Why don t my husband s family think about it, why do they have something wrong, and I have to apolog

Every family has a scripture that is difficult to read, and the problem of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has always been difficult to solve, so once there is such a problem, it is difficult to change the general relationship. If it's not a big deal, just let him go, take a step back and open the sky, don't be serious with the old man, it's boring to be more serious...

Do you know that your daughter-in-law is a mother-in-law, which means that your daughter-in-law is not good to do... Calm down...

His family is a bit machismo, including you, sir, so to speak, you are not mature and do not understand what is coming? I can't predict it, but no matter how mixed up on the outside, it is the two of you who live your life, the two of you must communicate well, no matter how much you are bullied outside, the people at home respect you, this is also the role of the family, you can achieve mutual respect and mutual understanding by exchanging your own views, this is happiness, but this is definitely not an easy thing, you need both of you to make sacrifices for a long time at the same time, and slowly you will get better. After all, life will always be good, and the reason why it will be good is because it was heavy before that.

If your future parents-in-law have too many requirements and don't understand you, that's normal, because each other has just come into contact with each other, and each other's living habits have not yet adapted to it, but your husband doesn't understand you, then I think you want a cup, people say that a good son hides from both ends, and a bad son passes on both ends, so if you want to get married, you have to be cautious.

You should first think about his feelings, if there is a conflict in a family, the most uncomfortable is the son (husband). He's a rat in the bellows tunnel, and he's angry at both ends! There are parents over there, and they can't blame their parents, they can only calm their wife's complaints.

Think more about him, and you'll be fine when he's okay! This is the so-called [teaching children in front of them and teaching their wives behind their backs.] It's hard for a son to be a husband, and it's even more difficult for a husband!

After leaving him for 100 days, how can you still go directly to the divorce with this attitude. Your relationship is obviously too bland, and he won't cherish you without a little setback, in fact, it's the same for women. Some things are done too much, for example, if you get used to it, they will take it for granted.

In fact, this also reflects that your personality and economy are not independent. That's why they fell into such a dilemma.

Let him think for you, and you think for him, the difficulty factor is the same, usually how much you think for him, he will think for him as much as you 、、、

Since your husband can think about others, he can think of you even more, why do you understand it this way? I think you have to empathize, do you have a problem with the problem? If your husband is empathetic and don't fall in love, then you should be careful, if not, you have to find your own problems first.

If you have a choice, don't end a love with hate.

Hate can stir up disputes, and love can cover up all faults.

Your eyes are the sea that I will never meet again.

Love can never be the scales. If you want to be happy in love, you have to be willing to be sad.

If the heart moves, tears will be a thousand lines.

Ask him if he's been with you or with them, but also think about whether there's anything wrong with you.

To love Him is to love all of Him, including His family

I'm about to divorce my husband by agreement, all for the sake of his family.

Calm down and have a good talk with your husband.

Without a cold bone, how to get the plum blossom fragrance. ——Huang Tiller Zen Master's "Ode to the Teachings in the Upper Hall".

Summary. You see your suggestion, you can let your mother-in-law live in a new house, the old man has worked hard all his life, he should also live in a new house, in addition, the extra money spent on building a house outside, we can also have a way to solve it, in this case, you and your husband, no mother-in-law sit together to discuss it, put your thoughts and methods out, when you say, you must let your mother-in-law live in the new house, let the mother-in-law live in the new house unconditionally, permanently, for the promise, and you have a way to solve the extra money, See what your husband and your mother-in-law think about this?

Why don't they tell me about my husband's family? Even my husband is like this, what has never been told to me before, why?

Said it was built for us, I don't like the location, I don't agree, it's not good.

Oh. The location inside is not an empty space or an old house, and the house outside is also old, my husband is himself, I feel that building a house is a big deal, build a suitable one, not in order to save money.

Do you have a way to fix the cost of spending more money on the outside than on the inside.

You see your suggestion, you can let your mother-in-law live in a new house, the old man has worked hard all his life, he should also live in a new house, in addition, the extra money spent on building a house outside, we can also have a way to solve it, in this case, you and your husband, no mother-in-law sit together to discuss it, put your thoughts and methods out, when you say, you must let your mother-in-law live in the new house, let the mother-in-law live in the new house unconditionally, permanently, for the promise, and you have a way to solve the extra money, See what your husband and your mother-in-law think about this?

Through this matter, you have to let your husband see that you are a knowledgeable woman and a woman with a way, and you can help him come up with ideas and solve problems.

My dear, your in-laws don't tell you about your in-laws? The first is because they don't quite agree with you, and the second is that they don't think you have much ability.

My husband said that their family affairs have nothing to do with me, and I don't need to be involved.

If your husband doesn't involve you in your family's affairs, it can make you feel excluded and not valued. In any relationship, it is very important to solve problems together and support each other. If your husband doesn't let you get involved in family matters, then this can cause you to feel neglected or unrecognized.

