly good and sensible.

First of all, these parents know the method that their children want to take, so they go directly to their path, leaving them with no way out; Moreover, when the child is young, he always praises the child, and let the child do some housework within his ability because of vanity; In addition, children should develop good study habits from an early age, such as reading habits, time concepts, self-care skills, etc., so that children can complete their homework by themselves and have good self-discipline.

Parents can often accompany their children, parents will be strict with their children, parents will take their children to play together, will play games with children, will help children learn, such education methods are very good.

The first is to study with the child, the second is to take the college entrance examination with the child, the third is to have a relationship with the child like a teacher and a friend, the fourth is to take the child to practice, and the fifth is to set a good example for the child.

Don't yell at your child in public, chat with your child softly, stand on the same level as your child, pay attention to your child's feelings, and communicate with your child as your friend.

I have seen democratic parents who do not treat their children harshly and demand, but instead treat their children as their friends and respect their children's opinions and voices.

I think parents play a very important role in educating their children, and they usually encourage and praise their children, so that children will be confident and excellent.

Accept the negative emotions of the other party, digest them by yourself, pass on the positive energy to the child, and maintain the emotions all the time. In fact, everyone should control their own emotions, not by others, but should be respected. Although the father was a little unhappy on the plane, but the mother ignored it, and after a while, the father adjusted himself, and I think respect for each other is too important to manage a healthy and good marriage.

And a good marriage is also important for children.

Leading by example and handing over noble character to children is more successful than teaching them any knowledge and abilities. Teach children from an early age to learn to share, and not to be a "selfish ghost" who only cares about their own feelings and does not take care of the emotions of others. Give people roses, there is a lingering fragrance in your hands, and the beauty you have shared will be given back to you in other ways.

Learning to be a fair and honest gentleman from an early age is more worthy of the respect and trust of others than being a hypocrite who is hypocritical and inconsistent. Don't be stubborn and listen to your child's voice appropriately.

Don't teach children big truths, treat children as independent individuals, instead of being self-centered and treating children as objects. When a child sees what the spiritual world of his parents is like, what he absorbs is what it is. Therefore, the level of parents determines the height of children.

Therefore, we should start from small things, treat educating children as a normal thing, and infect and influence them from the minutiae of life. Give them the right direction on the road to growth.

Smart parents never spend time and effort on education, they will refine education to the moment and treat it with a normal heart. I've always felt that education is the most important thing"Teach by example", your usual way of dealing with people and doing things, even if you don't say it, children will see it in their eyes and remember it in their hearts. Parents are the earliest teachers of children, and children's horizons are too small to fit anyone, and parents are the whole world to them.

How you usually do people and how you do things, children will subconsciously think"This is true of all people in this world", and it is natural to develop this habit.

Idle every day. Eat, drink and be merry. The east has a mouth, the west has a mouth...The family is not harmonious. Parents quarrel every day. will be amazed to learn.

Personally, I think the biggest impact is that learning is everything. Parents want their children to succeed, but most of them are hungry for success. Compared with the education methods of Western countries, Chinese education often leads to rigid thinking of students, and today's Chinese have such a characteristic:

Hierarchy determines character, education determines value, such an idea is very wrong, many parents give their children a variety of interest classes and cram schools when they are very young, without taking into account the feelings of their children, which is likely to cultivate their rebellious psychology, parents mostly dote on their children, so now children are more and more willful, more and more inclined to individualism, and there is a very important point, that is, small details will not be harmful. Parents often ignore what they promise their children, and parents always think, "What can the little ones understand?

It's just to coax the child, otherwise he will keep making noise" Parents always hurt their children like this, even if they will be affected and gradually break their promises.