What should I do if I have psychological problems? What if the ideal is not the same as the reality?

When you encounter psychological problems, you can talk to relatives and friends, maybe a few warm words from them can dissolve the ice in your heart, and you have to see a psychiatrist if you have a heavy one.

I have always believed that people with dreams are respectable people, but it is difficult to agree between ideals and reality, because once an ideal becomes a reality, the ideal ceases to be an ideal, it becomes a reality.

Ideal is a kind of belief, which is generally difficult to achieve, or can only be realized after great efforts, so it is normal for the ideal to be different from reality, and the key is to know how to base ourselves on reality and move towards the ideal, so that the ideal can one day become a reality.

Hello: It is normal to encounter problems, analyze the causes of problems, and then make adjustments and changes according to the causes.

Ideal and reality are different, of course, to make one's rationality more realistic and feasible; You don't have to change, you just need to refine the ideal into a small goal that is feasible step by step, and then complete it step by step. It's like climbing a mountain, no one jumps up at once, they all go up step by step. Then treat your ideal as the top of the mountain, and refine a lot of steps in the middle, and that's it.

Actively solve it, find someone to talk to or ask questions, in short, don't hold it in your heart, it will be very uncomfortable. The gap between the ideal and the reality is very large, and many people understand this, so don't dwell on it. Since you can't change the world, change yourself!

What do you do when your ideals don't match your realistic choices?

Tonight, I watched "Let's Talk", in which Lin Zhixuan talked about his personal experience of early career development. It is incredible that Lin Zhixuan, who is so good and sings so well, is actually not a singing major during college, but a civil engineering major.

He met a ** teacher during college, and then slowly developed and wanted to make the acting path his career, but his family was very opposed to it at that time. At first, he didn't tell his family that he wanted to do it himself. He also secretly went to the record company to release the first article**, but shortly after he released the first article**, his father forced him to go back to his factory to help out because his mother was sick.

Faced with such a life choice: on the one hand, the acting path he loves, and on the other hand, his family needs help. At that time, when faced with such a choice, he chose to temporarily put down his acting career and do what he could.

It was very coincidental that his father's factory caught fire 11 months after he arrived, and the factory burned down. Later, he also got his father's consent and returned to his acting career to continue to engage in his acting path, and in this way, the accumulation step by step has made him what he is now.

In fact, we will face many choices in life, especially in career development, and the choices we want are often different from those that can be obtained in reality. So Lin Zhixuan gave us the answer is to do what we can do first, and then wait until a certain opportunity to do what we want to do.

He also used his personal experience to tell us a very simple truth: dreams are very important, but when dreams do not match reality, we must first do the work in front of us in a down-to-earth manner, and then look for opportunities to do what we want to do. That's exactly what I'm doing right now.

I said I wanted to be a mentor, but I didn't really know which field I wanted to be. So at present, I choose to work in sales first based on my current situation and my future career development. After a certain amount of accumulation, he will transform into a mentor.

I give you advice, do you think it's okay? 1.Look at the world with another eye, not everyone in this world is very smooth, just look at how you solve it, for example, you were hit by someone when you were walking, others apologized to you, sometimes you still feel very angry, but you didn't expect that the person who hit you was actually more uncomfortable than you, or think about the sentence "Happy is also a day, unhappy is also a day, why not be happy every day".

2.If you think that you are in a bad mood, you will be in a bad mood, then you don't need to think about it, if you still want to, then keep yourself busy, let yourself have no time to think about it, let yourself live every minute to the fullest, and then don't fall in love with the bed after waking up in the morning, get up when you wake up, get busy, open the window, breathe in the fresh morning air, relax your whole body, and let yourself imagine a happy little angel ...... 3.Choose a place with fresh air, quiet surroundings, soft light, undisturbed and free movement, and take a position that you feel comfortable in, standing, sitting or lying down.

4.Move some large joints and muscles of the body, the speed should be even and slow when doing it, and the action does not need to have a certain format, as long as you feel the joints let go and the muscles relax. 5.

Take a deep breath, inhale slowly and exhale slowly, saying "relax" in your mind whenever you exhale. 6.Focus your attention on some everyday objects.

For example, look at a flower, a little candlelight, or anything soft and beautiful, and look closely at its subtleties. Light some spices and inhale the aroma of it. 7.

Close your eyes and try to imagine some tranquil and beautiful scenes, such as blue waters, golden sandy beaches, white clouds, mountains and water. 8.Do activities that you enjoy that have nothing to do with the specific things at hand.

For example, swimming, taking a hot bath, shopping, listening, watching TV, etc. 9.Life is easy, life is easy, life is not easy.

Don't worry, there are a lot of people in this society who are almost like you, but they are all living happily, not everyone can succeed, as long as you work hard to treat everything, take life seriously, as long as you take every day seriously, but how your life is, I believe it is wonderful. Go for it! Finally, I wish you a happy life!