You can communicate openly and honestly with your husband and let him know how you feel and what you are confused. You can tell him that you are also part of the family and want to be able to participate in family affairs and solve problems together. You can also offer your suggestions and opinions in the hope that he will listen to you and consider your ideas.

If your husband insists on getting you involved in family matters, you can seek outside help and support, such as family counseling or marriage**, to help you solve problems together and improve your relationship. It is important that you maintain open and honest communication with your husband to build a healthier and positive family environment.

On the one hand, the mother-in-law treats her daughter-in-law as an outsider, and on the other hand, the daughter-in-law treats people other than her husband as outsiders. Without blood relations and heart-to-heart processes, most families are unable to reconcile the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

But those families where mothers-in-law can treat their daughters-in-law as daughters are nothing more than two possibilities:

1. The daughter-in-law treats her mother-in-law as her own mother.

2. The mother-in-law treats her daughter-in-law as a daughter.

As long as either party can break through this barrier, the family relationship will be harmonious. Both conditions seemed impossible, but someone did it. Is it true that human affection is maintained only by blood relations? The biological one is not necessarily filial. Those who are not biological may not be unfilial.

In the final analysis, family conflicts are just people's differences. If you want to break through this kind of barrier without blood, there must be one party who exchanges sincerity for sincerity, the time may be very long, and there may be many twists and turns during the period, but people are emotional animals, and people's hearts are flesh, and there will always be a day when the ice and snow melt.

Don't think that it would be nice to change your mother-in-law, or not to marry into this, please note that all families are the same, and all kinds of conflicts will arise from time to time, unless you don't marry for the rest of your life.

Most people give in return, for example, I am good to you, I want to be good to me in return. But in fact, it is not necessarily equivalent, this is "what you want, if you don't reach it, you will be troubled", on the other hand, your own heart, the trouble comes from**? If you are overly attached to this symmetry, you can't ask for it, because you can't control each other's thoughts, so go with the flow, you should have nowhere to live, so you don't have to worry, you have always maintained your original intention, rather than not being able to change others, it is better to change yourself first.

Over time, you will find that your temper has improved, you can tolerate everything, your aura has become bigger, others have accepted and respected you, and the family atmosphere has become harmonious. The relationship is naturally harmonious. This is practice, and practice is the cultivation of the mind.

Easier said than done. Are you ready?

Hello this friend!

How old are you this year? How many years have you been married? Before you married your husband, what was the impression of your husband's family?

Do they approve of their son marrying you? After you got married, did you have any conflicts with your husband's family? Is your husband's home far or close to your mother's house?

You want your husband to be there for you when there is a conflict. A counselor can understand how you feel. But for your husband, on one side is his wife, on the other side is his parents, both sides are the people he loves the most, you have a conflict, and your husband is caught in the middle and it is difficult to be a person.

If you love your husband, you can try to change your relationship with his family and not always be against his mother. You have a conflict with your parents-in-law, and at first your husband may be standing by your side, but after a long time, it will be more difficult to deal with it more often.

The information you provide here is limited, you can tell us your details, talk to a counselor, I will do my best to help you, I wish you happiness!

Seeing your question, at first glance, I was also a little confused. But when I think about my life with my daughter-in-law, I would be more or less quarrelsome at first, and my friends and colleagues around me would quarrel over family matters. This is normal, don't worry.

After the quarrel, after a few days, when you are relatively good at communicating, you need to throw this question out, you need him to stand in your shoes, think about it, if you are a very big man or you can't be tough, then it is probably no fun. At the same time, you have to think about it from his point of view, men, when it is the hardest, you can't say it. To sum up, it is to get closer to the perspective of the truth.

The last way is to quarrel occasionally, and after a year or two, I don't bother to quarrel, and many, many families are like this.

We can talk, my wife said this, I just need to be good to him, but my family is also a relative.

Can we ** this question?!

If the relationship with your husband's family is too bad, the relationship with your husband will not be better.

If you just want to get better yourself, and ignore others, then you can't get better. Only by being good to others can you get better. If you are kind to your husband's family, your relationship with your husband will naturally be better.

You've not been married for long, have you? Most of the newly married men are like this, after all, they have been in a relationship for so many years, he will still protect his family, but in order to maintain this marriage, he can only endure it, try not to have conflicts with his family, and let him come forward to communicate with his family to solve any problems, of course, if he doesn't care about thirty-seven twenty-one, he will blame you for everything, too partial to his family, you have to resist, otherwise you will suffer in the future.

You need to lose your temper once, and he thinks you're not a bully. He belongs to the kind of person who gives shame on face. No empathy. Send him a dismount.

Anyone will be wronged in this matter, you can communicate your feelings with your husband and let him put himself in your shoes; Or you should think more about your husband and lower your posture for love. Otherwise, the contradictions will accumulate deeper and deeper, and eventually it will be difficult to reconcile.