What is it like to have parents who are too good?

Some people say that it is very simple to become a scholar, if your parents are both scholars, then it is actually a very simple thing to become a scholar, because it is already a habit in their consciousness, so it should benefit a lot. <>

It will bring a lot of pressure to the child, if the parents are very good, the requirements for the child will be higher, the child will face a lot of pressure, they know that only enough hard work can make my parents happy.

It will cause a certain amount of pressure on the child, and the child may feel that if he does not work hard, he will be said by others to have such a bunch of excellent parents, but the child is so mediocre, and if he works hard, others will also say that it is because of the teaching of such excellent parents, the child will play so much.

When it comes to parents, not only do others think they are excellent, but they also feel more proud. Feel like you have a direction in your life, whether you are confused or confused, there are people who will give you guidance and give you encouragement.

I'm still very proud, because my parents are very good, well, it's very common to take it out, but it's usually a little annoying at home, because if they're too good, the requirements for me will be very high.

My parents are so good, and the experience is that I should be glad to have such parents, because there are such parents who can help me a lot on the road in the future, and can help me when I have problems.

It is a good thing for a child to be born in such a family, because he has excellent parents, which will give him many opportunities and opportunities, so that the child can develop better, and the congenital conditions are also very good.

The mother of a friend of mine is very good, his mother was already a graduate student, but in the first year of high school, her mother was admitted to Zhejiang University as a doctoral student, so he had to study hard.

Remember a sentence, children are born to replace their parents, work hard, there will always be more than one day, how much ability to do how much, you may not know that others envy you for having a good pair of parents.

In our conventional impression, we always think that excellent parents will teach excellent children, but often the reality is not like this, some parents are very good, but the children are very bad, this is why.

In fact, many problems are due to the fact that parents do not have good methods for their children's education, and the education of children is something that parents always need to learn. The education of children is not only that the parents are excellent, but more importantly, it is necessary to educate the children in good education methods. The education method is not in place, and do not expect children to have good character or grades, because every child is a blank slate, and parents slowly teach them knowledge in the process of continuous growth.

The excellence of parents and the excellence of children are often linked, so I believe that many excellent parents also want to teach their children to be excellent, but we must be clear, not that parents are excellent, children will be excellent, but most people's views are so, so such a popular concept has been formed. If you are always bound by this concept, you will be very concerned about this matter, and the final result may not be satisfactory. Therefore, when dealing with children, parents can appropriately lower their expectations.

When some parents educate their children, because they are very good, they will be obsessed with the mediocrity of their children. But as a parent, the most important thing is to accept the mediocrity of the child, and make sure not to blindly use your own excellence to restrain the child, which will make the child feel very burdened. I'm sure many people have experienced that when we are very eager to accomplish something, the result may not be as we imagined, but when we relax and accept it, we find that the result is better.

In fact, it is also the case in educating children, if the expectations for the child are too high, once he fails to meet them, parents will be very angry. Therefore, when educating children, don't be too eager to make your child become as good as yourself, because in the process of the child's slow growth, we will find his advantages, find his advantages, and then guide him slowly.

Because these parents are relatively good and do not know how to educate their children, it may be because they do not strengthen their children's education and ignore their children's personality development.

Because they don't know how to educate their children, they don't have a particularly comprehensive education for their children, so children are relatively bad.

Because parents only have this one child, they spoil this child very much, so this child will become very bad.

First of all,I think excellence is relative, because there is someone outside the man, mineHusbandCompared with those public and big coffee, it must be Luban's big axe in front of the door, butAmong the people around him, he can be regarded as competitiveIt is considered by their in-laws to be the pride of their lives.

In particular, my mother-in-law especially likes to tell me about her husband's quiet upbringing, because she feels very proud. The mother-in-law said that her husband has been very smart since he was a child, and his mother-in-law began to teach his husband to write before he was three years old, and his husband did know how to read very quickly and liked to learn, which allowed him to read famous books by himself at the age of five. At that time, there was an old man with some seniority living in the neighborhood, and every time he saw my husband, he said:

Look at this child's performance on weekdays, smart, and he will be a piece of learning material in the future."My mother-in-law said that she was very happy to hear it, because she was uneducated herself, and hoped that her son would have some success in the future.

The husband lived up to the expectations of his in-lawsSince elementary school, his grades have been at the top; When he graduated from junior high school, he was admitted to the city's key No. 1 middle school with the first grade in the school, and his in-laws were financially strapped at that time, and there was no money to pay the sponsorship feeMy mother-in-law will be very proud every time she says this; When he graduated from high school, his husband could go to Peking University to doctor, but he didn't like it and chose Beijing University of Science and TechnologyOn the eve of his husband's college entrance examination, his father-in-law said to him very easily: "My son must have no problem taking the university entrance examination, I am not worried at all, son, don't be nervous, just play normally".；After finishing his university studies, my husband studied postgraduate courses on his own and was admitted to the graduate school of Beihang University at public expense. The mother-in-law said that finding a job did not worry them eitherAfter graduation, my husband worked in several leading Internet companies, from a grassroots programmer to a middle-level manager, and his connections in this circle are relatively wide.

