Who should take care of the mother during the confinement period?

Confinement nanny, or confinement center.

I was four and a half months pregnant and wanted to go to the confinement center, but after reading **, I decided to let my husband go, an ordinary person, with a monthly income of about 10,000 yuan, a mortgage and a car loan, my mother-in-law's family has foreign debts, and I have two sons. No one will agree and have no money to go to the confinement center, the cheapest is more than 20,000 yuan, which is really unattainable! Then my mother-in-law made it clear that they couldn't take care of me for a full month, because they were not in the same province as us, and my aunt and sister-in-law were confined, and my mother-in-law didn't serve the full moon, so in order not to be biased and didn't dare to serve my full moon, I had to take one step at a time, and serve myself!

The husband wants to earn money.

I still think that the confinement center is better, and I invited an unsatisfactory confinement sister-in-law, and I was so sad that the confinement meal I made was too unpalatable.

Think about it, everyone will have an old day, and when you can't do household things, please don't hurt people like this

Personally, I feel that it is better to ask the confinement lady or the child's father to take care of it, it is not an ideal choice to let the mother-in-law take care of it, my first child is a mother-in-law to take care of all kinds of inconvenience, the second child decided to let the child's father take care of the child is now doing confinement, what do you want to eat directly say that there is no right to buy it, what private words and the husband is not bad to express, if the mood is not good, you can also say, if the husband does not have time to take care of it, hire a confinement sister-in-law, after all, a lifetime to sit for a month, the confinement sister-in-law is also professional.

My husband takes care of the best, I can't count on my little niece at home, my mother-in-law is cooking and holding the child, I can't communicate otherwise, I just came back from the hospital and can't sleep, I have insomnia for several days, I broke down and cried, my husband comforted, I took the baby to sleep at night, I was responsible for changing diapers, let me sleep, and slowly I adjusted over, the child is two people, so it is best for my husband to participate in taking care of it.

My husband takes care of it best, let my husband know that it's not easy to stay up late to breastfeed, and the pain that my body endures, I regret not letting my husband take care of it, and I didn't accompany me to the hospital for a prenatal checkup.

Mother-in-law is too stubborn, always talk to her is a passer, anything by her, anyway, I can't stand it, I have a bad temper and quarrel in person, and then I heard her scolding me behind my back, if my own mother will be like this, and my mother-in-law can't take care of it at all, because it is a novice mother who doesn't understand a lot, the child spits milk out of the nose, I am anxious and afraid, shouting to let me come and see, people play with mobile phones and ignore it, and finally it's okay to run over and tell me, it's okay, children are like this, I didn't use her to accompany the night at night, I didn't use her to take care of it during the day, just cook for me, wash the child's urine pad, I said before to buy a small washing machine, the child's urine pad is more convenient to wash, people say that there is a washing machine at home without buying, and now in order to save electricity and water, wash it by hand, and then shout tired every day, I can't stand the care of my mother-in-law anyway, if I would rather go to the confinement center, but my mother-in-law said that it doesn't cost money, she takes care of it, and then she takes care of me not at all. So if you have the conditions to go to the confinement center, if you don't have the conditions, find your mother, your mother-in-law is really not good.

I think it's very good to take care of your husband or mother, don't look for your mother-in-law, that's the most powerful milk artifact and easy to make you postpartum depression, stay away!

I need my husband to take care of me, and he is the best candidate.

I chose to go to the confinement center.

I feel like my husband is good, and my mother-in-law wants you to be a cow.

My mother-in-law took care of me during confinement, and the second child was about to be born, and I was also a mother-in-law, my mother-in-law was not bad, and I would take good care of her when she was old in the future.

My own mother or confinement center, anyway, it's better not to be a mother-in-law, that's the most powerful milk artifact.

I've always relied on my husband, and I'm happy as long as he's at home. Or my own mother, she will respect my ideas, unlike my mother-in-law, who doesn't care about my feelings and opinions, and says that I have no opinion! Everything is like making it look like it is for others, and in the morning I bring a big bowl of rice for me to eat for a day.

I have said many times that I don't want to cook, it is not good to defecate, and the wound will hurt. As a result, it is still a dry meal every day.

