How do you divert your attention when you can t stand being alone and alone?

Three ways to say goodbye to loneliness, even if you are not with you, you will have a good time! <>

First of all, you understand very well that your purpose is to divert your attention and say goodbye to unbearable loneliness, but one thing to note is that you will not be lonely if you are accompanied by someone, and when the person who accompanies you does not understand you and cannot give you proper communication, you may be even more lonely. So to truly say goodbye to loneliness, you need to rely on yourself, and quality solitude is even more important.

When we understand that we need to deal with loneliness, we also need to know the causes of loneliness, which often comes with helplessness, anxiety and fear. Helplessness means that you are unable to deal with the current conflict, but you want to face the problem. Anxiety is that you have no goals in the near future and no direction in life, so you can't be at peace in your heart; And fear is when you have a goal and worry that you will not be able to complete the task and will not be able to achieve your goal. After understanding the above three states, how to deal with the symptoms can be medicated.

Give 3 ways to get out of the haze of loneliness.

1.If you are helpless and can't deal with the current conflict, then give your mind a vacation, escape from reality, go climbing, cycling, or running, in short, let yourself stay out of the matter (do something that allows you to devote yourself to it), relax your mood, enjoy a good thing, and then go back and deal with the problem that makes you troubled, there may be unexpected results. Of course, if you still can't deal with it, then be open-minded and actively bear the consequences of the contradiction; <>

2.If you're in a state of anxiety, then you need to find yourself a small goal. Don't let yourself earn back "100 million", the goal is based on realistic efforts can be obtained, and clearly know, I can achieve it if I work hard, the goal can not be too ambitious, it must be based on reality and higher than reality, for example, if your longest cycling record is 20km, then you try 25km, 30km and so on.

When the small goals continue, the big goals will eventually be highlighted, allowing you to explore the big goals you need and should have, wave away the haze of anxiety, and say goodbye to the state of loneliness; <>

3.As for the loneliness caused by fear, the solution is actually simpler. You have goals, but you may be afraid and worried because of your lack of self-confidence, lack of strength, poor platform and other factors, then do auxiliary work, for example, you need to participate in a speech, but your opponents are very strong, so you are worried that you will not be outstanding, or even will perform badly, then you can study the opponent's speech routines, typhoons, clothing and weaknesses, etc., improve your own shortcomings, overcome psychological fear, shine on the weaknesses of the other party, etc., these jobs will give you confidence and relieve fearIt's time to say goodbye to loneliness.

I am your friend Mirror Brother, may you completely defeat loneliness, and may I solve your confusion!

When you have to be alone, you will feel that the time is very long, and at this time, you should try to find things that you are interested in to do in order to divert your attention.

If you usually like to chase dramas, you can watch some reasoning TV series, because reasoning TV dramas require you to pay attention to the development of the plot at all times, otherwise you will miss key information clues, resulting in no guessing of the result. In this way, not only can you have the characters of the TV series accompany you, but you can also divert your attention so that it doesn't feel like a long time. Comedy movies are also a good option, comedy will make you laugh and forget about loneliness.

But if there is no network, these can not achieve my own words, you can do something without the network, I personally prefer to do handicrafts, will find some simple materials, do some creative handicrafts, the production of handicrafts requires care and patience, which requires you to be able to calm down, fully devote yourself to it, in the process of doing you can forget the time, will not feel lonely and long, on the successful diversion of attention. Reading is also a good choice, reading is a mental labor, your mind will follow the author's strokes, think together, so that you will not pay attention to whether there are people around you, and there will be no loneliness.

If I don't have the materials to do the crafts and my favorite books, I usually choose to exercise, which is usually tiring, and your focus is all on how to regulate your breathing and make yourself feel more relaxed. You will be able to divert your attention. Try not to choose things that you are not interested in doing, because if you are not interested, it will be difficult to concentrate on doing it, which will only make your heart more and more annoying, and the feeling of loneliness will only become more obvious.

I saw a sentence before, "A person who can endure great loneliness can achieve great causes." ”

When loneliness is absorbed, processed and tempered, the crystallization is so dazzling! But most of the time, we are lonely slaves.

Loneliness is a very subjective feeling, and sometimes, even if we are in a particularly lively crowd or a particularly noisy occasion, we still feel extremely lonely in our hearts.

I think that enduring loneliness and loneliness should be one of the skills we must have to live in this world. I feel more and more that people are always lonely and lonely in this world. When we want to escape and want to escape, loneliness will be even more like a shadow.

And only if we face it squarely and welcome it, we will not be swallowed up by loneliness.

It's easy for me to feel extra lonely when the sky is falling and the night falls, and at such moments, whether I am in a crowd or alone, I am sensitive to the sudden loneliness in my heart. Yes, it felt like the whole heart was falling down in panic, all the way down, like falling into a bottomless abyss.

It was only later that I tried harder to learn to digest myself, looking out less and less for empathy and solace. I will pay more inward attention to my inner activities and focus more on the task at hand, especially those related to my goals and ideals. The more lonely and lonely the moment, the more I will ask my heart, what is the life I am pursuing?

