What if someone thinks you re relatable, but it s hard to maintain a friendship?

I think this belongs to the kind of intimate "no priority" situation. It's that you are used to being close to everyone, like wearing a mask that looks close, so that others feel that you are very close, and then you may wear the mask for a long time, and you also think that you are a particularly easy-going and easy to get close to, but you are still a little cold or a little difficult to get along with in your bones. So when people come into contact with you and start to get in touch with the real soul under your mask, and find that you are not so close on the surface, it will naturally appear that you think you are close to people at first, but you can't further maintain friendship.

I have this kind of person around me, a college classmate in the dormitory next door to me, a particularly outgoing little girl, who loves to laugh and is enthusiastic, I remember that when the freshman year was not yet started, she was one of the most active in the freshman group, and she was very familiar with the seniors. And then after the start of school,And then the student union is also mixed with the wind and water,I'm in a department with her,For her,Needless to say, the head of the department,It must be very familiar.,Mature to two months with the senior sister to join the group online shopping,As for some of the seniors of other departments that I don't know, they also get along without pressure.。 But now a year has passed, and there is no further communication with those seniors, it's still like that, it's the same, and none of her classmates in the dormitory have a really good relationship with each other, but they don't have a really fixed relationship.

I think this is your situation as a classmate, I also thought she was very enthusiastic at first, and I had a good relationship with her, but later, I found out that he was like this to everyone, how good I was to her, he was the same to me as a stranger, and he would not respond to my kindness, so I felt that this kind of person has no or no need for a real true friend.

If you want to change this situation, you have to reflect on yourself, you can be warm to everyone, that's good, but what you need to change is how to treat those who are true friends differently.

I think whether it's friendship or love, if you want to really maintain a relationship and continue to maintain it, the most important thing is to treat each other sincerely, but just being felt intimate by others but no one wants to have a heart-to-heart relationship with you can only mean that others don't hate you, but it doesn't mean that others want to establish a deeper and longer relationship with you.

Friendship is a very hazy thing, for us young, friendship is a good friend who sticks together all the time, so that everyone can know how deep your friendship is, but after growing up, we found that in fact, friendship is not necessary to show others, you can each have your own life and circle of friends, but when the other party needs you, don't say a word, I think this is the real friendship.

Next, let's talk about the topic of intimacy, is it really a necessary condition for friendship? In my opinion, true friends are like Fan Weiqi sings in the song: "You know all my shameful things but keep my beautiful image secret" Real friends and sisters, they don't care what kind of shameful things you have done, what stupid things you have done, as long as you are sincere to each other, then I believe that you are still best friends, but she will also forgive you for anything you have done.

In the end, I think that if you want to maintain a friendship, you are as concerned about your love as you are: you have to create some small surprises from time to time, such as suddenly asking her to go shopping together, having a big meal to treat each other, and asking each other's lovers for a foursome trip, which is a good way to keep the friendship fresh. The most important thing is to care more about each other, maybe you can't think of each other when you are happy, but when the other person is sad, you must spend more time with her This feeling is very important to her.

Try to understand each other from the other person's point of view, real friendship is not the desire to control or arbitrarily impose one's own thoughts on others, but tolerance and understanding.

Our biggest mistake is to show our bad side to the people closest to us, when others think you are very relatable, you only see it from the outside, and your friends are the people who get along with you day and night, you have to find problems from yourself and correct your own shortcomings.

It shows that you are very easy to get along with, but you can't make friends, you should change your way of getting along and try to communicate with others.

I think it may be that your friend also has a big reason, because if a relationship wants to last, it must be paid by two people, and it is impossible to rely on one person.

I think your question is a bit contradictory, and I feel a sense of intimacy, but the friendship can't be maintained. Then I think you have something wrong with yourself, and you feel kind, but your heart is cold.

We live in an era of rapid change, perhaps because the times are developing too fast, or because people are difficult to adapt to this kind of life, and many people have problems of one kind or another in their lives. Among them, indifference to the people around them is a problem for many people.

Loneliness makes people become ego, and many people are left alone in the world. People are actually very easy to be changed in society, maybe you used to have a deep relationship with your parents and friends, but as you grow older, your parents and only the pressure remains, and you live alone for a long time, you feel that you are the only one in life.

This is actually a very common emotion, and for many lonely people in life, this emotion will be infinitely amplified after being bred, which will make us become more and more indifferent to everything around us.

Actively participate in various social activities and get out of the closed circle that you have set for yourself. In fact, the most important reason why people have this kind of emotion is that they have lived in a certain self-set circle for too long, so that we think that only we are the ones who are really important to us in this world.

In this situation, he walked out of the existing small circle, often went out to party with friends, and often went home to accompany his parents to eat and chat. Communication with friends will make you realize that there is warmth in real life, and communication with relatives will make you realize that there are still many people in your life who care about you.

Your heart has now been frozen by yourself, and the involvement of your family and friends in your life will make you slowly melt your frozen heart and slowly rediscover the things that can make you happy in real life.

Many people always think that they are the only people who value themselves in their lives, but this idea is really a bit extreme. If you don't have a lot of closeness to other people, it can only mean that your current mental and psychological state has become problematic.

Don't live in the world you imagined anymore, you should go out and live a better life.

Normal. Because you may be a bit introverted, this is the cause of this, and in fact, I am like this, so I think this is normal and there is no need to worry.

We must learn to open our hearts, open our social circles, communicate more with others, and participate in more social activities, so that we can get closer to other people and not become so indifferent.

Then you should pay more attention to each other's lives, and you should slowly understand each other's lives, so that you will have a lot of closeness.