How did your family status change before and after having a baby?

Before having a baby, I had the final say in my family, and after giving birth, something changed, and my husband would sometimes rebel against me. Their father and daughter are in the same group, thinking that I am bullying him, for the family status, this must not be allowed, otherwise he will be even more lawless. <>

Before having children, I had a high family status, but after giving birth, it declined. Because my daughter is the eldest in my family, this little girl is young but very naughty, and she is coquettish when she doesn't agree with her, and she really has no resistance to her coquettishness, so she can only give up blaming her.

Before the child was born, I still had a place in my family, and my wife would respect me and ask for my opinion when I encountered things, but now after my son appeared, my status is getting lower and lower, and my son made mistakes, it was my fault, in short, I was the one who was suppressed.

After giving birth, I obviously found that my family status has changed dramatically, my wife used to love me very much, she cared about me all the time, but after conceiving a child, she promised me that she would still be centered on me in the future, but I didn't expect that after giving birth she forgot about me.

When I gave birth to my daughter, my status in the family changed a lot, because my husband liked his daughter very much, so he would buy her a lot of things that my daughter wanted, but he didn't buy me anything on her wedding anniversary.

Before giving birth, I was my husband's little baby, and my husband's favorite person was me, but since my daughter was born, my husband will pay more attention to my daughter, and I have some negligence, which is unbearable.

After I gave birth, there was no change in my family, because we had an agreement before we had children, we must love each other first, and then love children, only in this way can children grow up happily in happiness, so my husband still loves me very much.

I gave birth to a daughter, in the eyes of my husband is a princess, he cares about his daughter all the time whether he eats or not, but he doesn't care at all, holding the child, I am very sad, sad that my status has become so low.

Friends and parents often quarrel at home, and every day they either drop things or point at each other's noses and scold.

In the past, she would pretend to be sensible to please her parents, but what she got was criticism full of complaints:

I don't divorce your dad, it's not for you, can you save me worry every day, just supporting you is enough to upset me......”

These parents probably never realize that the birth of a child will not bring a consolidated effect to this already fragmented family relationship.

Instead, it has become an orange limb card in their hands, and every time "for you" will put a shackle on the child.

Over time, the child's personality will become more and more sensitive, and he will always put himself in a full sense of guilt.

When I was helping out in a counseling facility, I met a little boy whose parents got married because they were married, and there was no affection between them.

After running in for a while, they found that they still couldn't get together, so they wanted to end the marriage, but at this time, the little boy's mother found out that she was pregnant. Hall Wu Kai.

For the sake of the child, the two chose to continue to live together, but there is no common word between the two people at all, and every day except silence is a quarrel.

This lasted for almost six years, and then the boy's father had someone outside, and every time he came home, he would beat his wife and the boy.

According to the little boy himself, he was beaten by his father for the first time when he was just over four years old, and has been beaten regularly since then. Although his mother would protect the little boy, every time there was only mother and son left in the house, his mother would push him away and complain

If it weren't for you, I wouldn't have lived this life. If it weren't for you, I would have divorced him a long time ago. ”

This is the kind of thing that the mother would often say to the little boy. Therefore, as a result, the little boy often blames himself for his psychological problems, and even when it is serious, he will punish himself in a way.

You see, a child who is not yet 6 years old begins to doubt life, and he even thinks that it is his own existence that makes his mother so sad.

But is the problem really in this child? Not. Because of his parents' marriage, they were destined not to be happy from the beginning, they just got married for the sake of getting married, and after running in for a while, they couldn't get along together.

At that time, even if I found out that I was pregnant, there was no need to forcibly tie up and live with someone who was not compatible with me, because that kind of life could be seen at a glance, and there was no happiness at all.

Who said that if you give your children enough warmth and enough love, you must make your marriage survive? If you are strong enough, you can also give your child enough warmth and love.

Parents often criticize and fight their children, so that teenagers do not enjoy the love of father, mother, and the warmth of family, and some only have fear, worry, and disappointment. Children who grow up in such families are often introverted, withdrawn and inferior, and they are afraid to tell their parents the truth for fear of being beaten and scolded for it.