In fact, the strongest time to feel this feeling was some time ago, when I had just finished a nine-year relationship run, and I was still immersed in the pain of the past and couldn't extricate myself, including now, in fact, I haven't completely come out of it. It's just that in all these moments of extreme loneliness, I told myself to learn to face and bear it alone. No one will stay with you all the time, loneliness and loneliness are the norm.

And then I put a lot of these lonely moments into the things I love, and it is also such a moment, in fact, you will be more aware of your life pursuit, and you will be more aware of what you really want in your heart.

So, don't be afraid, don't hide, in such a cosmic wilderness of loneliness, you can explore your heart's deep desires, you can think about many problems that you don't usually have time to take care of, you can plan your life again, and understand the path you want to take next.

People always encounter a lot of lonely moments in this life, these moments have to survive by themselves, in fact, I think loneliness is not necessarily a bad feeling, I sometimes enjoy the state of loneliness, when I am alone, I just have the opportunity to empty myself, and it is not too bad to enjoy the time alone. <>

For me, the easiest pastime to spend when I'm lonely is watching dramas. Most girls like to watch TV series or movies, and they are easy to be fascinated by it, and experience the joys, sorrows, and sorrows with the characters in the play. I remember when I started school this summer, because I came early, my roommates hadn't arrived at school yet, and I was the only one in the dormitory, and I felt that I had almost no other friends other than my roommates.

But I'm just watching dramas in the dormitory, and I don't feel how boring a person is, but I feel quite happy, but of course my roommate will be happier when he comes.

Sports are also an option. I think exercise is really omnipotent, you can go out to exercise when you are in a bad mood, you can exercise when you are lonely, and you can exercise even when you are happy. Because sweating through exercise, people's emotions can be vented, and in the process of exercise, people's thinking is in a state of emptiness, when you finish the exercise, you will feel very relaxed, will also feel very full, completely fill the inner sense of emptiness, so that the attention is diverted, will not feel lonely.

Only then do you realize that you will be lonely and unable to adjust to the sudden loneliness and oppression. A friend once told me that she was the kind of person who wanted to bury herself in a crowd. Only by hiding in the crowd can she not feel lonely.

But I don't think so, because I'm a person who likes to be alone a lot. Sometimes I even hate that there are so many people together and no independent space. When I was a child, my greatest wish was for my parents to take my brother out of the house so that I could take over the mountain as king.

Even now, I still love the moment when a person occupies an independent space. However, even if I am, at some point I feel lonely. This feeling can be more frequent, especially when a person is faced with an important choice in life and is unable to cope.

You'll find that when you leave campus and join the workforce, most of the loneliness is on your own. You will no longer have any scruples about calling ** to your friends and then chatting or having a drink or two and voice your unhappiness, because after all, you have your own job or even your own family.

However, as we grow older, we get used to burying unpleasant things in our hearts, whether at work or in life, and slowly get used to tasting this bitter and bitter lonely wine alone. Many people will ask: how lonely will it be, how will it feel?

In fact, it's like this: when you can't stand it anymore, you drag your tired body back to your rented house and look at the thousands of lights, but when none of them are lit by yourself, loneliness comes.

Unfortunately, if you are scolded by the leader again during the day, then this loneliness can be magnified tenfold. At this moment, how you long for a lamp to light for yourself and someone to spend the long night with you. However, the truth is:

Not even ghosts. Won't you be lonely? At this time, you have just broken up with your boyfriend, and you are not only lonely, but also desperate.

However, this life is so hopeless. So I think that through those lonely and scary days, we should find a bunch of good friends and make ourselves better.

It's spent in the company of friends.

You just have to make yourself stronger!

It's just a person who survives alone in the silence of the night.

Silently trying to get better.

See if he really cares about you in his heart.

I remember the last time I felt lonely was one night.

That night, I was alone in my room, full of sentimentality, and I couldn't sleep. So, I took out a book, it was Yu Hua's "The Seventh Day", and it took me more than two hours to read "The Seventh Day" from beginning to end, crying profusely.

The Seventh Day", the protagonist is looking all the way after his death, looking for his lost stepfather, and the stepfather is also looking for a place where he is dead and waiting, waiting for the arrival of his stepson.

At that time, I thought, the hero is actually happy, he still has a goal to look for, but I don't, there will be someone waiting for him, and I don't. Thinking of this, I felt even more lonely and wanted to cry even more, but I felt that I was a man and should not cry, so I grabbed the quilt with both hands and gagged my mouth with the quilt ......

In fact, over the years, every time I felt lonely, I would pull out a book and read it quietly.

I'm a boring person, I don't have any hobbies, and even fewer hobbies that I can stick to for many years, reading is a hobby that I have been doing for many years. In my opinion, books are an old friend of mine, who has been with me for so many years, through the changes of the four seasons, through the ups and downs, through joys and sorrows, and through sorrows and sorrows.

All my emotions, this old friend understands.

I am willing to talk to this old friend when I am in a mood swing, he will give me a chance to vent my emotions and guide me on how to go through a dark time.

Of all my fluctuating emotions, loneliness is the one that makes me need this old friend the most.

When I am lonely, I pick up the book and read it page by page, every word on the book seems to be the words of this old friend who comforts me, and when I am lonely, I especially want to hear the words of relief.

So, when I'm lonely, I read.