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Of course, you can't tell your parents everything. Sometimes there will be some conflicts between you and the people in your husband's family, and maybe they are not doing the right thing. At this time, if you tell your parents all these things, they will definitely feel sorry for you, fight for you, seek justice, find your parents-in-law, sister-in-law, and brother-in-law to reason, and look at you for the time being as if you have an advantage, but in fact, this is detrimental to your husband and wife's feelings.
It will be difficult for your husband to do it at home, with parents, sisters and brothers on one side, and wife, mother-in-law, and father-in-law on the other. Your husband and wife will have a gap and slowly the relationship will break down. When you get married, you are already a mature woman, you can handle the things you can handle by yourself, and you will learn to deal with them after a few more losses if you can't handle them.
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Of course don't say it, it may not be a very serious thing, or something that won't be angry after a while, but once you tell your parents, things will escalate, they will feel that they are not good for you over there, and in their eyes this matter will not go away, and even your husband will be implicated after a long time, so it's best not to say it, just with your husband, if there is no big thing, it's best not to complain in front of your parents, it's good for the little couple to fight, but your parents think you're not happy, and they'll always be worried.
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With mutual understanding, or empathy, it's nothing, who doesn't want to think about their own family, right? It's okay to think about it.
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My husband tells my mother about everything, and there may be several reasons for this behavior:
1.Strong dependence: Some people grow up with a strong dependence on their mothers and are used to telling their mothers everything about them. This dependence may lead them to continue to share everything with their mothers after marriage.
2.Not able to think independently: Some people may lack the ability to think and make decisions independently, and they are used to relying on their mother's advice and advice to make decisions. Remorseful, they would tell their mother everything about themselves in order to get her guidance and support.
3.Wanting the mother's approval and approval: Some people may crave the mother's approval and approval, and they want the mother to support their decisions and actions. Therefore, they will tell their mother everything about themselves in order to gain her approval and approval.
4.Failure to build trust and communication between spouses: Some people may not have established trust and communication as a couple, and they are not used to sharing their inner world and problems with their spouse.
As a result, they tell their mother everything about themselves instead of communicating with their spouse.
5.Mother-child relationship is too close: Some people are too close to their mother, and they have a habit of telling their mother everything about themselves instead of sharing it with their spouse.
This intimacy can lead them to give more importance to their mother's opinions and suggestions and ignore the presence and opinions of their spouses.
Whatever the reason, this behavior can have a negative impact on the couple's relationship. Couples should build trust and communication with each other to solve problems and face challenges together. If your husband is in the habit of telling your mother everything, you can communicate with him, express your feelings and needs, and hope that he will be able to share his inner world and problems with you.
At the same time, you can also encourage him to think and make decisions independently, improving his independence and self-confidence. <>
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1.Hold your horses. If you have a conflict with your husband's family, remember not to get too emotional or emotional. Staying calm and avoiding letting things get worse is the only way to solve the problem effectively.
2.Communicate openly and honestly. If there is a problem, talk directly to your husband's family. Talk openly and honestly about the problem, explain your concerns and grievances, and how you can find ways to solve the problem.
3.Be as close as possible. Connect with your husband's family as much as possible. Attend their gatherings and do small things to release latent tension by chain-stopping. By interacting with them, you can better understand each other's behaviors and beliefs.
4.Define boundaries. If you have a problem with some of your husband's family members, then don't limit this situation to your own marital relationship with your husband.
In a couple's relationship, you can support each other. In some individual situations, some boundaries can be set to protect one's inherent interests.
Most importantly, don't feel like you're on the wrong side. Seek improvements to build that relationship, not find the wrong party. Although this is not an easy task, being consistent and putting in the effort is the key to making this relationship better.
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