The parents of the neighbors' children are particularly envious of the in-laws, and the teachers have praised the in-laws for their education in front of other parents.

The son is too good, and some parents are very proud in front of people and sigh silently after others.

I have a very good distant cousin who has been someone else's child since he was a child, and he is a good example for our parents to learn from. As a left-behind child in the countryside in the 80s, this cousin is too unusual, never plays with the children in the village, he is gentle, and likes to stay at home alone to studyI never let my cousin and my cousin-in-law worry about my studies.

My cousin was admitted to the village elementary school with excellent gradesThe key junior high school in the county, and then the key high school, the college entrance examination is not very ideal, and only an ordinary one in Hunan was examinedLater, he was admitted to a graduate school in Beijing and stayed in Beijing to develop. According to my family, I have developed very well and are engaged in politics in Beijing.

My cousin is the best developed in our small village in recent generations, and every time people in the village talk about it, they all say that this child is not bad, and with his own efforts, he can develop so well in Beijing without any background strength. It's just that I haven't seen my cousin for years, since he went out to studyI heard from relatives that my cousin hadn't been home for the Chinese New Year for many years since he worked, and the last time I saw this cousin was at my cousin's grandmother's funeral, and I almost didn't recognize him.

Later, my cousin gave birth to a child, and my cousin went to Beijing to help take care of the child, and she came back after only half a month, saying that she was not used to it, and some relatives said that it was because her daughter-in-law didn't like her. Now my cousin and my cousin-in-law are farming a few acres of land at home, and they are often seen chatting with people or watching others play cards in the village commissary。Every time the cousin who married outside took the child back to her parents' house, they were very happy, and they were preparing all kinds of food a day in advance.

Parents always hope that their children are excellent, and they can fly as high and as far as they can, but when they are older, they find that they are often not excellent children or the least excellent children in the family who can accompany their parents. is like Zhou Bingkun in "The World", he is not as good as his brother and sister, but only he is not excellent and accompanies his parents and takes care of their daily life. The son is too good, and it is not necessarily a good thing for parents who need companionship and care in their later years.

The son is so good,Mom and Dad have a light on their faces, and they will feel very happy and proud.

When it comes to children, parents are most concerned about grades, and grades are what parents usually compete the most.

There is a boy in my village who has been doing well in school since he was a childAlways at the top of the class.

Whenever the villagers talked about the child, everyone gave the boy a thumbs up, and even praised the parents of the boy next to him for teaching him well.

To put it bluntly,The boy's parents simply had their faces glowing and their socks touching, surrounded by the envious eyes of other parents.

Talking about their son, the boy's parents are also very happy, even if he humbly says a few words that are his own efforts, they can't cover their good and Qingxing.

In this way, for a few years, the boy's parents have been praised by their neighbors in this way, and even when they go to relatives during the New Year, they are all praised by relativesThe boy's parents, who were bent a little because of the heavy work, straightened their waists a lot.

Later,The boy finished the college entrance examination and was successfully admitted to Tsinghua University. In the village, this is a great event, after all, there are not many children in the village who are admitted to this kind of famous university, so the boy's parents also generously set up a few tables and invited a song and dance troupe to perform to celebrate.

Looking at the banner unfurling the celebration, there are also the boy's parents with smiles on their faces during the meal. I think they have such a good son, and they are all happy and proud in their hearts.

The son is too good, and when the parents are called a tsundere, they are praised all over the worldAnyone can tell it, even the uncles and aunts who sweep the garbage on the street can know a thing or two.

My aunt and nephew were admitted to Tongji University, and he was the best university among all his children and nephews, so he became the golden sign of his parents, and he promoted it wherever he went. When the child first entered Tongji, he didn't like his major too much, but he spent a year to conquer his favorite computer major, and successfully changed his major in the second semester of his freshman year.

Although it took an extra year, when I graduated from my senior year,I actually won a full scholarship provided by a university in a certain country, and went to study abroad all the way, or two people went together, academically, marriage, in one step. Good guys, now the parents are smiling and shining, no matter where they go, they can keep hearing compliments, praising them for raising their son so well, asking them to ask for education methods, and my cousin is about to become half a parenting expert.

Every time, my cousin was very humble and said that we had no cultureIt's all self-taught by the sonWe just provide him with food and drink, can it be our credit? It's also that people are reincarnated well, which proves that reincarnation is a technical job, and will inherit our best, this kid is really good.

Of course, there is nothing unconvincing about other people, no matter how you say that the stool is matched, people are good in the test, and they can't be convinced. Everyone can understand the arrogance of their cousin, and they all give enough faceThe big and small affairs in the family will invite the two members of their family to sit downIf there is any problem, I want to ask for the opinions of the two people in their family first, and then make a decision after listening to their analysis and opinions, which is the treatment that other brothers and sisters may not be able to enjoy.

In reality, in fact, whether it is a son or a daughter, as long as it is good enough, it is beyond the height that ordinary people can understandThen their parents will obviously have a much higher social status than others, and they will be able to get more admiring eyes from others, this is the normal feeling of people, spiritually happy, happy in life, and living a fairy-like life. That honor and pampering are at ease, alas, I only hope that our own children can make us proud once, let us also touch that taste.