My husband and my mother both said to take care of me, my mother is not at ease, my husband said to make up for the debt of Dabao, as for my mother-in-law, hehe, I took the car two days ago, I was not feeling well, my husband immediately stopped, my mother-in-law came down and stood next to me, I didn't help me when I fell, and my husband quarreled with her on the road.

When I gave birth to Dabao, my mother-in-law took care of her, and my mother-in-law is a traditional Chinese parent, and she thinks it is her responsibility, so she takes care of her with all her heart. When I gave birth to Erbao, because my mother-in-law needed to take care of Dabao, Dabao was only two years old, so in order for Dabao and I not to be wronged, I invited a confinement sister-in-law, and the confinement sister-in-law took care of me and Erbao, and my mother-in-law took care of Dabao and his family. My husband is lazy and doesn't know how to do housework, so I don't think about him at all.

The situation of each family is different, so it is best to say in advance who will take care of it.

Of course, it's my own mother, and my mother-in-law won't be so thoughtful if she doesn't give birth to you.

If the economy allows, you can ask for a confinement lady, and if not, let your husband come.

I think my husband takes care of me best, I don't like my mother-in-law who became a grandmother for the first time at the age of 62, I don't like it at all, I don't like cleanliness, my health is not good, I can't count on anything, and I am now nine months pregnant and I have to help with housework.

Confinement sister-in-law, professional, few words, can alleviate the contradictions between many family members, postpartum recovery is very good, the confinement meal is very good, the key is to teach novice mothers a lot of parenting experience, of course, you have to find the right person.

Going to a confinement center or confinement lady to take care of you will avoid a lot of conflicts. Even if you have an opinion, you can just say it. They won't get involved in your family, and they won't talk about old things. You won't say anything like having another grandchild just because you gave birth to a daughter.

Immediately after giving birth, the mother is easily agitated due to the unstable hormone level. When I was confined for the first time, I might have cried when I thought of anything. For my situation, my husband took care of me as the best choice.

If the financial conditions allow and the family supports, it will be better for me to recommend a professional confinement lady to take care of it. Confinement nurses have professional knowledge and skills in nursing mothers and newborns, can guide postpartum recovery, provide delicious confinement meals, learn parenting knowledge, and most importantly, can effectively avoid postpartum mother-in-law and daughter-in-law conflicts, and can spend a relaxed and comfortable confinement.

I strongly believe that it is better for mothers to be cared for by their own mothers during confinement. However, it is under the premise that the family conditions are limited, do not go to the confinement center and do not invite a confinement nanny. Because although my mother takes care of herself better, my mother is also tired.

I am a first-time mother, a mother for the first time, all kinds of understanding, all kinds of anxiety, resulting in me in the confinement of all the care of the baby is more nervous, so I will be more demanding, and even some things can be called hypocrisy. My mom is here, I can tell her everything, and my mom won't dislike me. When I was in confinement, my mom helped take care of the children (everything was done according to my request) and took care of me, and my mother-in-law helped with the cooking and housework.

My mom pities me to the point where she helps me test the temperature of the water every time I brush my teeth and wash my face, and I have everything ready for washing my feet. So mom takes care of it more intimately.

1. In the case of economic conditions, the confinement center is recommended first.

In the first month of life, the child's own needs are still very numerous, and the confinement center has professional staff who can take care of the child. And because she has just experienced childbirth, Bao Ma also needs more quality rest time to better recover her body. The formal and professional confinement center, general catering snacks, as well as the baby's daily bathing touch, sleeping, and breastfeeding are all taken care of very comprehensively.

With a new member in the family, everyone will be overwhelmed and pay too much attention to the mother and baby, while in the confinement center, you can give the members of the family more time to adapt to the arrival of the new member.

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2. It is recommended that parents take care of them.

Being taken care of by family members is the choice of more ordinary people, and it is economical. It's just that when taking care of the family, it may be more about experience, and the recognition of the elders is not very high. Give a suggestion, if you choose to be taken care of by the elders at home for confinement, it is recommended that you can buy a confinement meal on a certain treasure, and the amount of about 30 days is fine.

After such production, let the family cook the meals according to the confinement meal ingredients, which can avoid many conflicts caused by different concepts.

That's what I did, I bought a confinement meal and asked my mother-in-law to cook it for me, so the food in the confinement was not greasy, the weight was declining as a whole, and there was no increase, but the baby's weight growth was in line with the growth curve, and the growth was gratifying, hehe. After all, you will be more likely to eat healthy after confinement, rather than being too greasy and becoming fat after confinement.

The main contradiction is that the parents, seven aunts and eight aunts around you may tell you some of the experiences of those who have come over. For example, if the baby is crying, he is hungry, he can't take a bath, he can't wash his hair, he can't wear more clothes, etc.

In this regard, you need to be mentally prepared, you can read more professional parenting books at this time, to prevent you from losing confidence in taking care of your doll because you hear too many suggestions.

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3. Hire a babysitter.

Although I have never hired a nanny, I have relatives around me who have hired a nanny, and the results are very bad. The main problem is that the nanny is not professional enough, and then what to do, and the nanny was introduced by an acquaintance, and then the nanny left a month later, and the whole family was relieved.

Of course, it is not denied that there are some good nannies, but we need to see if our character can be found, if the home is inconvenient and you need to hire a nanny, it is recommended to see a few more intermediaries, you can also interview more nannies, and then determine which nanny to invite. Don't listen to other people's introductions unilaterally, or rely on company introductions to choose a nanny. Picking a bad nanny is much worse than taking care of your parents, and the cost is not cheap.

The bad heart in the confinement is enough to make people remember it for a long, long time... For a long time.

The most important thing after giving birth is confinement, so who should take care of yourself during the confinement period? Who did you choose to take care of in the first place?

Giving birth is a very important event for women, and pregnant women have to endure a lot of physical and psychological torture during pregnancy. I thought that I could be liberated after the child was born, but I didn't know that the real test of the child's birth began. The first thing to face after giving birth is confinement, which is a very important thing for Chinese women, so who to take care of during confinement is particularly important.

For husbands, mothers-in-law, mothers and confinement sisters-in-law, who is the best candidate? Most people chose the third.

1.Husband.

It stands to reason that it is most suitable for a husband to take care of his wife's confinement, after all, the relationship between husband and wife is the most intimate, and there is nothing inconvenient. For mothers, there are not so many worries and they are more comfortable. But most men are inexperienced in this area, especially when it comes to taking care of a newborn baby, and many fathers can't even hold it.

For an inexperienced person, taking care of two people at the same time is really stressful. And in the process of taking care of the species, there will be many places that will not be done well, and in the end, the mother may not recover well, and the child may not be taken care of. In addition, if the husband takes care of the confinement, the family will have no income**.

2.Mother-in-law.

If you want to talk about experience, the mother-in-law must be more experienced than the husband, and she is more handy in taking care of the mother and the child, and many mothers-in-law are also willing to help take care of the daughter-in-law's confinement. But after all, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law belong to two generations, and there will be a lot of conflicts in the concept of parenting. In addition, there may be wounds such as lateral incision that need to be cared for after childbirth, which is somewhat inconvenient for my mother-in-law.

Moreover, if the mother wants to eat anything, she is embarrassed to open her mouth with her mother-in-law, and she will feel unhappy.

3.Mom.

Compared with her mother-in-law, her mother should be a very close person, and it is not easy for mother and daughter to hold grudges, even if there is a dispute, it will soon get better. And the mother feels sorry for her daughter, no matter how hard she works, she will take care of the mother and the child. In terms of diet and daily life, the mother can tell her mother what she has, and she will not hold back, so that her mood will be better and conducive to postpartum recovery.

4.Confinement sister-in-law.

Now there are also many families who invite confinement sisters to take care of confinement children, first of all, if you invite confinement sisters, the economic conditions of the family must be able to go up, and there are enough rooms at home for confinement sisters to live. The confinement lady is more professional than the family, and some problems of the child can be solved in time. But there are many family members who are still not at ease with the confinement sister-in-law, and the mother still has to worry a lot about herself.